#AllergyAwareness #BaseballGameEtiquette #PeanutAllergy
When it comes to enjoying a baseball game, it’s important to be mindful of those around you, especially when it comes to individuals with allergies. While it may be tempting to indulge in a classic ballpark snack like peanuts, it’s essential to consider the potential consequences for those who may have allergies. In the scenario described, it’s clear that there was a lack of understanding and communication between the two parties involved. Let’s delve into some key points to consider in situations like these:
**1. Importance of Allergy Awareness**
Allergies, especially to peanuts, can have severe consequences for those who are affected. It’s crucial to be aware of the potential risks associated with consuming or being exposed to allergens in public settings like baseball games.
**2. Respect for Others**
Respecting the needs and concerns of others, especially when it comes to allergies, is essential. While it may be frustrating to have limitations on what you can eat or do in certain situations, it’s important to consider the well-being of those around you.
**3. Communication is Key**
In situations where there may be conflicting needs or concerns, open and respectful communication is key. If someone expresses discomfort or concern about your actions, it’s essential to listen and try to find a compromise that works for everyone involved.
**4. Finding a Solution**
In the scenario described, the individual made the decision to move to a different area to enjoy their peanuts, which was a considerate choice. Finding a solution that respects the needs of all parties involved is crucial in situations like these.
**5. Empathy and Understanding**
While it may be easy to dismiss someone else’s concerns, it’s important to practice empathy and understanding, especially when it comes to issues like allergies. Putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and considering their perspective can lead to more positive and respectful interactions.
In conclusion, while it may be tempting to enjoy peanuts at a baseball game, it’s important to consider the potential impact on those with allergies. By being mindful, respectful, and communicative, we can create a more inclusive and understanding environment for all individuals. Let’s strive to be more aware and empathetic towards others, especially in situations where allergies are involved. #AllergyAwareness #BaseballEtiquette #ConsiderationForOthers
F that nonsense. NTA!! Mom could have put the kid in a hermetically sealed bubble or just traded seats with her kid.
She needs to manage her own child. She very easily could have gotten up and stood somewhere else. You shouldn’t have to. NTA
NTA.
If you have allergies, or your kids have allergies, you have the right to expect people to serve you food at restaurants, cafés, etc., that don’t have allergens in them. You have the right to ask for allergy friendly menus. You do not have the right to ask people in a public space to not eat the things you’re allergic to.
NTA. By her logic you must first ask people around you what allergies or food problems they have before getting any food for yourself. If someone would tell me something like this I would look at them and just show my middle finger without saying a word, such people need to be floored immediately or they will keep annoying others.
Some peanut allergies can be triggered without eating peanuts and just coming in contact through skin, air, etc. That said the parent of this child with the allergy should know how to handle a public event where peanuts are consumed. It’s not on you to go the extra mile for her child. It should have been her job to do what was necessary to keep him safe and not expect every stranger surrounding him to cater to them. She could have removed her child to another area, but she chose to be a witch to you.
Edit for judgement NTA
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You didn’t know. It’s a baseball stadium. “Take me out to the Ballgame” was written in 1908. Peanuts have been associated with baseball in cultural consciousness for over a century.
She could have moved, herself, or she could have at *least* offered to reimburse you for the peanuts. But she just demanded you get rid of them. Nope. She *is* annoying.
NTA, she’s just entitled.
Having allergies stinks but they can’t rightfully expect the entire world to cater to them and their kid.
NTA. She basically said peanuts should be banned from public places. Managing a child’s allergy needs is a parent’s job, not the world’s job. There’s reasonable accommodations, and then there’s going too far!
NTA. Peanuts are literally in “Take Me Out to the Ballgame.” If her child is that allergic, she should move him to an area where he’ll be safe. In MLB, a number of stadiums have peanut-free seating areas.
NTA. If someone has an allergy it’s on them (or their parent) to handle it and not put themselves into situations that could trigger it. She could have politely asked you to make sure you put the shells away from them or asked you to finish them while she took her kid to go get food while she knew you were eating. As long as you weren’t trying to get his allergy to kick in that’s on her.
I hate hate hate hate that line “my son is allowed to attend a baseball game just like everyone else.” That’s not a right written into the constitution. If you can’t be somewhere without insisting others follow your specific rules you just don’t get to go to that thing. I love baseball, if I had a peanut allergy I would get seats way up top where it’s more likely I could have a lot of space away from other fans. It’s the same as that popular AITA trope of “my friend/relative is a recovering alcoholic. They want me to have a dry wedding/birthday/BBQ so they can attend. The rest of my guests enjoy alcohol responsibly but this one person insists everyone else suffer for their problem so they aren’t triggered” if you can’t be around alcohol then guess what? You don’t get to go to the party.
NTA. The allergies of some random ass person among 50,000 at a sporting event is not your responsibility. Mom should be watching out for her one child better.
Peanuts are a staple snack at baseball games, and have been for a hundred years. Mom can pound sand. I’d have told her to get fucked, so you’re a nicer man than I am 🤣
Peanuts have been everywhere forever and especially at baseball stadiums. Someone should write a song about it. Anyway, NTA. Your ticket is as valuable as theirs, and allergy concerns are their in a public space. Not yours.
I didn’t even read the post. It’s a ballpark with thousands of people. There will be peanuts. Peanuts are an integral part of baseball.
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Maybe if she said, oh would it be possible not to eat those rn as my kid is allergic, most people would oblige. Its the “you can’t ” entitlement. You always get more with honey than vinegar.
NTA. There are MLB parks that have peanut free games or peanut free areas for this reason.
NTA. If the child’s allergy is severe, the parent should not take them to a baseball game.
