#Infidelity #Cheating #Relationships #Divorce #EmotionalTurmoil
Hey there! So sorry to hear about what you’re going through with your husband cheating on you. It’s definitely a tough situation to handle, especially when you still care about someone who has betrayed your trust. 🙁 But don’t worry, you’re not alone in this and you’re doing the right thing by seeking advice and guidance.
Here’s how you can navigate through this challenging time with grace and strength:
**Facing the Reality:**
– It’s important to acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to feel hurt, angry, and betrayed.
– Understand that it’s okay to set boundaries and make decisions that prioritize your well-being.
**Handling the Situation:**
– Confronting your husband about his infidelity was a brave step, and it’s commendable that you took action to protect yourself.
– Giving your husband a deadline to move out shows that you’re taking control of the situation and prioritizing your healing process.
**Embracing Change:**
– Moving on from a long-term relationship is never easy, but it’s essential to focus on your own growth and well-being.
– Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can offer love and comfort during this transition.
**Letting Go:**
– Forgiveness is a process that takes time, and it’s okay to feel conflicted about how to move forward with your husband.
– Remember that letting go of a toxic relationship can pave the way for new beginnings and opportunities that align with your values.
**Finding Strength in Adversity:**
– In times of distress, it’s essential to draw strength from within and tap into your resilience and determination to overcome challenges.
– Reflect on the lessons learned from this experience and use them to grow stronger and more confident in your future relationships.
**Advice from Ancient Wisdom:**
– In challenging times, remember the importance of staying grounded and focused on your inner peace and contentment.
– Embrace the teachings of detachment and selflessness to guide you towards a path of strength, courage, and clarity.
Remember, you deserve love, respect, and happiness in all aspects of your life. Stay true to yourself, trust your instincts, and know that brighter days are ahead. Keep moving forward with grace and confidence, and don’t hesitate to seek professional support if needed.
Sending you lots of love and positive vibes during this challenging time. You’ve got this! 💕✨
Yes, too lenient. Yes, not enough pressure. 2 monyhs? Lady, 2 minutes max is about the correct amount of time.
He is no longer your best friend or partner. He has lied and stabbed you in the back.
Consequences have actions…….let him face them. Kick the POS out of your life and build the best life for you.
Legally, you can’t force him to leave unless your home is solely in your name and even then, he doesn’t have to leave. Your best friend and partner betrayed you and you’re worried about his living situation? Get an attorney. File for divorce and suggest he go live with his coworker. If he refuses, then you’ll need to work with your attorney to get him out.
Talk to a lawyer
File the paperwork. There is no reason to delay what is eventually going to happen. He cheated on you so why would you consider giving him any more than the two months you already gave him? Being too lenient? Yes. Giving him the two months was good enough. File, make him move out in two months, and then move on. You might be ‘friends’, but eventually that will have to go as well or you won’t be able to truly move on.
Formally evict him.
Go see a lawyer and start divorce . Ask your lawyer if you go to his company and explain what happened how will it affect you if he is fired , I would do it after divorce same with telling her spouse if she has one .
If it’s matrimonial home he can stay there till sold so ask lawyer. When he is at work , or just out move all his clothes to spare bedroom and put a lock on the door .
Don’t make supper for two don’t do laundry . Go 180 and if questions. Say yes no maybe .
Tell his family and yours and close friends etc
He deserves no more of your time. He made the conscience decision to cheat…and WHEN YOU WERE THERE. How freaking disrespectful. He should have known he would need to move when he started the affair. Not your issue, that’s on him. He did this. Kick. Him. Out.
Yes. You need to take a firm stand. You need to get eviction papers going to. He needs to sleep separate from you. Separate all finances. Do not financially support hm in any way. Do not talk to him. When he tried to talk to you give him the cold shoulder and walk away. When the reality hits him he will be desperate to get back with you and will start lovebombing. Don’t let him. Be very very cold to him and “freeze” him out. What would you do if you found your best friend in bed with him? That is how you need to react.
Way too nice. As others have mentioned, talk to lawyer ASAP and follow what they say.
You are being very lenient. 60 days is a long time, I’d go with 30 myself. That’s enough time for him to find an apartment. If he’s broke, then it sucks to be him, and he needs to figure something out. He’s the one who broke things – not you.
Contact an attorney now and start the ball rolling. Good news, if he’s that broke, he won’t have an attorney of his own, which GREATLY simplifies things.
I would give him at the most a week. He had no qualms about cheating on you. He can go stay with her. And file immediately. You are way too concerned for him when he didn’t give you and your marriage any.
>how I’m supposed to move on when he’s physically still in my house
Is the deed only in your name?
If he is on the deed, legally, you cannot evict him. I would start the eviction process ASAP.
I wouldn’t trust that he hadn’t been sleeping around. Sounds like you have everything else covered, but please book an apt with your doctor and get an STI panel run, just to be safe. So many are symptom free, you can’t be too careful.
Yes you are still being a pushover. He should be out by the end of the week. Talk to a divorce attorney are there are marital assets, otherwise file asap.
Life events? What was it? Feel like something is missing….
Way too lenient. He needs to understand his actions have consequences and you are not there to make his life easier.
File for divorce and let him move in with his co worker
Not even going to read the post. If you are still with him then you are being too nice.
He did not even give you the courtesy of breaking up with you before moving on. He has a lot of nerve asking for these things and you don’t owe him any of it.
Absolutely. He broke your trust and is asking and asking and asking and asking and asking for more and more and more. Because he can! Because he knows that he can get it from you. Put some hard boundaries on and dont let him cross them.
Yes, you are a doormat at the moment
You’re being to letenient.
