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Feeling pressured by your parents to have a “real job” can be incredibly stressful, especially when you’re still figuring out your career path. It’s important to remember that your worth as a person is not defined by the job you have. Your happiness and fulfillment should be the top priority when it comes to your career choices.
🤔 Do I Have a Bad Job?
First of all, it’s essential to reframe the way you think about your job. Just because your parents might not see food service at a brewery/restaurant as a “real job,” it doesn’t mean it’s not a valid and respectable position. In fact, any job that allows you to learn and grow, and that you enjoy doing, is a good job.
Here are a few pointers to help you navigate this tricky situation:
**Understanding Your Parents’ Perspective:**
– Your parents likely have your best interests at heart, but their expectations might not align with your own aspirations.
– Communicate openly and honestly with them about how you feel about your current job and your career goals.
– Ask them to support you in finding a job that aligns with your interests and values.
**Exploring Career Options:**
– Take some time to reflect on what you enjoy doing and what skills you have.
– Consider seeking out career counseling or speaking to a mentor for guidance.
– Don’t rush into applying for any job just to meet your parents’ deadline; take the time to find a position that is the right fit for you.
**Dealing with Pressure:**
– Remember that your parents’ expectations are just one perspective. It’s essential to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.
– Stand your ground and assert your independence when it comes to making career decisions.
– Seek support from friends, mentors, or online communities who can offer guidance and encouragement.
**Practical Steps to Take:**
– Create a list of potential job opportunities that align with your interests and skills.
– Update your resume and LinkedIn profile to highlight your experiences and qualifications.
– Network with professionals in your desired field to gain insights and connections.
In conclusion, it’s essential to listen to your own intuition when it comes to making career decisions. While it’s natural to seek approval from your parents, ultimately, you need to prioritize your own happiness and fulfillment. Remember that it’s okay to take your time to figure out your career path and to explore different options before settling on a job that feels right for you.
Don’t let the pressure from your parents dictate your choices. Trust in yourself and your abilities, and remember that your worth as a person goes beyond the job title you hold. Good luck on your career journey, and remember that it’s never too late to make a change for the better.
Nothing wrong with food service. My grandmother did it for 60+ years. In my opinion stay doing what you’re currently doing until something comes up that you want. The few jobs I have been applying at it didn’t make a difference on a time frame after schooling they only wanted a steady work flow, no gaps more than a month unemployed. I will agree benefits are needed but you might be able to find a different position that offers them until you get to where you want to be.
I mean, you’re probably still in your early to mid 20s. Looking for anything entry level straight out of college in todays job market (assuming your from the states) is absolutely horrendous especially in the IT and business field.
I’d just try having a deeper conversation with your parents to understand their perspective a bit more as to why they see your current position negatively and try to communicate to them that you are not sure what it is you want to do in life as a full time occupation.
If they are still not understanding, I’d at least make an effort in applying to jobs and see where that gets you. They are probably just worried about your future, and making sure that you are leveraging your experiences from school to get a better job with more career advancements.
Sounds like a slightly more aggressive situation than I was in after graduating. I was working retail but moved out of my parents after school. They were adamant that I also find a job in my career (business as well) but I never found it appealing.
I’m my case I went for banking, business banking, then mortgage. I’m now looking to get out lol. But for your case I would say you’re at least applying for entry level business jobs. Think banker, book keeper, mortgage servicing. Just something to satisfy them.
In the meantime I would do some real soul searching on what you want to do. It’s definitely easier to jump jobs while you’re under their roof. At the end of the day if it takes a while let them know the market is doodoos, because it is. Best of luck! Open to chat if you have questions
I have a “career” so to speak but over Christmas I worked retail for extra Christmas cash and it was one of the best jobs I ever had. It was understandably temporary but it really made me realize how nice a non-toxic and non-stressful workplace can be
Look man your parents are annoying and this isn’t up to them. Although, I’ve worked food service jobs I enjoyed significantly more than what I do now for office work. However, I’m paid much better now so I get to go enjoy all the other things I love to do while I’m not being a slave to my desk.
What kind of job does your mom have?
Why doesn’t she go and get her own soul sucking dead end job at some megacorp herself if it’s so great, and let you live your life how you’ve decided based on your own lived experience?
I bet if she did that, she’d have less time and energy to tell you what to do.
“My parents are adamant on that if you have a bad job you’re worth less as a person” your parents are wrong and they are one of the problems with capitalism.
How would you feel if you ended up managing a brewery or restaurant? Or eventually owning one?
You haven’t finished school yet? A food service job is best for you, as you can keep a more flexible schedule and keep days open for classes. If you work a 9-5 you would only be able to do online or night classes. And sometimes certain programs aren’t offered on line or at night.
What are you in college for right now?
“My mom has given me a deadline of tomorrow morning to make up my mind (give her the answer she wants) or else she’ll probably whoop my ass. ”
Umm…is your mom psychotic?
What exactly do they do for a living that they’re so snobby about it?
You have a degree and are getting work experience. Waiting isn’t hurting you. You can leave your job whenever you want.
And people with “bad” and “good” jobs have no correlation on their worth or if they are a good person. I know bums with “good” jobs that they have no business getting, and I know great intelligent people who are either doing what they want or unable to get a “good” job
Not really a career issue, all the career advice in the world won’t help. You need counselling to help you deal with your parents, see if you can seek that out in your area. Although you’ve graduated, is it possible that it’s recent enough so that your educational institution would still be willing to offer you these services?
