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Hey everyone! So, let’s dive into the world of dating. Sometimes you need a little tough love to really get things right. 💔 What are some brutally honest dating advice for men that can actually make a difference?
Here’s what I think:
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Be Yourself: Seriously, trying to impress someone with a facade is exhausting and, honestly, it never pays off. Authenticity is attractive! 😌
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Listen More: It’s not just about what you say. Really listening shows you care and helps build a genuine connection. 🎧
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Keep Your Expectations in Check: You might think you’re Prince Charming, but remember that everyone has flaws. Embrace the imperfections! 💖
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Take Care of Yourself: Confidence comes from feeling good about yourself—so hit the gym, style up, and have good hygiene. It’s a must! 💪
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Don’t Play Games: Being honest and straightforward beats any mind games. Games are for kids, not for relationships! 🛑
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Respect Boundaries: Everyone has their comfort zone. Be mindful and respect it; it’ll make dating a lot smoother.✨
- Know When to Move On: If things aren’t working, it’s okay to walk away. There are plenty of fish in the sea! 🐟
So, what do you think? Do you have any brutally honest dating advice for men that you’ve learned along the way? Or maybe you have a funny dating story that taught you a lesson? I’m all ears!
Let’s share our experiences and tips! Drop your thoughts in the comments below! 💬
Don’t act so desperate. Making innuendos constantly, coming on too strong too quickly scares women away.
In my experience if she is always busy and kinda hard to get ahold of except occasionally, then you probably aren’t the one she is focused on and she isn’t giving you the whole story.
Be a true partner. If you take on a task, do the entirety of the task. For example, dishes: this means wash, load/empty dishwasher, buy new dish soap/sponges.
Clean up after yourself and put things where they belong.
Listen. Don’t fix, redirect, dismiss, or downplay. Listen, and if you need to respond, say “do you want support, advice, or just space to vent?”
If they say something to you that you have no interest in, it’s not about what they said. They’re trying to connect with you. Acknowledge it.
Find out what makes them feel loved and do it.
When you mess up, say I’m sorry, and then *don’t do it again.*
Remember, communication is a two-way street. Don’t monopolize the conversation with your own stories and achievements. Ask about their day, their dreams, their challenges. Let the dialogue flow back and forth. Show genuine interest in what they have to say; it builds respect and rapport. If you can hold a conversation that’s balanced and engaging, chances are you’ll leave a good impression. After all, a solid relationship is built on the foundation of shared dialogue, not a one-man show.
If you like a girl and you confess your feelings and she doesnt see you in that way then please spare yourself and leave. Mental health is important. Your future self will thank you.
Never ask a woman out unless you already know her.
If she declines, do not pursue.
Don’t play games. If she does anything questionable, like spending all her time on the phone with other guys, disengage.
If she has her sights on a “666” (six feet tall, six-figure salary, six-pack) and you are not that, do not pursue.
Take her somewhere inexpensive for a first date.
Know your value. If all she has to offer is what is between her legs, don’t expect anything more.
Please stop telling me what you think I want to hear. I can generally tell when this happens and it’s just a missed opportunity to bond. I’d like you to be comfortable enough with yourself to talk openly.
^(I also love it when a guy can tell me *no* and has boundaries)
Apparently 12 beers at a pub is not a date.
When you’re out there in the dating pool, remember that genuine interest is your best wingman. Ask questions about her life and listen to the answers, not just as a stepping stone to your next monologue, but to actually understand who she is.
Most people don’t want unsolicited pictures of your penis.
Some of the ones that do plan on using it for blackmail.
So penis picture sharing, generally a bad idea.
I just had this exact conversation with my teenage son, hopefully it sunk in.
The friendzone is not a path to a relationship. Dont pretend to be her friend just because you hope she will date you, be honest about your intentions.
Do not over saturate the person you like with compliments. One here or there is fine but constantly throwing them out will result in the person you like not valuing what you’re actually saying. Also, do NOT spend an outrageous amount on going out in the first date. I know you wanna impress your suitor, but absolutely DO NOT feel like you need to over due it on the first date. Someone worth your time also won’t order the most expensive thing on the menu and an endless supply of drinks on your dime.
Don’t ask for a person’s number, give them yours.
That way, you’re not putting them in an awkward position if they’re not interested. And if you actually hear from them, you know they are probably interested in you and not just being polite out of fear.
If you think women don’t like nice guys it’s a good indication that you’re not as nice as you think you are. This is the brutally honest advice I wish I got when I was younger
Being nice is the baseline. What do you have to offer? No, I don’t mean six figures and a six pack.
Do you have a job, an ambition, are you in education? Do you have an interesting hobby or area of interest? Are you a good friend, emotionally available, working on yourself? Do you have a stable living situation, can you look after yourself, what do you do on the weekends etc – What positives will you offer that make you worth the risk and investment? You don’t need to have everything sorted to be worthy of a relationship, but you need something.
