#WorkplaceRumors #CorporateBullying #WomensEmpowerment
Hey there, 27-year-old boss babe! 🌟 I admire your courage and strength in facing this difficult situation. It’s truly appalling that you’re dealing with baseless rumors and unfair treatment at the hands of your new boss. But fear not, because I’m here to offer you some guidance and advice on how to handle this unfortunate ordeal.
First and foremost, let me assure you that you are not alone in this struggle. Many women in the corporate world face similar challenges, and it’s important to remember that you are not to blame for the actions of your boss. Let’s dive into some helpful strategies to navigate through this tough situation:
1. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING
– Keep a detailed record of all the instances where your boss has made inappropriate comments or treated you unfairly. This will serve as crucial evidence to support your case.
2. STAND YOUR GROUND
– It’s clear that your boss is attempting to undermine your hard-earned reputation, but don’t let his actions deter you from excelling in your role. Continue to display your exceptional work ethic and dedication to your job.
3. SEEK ALLIES
– Reach out to your colleagues and former managers who can vouch for your performance and professionalism. Having a strong support system within the company will strengthen your position.
4. REPORT THE HARASSMENT
– Don’t hesitate to escalate the situation by reporting your boss’s behavior to HR or any higher authorities within the organization. Harassment and defamation of character have no place in the workplace and should be addressed promptly.
5. EXPLORE LEGAL OPTIONS
– If the situation continues to escalate, consider seeking legal counsel to explore your options for legal recourse. It’s important to protect your rights and seek justice for the mistreatment you’ve endured.
Remember, your worth and reputation are not defined by the false accusations and malicious rumors being spread by your boss. You have proven yourself as a capable and dedicated employee throughout your career, and this one individual’s misguided actions will not overshadow your accomplishments.
In the meantime, consider seeking professional counseling or support groups to help you process the emotional toll of this experience. It’s important to prioritize your well-being and mental health during this challenging time.
Lastly, always remember that your value in the workplace extends far beyond the opinion of one toxic individual. Focus on your strengths, accomplishments, and the positive impact you’ve made in your career. You are resilient and will emerge from this adversity with your head held high.
Stay strong, continue to strive for excellence, and know that you have the support and admiration of many individuals who recognize your true worth. You’ve got this! 💪🏼🌟
Hang in there, boss babe. You’ve got this! #EmpoweredWomen #RisingAboveAdversity
Is there an HR department? Anyone over your boss? No company should tolerate this sort of behavior.
Oof. It sounds like someone wants you out of the company. I’m not sure why, though.
I would document everything that has happened with dates and time. If it’s in the past record it to the best of your ability and document anything new as soon as you are able to. You may need this in the near future. I would speak to a lawyer sooner than later. Not necessarily to do anything right now but they’ll be able to better advise you on how to protect yourself if the event he begins a paper trail to fire you. Which sounds like his next move tbh.
This is horrific, borderline abuse. Labor laws should apply here as harrasment.
He is a bully.
Bullies fall apart very quickly when up against real strength.
You wouldn’t have made it to here in life without deep strength.
Fight back. Make plans. Document stuff. Get HR involved.
Then Watch him fall apart.
He’s created a hostile work environment for you, for sure. It’s sexual harassment among other things. Get a lawyer, document everything. If this has affected your mental and/or physical health reach out to one of those professionals-and get documentation.
I would avoid going above his head or directly confronting him-that will give him every reason to push you out. HR and the higher ups might like you, but they placed this unprofessional asshole as your boss-they own it (the hostile work environment. harassment). From here on have the attorney do your talking.
You’ve overcome obstacles, huge ones in life. Don’t allow this jerk to keep you down. In the meantime work on your CV, consider going to school part time (a degree or certifications). Use your understandable anxiety and fight back. Good luck.
TLDR-get an attorney.
HR is not there to protect you, they are there to protect the company.
