#LifeStruggles #SeekingHelp #EmotionalSupport #Unemployment #MentalHealth #CareerAdvice
Are you feeling overwhelmed, desperate, and lost in life? Do you find yourself in a situation where everything seems to be falling apart and you don’t know where to turn for help? You’re not alone. Many people go through difficult times in their lives, and it’s important to seek support and guidance during these challenging moments.
Let’s delve into the story of a young man who is facing numerous challenges in his life and seeking help to navigate through the tough times.
##The Struggles of a 22-year-old Unemployed Individual
###Background Story:
Our protagonist, a 22-year-old male, has had a tumultuous upbringing marked by family conflicts and financial struggles. Despite these challenges, he managed to complete college with a degree in computer repair and assembly, hoping to pursue a career in the IT field.
###Challenges Faced:
1. Lack of Experience: The job market demands experience, which our protagonist lacks due to the limitations of his college curriculum.
2. Limited Skillset: His college education did not cover essential skills like coding and networking, hindering his job opportunities in the IT sector.
3. Financial Constraints: Inability to afford additional classes and certification exams limits his chances of acquiring new skills.
4. Lack of Connections: With no networking opportunities, he struggles to find job leads or mentorship in his desired field.
5. Job Instability: Despite landing jobs in a factory and retail sector, poor working conditions and lack of training led to unemployment.
###Emotional Impact:
The continuous cycle of job rejections, financial constraints, and social isolation has taken a toll on his mental health. The lack of purpose and support systems has left him feeling lost and hopeless.
##Navigating Through Tough Times
###Seeking Counseling:
Considering the emotional turmoil and sense of hopelessness, seeking counseling or therapy can provide valuable support and coping mechanisms. Many organizations offer free or low-cost counseling services for individuals in distress.
###Exploring Career Options:
While the IT field may seem daunting due to the lack of experience, there are alternative pathways to consider. Exploring entry-level positions, online courses, or internships can help build relevant skills and experience.
###Building a Support System:
Connecting with support groups, online communities, or even reaching out to friends and family for emotional support can alleviate feelings of isolation. Building a network of supportive individuals can provide a sense of belonging and encouragement.
###Prioritizing Self-Care:
Taking care of physical and mental well-being is crucial during challenging times. Incorporating healthy eating habits, exercise, and self-care routines can improve overall mood and resilience.
###Seeking Financial Advice:
Consulting with financial advisors or organizations that offer budgeting assistance can help manage resources efficiently. Exploring part-time job opportunities or freelance work can also provide financial stability.
###Exploring Volunteer Opportunities:
Engaging in volunteer work not only offers a sense of purpose but also provides valuable connections and skill-building opportunities. Volunteering in areas of interest can open doors to new experiences and potential career paths.
In conclusion, navigating through tough times requires resilience, support, and a proactive approach to addressing challenges. Seeking help, exploring new opportunities, and prioritizing self-care are essential steps towards overcoming obstacles and finding a path towards a brighter future. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there are resources and communities ready to support you in your time of need. Stay strong, seek help, and believe in the potential for positive change in your life.
Remember, it’s okay to seek help and prioritize your well-being during difficult times. Your struggles do not define you, and there are resources and support systems available to guide you through the challenges you face. You are resilient, and with the right support and mindset, you can navigate through adversity and emerge stronger on the other side. Stay hopeful, stay strong, and remember that brighter days are ahead.
Okay so, here are a few things I hope will help:
1) There are plenty of well-paying jobs that don’t require education. Just start searching everywhere. Don’t be afraid to move.
2) The fact that you had a hard time at a few workplaces doesn’t mean it’s gonna be like that everywhere, you will find a great place where you fit in and feel appreciated.
3) Be optimistic. No matter what. It’s all about narrative in the brain. Sure you are broke, alone, unemployed, etc. You could also focus on the fact that you are young, you have freedom to choose anything in the world you want to do, etc.
4) Find out what you are passionate about. Wake up early. Start working out. Make it happen. I believe in you.
