#ExGirlfriend #NewBoyfriend #SpermDonation #RelationshipAdvice
Hey there! 🙋♂️ It sounds like you’ve been through quite the journey with your ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend. 🌟 Let’s dive into your current situation and see if we can help you figure things out!
First off, kudos to you for maintaining a positive and mature relationship with your ex. 👏 It’s great to see that you’ve both grown and evolved since your breakup. It can be challenging to remain friends with an ex, but it seems like you’ve handled it exceptionally well.
Now, onto the question they presented you with: donating your sperm for them to have a child. 🤔 That’s definitely a unique proposition! It’s understandable to feel a mix of confusion, honor, and uncertainty about what to do next. It’s essential to approach this situation thoughtfully and consider the potential implications.
Before making any decisions, it’s crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your current girlfriend. Communication is key in any relationship, and discussing this topic with her will help address any insecurities and concerns she may have. It’s all about maintaining that trust and understanding.
Approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, letting her know that you value her feelings and want to address them. Assure her that your heart belongs to her, and reiterate that you have no romantic or sexual interest in your ex. Remind her that you’ve invited her to join in the hangouts but respect her decision, showing that you appreciate her trust in you.
Remember, your current girlfriend may have valid concerns, so be patient and validate her emotions throughout the discussion. The key is to find common ground and ensure that both of you feel comfortable and secure within your relationship.
As for the sperm donation itself, it’s entirely your decision. 🧬 It’s important to evaluate your own feelings, values, and future aspirations when considering such a significant commitment. Ask yourself if you genuinely want to be involved in this way and whether it aligns with your long-term plans. It’s okay to say no if it doesn’t feel right for you.
If you do decide to move forward with the donation, make sure you carefully review any legal agreements involved. Seek advice from professionals who can guide you through the process and ensure your rights and responsibilities are clear.
Ultimately, this decision should be made with your well-being and happiness in mind. Take your time, weigh the pros and cons, and prioritize open communication with your current girlfriend. Remember, you have the right to make choices that align with your values and aspirations.
Good luck, and I hope this helps you navigate this complex situation! 🌟🌈
Whoa! Keep it in your pants this will not end well. She can go to a sperm bank and do this legitimately.
You should also let your GF know how screwed up this has become.
Do this and abandon your kid?! Get hooked for 18 years of child support.
Hard PASS
Or… hear me out… maybe don’t.
Say no. They’re way to young to be having kids anyway
Dude, that’s a seriously complicated situation, but here’s the deal – you need to have an open and honest conversation with your current girlfriend about this sperm donation request, because her feelings and opinions matter just as much as yours, and you both need to be on the same page when it comes to big decisions like this.
It’s not an “honor.” And you won’t be an asshole for saying no. Are they planning to do this in a professional setting or ?? Not to mention they’re a bit young to start having kids now. I would not get involved. Things could get very complicated…
It would be absolutely foolish to do this. Say no, then tell your girlfriend what happened.
Don’t do that, man. For real.
And tell your girlfriend they asked or she’ll be pissed later when she finds out.
Hear me out, internalize this question. What happens if they brake up after the child is born. Will you and your conscious be able to watch a kid that’s your DNA suffer? A lot of us wouldn’t have the stomach for it.
And you are still considerating it, huh? I heard your question and I feel there’s only one right answer. Can you guess what is?
Donating sounds like a legal and emotional mess waiting to happen. Your body, your choice, you don’t owe them any of your sperm.
This is a disaster waiting to happen. She could ask any of her friends to help with this, but she’s asking her ex that’s in a committed relationship? Absolutely say no and tell your girlfriend that they asked before it gets around to her.
Why tf are they wanting a kid right now? This is insane. A 19 should not be going out of his way to have a kid. What’s going to happen if he dips out? I bet she’s going to want you to be involved. Even if things work out, are you going to watch your kid grow up and not want to be involved? You say you don’t want kids, but things change. Most 21 yo don’t want children…. How’s the kid going to feel if they find out you are their biological father, and wanted nothing to do with them. A kid is not going to be able to understand the complexity of this situation. Hell, grown people may not either. This is weird all the way around.
