#LaptopTrouble #RelationshipIssues #CommunicationBreakdown
Are you facing a dilemma with your partner over a broken laptop? 🤔 Is the situation becoming a point of contention in your relationship? 🤯 Let’s dive into practical solutions to address this problem head-on and find common ground with your significant other. 💻💔
## Understanding the Frustration
The Fateful Laptop Incident
Have you ever experienced the frustration of repeatedly asking someone not to do something, only to have them ignore your requests? That’s exactly what happened in this scenario. 🙄 Despite clear communication about not placing heavy objects on the laptop, the partner continued to do so, resulting in irreparable damage. 💥
The Expectation of Accountability
It’s natural to expect accountability when someone’s actions directly lead to a negative outcome. In this case, the expectation of a replacement laptop is not unreasonable, considering the partner’s repeated disregard for the owner’s wishes. 💡
## Finding a Middle Ground
Communication is Key
Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship. Sit down with your partner and calmly discuss the situation. Express your feelings, concerns, and the impact of their actions on the laptop. 🗣️ Listen to their perspective as well to understand their point of view. Finding common ground through communication is crucial for resolving conflicts. 🤝
Sharing Responsibilities
Instead of placing blame, focus on finding a solution together. Perhaps the partner can contribute towards the cost of a new laptop, or you can explore other alternatives like repairing the current one. Finding a compromise that works for both parties is essential for maintaining harmony in the relationship. 💑
## Conclusion
In conclusion, while it might feel frustrating to be in a situation where your belongings are damaged due to someone else’s actions, approaching the issue with empathy and understanding can lead to a positive resolution. Remember, it’s not about assigning blame but finding a solution that benefits both parties. 💬💕
In the end, it’s essential to prioritize communication, respect, and compromise in any relationship to overcome challenges and strengthen the bond between partners. 💪💖 So, the next time you face a similar dilemma, remember to approach it with a clear mind and a willingness to find common ground. 🌟 #RelationshipGoals
It might be possible to just replace the screen, but either way you are owed the functioning laptop that she destroyed. Her lack of accountability for her own actions is not an attractive quality.
NTA
NTA she broke it and she needs to pay for it. Her fault for not listening to you when you asked her to stop the first time
Blatantly ignoring your SO when they make reasonable request and then refusing to correct the damage when the inevitable consequence happens is a red flag to me. Does she act like this in other areas of your relationship? I sincerely hope this is just a one-off. Regardless, though, she absolutely owes you the money to correct the problem.
NTA
NTA – even if she hadn’t been putting heavy objects on it, it’s still a reasonable request to ask her not to put ANYTHING on it. I don’t really understand why she was so persistent when you asked her to stop doing it? You’re not being unreasonable asking her to replace something that she broke!
She sounds annoying. Frankly, if someone doesn’t respect my things = no respect for me = breakup. That’s just me, and I have very low tolerance for people who don’t give a shit about other people’s personal belongings.
NTA but maybe just ask her to pay for screen to be replaced which is still fair and if it costs less she might accept it.
She broke it, she bought it. NTA.
NTA. Throw out the insolent child alongside the laptop she deliberately ruined. She is no where near capable of being in a relationship.
NTA. Is she an obsessive compulsive person who is tidying up constantly? Is she the person who can’t pass a stack of flyers that is slightly askew without stopping to straighten every page?
If so, ignoring your reasonable request, failing to accept responsibility for her actions, and refusing to pay or repair your broken laptop says a lot about her character.
NTA. She owes you a new laptop. She broke it by doing something you’d repeatedly asked her not to do, and it’s a really, really small request, to boot.
No you tell her she has 7 days to replace it with the exact same one of the will need to move out, and you’ll take her to small claims. Doing it one time is an accident. A second is a choice. She chooses to do this. Sounds like she’s doing it as some sort of passive agressive fight. She’s literally told you that your thoughts and feelings don’t matter to her.
NTA and I’m actually gobsmacked that she thinks she shouldn’t have to pay when she clearly is the one who broke it. But you should take it to a repair shop to see if they can repair the screen before deciding if the whole thing needs to be replaced.
