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Hey everyone! 👋
I need your input on a situation I’ve been wrestling with. I’m a 19-year-old female (let’s call me “Jess”) and I’ve been dating my boyfriend (22M) for about three months now. So, here’s the scoop: he enjoys engaging in some romantic and *sometimes* sexual role play with girls on Discord. 🤔
💬 **Context:** He has been friends with these girls for years, and while he’s assured me it helps him relieve stress, I can’t help but feel uneasy. I admit, I’ve looked over sometimes and noticed that things get pretty steamy in those chats, and that makes me question things.
Recently, a female family member of his dropped a comment that got me thinking: “Isn’t that basically cheating?” 💔 This has planted a seed of doubt in my mind, and I’m really struggling to figure out if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid.
Here are some **pain points** I’m dealing with:
- **Trust Issues:** I find myself questioning if he’s truly committed when he’s exploring these fantasies. 🤷♀️
- **Communication Gaps:** I feel like I can’t voice my discomfort without sounding controlling or judgmental. 📞
- **Boundaries:** Where do we draw the line between fun and inappropriate? 🛑
✨ **Possible Solutions:**
- Have an open discussion about boundaries and what we’re both comfortable with.
- Define what role play means for each of us and if there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed.
- Focus on building trust and transparency while being honest about feelings.
I’d love to hear from you! 💬 What do you think? **Is this cheating, or is it just harmless fun?** Have you been in a similar situation? What did you do? Let’s share our experiences and maybe help each other out! 🙌
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts! 💖
**#CheatingOrNot #Relationships #RolePlay #Communication #TrustIssues**
Yes red flag, dump his a$$
Definitely a form of cheating, hope everything goes well
-Only been together three months
-Doesn’t want to discuss the girls with you (crimson flag)
> I’ve never been really fine with it
And he knows you aren’t? If so, crimson flag number 2
Look, unless you actually discussed this and you were open minded to him doing this, this is cheating in my book, especially if you feel uncomfortable, which you are, otherwise you wouldn’t make this post.
Talk to him, be firm, tell him you don’t like him doing this and he has to stop, if he refuses to do so and can’t understand the very justifiable reasons why you feel cheated, then you dump him, ASAP, it’s only been 3 months, if you let it marinate, it’s gonna get worse
Imho if this was just a hobby, the roleplay wouldn’t be entirely sexual, and also he shouldn’t have any problem discussing the girls he’s doing this with, why get defensive or secretive of them if it’s just good ol’ fun?
That’s def cheating. Let him goooo!
It can be a deal breaker for you.
Cheating involves dishonesty. He directly told you that he was doing this, which is the opposite of lying about it.
He’s sexting people, so yeah.
yes, this is cheating. and I promise he’ll try to gaslight you about it, but it obviously bothers you and is just out of your comfort zone and that in and of itself is reason enough to leave.
but yes, this is cheating. how would he feel if you were texting guys and role playing sexually??? 10000% promise he wouldn’t allow it.
Cheating
If you know about it and you’re fine with it, then no. But y’all should talk about expectations and rules.
YEAAAH BYE. this man is ridiculing you. playing right in your face and it’s so disrespectful. dump this creature.
this is most definitely cheating .
loud and proud is insane how is he acting like this is normal in a relationship 💀💀 so embarrassing for bro
Red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
bro has a whole gf and is roleplaying w discord e-girls 😭 this generation is cooked
To me it is a form of cheating. I wouldn’t stay with someone who thinks this kind of thing is ok. Gross.
Yeah, its a form of cheating. Litterally, “lets act out us fucking!”
Theres adult talk then theres legitimate cheating.
Cheating & he’s guilt tripping you saying its relieving stress. Nah, he can keep those girls. (Dump him)
He’s giving romantic and sexual energy to other girls. Is that the kind of person you want to partner in life with?
I mean if you really don’t mind, then that’s fine. But it’s definitely not normal and I would personally consider it cheating.
If you have to ask, then yes it is.
If you don’t like it then he’s not right for you. If it crosses a line for you it’s cheating for you.
Of course this is cheating. And bro thinks he can fucking do this right in front of you? He sounds like an absolute fucking twat. Dump his ass.
Yeah, he’s testing to see how much bullshit you’ll let him pull. He’s likely doing worse than this, or if he isn’t yet he will. Move on asap
Wtf is wrong with 20 something’s today. Yea, it’s 100% cheating. There is another person on the other end of the computer that he is role playing with…
If you have to ask then it’s 9/10 times cheating
As someone who enjoys writing and RPing with other people myself, the main thing is that:
YOU are not comfortable with it.
It doesn’t matter if he’s playing fictional characters for it, or if it’s self-inserts. Not only is it purely sexual in nature, it’s also romantic. If it’s a hobby (and that’s the best case scenario) he is clearly overstepping how you feel about something that is extremely hurtful, he *might* be oblivious? But even then I’m trying to be optimistic. My fiance and I have been together for 9 years, and we both RP with people we’ve known for years with various content and characters, but if he or I asked the other to stop RPing with another party while there might be a discussion to communicate feelings, it would ultimately end RPing with that person.
My question is this: Why doesn’t he roleplay with you? I’m not saying you *have* to roleplay with him but if he says that it’s to destress then why hasn’t he asked you to try it as his partner given the contents that are in it?
If he has and you’ve said no that is entirely valid, I’m just bringing it up as a thinking point if he hasn’t.
You shouldn’t make yourself uncomfortable for him, but if he’s going to make it a dealbreaker that’s his issue. Given that he’s using being stressed as an excuse it sounds like you’ve brought up that you don’t like it before but have backed down because you don’t want to cause pain or distress for yourself.
In the end, I’d re-evaluate your relationship, your interactions, how you feel, and ultimately decide if you feel the relationship is worth it, but I would personally walk away. You have every right to be uncomfortable, to not like the situation, and you shouldn’t put your mental health at risk for him. It sounds like there could be underlying controlling behaviors that you’re not noticing alongside this. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to process the information we’ve given you.
…it’s..ykw everyone’s already said it girl..
Yea I consider it cheating.
The most entertaining thing about this is that your boyfriend is more than likely roleplaying with other men who are pretending to be female.
Yeeeesh
They aren’t real girls they’re dirty old men he’s talking to
Cheating is based on the boundaries of the relationship. If you have talked about it and said it’s fine, then it’s not cheating. Seems like you are uncomfortable and should re-establish the proper boundary for you.
Hey, my ex did stuff like this all the time— but he hid it from me because he knew I wouldn’t be okay with it. He’s definitely cheating on you. Don’t waste anymore time with this guy, you deserve so much better.
It’s only cheating if you guys set that boundary. If you don’t consider it cheating then it isn’t.
Don’t be here asking other people to set your boundaries for you.
Forget his behavior and address yours. You’ve been dating for 3 months and you found out one of his sexual preferences. You admit you don’t like it. You’re not obligated to stay. Dating is for determining who you want to be with long-term. It’s not necessarily a test of how much you can tolerate.
What is so great about him that you’re willing to overlook his desire to engage in sexual behavior with other women?
Dump. His. Ass. No doubt abt it
Replying to Perfect_Current_8394.
Girl be honest with dude .. that’s not okay. You’re giving him a gateway to cheat … I mean this in the most non harsh way.. put some damn boundaries.. or leave… 3 months isn’t nothing..
Yes, absolutely. Would he be ok with you sexting other men? Why does he need other women’s attention? He is acting single while with you. Please have more respect for yourself & leave.