#BoyfriendCheating #SuspiciousBehavior #RelationshipAdvice
Hey there, girl! šāāļø It sounds like you’ve found yourself in a bit of a sticky situation with your boyfriend. It’s totally understandable that you’re feeling a bit unsure about what’s going on, and I’m here to help you navigate through this.
First of all, let’s address the elephant in the room – that mysterious name on the dry erase board. Not gonna lie, finding another girl’s name at your boyfriend’s place is definitely cause for concern. But before you jump to conclusions, it’s important to gather all the facts and approach the situation with a clear and level head.
Here’s how we can tackle this issue step by step:
1. Addressing the Situation
– Have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about what you saw on the dry erase board.
– Express your feelings and concerns in a calm and non-confrontational manner.
– Listen to his response and pay attention to his body language – actions often speak louder than words.
2. Trust Your Gut
– You know your boyfriend better than anyone else. If something feels off, it’s okay to trust your instincts.
– Take note of any other suspicious behavior or changes in his routine that might be contributing to your unease.
3. Seek Advice
– Talk to a trusted friend or family member about the situation for an outside perspective.
– Sometimes an unbiased opinion can help shed light on things that you might have overlooked.
4. Focus on Yourself
– While it’s important to address the issue at hand, don’t neglect your own well-being.
– Take some time for self-reflection and engage in activities that bring you joy and peace of mind.
Now, let’s delve into some timeless wisdom that might offer you some guidance in this situation. The Bhagavad Gita teaches us to focus on our actions and let go of the results. In your case, this means that while you can address the issue with your boyfriend, ultimately his response is out of your control. All you can do is approach the situation with integrity and honesty, and trust that the right path will reveal itself to you.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you. Regardless of the outcome, trust that you have the strength and resilience to handle whatever comes your way.
If you’re still feeling unsure about how to proceed, consider seeking professional relationship counseling to help you navigate through this challenging time.
Hang in there, girl! You’ve got this. šŖ And remember, you’re never alone in this journey. If you ever need a listening ear, I’m just a message away.
Does he have roommates? You know he knows who Lani is.
I guess if you’re cool he’s sleeping with Lani I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it or anything.
Otherwise I’d break up with him for being a lying cheater.
You are not overthinking. Look at the facts. Another woman’s name was written on his board with heart drawings. He not only shrugged his shoulders and said he “didn’t know who that is,” he apparently has absolutely no curiosity about it either. Imagine the tables turned. You come home to find a strange man’s name written on your board with hearts on the side. Would you be totally devoid of any interest how that might have appeared? NO, you would not.
He is playing you. Break up with him. He is lying, cheating and has no remorse. That will not change.
I just said this on another post:
If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck and has feathers – I can’t imagine it’s a horse.
He knows who Lani is. How could a random girl have been in his apartment that he doesn’t know, and he somehow seems nonchalant about it? Either A) he had a girl over, or B) had someone break into his apartment. And if the latter was true, a normal person would be concerned about it and not shrug it off. Or maybe he’s clinically nuts? Regardless, not someone I would trust going forward!
Girl Lani either broke into his house or heās cheating on you.
I think itās pretty obvious that heās cheating on you with this Lani chick but you donāt want to admit it. A) he suddenly doesnāt want you at his apartment/making excuses not to be there B) heās fine with keeping the other old scribbles on the board but not his gfās name and says its āweirdā all of a sudden after not having a problem with it being there beforeā¦. I reckon heās two timing and when Lani saw your name he probably was like āoh thatās an exā so she put her name instead. If thatās not enough to convince you watch out for other signs like not replying as much before or not having time for you saying heās ābusyā or for some reason always seems to be āout with the boysāā¦. I mean I could be wrong but I donāt think I am.
Sheās leaving a sign. I was in a situationship and while the dude never had a gf while he was sleeping with me, I still left bobby-pins on the floor of āmy sideā of the bed for his other sneaky links to find. Leave him.
Lani with 2 hearts.
Lives alone.
I meanā¦..come on OP.
The shrugging it off is what a good liar does to down play the situation
Definitely something off
If he is a smart liar he won’t erase it and continue to deny anything happened and continue to downplay it because it worked the first time
End it before he hurts you more
Girly whatās his instagram I can find out who Lani is
Heās lying. So someone broke in his place and wrote their name on his whiteboard? Ok.
