## #relationshipissues #cheating #trustissues #communication #newparents #parentingadvice
So, you’re facing a difficult situation in your relationship – finding out that your fiancé has been messaging another woman behind your back. It’s understandable that you’re feeling shocked, betrayed, and unsure of what to do next. Here are some tips and advice to help you navigate through this challenging time:
### Communicate openly and honestly
– Sit down with your fiancé and have a calm, honest conversation about what happened. Listen to his side of the story and express how his actions have made you feel.
– Explain the importance of trust and fidelity in a relationship, especially now that you have a baby together.
– Share your concerns and fears with each other, and try to understand each other’s perspectives without judgment.
### Seek professional help
– Consider couples therapy or counseling to work through your trust issues and improve communication in your relationship.
– A therapist can help you both navigate through this difficult time and provide guidance on how to rebuild trust and strengthen your bond.
### Take care of yourself
– Remember to prioritize your emotional well-being during this challenging period. Take time to process your feelings, practice self-care, and surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
– As a new parent, it’s important to prioritize your own mental health so that you can be present and caring for your baby.
### Consider forgiveness
– Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning the behavior, but rather letting go of the anger and resentment that can eat away at you.
– Reflect on whether you can forgive your fiancé and move forward together, or if the betrayal is too much to overcome.
### Reflect on your values and boundaries
– Think about what is truly important to you in a relationship and what boundaries you need to set to feel respected and valued.
– Trust your instincts and listen to your inner voice when deciding what is best for you and your child.
### Advice from ancient wisdom
– In the Bhagavad Gita, it is said that forgiveness and compassion are key virtues in maintaining harmony and peace within oneself and in relationships.
– Reflect on the teachings of letting go of anger and resentment, and embracing love and understanding to navigate through challenging times.
In conclusion, it’s important to take things one step at a time and make decisions that are aligned with your values and well-being. Trust your instincts, communicate openly with your partner, seek support when needed, and take care of yourself and your child. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship built on trust, respect, and love. 🌟
Remember, it’s okay to seek help and support during difficult times. You are not alone in this journey. 💖
I believe he hasn’t cheated due to the fact the one he would have done it with told on him. But he did try to and would have if she sang a diff tune. He will cheat on you if he already ventured that far out. Good thing it was before the wedding. I think that worked out perfectly for you.
None of this is your fault. Sometimes you don’t find out that your partner is a shitty person until a significant amount of time has passed.
The intent was there and I’m not a person who accepts “being drunk” as an excuse. If my partner can’t respect our relationship while drinking, they should not be drinking.
Seems like he had every intention to cheat but was unsuccessful.
He is only sorry that you caught him. Not sorry of what he did. If you forgive him now, fast forward few years, he will do the same again. Don’t set a precedent.
Have some time to cool off, a month or two, and see how you feel about it. Some counselling might be helpful if you do decide to give it another go
nah you deserve better than this :((
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
He had every intention to cheat and only didn’t because he couldn’t, not because he didn’t want to.
I would call off the engagement, and find someone loyal
Divorce the fiance marry his hookup
This will never get better, he will never stop, your insecurities will get worse, you deserve better. Leave his ass and hit him up for child support.
“I know I have trust issues and I’m partly blaming myself” – you do not have trust issues, you have a healthy reaction to disrespect. He is shady as fuck.
>Our s33xx life
What the hell is the matter with you
He sure did take the steps to cheating. It just didn’t work out for him. You’re here being a mother while this fool took multiple steps to cheat on you. Ditch the dead weight.
He’s only sorry he got caught, he would have cheated if she went with it. Don’t marry this guy, be smart and file for child support and move on. You’ll never trust him now.
Girl, you picked a guy that is so pathetic he cant even get another women to cheat on you with. He tried multiple times to cheat on you. He’s also been harassing the poor woman who has had your back by ignoring him.
What do you do?
1.Start building up self esteem and get into therapy.
2. Get a lawyer to set up custody and child support.
He doesn’t why he did it? He did it multiple times. And he would’ve done more. Thank goodness she has morals and either ignored him or shut him down.
She had to remind him he had a fiancée.
>Our s33xx
You don’t have to censor yourself. Sex life.
Also, don’t marry him. At least not right now. Possibly not ever.
So what if he “never cheated or texted another girl before.” He was working on it now. And if she was amenable, it sounds like he would’ve gone further.
She did the right thing, however.
What he did was *not* an accident. It wasn’t a moment of drunken stupidity or passion. It was a choice he considered and made.