2 weeks it’s a lot of time. He should be out your home already.
Tell anyone you know about him cheating on the phone, under your roof with YOU BEING NEARBY, so he wouldn’t get it twisted against you.
File the divorce papers.
Anything that happens to him now isn’t your problem. And he was the one who decided it when broke your trust even when you gave him more than one opportunity to be honest with you
Why the fuck are you being nice to him? Kick his ass out now.
He can go live with her! Not your problem. He made a SERIES of choices that led to this point. Do not give him two months, file paperwork.
Did he give you any time to adjust to his new partner?? I would’ve told him to pack his shit & let his new girl know he was on his way. The minute he cheats, he has lied, disrespected you and has no consideration for your feelings…. he’s on his own. I wouldn’t even given him a month. He could’ve went to a friends, his parents, his gf, as long as he is away from you. There were many ways he could’ve went about telling you that he wanted to move on with someone else, he decided to be a gross lying cheater; which means you are off the hook. He has no regards for your past 10 years, why should you??? Kick his ass to the curb, he needs to see what the consequences are to his choices.
Realistically, he’s probably just going to go move with her anyway, so it’s no point and try to give him a 2 month head start to allow them to settle into their relationship. I suggest you just kick him out, and go no contact
Do not help him. you’re no longer his life partner, the consequences of his actions..
Change that to one month 30 days to get out.. and he has to sleep on the couch or in spare, and he has to supply his own food..
When the month is up bye bye, whether he has a place or not.
File for divorce ASAP like today
Mándalo a la verga!!!! Que se vaya a vivir con la compañera!! Date cuenta que te está usando !!!
You are being to lenient. The marrage and friendship is over. He actively worked against your marriage and he should live with the consequences.
Change the locks once he is gone if not the day of.
Yes. You’re too nice. File those divorce papers already.
He can go and stay with his Co worker. I wouldn’t give him 2 months.
His actions have consequences. And you need a safe home to live in
30 days. Give him 30 days unless your state requires more. Lock down your money NOW. Can worry about separating that in the divorce. Just don’t give him the chance to take it all first.
Why try to appease a cheater?
Without breaks for paragraphs, this is too hard to read.
Hell no, he can go live with him mom! You’re way too nice, file already and get rid of him. He’s trash.
He wanted to divorce you awhile back. Making the divorce amicable is commendable. I like your power play also. “I’m the bread winner so I get to say so.”. Strong power play. You make the feminist in me proud.
Girl, this is the affair that you know about. You don’t know when all this started, have you looked through his phone? He lied to your face when you asked him outright. He had the chance to come clean, he chose not to. He has family right? Friends? He can move in with them. Why the hell would you give him more than a few days?
Do you have proof of the affair? How are you ensuring you are safe in this scenario? You’re definitely not taking care of your emotions.
He’s not your best friend any more.
Call a divorce lawyer and learn your options.
Get that dude out of your house ASAP. The faster things settle the faster you can move on.
No I think 2 months is fair. Make sure you mean it though and follow through with the divorce papers.
Keep in mind, this man is in survival mode so he might say or do anything to get you to prolong this divorce process… for example- all that crying/tears only for him to have the audacity to be sexual with someone else a whole 72 hours later.
Yeah way too lenient with him. I would give him what is legally required to kick someone out of your house if that is 7 days or 28.
Is this a woman that works with him where he is? Or does she happen to live or work near where he wanted to move? Honestly you know this affair was going on much longer and not only was he cheating on you he was also being emotionally manipulative with ignoring your efforts to work on the marriage because he was already having an affair. Guess that solved the mystery of why he was rarely home. He wasn’t even upset with the fact that you wanted a divorce! He was only concerned about where he was going to live! Why can’t he move in with his AP? Is she married or in a relationship as well?
Honestly he’s not a friend because a friend wouldn’t do that to you! He threw away the 10 year relationship as if it’s nothing so you should throw him out just the same. Make sure you do things properly and serve him with eviction notice or do what ever you need to do to keep it legal. Make sure you tell both your family and friends before he starts twisting the story to make you the bad guy.
He can go stay with the coworker. don’t let him talk you into letting him stay “just because you’ve been best friends for a decade.”
Girl, I don’t know about you, but my “best friends” don’t betray me.
Everyone here is telling you that you are being too lenient. I generally agree but I can also empathize with where you’re at. End of last year my wife of 15 years cheated on me with a co-worker. When she told me, I was so numb cause our relationship was already in such a rough spot, I almost didn’t care. I was trying to be as understanding as to why she made the choice she did, I feel like I took too much of the blame for her choice. Which in hindsight I probably did. But it doesn’t change the fact that you do care about them, even through the pain you still want them to succeed and be ok. I wish i was harder on her when we split, but I wasn’t and I can’t do anything about it now. Best of luck.
Friends above all? Lady, you really need to reassess your definition of friendship. Because if this is your best friend, one who lies, betrays and manipulates/uses you, I mean with friends like that, who needs enemies?
If he’s worried about homelessness, then he probably should have, ya know, not had an affair, emotional or otherwise. Two months is wayyyy too lenient. Dig through your closet, find your spine, polish it up, and begin using it. I’m in an awesome marriage, but cheating of any kind is instant divorce. And there’d be no “two months”. It would be two hours. If he’s homeless, that’s just cause and effect. Its consequences for the decisions that he knowingly made. He absolutely knew the risk. You’d told him point blank. But he went ahead anyway. He did that because:
A.) He doesn’t respect you
B.) He knew about your dusty spine so he knew you wouldn’t make him deal with the consequences of his decisions
Time for you to begin taking care of you.