NTA and honestly I think you should break up with her because she clearly cannot respect personal boundaries or you in general.
Before you leave though, break her laptop and tell her it was an accident sorry guess we are even now though. Yeah it’s petty but these people don’t learn or change until they get burned the same exact way and they realize how bad it sucks. She’s egotistical.
NTA. She broke it, and it sounds like she was inconsiderate about how she did so.
She should have stopped when you told her. You don’t treat other peoples’ things that way, and in a relationship you can’t just blow off your partner telling you to not do something if it’s something that you don’t have the right to do.
Nta
NTA Dump this gal she does not give a crap about you.
NTA. Your girlfriend owes you a laptop. How are you going to collect? Good luck with that.
I had an ex that did stuff like this. NTA. Your gf absolutely doesn’t care about you and that’s why she’s not listening. Time for you to move on bud because this is what the rest of your life is going to look like if you stay.
If you have to replace the laptop, you probably also need to replace the girlfriend.
Nta.
NTA! She should definitely be fixing it for you!
She deliberately and quite consciously broke that. No one in their right mind repeatedly puts stuff on top of a laptop. That was on purpose until she finally broke it. Not sure why. That should be a question to ask her.
Yes she owes compensation. But also it needs to be addressed why she did that in the first place. Again, that pattern of behavior, after being asked multiple times, is deliberate and NOT normal.
NTA. She was disrespectful and careless of your things. She literally broke your laptop because she couldn’t be bothered to. Not put things on top of it.
What kind of extremely heavy things did she put on it? My cats sit and sleep on my laptop, 5-6 kg, and nothing ever happens. So I’m a little sceptical about how it got damaged.
Either way, she shouldn’t put stuff on it after explicitly asked her multiple times not to. That lack of respect would mean the end of a relationship to me.
I would get it fixed or replaced or whatever. And then show her the new device, and then say, I just had to spend $x on this because you stacked things on it. Had you not done that, I wouldn’t have had to spend the money.
To be petty, maybe you could go buy a 92lb sack of concrete and set it on her makeup or phone or something and then just blow it off when she inquries about it.
NTA. This is a hill I’d be willing to die on
NTA
> she would have to use some of her savings
#YES, THAT’S RIGHT.
NTA She should pay whatever it takes to get you a working laptop. Please try to repair first. Laptops are environmentally expensive to make so it’s best if you can keep using yours.
I have questions though…does she also pile stuff on top of her laptop when she’s cleaning? If she doesn’t is that because she considers her own things to be sacrosanct while your stuff is not worth taking care of? Or is this some passive aggressive move on her part because you either don’t clean enough, create too many messes or constantly leave your laptop everywhere while hers is stored in designated spots out of the way?
While either way she is the one who broke your laptop and needs to pay for it, I think you should also be looking at this more deeply. It’s possible you’re not being a good partner and need to improve in some way. It’s also possible she thinks you’re beneath her and this is a symptom of it and you should break up. I find her actions troubling and her resistance to paying for it even worse. Even at my angriest I wouldn’t treat my partner’s things this way and I would fully expect to pay for the damages.
*She said it’s fine and I can just get a new one…*
She‘s right – you can get a new one. But she needs to pay for it. You warned you enough times and she didn’t listen to you, so now she needs to be an adult and fix it. It’s stupid that she says since it’s YOUR laptop she shouldnt pay for it. If you break something of hers, you don’t need to pay for it then? That’s ridiculous. NTA.
You break it, you buy it.
This wasn’t a one off accident. She was intentionally and repeatedly reckless
This is about more than a laptop! You need to find out why she is not respecting your boundaries. You asked her not to place heavy things on your laptop, you explained why and she still placed thing son your laptop and the heavy things ruined the screen. Now she refuses to buy you a new laptop.
If she cannot follow one small request from you, don’t put stuff on my laptop it will ruin it and you will have to buy me a new one, what will happen when you have a bigger request? She will not follow that either.
Get out now as she does not respect you and she will not respect you when have to make the big decision of your life! NTA but she sure is!
Well, it WASN’T an accident and as the universal rule says:
“You f*ked it …. you fix it”.
End. Of. Story.