If they were 30, I would maaaybe say fair enough to consider it. But honestly, they’re 19 and 20 and still live in the parents house???? Do they have jobs? Do they have careers??? Do they have their own insurance even? Probably no to all of these so they really aren’t in a place to be having kids anyway. I would just say that you aren’t comfortable with it at this time, but if in 10 years it’s still on their minds then you’ll consider it more seriously
Sounds like a child support trap of sorts
Nope. No matter what paperwork you sign, you have a biological child in the world. If things go sideways, who do you think will have to deal with it.
Why don’t they ask the brother? DNA would be closer.
The fuck.
> I dont want to be an asshole and it feels like an honor that they asked me but I just dont know what to do…
You make it seem like they asked you for money as a favor. No, they’re asking to bring a whole human being into the world. The dumbest thing you can do is agree to this. Your girlfriend, if she’s smart, will move on to find someone else if you agree to it.
You’re stupid for even considering it. That is not an honor 🤦♂️
Its was always a no for this kind of stuff
Are you seriously considering this?
Welcome to 18 yrs of child support.
There’s a very good chance the kid will come looking for his/her bio dad in 20 yrs, you may also need some pretty intrusive health screening unless you donate naturally, your GF may not be too enthusiastic about that.
Don’t do this at all. This will be so messy and you’re too young for this. Don’t do it. at alllllll. You will also risk your current relationship and so many others. Say thank you but no. That’s fucking weird of them to even ask
Guaranteed they sue you for child support. It’s like the perfect scam.
Ain’t none of y’alls got the pre frontal cortex to be making these sorts of decisions.
I’m gonna be real with you here my guy, if you told them yea and if I was your girlfriend. I’d leave you.
The opposite of Nike: Don’t do it
*child support waving at you*
Hell to the fucking no! The nerve of them asking. They are only 19 and 20 and are trying to have a baby?! They need to go to a sperm bank and get donor sperm there. If they break up she can come after you for child support. It’s happened to other men who donated sperm without going through a clinic.
Hey. Wanna end up paying child support? No? Then don’t do this.
You can’t just sign away your responsibilities to your child (meaning child support), unless they legally adopt the kid, and the person that adopts would have to be financially able to support the child or the adoption would likely not be approved at their ages and still living with their parents. There is too much risk in this for you, and for any child they bring in to the picture. This is *not* an honor in any way, shape, or form.
It’s NOT an honor! It’s kinda of an insult…. especially if they expect you to ahem deliver it personally! Lol
Seriously, they’re trying to save money on a fertility clinic and IVF. That’s it. Plus almost anything they would have you sign as far as paternity has zero chance of standing up in court and they could still go after you for child support. It would cost them a bit to file the proper paperwork with lawyers and courts and I don’t they’ll want to do that. This whole thing screams bad idea!
Is this a troll post? I hope so, because otherwise I need to recalibrate my idea of what the Stupidest Idea Ever looks like.
Let’s just say that the idea of a 20-year-old and a 19-year-old having a child together is insane, and leave it at that.
Do not do that, please… It is not an honor, and it will haunt you later on. I would not date you if you did this. All they need in this day and age is a DNA test through Ancestry and they can find family. Then track you down…Nope I did not want to be step mom to some child some stranger raise. Don’t do it and don’t tell your gf.
Way too young and way too crazy. WTF kind of shit is that? Time to cut them off, if you value your girlfriend you need to tell her immediately what they have asked of you. To me, that is absolutely inappropriate to ask of you, very weird and completely disrespectful to your girlfriend. This is a boundary that when crossed, cannot be ignored. You’re entering insane people territory. Does this not sound like a setup to you? Honored?? Honor my ass. To think that is just being completely naïve.
How could you even consider or hesitate on something like this? Should have been an automatic NO. You don’t wait to draw the line. This is not an honor, this is weird and obsessive. And fucking stupid, y’all are *21 and younger.* the fact that this was even asked, and alarm bells weren’t immediately going off to the point that you instantly shut it down shows just how immature and just how much none of you are ready to bring a child into the world. What a stupid, wreckless thing to do. Also, if something like this is not done through legal means and well documented, you can bet your ass you’ll be on the hook as the baby daddy, and paying for it too. Yeah, *what an honor.* SMH.
Love waking up at 5am for work to find out my boyfriend’s ex is trying to have a child with him 🙂
OP I am sorry but you’re an idiot.