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Is it time to file for divorce after your husband expressed excitement about you visiting primarily to clean his parents’ house? This situation can be extremely hurtful and frustrating, and you may be questioning the foundation of your marriage. Let’s delve deeper into this issue and explore some options moving forward.
## Understanding Your Feelings
It’s completely understandable to feel offended and disrespected when your husband prioritizes cleaning his parents’ house over spending quality time with you and your daughter. Your worth as a wife and partner should not be determined by your ability to fulfill traditional gender roles like cleaning and taking care of household chores.
## Communication is Key
Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship. Sit down with your husband and express how his statement made you feel. Make sure to use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Let him know that you expect mutual respect and appreciation in your relationship.
## Setting Boundaries
It’s important to establish clear boundaries in your relationship. Let your husband know what you are comfortable with and what you expect from him as a husband and father. Boundaries help define acceptable behavior and prevent misunderstandings.
## Seeking Professional Help
If you’re finding it challenging to navigate this situation on your own, consider seeking the help of a marriage counselor. A professional therapist can provide guidance and facilitate productive conversations between you and your husband.
## Financial Independence
Financial independence is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. It’s concerning that your husband is not contributing adequately to the financial needs of your family. Discuss financial responsibilities openly and consider creating a budget together.
## The Importance of Self-Worth
Remember that your worth as a wife and mother is not dependent on how well you clean or fulfill traditional gender roles. You deserve respect, love, and appreciation for who you are as a person. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
## Advice from Bhagavad Gita
In times of challenge and adversity, it’s essential to remember the teachings of Bhagavad Gita. Find strength in knowing that you have the power to control your reactions and decisions. Focus on your dharma (righteous duty) and act with integrity and compassion.
In conclusion, the decision to file for divorce is a deeply personal one that only you can make. Consider your feelings, your daughter’s well-being, and what will ultimately lead to your happiness and fulfillment. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship filled with love, respect, and mutual support. Trust your instincts and seek guidance from trusted friends, family, or professionals if needed.
His what
This doesn’t make any sense. Fake.
Ok so… wife duties? What exactly are they and did you agree to them. Because that’s a trap. You need to find out what they are in detail and let him know what you expect from him in detail.
Ps-child support is more than that in Canada so IF you divorce make sure you file for child support in Canada, they also have a way to take it out of his pay before he even gets it so he can’t short you
You both sound like children, not ready to be adults. And this is fake
What kind of relationship is that?? Married with a child, but not living in the same country and both of you still living at home and living off your parents. I mean… what the hell are you doing ??
Hope this is fake
Explain to him, in small words, that you are not his maid, and not his parent’s maid. If you go there, it is as a guest, and you will not be cleaning up after anyone except yourself and your daughter.
Tell him your do wife duties when he starts acting like a husband but I would seriously consider divorce
This man is living in a whole other country so he doesn’t have to raise and support your daughter. His first reaction is he gets his room cleaned.
Tell him to make the effort and he can come see you. His parents too. Screw that. Time for him to man up and prove he can be the perfect husband. What’s the appeal here??
Cleaning his parents house is most definitely not the wife’s duty. And honestly I’m trying to figure out why in the world you’re married to this man. He seems completely useless and for him to have the audacity to tell you you have to prove yourself to him? I don’t think so. I’m sure you can do better. Get rid of this guy and find somebody decent.
Let me guess his families background! Why would you continue to be treated like this? Geez women in the west need to learn!
Don’t take your daughter to Canada. I don’t know about citizenship and custody in Canada but you might not be able to bring her home. And this is separate from the fact that you need to dump this loser! You need to prove you can be the perfect wife!?!? Ask him when he is going to be half a husband because right now he isn’t being a husband or a father!
Why did you marry this loser?
This guy sucks! Dump him!
Jesus fucking christ.
As shitty as his outlook and attitude maybe; you cannot really accuse him of changing after marriage. It sounds like he was exactly the same even before marriage. Not sure how you decided getting married to this guy under such conditions and circumstances was a good idea but I don’t see this working out in the long run.
Good luck.
Why are you still with him? He has stated he wants you to be his slave. He hasn’t proven himself to be a good husband and father. He doesn’t sound like he wants or loves you. Divorce him.
and you had a child with this man…..
You are, almost by definition, his bangmaid
OP you literally don’t have a husband. You have a digital friend that you chat with here and there. You are single mom that lives with your parents. Your “digital friend” lives in another country with his parents and is not around to support or provide. He doesn’t want to live with you, or he would have made it happen already given that you guys have a freaking 5 month old. I really hope you are a troll.
I mean, nobody’s perfect. Him demanding you be a perfect wife while you’re alone raising his baby in another whole country is disgusting behavior. I’m not saying get divorced. I’m just like this is probably as good as he’s gonna get.
Yeah, he isn’t looking for a wife, he is looking for another mother. Time to file for divorce and find someone who prioritises you and your child.
Sounds like he wants a mom not a wife. He doesnt wana get his own place because then hed have to do everything for himself while you get everything in order to move.
Doesnt seem like a great dad if hes sending only several hundred dollars for his child.
I like the comment that says when he says anything about wife duties, ask when his father and husband duties will happen?
You need a job. You’re soon-to-be ex-husband needs child support taken out of his salary by a COURT ORDERED AGREEMENT OF CHILD SUPPORT.
“ I will cook clean and do what I’m told”
This is disgusting- you don’t need to do what you’re told. And husbandly and wifely duties is so gross. You owe each other respect. You’re not a child and don’t need to obey him.
If he isn’t sending you more money while complaining baby uses too many diapers – are you serious? then you need a divorce as this is what you’re future is. A man who only leaves away from his parents when he can mooch off a woman.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he got you pregnant on purpose.
This man does not want to be married to you. If he did he would move heaven and earth to come live with you. File for divorce and make sure you get a fair amount for child support.
OP, he’s doing none of his ‘husbandly duties’ so he has earned zero ‘wifely duties’ from you. Don’t you dare clean his parents’ house for that bone-idle loser.
Ffs he won’t even provide a home for your daughter to live in so he can see her all the time. This ‘marriage’ is dead in the water. He’s not a husband, he’s a leech.
GIRL YOU BETTER RUN🏃🏻♀️💨TO A LAWYER AND GET THEM DIVORCE PAPERS!
How is he gonna tell you to prove being a better wife when he ain’t even trying to prove himself a suitable husband, and the child is 5 months of course she’s gonna go through a lot of diapers, duh🤦🏾♀️, and it takes more than what he’s sending you to take care of the child. Also,
“So he’s has been talking about how excited he is to see his daughter and he also said he was excited for me to come so I can clean his room”🤨
Ma’am I know you don’t have the word MAID written across your forehead, you are his wife and mother of his child not the US cleaning service. Go ahead, file them papers and leave that boy who wants to play a man with his parents
She drops it in the conversation that she didn’t “find out he was cheating” until she got pregnant. Nothing about this at the beginning. I didn’t think this was fake until this. You went a step too far, Rubycaty!
Don’t go to Canada. They may stop your daughter leaving and then you will be stuck there.
Stay home with your family.
Why did you marry and then have a kid with a man you haven’t even lived long term with?? This whole thing is a mess and you’re doing yourself and your daughter a disservice by staying in the shit sandwich of a situation.
Edit: wait and he cheated on you while you were pregnant?? Why do you want to stay with this man? Girl have some self respect 😭 if not for yourself, do it for your daughter jesus
You can’t see that massive red flag being waved from Canada?
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Just in case you missed it.
Please divorce him. It’s not going to work, he’s a leech