Oh God, girl, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I have been going through a situation very similar to this since March, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I ended up losing 2 jobs so far because of the lies my abuser has spread about me. People are very gullible and tend to just take rumors for truth without thinking about things and it can be very disheartening to learn that when the nastiness is being spread about you.
This guy is an abuser and he is abusing you. It could be about power, he could feel threatened by you, you could have hurt his ego, it doesn’t really matter. He is manipulating others to treat you poorly and abuse you so that he comes off looking squeaky clean while you lose everything. Don’t let him do this to you.
You need to keep dated documentation of every single incident, every little thing that seems off or weird, and write down any witnesses who can verify for you. Don’t use a journal use something electronic that keeps dates. Speak to a lawyer because this is sexual harrassment.
Do not interact with this person alone if you can help it. Always have someone else in the room with you two. Do not allow yourself to become upset or lash out in any way at work. This situation is going to make you very very upset but you can not show it. This is incredibly important. Save the tears and the anger for when you are at home. You must be a perfectly composed employee right now. Any outbursts will be used against you to justify the lies he is spreading about you.
It sounds counter intuitive but do not bring up the rumors with people to try and defend yourself. This makes you come across as unhinged and crazy and just proves what he is saying to others. If you seem upset that communicates to people that these things are true. If you look like you’re just brushing it off because it doesn’t matter to you, others will think that it must not be true if she isn’t upset. Also, when you repeat the rumors, you are cementing that information in people’s brains, and even if it’s not true, they will associate that information with you.
You need to learn as much as you can about narcissistic smear campaigns. This is what I believe is happening to you. Dr. Rami on YouTube has a lot of great information on this and how to handle it.
I really wish you the best and want you to remember that what others say about you does not determine your worth. Only you get to do that. There will always be allies even when it seems like everyone and everything is against you. There are people who will see through this. Hold your head up high and keep moving forward because you have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of. Good luck!
Lawyer up, lawyer up, lawyer up! As in immediately. And to clarify, I think lawsuits are overused and abused but NOT in this case. Do not let this guy ruin your professional career. I’m so sorry. Also, as stated, document everything you already remember happening, and every single incident that happens going forward, I mean everything.
Speak to those who have higher authority or deal with work-related issues like HR. Make sure you report it and have evidence to back up your claims.
A lot of snakes out there in the corporate world. Be careful.
My advice is that the word is advise
Sounds like it’s time hire an attorney and to request a meeting with HR.
Collect evidence and then sue her personally for slander.
Move to another company.
If your post is honest, the first paragraph indicates that you will thrive in a new, less toxic environment
Whatever you do, don’t lie to yourself about your condition and your share of blame in it
I only know how to fight with little to no resources. Lawyer up if you can. for me fighting is less risky than doing nothing. Get formal complaints on file and file a complaint for retaliation any time you’re written up. Makes them scared of wrongful termination lawsuits. If you do nothing you’ll receive write ups, performance improvement plans, and your inevitable termination.
Get an employment lawyer or make an EEOC complaint. Traumatize them back.
Really, get that lawyer now. You can sue this guy personally if you do get fired and then sue the company for sexual harassment.
If you do go to HR, meet with your attorney first for talking points, or take him with you.
Why bring the attorney? Well, HR is going to try and minimize the harassment. But what he’s doing is actually pretty egregious from an HR standpoint and has opened your company up to tremendous liability. You need someone in your corner who knows the law and keeps HR honest.
If they pull your boss into the meeting, you need the legal support of an attorney who will basically state him down and start telling HR what the ramifications will be if he does not stop his behavior.
Without a lawyer, they’ll just threaten to terminate you because they know you’ll just find employment elsewhere and let the whole thing drop.
You have a lot of options and if you are fired, they are toast and you will get a juicy settlement. For now, I need you to document everything as completely as possible with dates and times.
If you are in a one party consent state for recordings, make a habit of recording him when you have teams meetings on your personal cell (phone has recording apps).
