#RuinedOrgasmFetish: Should I spill the beans to my girlfriend about my kink? 🤔
Hey there, fellow Internet pals! Let me start off by saying, yep, you guessed it – I have a bit of a unique fetish that involves ruined orgasms. It’s like spicing up my self-love sessions by purposely making the big O less enjoyable. Weird, right? But hey, we’re all a little quirky in our own ways!
Now, here’s the juicy part – I would absolutely love it if my girlfriend jumped on board with this fantasy during our bedroom adventures. Picture this: she’s giving me a handy or we’re in the heat of the moment during PIV sex, and she decides to… ruin it. *Cue fireworks* 🎆
But, here’s the dilemma – should I actually bring this up with her? I’ve played out scenarios in my head, but I can’t quite predict how she’ll react. Would she be into it or totally freaked out? The uncertainty is killing me, folks!
So, here’s where I need your help, lovely readers. Should I take the plunge and spill the beans to my girlfriend about my ruined orgasm fetish? 🤷♂️ Cast your vote in the poll below and share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s unravel this kinky dilemma together! 💬 #FetishTalk #GirlfriendSecrets #KinkConfessions
Poll:
Yes, spill the beans
No, keep it to yourself
Let’s get chatting, shall we? 😏
Dude just tell her it’s how you like it.
You might need a therapist.
Tell her, but understand it’s a fetish. She may not enjoy it ‘every time’ like you imagine.
It’s important to be open and honest with your partner so sex can be fun for both of you. Tell her that you’ve been wanting to share this experience with her and see if she’s open to it. If she’s not, that’s okay. Also be sure to ask her if she has any fetishes she’s been wanting to act on so she can enjoy herself too. Have fun!
Just tell her what you like but also ask her if she would feel comfortable doing this. I had this conversation too with my bf. Cause I like it if the calls me slurs while we habe sex and asked hin if it would be ok for him to do. But that also means that it should be ok for you if she doesn’t feel comfortable doing it.
Tell her. Most people don’t share their odd kinks and never get to actually experience them. FWIW this seems mild
That fetish doesn’t seem too strange. The way I personally would bring it up is kind of in a laughing matter. Maybe laugh about some ridiculous fetishes so that you can separate those from yours and say “I have a slight fetish but it’s nothing THAT crazy… SOMETIMES I enjoy having having my orgasms cut short” she might be curious because she’s never heard of it and then you can explain it a little more
If I were you, I’d avoid mentioning it at all costs. Ruined orgasms are a submissive kink, and you don’t want her to think you’re weak, do you? Women want strength in their partner.
Take this to your grave. If you want to spend your future with a woman, these are the things you have to do.
Communication. Just be honest.
I mean… If you haven’t told her, is she really your gf? 😜
yes, open communication always
Have you done stuff like couple’s sex/kink quizes to see what she’s into.
I think you’re issue will be less the actual ruined orgasm kink, but more the dominance aspect. Does she have a desire to do dominant acts? If so, ruined orgasms, orgasm control, teasing, and edging might be tickle those desires.
This fetish is pretty vanilla, so there is very little “risk” of a negative response. Additionally, there is a chance she might like this too. Maybe have a conversation about it, but I would advise not to have it before actual sex or while in bed, but in another private setting during the day. This way, if she is not into it it feels less like you constantly have this on your mind during sex.
I say tell her. I’m pretty vanilla in the grand scheme of things, and I think I’d take it fairly well if this was someone’s hidden fetish because it doesn’t involve anything being to done to me, and you’re not asking her to do much. But like others mentioned, don’t expect it to be every time.
I would.
i feel like you just wanted to tell people this is your thing. This isnt a hard thing to solve, literally just ask her
this just doesn’t seem fun
This is one of the fetishes I will never, ever understand. But as far as fetishes go, this is probably the most mild. It honestly doesn’t even need to be described as a “fetish”.
In my experience this is their default setting. Im sure she wont mind saving a minute of activity.