Oh come on OP you can’t be that obtuse can you? What is Lani a fucking ghost?
Well obviously a girl was in his house otherwise who put that name up there? Plus the hearts – so sheās not a ONS.
Girl, he cheated. And is cheating. Stop being in denial. You aren’t respecting yourself by being in denial.
Can we get an IG
I feel like deep down you know the truth, please be strong and do whatās right. Know your worth ā¤ļø
ok, lemme see if i got this right. u wrote ur name on the dry erase board > he erased it > for a few months u werenāt invited to his place > when u went there was another girlās name on the board > he said he doesnāt know anyone named ālaniā
unless his apartment is haunted by a ghost named lani, iād be going thru his social media following/friends for someone named lani and possibly even going thru his phone. but iām 99% sure we all know what uāre gonna find. so sorry, girl š
Alright girl I’m 21 and I was discussing this with my boyfriend. Not only did he lie to you without hesitation, “I don’t know”, but he ALSO didn’t even care about your feelings or opinion enough to make it a good lie and put effort into it. Drop him
Girl.
He lives alone – made the point to erase your name because * reasons * and now there is another name there and he claims he has no idea who she is? Lol
Come on now.
Def lying, how do you not know who came into your own home? clearly saying āi donāt knowā as a scape phrase.
and the fact that he wanted your name erased, as if he didnāt want anyone to know heās in a relationship.
Write your name in permanent marker
He doesnāt know who Lani is?
BWAHAHAHAHA!!!! Good one!
Even if he isnāt cheating, the lying is unacceptable.
No girl (that he doesn’t know)is going to enter his apartment, write her name on his board, and leave. He also never erased it but did erase yours. He knows who that is.
He is cheating and stringing you along. Have you decided to be in a relationship with just each other.
Go over there, pretend everything is fine. Leave something like a false nail or an eyelash under the mirror in the bathroom or whatever side of the bed you sleep on there. She will see it and it will ruin everything for him.
It sounds like this Lani chick saw your name with a heart, got jealous, wanted to āone upā you and wrote her name with two.
I remember in one of my earliest relationshits (pun intended), I didnāt have a hair tie and my bf handed me one from the drawer. Didnāt think much of it. The next time I opened the drawer I found underwear in it.
If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duckā¦
The reason youāre scanning the apartment in the first place is is because your gut is telling you not to trust him
HE LIVES ALONE. You *cannot* be this naive or ignorantā¦ You already know, you are just in denial.
Lani was hoping for this exact outcome.
My guess is that Lani came into the picture right around the time it got erased. She came over saw ur name asked about it then he was like oh my ex bla blah and erased it. Then spent a while trying to pull her in. Then he started letting her stay there maybe… idk. But at some point when she got more comfortable with him she decided to put her name up as a way of marking her space and feeling like it’s her man and her space now. And added the extra heart thinking she the next model new and improved with no real idea ur even still there. Or maybe she’s getting suspicious so she snuck it in to check… Either way skettcchhyyy. The only only only other reason is his friend was fucking with him trying to get him in shit or prank him. BUT then I feel like he would have said that ….. The “I don’t know” means he got caught didn’t expect it so he’s just gonna deny deny deny. ….. Unfortunately he will never ever own up. Get out now before you are 10 years and multiple kids in with this man and don’t even believe in urself anymore because of all his lies.
He ā¦ doesnāt know who the girls name with hearts next to it on his white board in his room where he lives alone?
He doesnāt know??
ā¦ and you shrugged that off?
Girl.
Had this happen to me in college with a chalkboard! He flew his ex in on Valentineās day and she left a cute heart with their initials on his chalkboard next to about four months worth of my (literal) daily drawings. I was essentially living at his home every night except one weekend a month. We were next door neighbors so I was quite aware that the āfriendā he had in town for this one weekend that I wasnāt able to spend the night at his place during the visit of was a woman. I said her doodle was cute and asked about the lover in question and he essentially responded with āNot a lover, just a friend who loves me very much.ā And he played it off as nothing but a high school friend, barely an ex, visiting in town.
She was flying in from out of state monthly for him to pick her up from hours away, they were having sex, and she was posting them together naked in a bathtub on her public social media channels.
He knows who Lani is. Cut your losses and break up with the guy
Had a boyfriend with a āguest bookā and I always looked through it- found out he was cheating very similarly š« our gut feeling is usually right