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Hey there, friend! It sounds like you’re going through a tough time with your girlfriend right now. It can be really challenging to navigate through situations like these, so I’m here to offer some advice and support.
Let’s break down the situation and address your concerns step by step:
## 1. Trust and Communication Are Key
– Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. It’s important to have open and honest communication with your partner.
– If you’re feeling insecure or unsure about something, it’s okay to address it with your girlfriend in a calm and respectful manner.
– Remember, communication is a two-way street. Listen to your girlfriend’s perspective and share your own feelings openly.
## 2. Dealing with Mixed Messages
– It’s natural to feel hurt or confused when faced with conflicting information from your girlfriend’s friend. However, it’s crucial to approach the situation with empathy and understanding.
– Take the time to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your girlfriend. Express your concerns and listen to her side of the story without jumping to conclusions.
## 3. Setting Boundaries
– It’s essential to establish boundaries in a relationship that both partners are comfortable with. Discuss your expectations and boundaries with your girlfriend openly and respectfully.
– If there are certain behaviors or actions that make you uncomfortable, communicate them clearly and work together to find a compromise that works for both of you.
## 4. Seeking Inner Peace and Wisdom
– In times of confusion and uncertainty, it can be helpful to turn to sources of wisdom and guidance for clarity. Reflect on your values, beliefs, and what truly matters to you in a relationship.
– The Bhagavad Gita teaches us about the importance of self-awareness, detachment from material desires, and finding inner peace amidst external challenges. Consider meditating on these teachings to gain insight and perspective on your current situation.
Remember, every relationship has its ups and downs, and it’s perfectly normal to face challenges along the way. Focus on building trust, fostering open communication, and finding common ground with your girlfriend. Trust your intuition and take time to reflect on what you truly desire in a relationship.
I hope this advice helps you navigate through this difficult situation with grace and understanding. Stay strong, stay positive, and remember that you deserve happiness and fulfillment in your relationships. 💖
If you need further support or guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a trusted counselor. You’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to see you thrive in your relationships.
Sending you love, light, and positive vibes as you navigate through this challenging time. Take care, and remember to prioritize your well-being and happiness above all else. 💫🌟
Stay strong and keep shining bright! ✨
#relationshipadvice #innerpeace #selfreflection #wisdom #loveandharmony
You know exactly what is going on. Question is why are you still involved?
People that love and respect one another aren’t hiding things or gas lighting their partners. Remember that for next time.
I’m usually hard against the idea of assuming cheating without solid evidence, but I must admit I’ve never seen anyone have that sort of conversation over simply sleeping in the same bed. I’m pan, so I can be attracted to anyone, and I have a couple friends that are so close they’re family to me. We’ve shared a bed many times, and even lived together where we had to share one, and there was no temptation there. There was never a conversation like that, ever, because we didn’t *do* anything to warrant it. This sounds fishy to me.
How do you deal with it? By leaving.
Your girlfriend is bi and having an affair with a friend,
Did you ask the friend for proof?
U know exactly whats going on, you just dont want to face it. And i understand that since you are very young. But let me tell you this, dont allow any1 to treat you like a dirtbag and make a fool out of urself. What you do now will set the course for the rest of your life. If you accept this now then u will accept it from all future partners too. Break up and stand firm no matter how she cries and says nothing happened. And in future relationships keep a hawks eye for such signs and zero patience.
You already know how to ‘deal’ with this. You’re here looking for people to talk you out of it.
She is gaslighting you. Obviously she is cheating on you. You have only been with her for a year. Leave her and let her figure out her sexuality. Don’t let her drag your confidence down and beat you emotionally with all the gaslighting and cheating.
Get rid of her she is selfish and his hiding something obvious she lying to you. I’m sure she will cheat on you
Dude, don’t you know that women can have sex with each other? They’ve fucked before and plan to do it again when they meet. You are 21 years old, I don’t understand how you can’t see this.
She’s going on vacation and potentially sharing a bed with a male or female friend?
