Is it normal for my girlfriend to move in with her male gym partner? #relationshipadvice #jealousy #cohabitation
Hey there, I’m a 29-year-old guy who’s a bit concerned about my 28-year-old girlfriend moving in with her male “friend” who also happens to be her gym buddy. She says I’m just being jealous, but isn’t this a red flag? Let’s address the elephant in the room together:
1. Is it common for couples to live with platonic friends?
2. How to deal with jealousy in relationships?
3. Setting boundaries in a relationship: what’s acceptable behavior?
4. Communicating concerns in a healthy way: tips for open discussions.
Join the conversation and share your thoughts! #relationshipdilemma #trustissues #friendshipboundaries
You’ve been together 3 years and you don’t think you can live together yet? I’d be moving on
Coming from a brother; This is where you fucked up 👇
> I said we still have some kinks to work out before we commit to sharing a living space together as I believe you have to be on the same wavelength as your partner in order to cohabitate well
After this, she probably doesn’t care anymore. If she finds the gym guy attractive and he makes a move on her, she’ll probably let him or break up with you and give him a chance.
She thought you’d be ready for the next step but you’re not. He is. You’re already single just not officially.
You’ve been together 3 years and still you won’t move in with her, preferring to live with your buddy.
Sounds like you’ve been replaced.
Bruh wtf could you possibly need to work on in order to live together after 3yrs? She’s already found a new bf, just move on
I’m with about 70% of people on here saying you messed up. I wouldn’t be surprised if she arranged to live with him just solely out of spite of you not being ready to commit to her. If we’re not talking about and/or executing serious steps like marriage and moving in after 3 years then I’d be gone. She probably feels like she’s wasted her time and she’s done waiting around for you to catch up.
Edit: after rereading this I can almost say with certainty she did it out of spite/to wake you up to reality. Boldly saying “yes” when you asked if she’d have a problem with you moving in with your female gym buddy–she’s not even trying to defend it, she’s just done.
This is your own doing. 3 years and you’re not living together? You want to move in with your friend?
Wake up.
“The only reason they keep her in their friends circle is because they find her sexually attractive.”
So you have zero respect for your girlfriend? I hope she breaks up with you.
So let’s just gloss over the fact that you don’t respect or care for women outside of sexual potential then??
You state that the only reason her male friends are her friends are because they’re waiting for her to be single so they can hit on her. Fucking gross. What you’re *actually* saying here is that her value as a friend and a human is nothing without her sexual appeal. You don’t have female friends “out of respect” for your girlfriend when in reality you’re disrespecting her entire gender. They’re only good for one thing obviously.
Youre not wrong for not liking the idea. But you also didn’t want to move in with her. You had your chance lol.
Advice, she cut her losses because you don’t see her as a legitimate option for a long term relationship. She only hasn’t dumped you because you can help her move in lol.
Yup it’s over.
regardless of if their relationship is strictly platonic, you clearly have some issues with viewing women as only sex objects. what do you mean you don’t have women friends because you shouldn’t be giving any attention to any woman besides you gf? why are you giving other women the same type of attention that you would give your gf? why is it impossible for you to see women in a platonic way? that’s weird and you should work on it.
You’ve been together for three years, you’re not ready to move in, but she can’t have a roommate of her choosing? Dude.
What are these “kinks?” What’s kept you from resolving them over the last three years? How long did you commit to this new living situation with your best friend?
Count me with those who think she’s realized you’re never going to be ready to cohabitate and is moving on.
It’s over. She’s moving an hour away after you rejected her as a roommate. After 3 years of dating you still wasn’t ready either piss or get off the pot. Time to get off the pot!
3 years? Sorry, but you kinda deserved it.
I think someone is giving you an ultimatum without actually giving you an ultimatum.
Womp womp – should have moved in together after 3 years. Hopefully your best guy friend is good to look at. Sounds like the gym bro got the better end of the deal as I hear his roommate is hot.
The advice here is to just move on since you decided to shack up with your bestie instead of your gf. She saw the writing on the wall as that would now mean you are making a commitment for at least a year if not more by living with another dude. And would there really be privacy for you and her? Now you get no privacy in either space – if you even stay together at this point.
The only reason her friends like her is because she’s attractive? You hate her, so why are you with her in the first place?
You’re no good for her. Insecurities galore. Work on those first.
What kinks are you looking to sort out before you live with her?
You’re not wrong for not wanting to live with her if you think you’re incompatible, but after 3 years it’s probably time to move on.
A 3 year long relationship at your age and not ready to move in together yet does not bode well
I don’t really understand. She wanted to move in with you but *you* told her no and kept her on your waiting list and now you think it’s not right of her to have a roommate you don’t approve of? I would be hurt too if after 3 yrs with someone, he told me there was something *I* needed to fix to be able to be with him and then try to tell me who I can and cannot room with after he told me he couldn’t co-live with me.
The big elephant in the room is really your strange views on what you deserve and thoughts on girls tbh.
You made your bed now you must lay in it. Not moving with her but you will roommate with a buddy of yours is wild after 3 years. Also the way you talk about her like she is a piece of meat and she may be nice looking but not all men are creeps and only want a woman for their body. Some male friends are platonic and I’m sure he asked would you be okay with it because she is doing it out of spite to teach you a lesson. Also she moving an hour away you are not her main concern anymore not because of her roommate but because you need to work out your kinks.
ick. idc about your situation, but you talk like your girlfriend is an object, that’s just weird.
So first of all, I live somewhere where having a roommate or two is super common and even necessary for most, and it sounds like you live somewhere similar. Getting the opportunity to move in with someone you know and trust vs. finding some rando and hoping for the best is a no-brainer.
Second, you fucked over your relationship when you rejected progressing your 3 year relationship because of “wavelengths.” Your relationship is over bud, it doesn’t matter if this dude is a potential romantic interest or not (which imo, it doesn’t sound like he is).
Your relationship is over, move on.
If after 3 years you’re still not ready to move in or live with this girl, then she’s simply not wasting her time.
Seems fair. She wants to get more serious, you don’t. She is simply moving on