I want to tell you a story my friend.
There was a man working in a certain industry and he was convinced he had the next big idea. But no one wanted to bankroll his endeavours. He FINALLY got people to invest, quit his job….
And failed MISERABLY and had to declare bankruptcy.
He then went and convinced his wife’s parents and family friends to give him all their money to try again..
Again, he FAILED. Again he had to file for bankruptcy.
Somehow, despite ruining his good name, losing all his friends, alienating himself from his family, he somehow found people to invest for a third try…. And this time? Well lets just say there is a reason the WORLD knows the name Henry Ford.
Afterwards, Ford is quoted as saying the following:
“Whether you believe you can, or believe you cannot…. You’re right.”
I know your situation seems hopeless. But i promise you it will only become hopeless the moment YOU ALLOW IT TO BE SO.
You are not devoid of skills either. Apply to those jobs that claim to need experience you dont have. Before the interview go online and learn as much as you can about those things they want.
If you are watching/reading something and you don’t know the jargon, stop and do a google search to find out what that jargon means.
Begin a healthy regiment to begin losing the weight. Start seeking out positive people you will enjoy being around by frequenting the types of places you enjoy.
Cherish every moment with your grandmother while she is still with you.
Find God.
I, personally, am Christian and there is a verse that has always served my family
“Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all other things will be granted unto you” (im paraphrasing of course)
Know that you are not alone and, although i may never meet you, or speak to you outside of this thread, you have my prayers and my encouragement. I have faith in you that, if you do not allow yourself to give in.. you can still realize all that you once dreamed of when your eyes were still young to this world.
Good luck my friend.
There are two main things you need to focus on, your physical health, and your mental health. As you improve one, the other will improve as well. I understand that sounds like some new-age hippie shit, but I promise it works.
Physical health: Walk or lift weights at least 30 minutes, three times a week. No excuses. Eat/drink less sugars and reduce alcohol consumption. Not only will this make you feel physically better, you will look physically better, and you will be more self-confident. In addition, you will be more mentally sharp. I don’t know why it works, but it does. Here’s an easy way to start:
* Walk thirty minutes three times per week
* Add in some weight lifting by doing pushups, pullups, and single-leg squats
* Do some burpies
* Reduce sugar intake
* Change walking to intermittent running
* Join a gym and learn how to do squats, deadlifts, and bench press well
Mental health: The physical health will help with overall feelings of depression. Look to one person or multiple people who you would like to emulate. Look at their past to see what decisions they made to put them in the right path. In general you will find that they invested a crazy amount of time developing their skill sets. Here’s a basic guide:
* Get a job
* Figure out what you might want to do and start a side hustle
* Spend less than you make
* Use the main job to pay the bills and the side hustle to develop skills
* As you save money, figure out how to invest that in yourself either through education, investment in the side hustle, or whatever other investments (stocks, bonds, real estate) are available
I know it doesn’t look like this now, but you are young. I’m 15 years older than you and when I look back at where I was 15 years ago compared to now, it is crazy. The journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single footstep, but that first step is the hardest one to take. Make a plan to make your life better, and START THE PLAN.
I’m sorry if this advice doesn’t work for you but I wonder if you have any free time to volunteer to get some work experience in any area? This could maybe help open some doors to other paid employment, as well as meeting new people and gaining some new skills.Â
I am so sorry that you are having such a difficult time. I hope and pray that things start to get better for you. You sound like a good person who is trying really hard and I hope it starts to pay off for you. Please please don’t give up. You are important and worthy of a great life. I am rooting for you.Â
Apparently there is also a way to first get a job that doesn’t pay and get the necessary knowledge and then get paid more and more
First, listen to what others have said about taking care of your physical and mental health. Without both, a good job won’t materialize and even if it does, it won’t matter.
Second, let’s focus on your skills. You said you studied computer repair and assembly — are you good at it? If not, you have to get good. Unfortunately, in the U.S. replacing things is more common than fixing them, so your industry is not common here
I’m not sure where the jobs are in your country but in the U.S. charities collect older computers to fix and distribute to underserved populations.