Clear all of this through your attorney first before you do anything.
It’s also time to begin networking again. Contact your old employers. Tell them your new boss has cast aspersions on your character that are unwarranted and makes you feel extremely uncomfortable (no more than that). Time to move on.
These are your options. I recommend the employment lawyer first because he can suggest how you approach HR. You need to give the company a chance to fix this issue. They might not know he’s a pervert.
Does your company offer sexual harassment training? Ours does and we’d know right away to report it. If they do not offer it, that’s more money for you in an eventual lawsuit.
My husbands company just paid someone $150 k for a similar situation that wasn’t even half as bad.
https://www.eeoc.gov/sexual-harassment
This is such an obvious description of sexual harassment that I believe it’s fake. If it’s not, OP sounds smart enough to be able to find an employment lawyer.
You know what’s better than getting paid to go to work? Getting paid for getting fired.
I would gather any and every bit of evidence and sue them the second they fired me. OP, this is nauseating and I’m sorry you are dealing with this.
You need to leave. You can sue but if you do. Use Jane doe as your name otherwise people will be able to find it forever in google
Are you based in India or out of India ?
I noticed never addressed whether the rumors were true or not. You can have an excellent work ethic and still have sexual relations with your boss or other coworkers. Did it happen?
Get another job. There’s no magic pill for this one.
What a scumbag. There has to be something HR can do. Or consult with a lawyer?
I’m in HR. You need an employment attorney now. Start documenting everything if you haven’t yet. And start applying for other jobs, however, don’t quit without your attorney giving the okay as it can weaken your legal case (note – I am not a lawyer, this is just what I have been told by attorneys).
Document, then complain to hr
They are gonna fire you
You are gonna hire lawyer and make money
You need to document document document and sneak the evidence into a secure location
Time to understand why a healthy integration you your dark side is necessary to be a whole person.
The more space you give snakes like this they shed skin and become bigger.
This needs to go to the HR immediately..write them up..if they do not respond, lawyer up.(no verbal communication). And its already on social media anyway. The boss needs to be put out of a job and in jail asap.
Sounds like you need an employment lawyer. At the same time seek a mentor (female) at a higher level – not in hR if possible and ask for internal guidance. Specifically choose someone who doesn’t like you, or you have a passing relationship with at best, if you can, you may learn something but also have an opportunity to recast your rep. You can try to fight this, but you’re going to want to network and move to a new job.
Get attorney and then call company whistleblower line
If you are in the U.S. file on him for sexual harassment.
You need a lawyer….
This is who corporations put in charge. You have to go scorched earth here. There’s no peaceful way forward. Go to HR and say he’s harassed you from day one etc. Go over his head and tell his superiors. If you manage to not be emotional and stick to your story you’ll get him fired. Key phrase: I’m not comfortable at my job because of him. A
What did he say when you talked to him about it?
Sue the company for slander and sexual harassment. He’s a general manager and representative of the company at large, so sue the company.
Everyone has said to lawyer up. Important thing to note and a common pitfall is that HR is your friend. They are not, they are then companies friend. If your secual harassment case is good for optics and they wanted that guy gone? They’ll help you out. Otherwise they will stall until they can fire you without legal reprocussion. Either way you’ve put all the cards into the hands of your abusers, not ever a good move. Consult a lawyer and have communication go through them.
Look up narcissist smear campaigns.
1) Please speak with a professional about it—an employment lawyer. Ask them what is your best course of action.
2) Learn about employment law in your country/region.
3) Document everything–date, time, what you heard. The more, the better.
4) Know that HR is there to protect the company from you–the employee. So, learn about their policies.
5) Update your resume.
6) Consider getting familiar with the local news crew. If you have a good story, they would love to hear it.
This may not save your job, but it might help you get the appropriate compensation in case you are let go.
Call the nlrb file charges against company get paid