#RelationshipAdvice #SplitPayForDamages #CarAccident #FinancialResponsibility
Hey there! I can totally understand the stress and frustration you must be feeling in this situation. It’s never easy dealing with issues like this, especially when money, relationships, and emotions are involved. But let’s break it down and see if we can find some clarity and insights to help you navigate through this tough time.
**The Situation:**
You let your girlfriend borrow your car, she got into a minor accident, and now you’re asking her to split the pay for the damages. She refused, citing financial constraints, and things escalated to a point where you both have decided to break up. Is that fair or are you in the wrong here?
**Financial Responsibility:**
When it comes to borrowing something, especially as valuable as a car, it’s important to also consider the financial responsibility that comes with it. While accidents can happen, it’s crucial for both parties to have an understanding of the potential consequences and how to handle them.
**Communication is Key:**
In any relationship, open and honest communication is vital. It’s important to have a conversation about financial expectations, responsibilities, and boundaries before any borrowing or lending takes place. Clear communication can help avoid misunderstandings and conflicts down the line.
**Assessing the Situation:**
Let’s take a closer look at the situation you’re currently facing:
1. Your girlfriend borrowed your car, which you recently purchased.
2. She got into a minor accident and caused cosmetic damage to the vehicle.
3. You asked her to split the pay for the damages, but she refused.
4. She claimed financial constraints as the reason for her refusal.
5. The situation escalated, leading to a breakup.
**Things to Consider:**
Before making any judgments or decisions, it’s important to consider the following points:
– Was there a clear agreement or understanding regarding financial liability in case of accidents or damages?
– Did your girlfriend have any prior experience or history of accidents that could have influenced your decision to let her borrow the car?
– Is it fair to expect your girlfriend to split the pay for damages, considering her financial situation?
**Final Thoughts:**
It’s never easy to navigate through conflicts, especially when emotions are running high. However, it’s important to take a step back, analyze the situation objectively, and consider the perspectives of all parties involved. Ultimately, communication, understanding, and mutual respect are key in any relationship, and finding a resolution that works for both parties is essential.
In conclusion, while the situation may have been difficult and challenging, it’s important to reflect on your actions, intentions, and decisions to learn and grow from this experience. Remember, every challenge presents an opportunity for growth and understanding. Stay strong, stay positive, and remember that you deserve happiness and peace in all aspects of your life. 💪🌟
I hope this advice helps shed some light on your situation and guides you towards a path of healing and growth. Stay strong and remember, you are not alone in this journey. Take care!
Nta, she should be paying 100% of the costs.
NTA. She should have offered to pay the damages in full at the time she returned home. Her friends’ “real man” comment is nonsense.
NTA but she is – if you cause damages to somebody else’s property you pay – 100%, not half. A “real woman” pays for the things she breaks.
You should not have asked her to split the costs of her accident. You should have expected her to pay the costs in full of her own actions. She is ungrateful and irresponsible. At least you found out early. Good riddance to this deadbeat.
But take her to small claims court for the full cost of the damage she caused. Block anyone who texts you unsolicited opinions about that. Get your money. NTA.
Was there a specific reason why she had the accident? Or was it just her?
If it is someone else fault than there is some kind of insurance. If it is her fault she should pay 100%. I honestly feel like you are generous for offering splitting the costs. Maybe she is be able to pay it in smaller parts to you. Like every month a 100 bucks?
Since it is technically your car, you probably won’t get your money back. But see this as a win. You dodged a bad person and a whole group of terrible people. The only thing that might do something is talking to her parents…..
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On the contrary, she is behaving like a child for not paying one-half of the damages. Really, your offer is generous. She should pay for all the repairs since she alone damaged the car. She can’t take responsibility for her actions. You are well rid of her. NTA.
NTA. The social rules are clear on this. You bend it, you mend it. I don’t know why you even offered to split the costs tbh.
NTA – Don’t waste emotional energy on this relationship. Cut her loose and then take her to small claims when she refuses to pay.
Any reasonable person who cared about you would be bending over to make it right after you loaned your brand new car to them and they damaged it. The fact that she’s talking shit about you to friends means she holds you in contempt, and that means the relationship is rotten.
NTA she caused damage she should fix it.
NTA – honestly I would take her to small claims court for the full damages.
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Put in a claim against her insurance
File a police report of the damage if you can so that you have something documented. Take her to court if she doesn’t want to pay. Also leave her, it’s not worth the stress
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And I would make a claim in the small claims court.
She is responsible for repairing the damage whether her finances are tight or not.
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She sounds absolutely spoiled and vile.
Perhaps look into small claims court.
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“I guess she told her friends that I am not a real man for making her pay for damages.”
B S.
She damaged the car. She should’ve paid up the entire amount. You were more than kind in offering to pay half.
Kudos for throwing her back. You deserve a lot better.
NTA .
Step one, break it off.
Step two, file in small claims for the full amount of the damages, which she should have paid without batting an eye.
She crashed the car. She should be paying for all of it. Time to sue
NTA – Your ex-GF is a grown-up who caused expensive damages to your vehicle, and you only asked her to pay half when she is 100% liable. That was very generous of you; you should now take her to small claims court to pay for all of it.
NTA – she should have paid in full, leach.
Good riddance, NTA
NTA, she caused the damage and should pay the entire cost. Take her to small claims court and get your money.
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She should have offered to pay for the damage she made instantly.
I think you did yourself a favour by breaking up with her. Also I don’t think you need her friends either.
Was she even remorseful?
the moment girl’s besties thought they got a say. the relationship is gone.
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If I crashed my bfs car I’d pay it full, I wouldn’t even let him offer half. My fault = My money
NTA and take her worthless butt to small claims court. She’s pulling the mean high school girl act.
Even if you end up paying for the repairs (which you shouldn’t), it’ll be cheaper than the money you would’ve wasted on this immature girl while in an ongoing relationship. You’re dodging a bullet with this one. Go find yourself someone worthy of your attention. Don’t look back.
NTA she should pay 100%.
NTA, she is the child for telling her friends & their harassment. Good riddance.
Take her to court
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She should pay the WHOLE cost of the damages!
Time for a new girlfriend. She is an ass not you.
NTA good riddance.
now take her to small claims court for the full damages.
And tell her that if her friends or her keep texting and harrassing you, you’ll got o a lawyer, and then make good on your threat.
Stop letting her walk all over you.
Glad you broke up with her. She is not the one.
Small claims – get your money, she did you a favour NTA
NTA. A real woman takes responsibility for her actions.
NTA. You dodged a bullet.
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Bullet dodged
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I was going to say “break up with her”, but seeing as you already did that I have nothing more to add
NTA Your Ex-girlfriend is liable for all damages to your vehicle while it was in her possession. This isn’t optional.
I would also be concerned that you may get a knock on the door. Who or what did she hit?
Yes. Small claims court for you
NTA.
Your ex gf is selfish and manipulative.
She should have taken responsibility and offered to pay the full cost of the repairs.
The fact that she refused to pay even for half shows that’s she’s selfish.
She did you a favor acting this way over what she called, something “small”. You were smart to break up and get away from her. Good self-preservation instincts!
Take her to small claims court.
NTA. She should pay ALL damages. It was her accident.
Oh – and don’t loan your car to someone you’ve only known a few months.
Go after her in small claims court. She should have agreed to split the cost of the damages. Now she’s gonna end up paying a lot more.