Is it a red flag if my boyfriend insists on flying first class while I fly economy on our first trip together? #relationshipadvice #firstclasstravel #boyfrienddilemma
Have you ever experienced disparities in travel preferences with your partner? Share your thoughts and advice below!
Signs of Selfishness?
– Is it selfish for my boyfriend to prioritize his comfort over mine when traveling together?
– Could his preference for first class be indicative of future decision-making patterns?
Communication is Key
– How should I address this issue with my boyfriend before our trip?
– Is it important to establish mutual expectations and compromises in a relationship?
Share your insights and experiences with us! Let’s navigate this dilemma together.
Five months and he’s talking about buying a house together? Red flag. Run.
ETA: You are young, you make good money. Keep it for yourself. Get your own future in order before you merge lives with a man.
Girl, RUN. Not everything that shines is gold. He will leave you hanging dry if you have kids.
My husband is older and has significant accumulated wealth from before we were together. When we married and it came time to buy a house he said he’d pay cash for his half and I could take out a mortgage for my half. He was generous while we were dating though. But the more serious, the more things were exactly 50/50. It’s no way to live.
This isn’t the guy OP.
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You’ve only been together for five months and he’s already insufferable with the whole nickel and dime routine. I’m ok with being equitable but he takes it too far.
He sounds like a real cheapskate with misogynistic tendencies. You can do way way way better. Let him bestow his alleged generosity on someone else
It seems like the issue is less about him wanting to split things equally and more about him seeming more concerned with equity than spending time with you or treating you well. This would honestly be a deal-breaker for me.
If financial roles were reserved, would you value sitting next to your partner on your first trip together over flying first? Or would you even maybe just pay for a ticket upgrade as a surprise? If the answer is yes, then you guys are not compatible because you will continue to put more effort into your partner while they nickel and dime you.
Miss girl! He’s showing you who he is. I say run.
You’ve been together five months and you’re talking about buying a house together? This whole thing is insane. You’re making extremely good money and have no reason to tangle up your finances with someone you barely know. You also don’t seem to agree on a lot of things, from finances to lifestyle. Sounds like you’re not compatible so it’s good you’ve learned this now before getting financially involved.
Why are you considering buying a house with someone you’ve only been with for 5 months? Also, why are you with someone you’re clearly incompatible with?
He is already and insufferable ass. Run now!
he sounds exhausting to be around lol there are men who make less than him and are more generous than him
OP – this guy sounds like he’s not a good match for you. At the very least, your core values are not aligned, how you think about money is not aligned, and he’s the opposite of generous.
His nickel and diming you would be more fathomable if you were the same age and at the same stage of life with comparable incomes, but he’s not. He’s 12 years older and making significantly more money and he’s treating you like…I don’t even know the word for it, but it just feels gross. He seems like the kind of guy who, after you’ve given birth to your first child, will insist that you pay your own hospital bill and subsequent baby supplies out of your own money.
And it’s only been 5 months and he’s already showing you houses to buy? There’s something not right about this guy.
You might want to rethink this whole thing. Not just the trip — I personally would refuse to travel if my partner insisted on sitting separately from me — but the whole 5 month relationship.
You’ve been dating five months and he wants to have a joint bank account…everything you’ve mentioned is a red flag and he’s a little too old to still be this bad of a boyfriend. Can he even afford to buy a house lol why would he charge you rent lmao I’m confused? He sounds like he can maybe just barely afford a lavish lifestyle but wants to rope you in to helping you fund it. He sounds like kind of an annoying loser idk.
He doesn’t seem to view you equally, so I’d bounce tbh.
He makes a pretty huge amount, and tbh seems pretty miserly…I wouldn’t make a joint account with him at this early stage, or at all honestly. I feel like he would use that account more than his own. Like, what’s mine is mine, but what’s yours is ours…type of thing.
There’s a reason this wildly successful man (financially speaking, at least) is still single at the age of 43.
Think real hard about *why*.
Sounds like he’s more in love with his money than he is with you.
I’m sure being such a high earner, he feels protective about being used for his money- but you make a great living, too, it’s not like you’re trying to mooch off of him. You just want some chivalry here and there.
Honestly, nothing about this says he’s ready to start a life with you.
Yeah, he’s a bit much. My in laws are multimillionaires and have been for over 25 years. They have only flown first class when their tickets were bumped up by the airline. Some things are just ridiculous and flashy. I would be very worried about merging finances or buying anything with this guy. Plus after 5 months? That’s very fast to seriously discuss big topics. I’d focus on your own finances and start keeping things separate for now.
Are all his relationships with a 10+ year age gap? Sounds like he needs someone at his same financial level to be happy OR it’s all about him having the upper hand and control.
Why in god’s name are you talking about combining finances and buying a house with someone you barely know?
I make a lot more than my gf. I like to fly first class. She can’t afford it. Every time we go far away (domestic I’m fine with coach) I buy her a first class ticket. I’d never dream of sitting in first class with her in coach. Like wtf?
You haven’t been together long enough to talk about shared finances OR buying a house together. The age gap is also a concern. TBH you should be able to afford first class tickets easily so that’s kind of a silly argument to be having. But with him being so much older than you and you both fighting over money, best to find someone closer to your age. But honestly, you wanting him to pay for your first class plane tickets and your dates is kind of unfair. You make a LOT of money even if he makes more. He’s not your sugar daddy.
You make 350k and you can’t fly first class? This whole story is bogus.
Why on earth are you talking about combining your finances and buying a house when you’ve only been together for 5 months?!
Do not enter into financial agreements with someone you aren’t married to.
I’ve dated that type (a nickle-dimer), so I just stopped dating him period. You’re only 5 months in, you already can see it, this is not going to work for you. Just stop dating him.
Another type that I have dated that you may want to avoid also, the type of people who says let’s be generous and share everything, but they had zero, so you end up paying for everything because they claimed that once they have $ or start working, they’d treat you as good as they treated them.
I ended up married to my compatible type: the person who can hold their own financially and generous, not nickle-diming me.
He’a a cheapskate. You can do better.
And for heaven’s sake, don’t share assets with someone you’re not married to. You’re too old to be that naive.
Girl nah. He’s not the one
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
5 months together and already talking about buying a house, age gap, gee, wonder why this dude isn’t dating anyone around his age?
He’s a whole ass red flag, OP.
It just says he’s not invested as you think .. yea it doesn’t have future
Number one personality trait that predicts successful marriage: kindness.
When this guy says he wants a partner, he means something more like a business than a marriage. I’m not even convinced there’s something wrong with that, but it’s not what I want and not what most people envision when getting married.
It’s worth noting that as a high earner he has almost certainly been taken advantage of in the past, and he’s probably worried about that happening again.