Food & beverage is a billion-dollar industry with business operations. Look into the management track of the business and less at roles at the customer-facing level. What aspect do you like about the industry? Operations? Sales/Marketing/Branding? Customer Services, Supply Chain? The actual food? You have many options. Good luck
Does your college have a career services department? They should be able to help you.
You are going to be at your job for your life time, do what ever makes you happy. I was an engineer and was miserable and only average because I did not have the drive to accell. I am a field foreman and love my job and am at the top end in my field. My parents have never understood my choice but came to respect it. I have done very well on the pay scale also, because I am a leader in my field. Why? Because I truely love what I do. Follow your path not theirs.
Well, I’m not saying you should do this….but when I was 21 my mom tried to put her hands on me and I pulled a knife on her and was about one sentence away from stabbing her in a non-vital area.
After that incident our relationship “improved” in the way that she started treating me like an adult who deserved basic respect.
Many people graduate then have jobs for 6-12 months doing food service or other stuff until they get a real job. It’s fine to do that. I wouldn’t even put it on your resume any more than you would a summer job or part time job while in college.
Continue looking for work. And fwiw I’ve only gotten a job one time that didn’t start with a personal connection. In 25+ years as a professional. So spend more time talking to family friends, friends and their connections than surfing job boards.
Firstly, can I ask whether you live with your parents or it you’re on your own/with roommates?
Secondly, there’s no problem with any type of work you enjoy or want to do. It doesn’t matter if other people think there’s a problem with your current job, as long as you like it and are able to care for yourself and feel good about your lifestyle and schedule.
If you’re living in your parents’ house, I completely understand wanting to prep for this conversation tomorrow and avoid the pestering from your parents. If you’re living on your own, I also understand wanting the nagging to stop, but there’s less reason to rush into a “good” (according to your parents) job for the hell of it, even if it would appease them.
It’s your time, your life, and your decision. If anything, prioritize saving/making enough to move out and be more comfortable (if you are living with them currently) in your own space. I realize that that is easier said than done.
That’s not to say being away from them would rid you of the nagging completely, but it’s a bit easier to feel in control of your life and choices when you don’t feel physically and emotionally under their thumb, in their house, quite as much.
As long as you’re contributing rent or something they need to mind their business
Honestly it’s not at all unusual for college grads to spend a year or so milling about and trying to find direction. It can be hard enough to find a full-time job in a field you’re actually passionate about as a recent grad, so your parents are being completely unreasonable. Do you have any friends in similar situations that you could reach out to (either for help or advice)?
You gotta man up and decide what you want to do. It’s not a bad job, it’s a strategic choice to build soft skills in a workplace. You’re an adult now, tell them your plan or let your mom whip you like a child.
Your mom is right, with a business degree you should be able to find a higher-paying job with benefits. That being said, the way your mom is “encouraging” you to find a new job seems heavy-handed, to say the least.
If you move somewhere else, there’s not much they can do or say. Sometimes the best thing for a family relationship is to move away so they can’t see you for a year or 12…puts a lot of this into perspective for everyone.
Kinda, society says food service is a high school job. Hell even retail, even though Walmart managers make six figures and assistant managers make 50-60k
I would be exactly in the same attitude if you were my kid. The savings and experience you create now will determine a large portion of your professional and financial outcome and if you have the degree and tools to get a job that can get you in good standing, you would be dumb to waste that.
Get a real job, suck it up for a little and in the mean time learn about industries/job careers/master programs to find an out that would qualify you as succesful. You regret nothing if you do these things and later in life decide to come back to bartending while the opposite may bot be possible later in life.
It is easier to get a job with a job! Do not quit!!! Map out a plan for yourself to search job descriptions that you find interesting. Apply for at least three per week. Business Management is a big field. You seem like a people person, so look for something that has you interacting with people. I coach people for a living. Use the skills you are developing as your transferable work skills. You will find your way.
Showing your parents you have a plan may help put them at ease.
I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. Your parents want you to be independent and you aren’t getting that. If you can work a job that you like and afford your own place, groceries, and bills then by all means work that job! However, if you rely on your parents to continue to pay your bills because you love this job but it is providing you an independent future then it’s time to grow up. I have the mentality that you work to live. You don’t live to work. I don’t LOVE my job. I tolerate it because it provides for my family which makes me happy. I don’t think that you have a bad job as restaurant workers are very hard workers and can make decent money. Sounds like you all have some unhealthy communication habits to work on.
I can’t imagine walking into a sandwich place, thinking I’m more important or valued than any of those people. A job is a job. Some pay more, and many are underpaid, whether you’re a cashier, accountant, or engineer. Just respect people and do for yourself what works for you.
your business management degree ought to help you rise in the ranks of the hospitality industry.
I know you didn’t really enjoy your degree, but can you find connections between things you do at work and things you learned?
Yes, you are their investment and all the prayers to achieve the things they failed and quite honestly the only shot at showing off to society!
Hey this is what we breed… Success!! But the actual cost is you ruining your life for the sake of their pride and what not. Put yourself in their shoes and think why they would have you? Was it to have someone to pass down their inheritance? If not… then you know!
Get some roommates, keep the job you like, and keep your eye open for a future job you might like. Older generations seem to have no idea how terrible the job market is.
All of what your parents are looking in a job for can be found in the military! Bonus you can trade your toxic relationship with your parents for a romantic relationship with a stripper.