Someone going to a baseball game with a peanut allergy is just asking for something to happen. It wasn’t on you to protect this kid, it was his parents. She sounded quite entitled to ask you not to eat peanuts around him when there were thousands of others enjoying them. NTA
NTA. Peanuts and baseball go together. This mom is unreasonably expecting strangers to adapt to her son’s allergy. It could be argued that this mom is negligent for bringing a child with a peanut allergy to a baseball game.
NTA, she has no expectation whatsoever that people at auch an event or.going to accomodate that.
My son (adult now) has autism. Do you know how many events we stayed away from because of his sensory issues, etc.? You don’t make your problem someone else’s problem unless absolutely necessary. A baseball game is not absolutely necessary. Don’t worry about it. NTA
NTA – she’s actually exactly correct about what she said, but she put the emphasis on the wrong part of the statement. Her son is absolutely allowed to attend baseball games *just like everyone else* – and because no particular accommodations are being offered to everyone else in this setting, she and her son will need to manage their exposure to allergens themselves.
If she needs special treatment, that’s between her and the stadium’s management to arrange. The minor league park near me has a peanut-free seating area, for instance. She’s the asshole here for shifting all the responsibility onto you.
NTA. Every American who goes to a baseball game knows that peanuts are widely consumed.
Remember when Texas Roadhouse (and many other similar restaurants) would let you throw peanut shells on the floor? Thank god they got rid of that during covid, but you simply don’t go to places like that if you have an allergy. If this woman’s kid has bad enough allergies that the person next to them can’t eat peanuts, she should get seats in the nosebleeds far away from anyone or not go at all.
Everyone knows baseball is peanuts, hotdogs, and beer.
The peanut allergy people who cannot be physically near peanuts know this before going.
The vegetarians and vegans who don’t want to be near people eating meat know this before going.
The alcoholics who don’t want to be near alcohol or watch alcohol consumption know this before going in.
NTA
NTA. If he’s allergic enough to not be able to sit near to someone who is eating peanuts he’s allergic enough to not be sitting where peanuts are regularly consumed.
I’m sorry, that’s ridiculous. In theory her kid should be able to go to a baseball game like everyone else BUT if her kid has an allergy so severe that simply sitting next to someone who eats peanuts can trigger him, it’s her responsibility to keep him out of that environment. It’s not up to the rest of the world to limit their enjoyment of an event that traditionally includes peanuts or for that matter, parents who throw fits over the kinds of food or noise or whatever their kids don’t like or cope with anywhere. People need to manage their expectations of who is responsible for managing their children’s issues. I’m not unsympathetic to her situation but it’s not realistic to expect other people to adjust their lives for her kid. NTA.
NTA. The world doesn’t revolve around her son or his allergy. She as the parent needs to take responsibility for that until the kid can himself. That includes not taking him somewhere that he could be expose to the allergen.
NTA. A child this allergic to peanuts should stay away from baseball games as possible.
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Peanuts are widely enjoyed at baseball games and a parents of a kid with a peanut allergy should never consider taking their kid to one **unless they have a peanut free section**. They can expect people eating peanuts everywhere, peanut shells littering the ground, peanut residue touching the seats from previous games. This is literally one of the riskiest possibly environments she could have picked to take her son.
OP, this is tough and you handled it well. You weren’t the AH.
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As a parent of a kid with serious allergies, I relate to the terror a parent can feel in this situation. But because I’m not a fuckin’ moron, I didn’t take my son to sushi restaurants and complain about fish cross contamination.
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You tried to be helpful and that’s awesome. But yo gut jobbed out of your seat, and that’s on the stupid mom. There’s ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS empty seats at every ball game. Just move to an empty cluster, much LIKE I DID DURING COVID. I didn’t ask coughing people (no joke) to move.
NTA.
As a person with severe allergies, it is on me to avoid places where that allergy is largely present. It’s not like the venue has barred or restricted peanuts!
She could have switched seats to move her son farther away from you, but that wouldnt stop someone else. So it’s on her, not you.
NTA. I say this as a mom of a son who loves baseball and had a severe peanut allergy. I have empathy for her. We didn’t attend any games except during the special “peanut free” days where they don’t sell them and have sections of seats where they check food. Peanut allergies really CAN be such that even being around the shells etc can cause a reaction- but if so, then I don’t know how she could ever feel comfortable taking her kid to a baseball game. I do feel for that mom, because it’s really hard when there’s a thing your kid loves but they just can’t do safely. They SHOULD get to go to a game like everyone else. Places they HAVE to be- like schools etc- should be safe for them. But public spaces we go to voluntarily are never going to be safe and putting the safety of your child on strangers isn’t the way.
I would have loved to live in a world where people around us would’ve been willing to agree to not eat peanuts so a kid could enjoy watching a professional game of his favorite sport. But I would NEVER have asked that of strangers. Peanuts and baseball are SO linked. Theres going to be shells everywhere, unless specially arranged ahead of time. Even in letting him play in little league there were tricky situations to navigate.
It was beyond nice of you to move to a different area to eat them. If the kid really did have such a severe allergy, you doing so may very well have kept him safe. Thank you for doing that. You definitely didn’t have to. But his mom was wrong to put his safety on the strangers seated around her. Which is why I’m not choosing NAH. You didn’t do anything wrong, and I do understand her feelings. But she was more wrong here.
So… you can’t enjoy your snack you paid for and are allowed to eat in a public place bc a kid there’s allergic. I’m a mom and say NTA 🤷🏻♀️
I’m going with ESH, though not too strongly for you. The parent could have at least been diplomatic about it and should have been prepared for this situation. But your response was rather dismissive and flippant. While you may have been outside, you were in close enough proximity that the child could have had a reaction if his allergy was severe.