Is my marriage salvageable after catching my wife sending pics to my brother-in-law? #infidelity #marriagesurvival #relationshipadvice
### The Situation
Caught in the Act
My (35m) wife (34) and my brother-in-law (40m) have been exchanging pictures behind my back.
Questioning the Future
Should I try to salvage our marriage or is it too late to repair the damage?
### Seeking Advice
Expert Opinions
1. How common is infidelity in marriages?
2. What steps can be taken to rebuild trust after such betrayal?
3. Are there warning signs I may have missed in our relationship?
### Moving Forward
Consider Your Options
– Counseling for both individuals and couples
– Establishing boundaries and rebuilding trust
– Taking time to reflect on personal feelings and intentions
As difficult as the situation may be, it’s important to seek guidance and support to navigate this challenging time in your marriage. Remember, you are not alone in facing such obstacles, and there is hope for a brighter future ahead. Stay strong and take the necessary steps towards healing and reconciliation.
>Now I just feel like I have failed as a man, who’s wife had to sell her body to meet her expected lifestyle.
Bro this has nothing to do with you and likely nothing to with money after the first transaction years ago.
She liked the attention, it’s not your fault she has some self-esteem issues
My comment from the first post.
It’s been 5 years of cheating. 5 years of hurting you and her own sister. It’s done. Get the lawyer for custody. After custody is set, I would tell the sister.
Edit: to clarify, when I said custody I meant the 50/50 custody that op wants.
There is absolutely no way to salvage this. Lets pretend for a second that she did nothing physical with the BIL, which may be true. But if she has no issues doing this to you and her sister, then if she has ever went out on a girls night out how can you trust she did not sell her vagina to the bartender for shots? You could never trust anything she says again.
I’m sorry bro. These two shit bags just destroyed 2 marriages, two homes of small children. The ripple effect will not stop there. This is heartbreaking bro.
Tell her sister!!
Gather the evidence. Contact an attorney. Follow the attorneys advice AND tell your SIL and all of the family (not the kids). Your marriage is over.
“She swears there was nothing emotional or physical involved—it was purely transactional.”
OP, it’s not up to me to dictate to you how to feel about this, if you think this somehow makes it better, so be it. I strongly disagree with the idea that “transactional” cheating is somehow less harmful than when emotions or sexual desire is involved. I actually find it more crass and disrespectful. Like really you betrayed your spouse, ruined your marriage, did this to your *sister* (!!!!), for what? For spending cash?
I’m not justifying cheating when the cheater develops a crush or is out and gives in to ego, not at all. That’s also not ok. But, it is in some ways more understandable to me. It’s an imperfection, a human flaw, that I can recognize as possibly fixable in some situations. But, for money? $300? Damn.
I’m sorry, OP. I don’t think this is salvageable. I really don’t understand your wife’s mindset. That is just too cold, yikes. And to not just you, but her sister…. I would get a divorce and immediately meet up with your SIL in person and let her know what has been going on.
UpdateMe!
Go in person to her parents and call
Her sister . Show the proof and thank parents and her sisters for everything . I bet sister doesn’t divorce him but your wife is a sex worker , basically onlyfans model
I’m so sorry. The short answer, no it’s not salvageable; there’s no coming back from this betrayal. She cheated for five years… five years of backstabbing you and her sister. This was not a mistake; she made the choice to cheat over and over.. trust is the foundation of any relationship, trust is irrevocably broken. You’ll never look at her the same again when she complains about $ or goes out with friends… This is not someone you want to trust, love, or share your life with. She’s been doing this for 5 years, TBH she’s upset cuz she got caught and the consequences.
This is not your fault; you did not fail as a husband. Your partner failed you, your child, and her sister. You deserve better. Collect the evidence. Contact an attorney. Let her sister know. Let your families know; get it out in the open. Work toward amicable divorce and coparenting. Get your self into individual therapy to help process this betrayal. Couples counseling down the road would be okay with a goal of effective coparenting. It’s going to be tough for a while but you’ll be better off in the long run.
Her sister deserves to know.
Op you better tell her sister so she’s in the loop of what her nasty husband and own sister has been doing behind her back. Two people that she loved and trusted have betrayed her, it’s bad enough her own husband is cheating on her but with her own sister, she’s going to be so hurt but she deserves to know the truth as well, tell her asap!!
File for divorce, force the sale of the house, take 50% equity along with 50% custody.
Why do they always offer up the house…
Document document document. Lawyer lawyer lawyer.
Tell her sister.
> is our marriage is salvageable at this point?
It’s “salvageable” in the same way that the juice at the bottom of the dumpster behind an abattoir on a hot summer day is “drinkable.”
Tell her sister and blow it up!
Oh my fucking shit. This dumb fuck comes to ask what to do. I was hoping this was fake. I still do
It may be salvageable!! The question is do you want a wife who is capable of doing this to her husband and sister? Who is she as a person?
Make sure you tell your sil so they can’t get away with anything
Go scorch earth. Tell everyone.
>Now I just feel like I have failed as a man, who’s wife had to sell her body to meet her expected lifestyle
You shouldn’t.
>She said she didn’t know how to stop and that it was easy money.
From her sisters husband. She cares so little about her marriage or her sister that she would do that for some money.
Now there are nude pics and video of her out there? What are the chances BIL would share that stuff? Maybe that is how he gets the funds he shares with her. $300 is a lot of money for nudes….and what the heck is she doing with this money? Secret drug addiction? Shopping addiction? I can’t imagine what the motivating factor would be to betray people you’re supposed to love for “easy money”.
“Is our marriage salvageable?” This fucking guy.
5 years of doing this to her husband **and her sister!** Honestly I feel like it’s almost worse to do that to your own sister. What a piece of crap! I hope you have screen shots!!!
Why would you even want it to be salvageable with a person who would do this to not only you, but her own sister?
No! And please tell your wife’s sister. She deserves to know.
On top of the betrayal to you, how could she do this to her own sister??