Find out if your country has a similar electronics recycling program. If you find one, try to get a job if no jobs are available, volunteer to help. Volunteering will help you be around like-minded people, new ideas, and new opportunities.
Be productive with your time. Learn relevant and related skills to computers. There are many free courses and information on the internet. You may not get certified but you can learn skills and apply them through volunteering and sharpening them can lead to paying jobs.
Lastly, I am truly sorry for your challenges in life. Sometimes we are handed situations that are unbearable that test us. Some find their way out and some do not. I hope you find your way.
Read about successful people to get inspired. For example, Oprah Winfrey came from a very poor background but brought herself up through journalism. JK Rowling was a poor single mom when she started writing Harry Potter stories, Steve Jobs dropped out of college and slept on floors of friends’ dorms and collected bottles and cans to get food money. The common thread in all of them is that they had a dream and pushed forward.
What’s your dream that will keep you moving forward? Dreams don’t have to be as big as the examples I listed. Your dream can simply be to build yourself a better life. As a reminder, you are your most important tool and only you can use that tool.
If you can get yourself to the volunteering part of my recommendation, I will coach you through moving forward. You can find out more about me in my profile and YT channel for free career advice.
I wish you all the best. Good luck
I am from a third world country as well not eastern but SEA region. Work is booming because all the developed countries are outsourcing to mine. Not sure about your country but as long as labor is cheap there’s always jobs.
You can try out industrial areas, they are always hiring. You are good with computers/tech should be able to easily land technician jobs. Also general workers for loading/unpacking.
If you want tech jobs, probably need to start at the bottom as you don’t have any IT experience. Start with any IT job and work your way up from there.
Definitely go for some walks. If you don’t want to go outside do a walk at home video by Leslie sansone. Working out helps release feel good horomones and gets your blood flowing. Find some friends. Talk to people. One friend is all a person needs and there’s lots of people looking for a friend. Things will get better if you takes steps to make it better. Try to focus on positivity and being greatful. Pray.
Are you looking for advice or just to vent? It seems like you are just venting which is fine.
Everything will be ok. You’ll figure it out. You always have.
It sounds like you’ve been through so much and I bet your body and mind must be so overwhelmed and tired. I think you’ve displayed just how capable you are by finishing college despite your circumstances. I bet many others in your shoes wouldn’t even think of studying, let alone actually pulling it off
You must be so frustrated, especially when you’ve worked so hard to pursue your passion and how much it sucks that the degree doesn’t open any doors in the end. For what it’s worth, I think that useless piece of paper, as well as learning English, is still a testament to your strength and ability to never give up. Even if it doesn’t help you get a job, I’m sure your sheer determination will eventually take you to where you want to go.
The lack of coding is definitely a problem if you wanted to get into IT, but as you mentioned there so many resources nowadays. You don’t need to start at the high level videos on YouTube. Start with the basics first, build your knowledge, and keep going. You can always use ChatGPT to help you with any concepts you don’t understand. Find online resources that teach you how to build your own projects and portfolio that you can show employers.
On the point about being lonely and isolated.. you just proved that you can seek the assistance of random strangers online by making this post. I genuinely want to help you even though I never met you before, and so does everyone here who gave you advice. I 100% agree that having no support system makes everything more challenging. Joining any local interest groups or online communities related to IT can help you do professional networking, or perhaps even make friends. Even if your network is small like one or two people in the beginning, I’m sure it’ll bring much needed emotion support.
And I agree with others that you need to take care of your health! You’re already such a strong person mentally, who can depend on themselves and doesn’t give up easily. Everything you’ve done for yourself up until this point proves that. But all that determination can only take you so far if your physical health can’t handle it. Please take care of yourself..
Just remember that everything that’s happened to you doesn’t define who you are. Your parents couldn’t take care of you and guide you, but that’s not how you need to define yourself. You got tricked into doing a worthless degree, but again that doesn’t define who you are. I think you still have so much potential, and there are still a lot of opportunities out there to grab. You’re definitely the type of person that can grab them. I’m rooting for you!!