I would tell him if he wants the chance at a continued relationship with you outside just being co-parents, he needs get his house in order and stop acting like he’s 18 years old. He’s a father now – he needs to grow the hell up.
I think it’s cheating, the intent was clearly there and that’s all that’s needed.
Take a few to think about how you want to move forward here. If you think the trust can ever be rebuilt. Get couples counseling if you think you can rebuild and make abundantly clear there’s no wedding until you are comfortable with the relationship again since he massively violated trust.
Also, you’ve got a kid with this guy so lawyer is necessary here regardless of reconciliation to get your co-parenting and support set up now since reconciliation is a long process and no guarantee this will work out.
That’s all I can offer, sucks your fiance has let you down so much here. Good luck with whatever you choose.
He intended on cheating, that’s enough in my book. Talk to a lawyer about child support.
Well …. he didn’t actually cheat, bit only because SHE was a decent person. Your fiance not so much. It doesn’t really matter that he didn’t cheat, he intended to. More than once.
So disrespectful 🤮
This is why I believe having a Snapchat is a major red flag. It’s sketchy and no man or women for that matter should have a snap if your in a relationship. It has never done me any favors in my relationships. You’re going to be 30+ and snap chatting like a 13 year olds do?? Cringe. Instagram stories fulfill the same function.
he’s deff going to cheat id get your ducks in a row
Ima cheater, thats cheating and it wont be the last
Your fiancé is not faithful to you. Get married at your own peril, and to your own detriment.
Block him on everything and move on.
I wouldn’t surprised if she wasn’t the only person he tried to hook up with. Any man who says he has a weekend off isn’t a committed man. There are no nights off or weekends off in a marriage, even when you’re apart.
Sounds like he isn’t husband material if I’m being honest. His attempt failed but there is a high likelihood he will find a willing participant at some point.
I’m so sorry he is definitely a cheater. You can do two things. Move out if you have some where to go and get out of that situation right now or stay while you initially file for custody and deal with all that.
Do you think his parents would tolerate his behavior? If they might then move sooner. Of they will pressure you to stay then you don’t need that either.
If there’s no custody order on file, you can file first and leave and then he will have to go to court. This varies by state so make sure you know before you leave.
If there’s no custody arrangement with the courts in many states either parent can take the child and not give the child back until custody is established. You don’t want him doing that to you if he’s the type to be vindictive or his parents are. My friends In Laws did this to her after she left her abusive cheater.
My advice is try to find a lawyer. Get legal advice and follow what is safest for you and your child.
You’re saying because you have a child you don’t know what to do…otherwise you’d leave. Repeat that over and over….you have more reason to leave BECAUSE you have a child. He will continue to fail you both. Don’t give him the chance. Your daughter deserves not to have as her role model marriage a cheater and the other spouse needlessly blames themselves.
He’s never cheated or texted another girl….before the three separate times he tried with this girl?
Almost cheating is the same as intent to commit murder so yeah it’s a crime in this case cheating. You are in the right OP and you did the right thing by getting yourself and your kid away from him Those are real consequences due to his actions.
Looks like you had good reason to be suspicious.
You should definitely leave him.
His ex FWB at least had the decency to tell you what was happening. You know that he would have done it if she were willing. Look at the information as a gift – better to know than to stay with someone who would betray your trust (even if its hurts like hell right now)
Kick his ass to the curb. Take some time to grieve. Confide in your close friends and family, people ypu know will support you. Get a lawyer and figure out what arrangements you want. Learn how to co parent.
He’s trying hard to cheat. If this matters to you, cut your losses. I know that’s easy for me (58F) to say, but I know about these things. Way more than I wish I did. There’s no monogamous relationship with him in your future. Go ahead and accept that now
His comment of “nope not with her, have the night off” says it all. You and the baby were out of sight, out of mind. His intention was to cheat the minute he checked into the hotel. You deserve more. Know your worth. 💜
But he would have cheated…. I’m sorry
From the title I thought your fiancé interacted with a random 8 months old baby and you were wondering if that’s cheating. I was expecting a completely different story. Just mentioning it because I hope it will give you a chuckle.
As for the situation itself… I don’t think you have trust issues. I think that you have a strong sense intuition and that you felt something wasn’t right.
You’re blaming yourself but he’s the one who ruined everything. You caught him trying to cheat. Maybe it’s not the first time he does.
Break up with him.
When a person shows you their true colors, believe them. Don’t go back to this. Having a child together doesn’t mean you have to stick it out with him. You will never trust him.