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🤔 Is there shame in taking a job I don’t think I deserve?
Hey everyone, I’ve been grappling with a tough decision and I could really use some advice. Here’s my situation in a nutshell – my dad has been offering me job opportunities through his connections, but I can’t shake off the feeling of not deserving them. I feel like I need to prove my worth on my own.
Here are some key points to consider:
– I’ve been struggling to land a job in my desired field despite multiple interviews.
– I worry that taking a job I don’t feel I deserve would make me look like a spoiled rich kid.
– On the other hand, I see my peers moving forward in life and wonder if I’m being too prideful.
One possible solution that comes to mind is to consider taking up one of the job offers from my dad’s connections as a stepping stone. This could help me gain valuable experience and build my confidence while I continue to search for my dream job.
What do you think? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Your insights and advice would be greatly appreciated! 😊
I’ve learned there no in shame I’m taking help when it’s offered.The whole world works on “who you know “ at some level. Take the job if it’s offered. Get experience, it will give you the confidence u need to move on and up
I hate to tell you this, but unless you’re curing cancer or inventing some wild device, most of success is about utilizing your network and then living up to those people’s’ expectations of you. I’m very happy with my career. Got my first job by knowing a guy. Relationships are everything.
dude i’m so excited i get to tell you this. it’s 2024. that’s how EVERYONE gets jobs. trust me. the people who don’t have people to help them are the people working the shitty jobs. it’s all about networking. my dad also gave me my first job at his store. it’s really small and doesn’t make a lot of money and i was helping out not getting paid for a few months before he paid me, but i learned a bunch of skills. do these skills allow me to get a better job? sort of, if i wanted to. did i get a leg up others don’t? most definitely. did it prevent someone else from making money, or did i feel like i absolutely deserved this job? no fucking chance. take advantage of the people around you because one day other people will ask the same of you. if you make it
Take the help if its there. Fuck what anyone else thinks.
Take the opportunities you’re given! It took me some time to get my first role and it was a great one that I truly didnt deserve. I got it through a connection. That was valuable experience that helped catapult me into my current role.
If I had any familial connections in my industry, I would have used them shamelessly. The important thing is to remain humble and open to learning, which it sounds like you are.
Hell no just do it man
Man if you don’t take that job. I’m over here struggling for the last year to find a job and you have one being offered to you. Which you’re qualified for. Don’t needlessly struggle.
The only shame is turning down an amazing opportunity. It won’t change the fact that you grew up with access & privilege, so may as well use it! Networking and knowing the right people is unfortunately the reason many people are in the roles that they are, even if someone else is better qualified. Prove to yourself that you’re not spoiled/selfish & volunteer your skills/resources to serve your local community.
Forget shame. If u r offered help for a job take it
So when I was young I was completely against doing anything like that, time and life experience has given me a very different perspective. Take the best offer you can get that is the best fit for you even it was through your family connections.
Just don’t be the under qualified person that has people underneath you train you to function at work. (Outside of work specific programs you can find your own educational courses and learning content.)
What makes you think you don’t deserve a job? If you think you don’t have the necessary skills and experience, build it and contribute to the work. A lot of people do it that way when they are asked to take over something really different to what they been doing.
So many people don’t have the opportunity you have. It would be a shame to not take it
^we ^accept ^the ^job ^we ^think ^we ^deserve
Absolutely not. Take the job. So log as this isn’t something that will be later held over your head for whatever reason, take the job!
We all have some level of imposter syndrome in varying shades.
I think you deserve it and we should all seize whatever opportunities we find in this tragically unfair world.
Good luck!
I would say take the handout man. Getting it through nepotism has nothing to do with what you turn it into or even hold it for that matter
There’s nothing wrong with connections. They are a tool. Utilize them. Now if you got the job cus your dad and sucked and never moved up or on, that’s on you.
Conversely, if you get a job from pops but do stellar and make manager, whatever, that’s all you. You proved you got the grit to make it.
Maya Hawke had an excellent quote imo about being a nepo baby, it’s the only way you can do it: “you just have to be okay with not deserving it and doing it anyway”
At the end of the day who fucking cares, if anyone is bitter enough to give you shit for it you just don’t hang out with them. Most people know nepotism is the opportunity? You still have to execute and deliver
Take the job. You can use it as experience to get a different job
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, things just don’t pan out. It took me over 6 months to find a job and I only got one because my friend recommended it. So I narrowly avoided homelessness cuz my savings had just run out. Someone else mentioned it’s a who you know kind of market right now and That’s an absolute fact. If you completely leaned on it and were feeling that you were entitled to that kind of connection, that would be a different thing. But you tried doing it on your own and it hasn’t panned out how you hoped. So I think it’s okay to ask for help and utilize your network. I constantly utilize my network for finding new opportunities, even my old college professors lol.
You will only see people post good things on Social, so of course it will make you feel as if your missing out on something in life. The sooner you can realize that those people have their own issues and it isn’t always sunny, the better. On the other hand have you tried doing any interviewing workshops, resume workshops, or anything on the sort? I feel like those could help a lot.
My job is *jobs*, and I’m here to tell you to take that offer and don’t think twice.
I’d consider talking him up on an offer. There’s not honor in unemployment and not pride in getting an interview.
It’s you who will keep you in the job. I’ve gotten some of my best jobs through referrals from people I know. Almost all of the best jobs aren’t even advertised, they get filled through connections.
Don’t worry about your friends. I suspect friends of your dad are offering only an opportunity to prove yourself. Taking that opportunity and working your ass off isn’t a rich kid play; expecting that opportunity and then slacking at that job would be.
If I was interviewing you in the final round I’d hire you. You are a man of honest work. Keep that with you at all times and don’t hesitate to take any genuine offer to help for your advancement. I have seen people in executive level just because they knew someone, and they are not necessarily horrible people/leaders.
Don’t put yourself through a harder version of life because you “have to prove yourself”
Fuck all that. Life sucks and is incredibly hard. If you can have somewhat of an easier life, take it. Enjoy it. Don’t brag about it, but live a good life.
Spoiled rich kid douches don’t call themselves spoiled rich kid douches. Take the job, pay it forward in a few years for someone else.
Do it… life is not fair. It is not what you know, but more often, who you know. If you have an advantage, take it. Life is cruel, one day you will be on the other end of the equation so take what you can get.