Oh my dear! I know life gets tough, and sometimes, it seems it’s the only way it is.
It can’t always rain. Don’t give up. Soon or later your efforts will be worthy.
Keep a clear mind. Don’t attract what you worry about.
The fact that you’re able to be grateful for some things you have is the right way to think.
Focus on what you have. One day at the time. Your time will come, and you’ll be okay.
God always has a plan for you.
Keep your head up
🩵💚🩵🩷💚💞💛💓
Spend time with grandma, you’ll cherish that time after. You have a knack for writing, so write out a story or novel, try to publish online. Also, writing will help you with the racing thoughts and help get your mind clearer. Spend time outside by water. Meditate. Write more. Once your head is clearer, come up with a step by step plan to find a job where it is low stress but keeps you busy and working and meeting people.
Exercise everyday. Spend an hour everyday applying for jobs. You can do a side hustle, such as repairing computers, while working a shit job. Like go around your community to get old electronics or offer to repair them. You will meet folks that way and get experience fixing things. You can get stuff people are throwing out or selling cheap like vintage electronics or phones. Then you can learn to repair and sell them online. You can make extra cash and find life purpose by using your local community and online resources. Perhaps your skills would transfer over to repairing electronics in vehicles and heavy equipment.Â
Don’t be afraid to use online community to ask for help with resume, finding job, finding old electronics. Be  focused when you ask for that help not depressingly emotional.Â
I gave up on all of it , I am just floating …..
You have internet? Is code academy available for you? if you want to keep going with computers they offer structured classes on modern programming languages, they give certs at the end, focus on spending time with your grandmother, and earn those certs while bvb giving yourself some downtime if you can.
If you wrote this in near real time with low edits, you have a real skill. This was cohesive and I did not have to reread many parts, please stick with life you are definitely talented, maybe you can try and meet more people?
there will always be jobs that require strength. you are young. you can help build houses or pave roads or cut trees or carry baskets of apples or feed horses
If you want to continue doing something with computers, follow Professor Messer’s videos on YouTube for the Comptia A+. I know you can’t afford the cert but I landed by first IT job by saying I was “Studying for the A+” exam which was enough with my unfinished Computer Science degree.
You also sorta just need to stick with it appling for jobs while you have a supportive job. I probably put in 200-400 applications before I find a job in the USA. I can’t imagine it’ll be much easier in an Eastern country.
You’ve got the best years coming ahead. 22 is a great age to fuck around, I started my career at 27, graduated at 32, nowadays I earn tons of money, and im filthy rich for the standard of living in my country, but very sick. Until you severly ill you are lucky and can be happy, despite on an empty wallet. I’d swith vith you at anytime. Don’t worry, man.
Here’s what I would do in your situation:
1. Get another factory job. It’ll suck, but it will allow you to pay your bills while you work on finding something better.
2. Go for a walk every day before or after work. Try to use that time to relax, clear your mind and think of new ideas.
3. Try to go back to eating rice, vegetables and healthier foods. It might take a bit more prep work versus the noodles, but you’ll recover that energy with a better diet.
4. If the YouTube courses aren’t making sense, try to find videos with easier instructions. Maybe videos designed for teenagers or schoolchildren. It might seem like a step back, but you’ll need this foundation to understand the higher-level instructions.
Good luck, I hope you find peace and success.
Look into abraham hicks on YouTube and watch videos. It’s helpful to listen to a lot of them to build the concepts in your head.
I don’t see any response from the op. I really hope he is doing good.
While I appreciate the optimism of some comments here, I think we need to address the elephant in the room. OP, you mentioned feeling depressed, anxious, and having no one to talk to. This is as much a mental health crisis as it is a career one. Before you can focus on building skills or a career, it might be helpful to find some form of support, even if it’s just an online community for now. Your mental health is the foundation everything else will build on.
I think if you take an entry level gig at a sandwich shop you could one day advance to owning your own hot dog cart. Good luck.