#FamilyDrama #AITA #NameChange
Hey there, so it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of intense emotions and family dynamics right now. I’m here to provide some advice and guidance to help you navigate this situation.
## Understanding the Situation
First off, it’s important to acknowledge that what you’re going through is tough. Discovering your dad’s relationship with his fiancĂ© and feeling betrayed can be really hurtful. It’s clear that you’re dealing with a lot of conflicting emotions, and that’s completely valid.
## Communication is Key
In situations like this, communication is key. It’s essential to have open and honest conversations with your dad about how you’re feeling. While it’s understandable that you’re upset, expressing your emotions in a constructive way can help you both understand each other better.
## Seeking Support
It’s also crucial to seek support during this challenging time. Talking to a therapist or counselor can provide you with a safe space to process your feelings and navigate the complexities of your family situation.
## Consider Your Options
Changing your last name is a significant decision, and it’s important to carefully consider your options. While it may feel like a way to express your frustration, it’s essential to think about the potential long-term implications of such a choice.
## Moving Forward
As you move forward, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being and mental health. Taking care of yourself and focusing on your own emotional needs is crucial in navigating challenging family dynamics.
Remember, it’s okay to feel a range of emotions in situations like this. You’re not alone, and seeking support from trusted individuals can help you navigate this difficult time. Stay strong, and take things one step at a time. You’ve got this! 💪🏼🌟
INFO How old are you?
“You don’t want me to be happy” textbook narc. Also not the asshole under the circumstances.
Dont worry he will be nice to this woman now, but only because he is trying to capture her, ultimately she will be treated like your mom and your siblings soon and suffer because of him. Stop caring about your dad, live your life away from him. He will never be a person that cares about anyone but himself.
NTA – your moms needs to take him to court and push him missing child support. You can also tell him you will tell everyone about the affair and make sure she knows what she is
NTA Your dad is really invested in the narrative of him being a good guy regardless of how shitty and selfish the things he does are.
So blackmailing a narcissist is you way of handling him.
NTA- you can’t be a good child to a bad parent especially in a narcissist. I’m so sorry this is your reality, baby.
Nta. I wasn’t even invited to my dads wedding. Nor did I know he was engaged. He just sent an email with 3 pictures attached after he got married. Didn’t even write a message.
Whatever. Do as you please, he is doing as he pleases. Don’t give him an ultimatum. Just do it.
Why would you care what he does with his life. Just move on from him in yours. Let all of this petty drama go and be happy away from him. You aren’t punishing him, he could really care less. You are engaging with him for nothing, there is going to be no big win in this for you. Let them be blissfully happy in the secret and hidden life together.
Let him and them go, only if you want to be a real adult.
He confuses fiancée with fiancé, so it’s fine that his dad did this to him
NTA. Father is asking to be resented later when younger siblings find out how he really is, then have no one to back him up after everything blows up.
>”you just don’t want me to be happy”
“Just following your example, dad.”
NTA.
NTA
Anytime a parent talks to their child like a child talks to a parent is when you know they’re emotionally underdeveloped.
He cheated on your mother with this woman, doesn’t pay child support and doesn’t buy you birthday presents?
Doesn’t sound like he’s worth being around. It sounds like you’re probably old enough to decide not to go to his place anymore. Maybe get that arranged so you don’t have to listen to this grown man whine about how his child is ‘being mean’.
NTA! Your father cheated on your mother. He dates this woman that none of you know and now wants to marry her?
Your mother needs to report him for not paying child support. I hope he’s off her insurance. She needs to see a lawyer about all this.
What you really need to be worrying about right now is this: encourage and help your Mom take him to court for her to get what she is due from him such as child support. I think she should have him forced to sell the home so she gets her 50%. Anything she is due, she needs to force. If I was his child I would go NC.
Is your mother taking him to court for child support?
You are a very smart young person and I’m sorry you’re in this position. You have every right to change your name if you wish
INFO: how do you know he was cheating? Because you said you saw notes and assumed some were most likely from when your parents were still married. How did you get clarification? And why did you feel the need to tell your mom all about the new fiancĂ©e when they’re divorced and seemingly hate each other? And by “a little snooping” to find her name, what did you mean? Because you found a lot of stuff which sounds like you had to have gone through quite a lot of your dad’s personal items.