If you arn’t conventionally attractive get off the apps and go socialise in real life. Join a club or a class or get into your hobby. Looks really are not everything, especially for women. (The guy with the biggest body count that I know is an actual dwarf.) However, apps like tinder are so one-sided that swiping is a 1 second decision, and 5 min of swiping can have a dozen options to split attention. It’s designed for superficial snap decisions. The same girl who flicked you left with 30 other guys might be up for a date if they actually talked to you.
Girls who spend a lot of their time in the gym maintaining their body and make a lot of effort with their appearance are probably going to be attracted to men who have similar priorities.
Clean your house, do the dishes, clean your bathroom and change your sheets. Nothing can raise your date-ability like demonstrating you don’t need to be housebroken. Actually just make that a habit, nothing can kill a growing thing than a dude who relaxes back to squalor after a few dates.
The early stages of dating, especially with someone new, comes with an element of physical risk to women. It is not an indictment on you, rather a sad, statistical reality of putting yourself in intimate and isolated settings and giving personal information to a relative stranger. Saying no in that setting can be or feel dangerous. Just keep that in mind when considering your dates comfort level because it can be easy to overlook when you aren’t planning anything nefarious.
Don’t assume things. This goes for anybody.
Ask about expectations and lay out yours. Be upfront and be honest. You want an active sex life? Lay it out there. You don’t like sex much? Lay it out there. Want kids, marriage, animals, a house? Lay it out. Be open to the other person’s wants, too, but prioritize your own. If something feels incompatible after more than a year, it probably is–that doesn’t mean the relationship was a waste, though. If they’re kind to you–if they treat you nicely and are affectionate in the ways that are important to you, and they don’t take without giving in turn, and they respect your autonomy and privacy, then you’re good there.
The issue with dating is people don’t treat it enough like friendship. You should get along with your partner, share interests and values and desires beyond each other’s bodies. You should be *friends* with your partner. Respect and kindness and compassion are the foundational aspects of any relationship but most critical in a romantic/sexual one.
Don’t ‘expect’ anything on the first date.
As a socially awkward guy who dated and married “up”, my key advice is 1) Don’t hesitate to ask out the people you find most attractive. 2) Ace the basics, you’d be amazed how many don’t.– Be clean and wear clean clothes in good shape, make sure your place is clean and has what it takes to make a guest, of 10 minutes or a weekend, comfortable and “ick” free. Make sure you ride is clean, 3) You don’t have to spend big or go over your head, but don’t hold back or look like you’re in pain when the check comes or there’s some cost involved. 4) FOCUS on that person you are with. 5) Have fun. 6) Finally, learn to take rejection with grace. It’s not an attack on you. Learn from the dates/dating that didn’t work. The best hitters in the world don’t bat 1000. Be nice to the person who isn’t into you and trust me, you will feel better and you will be more up for the next opportunity. And if you are nice, they may have a friend for you…
Good luck!
Ask questions about their life and be genuinely interested. So much feedback I’ve heard is that men talk about themselves, trying to prove how interesting they are.
Don’t be a pushy creep. If she doesn’t want you, she doesn’t want you. Move on.
If you hook up with her while she’s in a relationship and or she leaves her man for you, sooner or later she will do the same to you. If she’s willing to cheat she is a cheater period. Time after time I’ve seen dudes fall for that girl while she never changes.
Be choosy about the men you take advice from
A lot of it is nonsense or in bad faith
Or really fing banal and unnecessary (You’re not cool, ‘just being real’, worldly or whatever dramatic archetype for spewing the rules 1&2 bit, you’re being kind of a tool)
A lot of the advice is targeted at you, particularly by advertisin, to make you feel insecur. This is where the lack of “success“ comes from. You’re wanted like this because it’s then easier to make you buy stuff
Influencers SOUND like they make sense but are doing the same thing for the same reason
There are no clear or fair or foolproff strategies, you’re better off doing things that you like or make you feel better. Ironically, this is what DOES make you attractive
If you’re doing online dating, please take a few minutes and actually write something in your profile that reflects who you are. This lets people know a) that you are willing to put in at least minimum effort, and b) whether you have things in common with them.
If she has kids already, you’re going to be second place to those kids forever and you need to be okay with that from moment one.
If you have kids already, she needs to be second place to those kids and you need to only date someone who is okay with that from moment one.
You do not want to end up in 20 years wondering why your older kids don’t call anymore because they blame you for starting a second family and deprioritizing them.
Further, if you’re freshly divorced, don’t fuck anyone from your life before the divorce. Not mutual friends, not acquaintances, not coworkers, not your kids’ teacher, none of those people. No one will believe it wasn’t an affair that started before your divorce. Hell, if you meet someone less than a year after the papers are signed, people will still think you had an affair.
Stop dating and actually work on yourself. I mean it, stop trying on everyone else for a while and focus just on you and your closest.