Red flags galore, here. First off, she’s either a Lesbian in denial, or bisexual. Secondly, unless she did all this BEFORE you 2 got together, she’s cheated on you. Third, she’s planning on cheating on you. And, finally, she’s gaslighting you. Sounds like you need to get out of this and chalk it up to a learning experience. Then you need to work on yourself, mind, body, soul, education, profession and finances. Stay out of serious relationships for a few years while you set up a steady and solid future for yourself.
i don’t think there is much you can do besides breaking up, you two are not compatible, she doesn’t take you serious and she’s not interested in being honest with you
English friend is basically tell your gf that they booked up before and should again. Your gf is being passive in not acknowledging it
The English friends implying that your gf is pan/bi but in denial and should accept it and tell you. She’s also asking her to share a bed so they can hook up again. Instead of saying no, your gf is evading the question with maybe
To me it sounds like your gf isn’t interested in the English friend, is either straight (and was just super drunk/pressured), or hasn’t accepted her sexuality yet. Given how pushy English friend is being … I wouldn’t necessarily discredit the pushed/coerced into sex with drunk by this person
Your gf doesn’t seem interested (beyond friendship) with the English friend but she is probably putting herself in a not good situation visiting/staying with this person
How to effects your relationship is up to you
Self respect, get it
she even your gf ? Look like you gonna learn in hard way , smh
Dude you are dating a lesbian or someone who is definitely Bisexual and more into woman than you, or just prefer the woman she slept with over you, TALK ABOUT DENIAL THAT YIU ARE LIVING IN she doesn’t want you and you literally can’t admit it cause you are insecure THIS IS A RAGE BAIT POST
Sounds like she’s in denial about her sexuality and she might be more into females.
So what’s the deal with the two of you, are you intimate with each other and she just doesn’t want to sleep overnight in bed with you or she isn’t sleeping with you. From the way the story was written. It sounds like your girlfriend is bi. Nothing wrong with that however, she should probably discuss it with you and if she is and she’s going to see a girlfriend who clearly has a problem. Your communication with each other sucks and you either get that communicating or you need to go your own separate ways. I love women to the word insecurities around every time a guy has a preference or a boundary.
Exit
Anyone that says “it isn’t that deep” to your legitimate concerns can’t be trusted. You deal with it by ending the relationship with the girl who is clearly fucking her friend.
Your gf is a closeted lesbian who is too afraid to come out and is using you to appear ‘straight’ best thing you should do is break up with her and allow her to explore her sexuality- in the long run it will be best for her and also for you too
BREAK UP.
If she refuses to sleep with you, she’s not your girlfriend and you’re not her boyfriend. Move on.
Mate, she’s fucking her friend, wake up. SHE IS CHEATING ON YOU
Yeah you know what’s going on. Either you’re playing dumb or you’re in denial. Your gf has hooked up with this other chick before, is now going to visit this chick, probably with the intention of hooking up with her, and she’s willing to sleep in the same bed with her but not you. You know what’s happening and she’s gaslighting you into thinking it’s no big deal when it is a very big deal.
UpdateMe!
Dude, she’s cheating on you with her friend. You dump her and move on.
It is deep, she is hiding important things from you and brushing It off as insecurities or overreacting, don’t waste your time with someone that can’t be honest with you even after a whole year of relationship.
Dude, she’s not into you. She’s obviously lesbian which is totally cool but like, you don’t have a pussy so give it up and move on my friend. You deserve better
Your girlfriend is a lesbian man. Idk how else to put it but I can promise you she won’t deny it to herself forever and you won’t end up marrying her so just end it now
She’s gaslighting you. You have to be the most naive 21 year old in the world or this story is absolutely fake.
I have a couple of questions and you of course, don’t have to answer a single one you don’t want to. 1) does not sharing a bed include not sharing in orgasms? In other words, are you both regularly active sexually with one another? 2) why no sleeping together, especially when it’s against your wishes? Your 20s are decades away from sleeping separately due to muscle aches and back pain or an over active bladder that wakes your partner every time you get up to pee. it’s not the norm in relationships, other than maybe those on the brink of ending or someone snores bad enough to cause “sound rage.” Does one of you snore or have to sleep with a CPAP machine? while intoxicated or not, this friend and her have obviously shared a bed , fucked around and YOU found out. You’re not insecure for seeing red flags and climbing the flag pole for better clarity. Usually, If it’s some thing you have to hide, it’s because it’s wrong. My advise- burn that flag and make a run for it. Preferably to a country with no borders or allies where red flag hangs.