“Should I have reported my car stolen? #carownership #familydrama #responsibility
## The Situation
– **Who**: Me (21NB), Sister (22F), Nephew (1M), Sister’s Boyfriend (23M)
– **Living Situation**: Renting a room from mom, living with Sister, Nephew, and Sister’s Boyfriend
– **Car Ownership**: Only one on registration, pay for everything
– **Concerns**: Sister’s irresponsibility, previous theft, lack of license, car accidents, smoking in the car
## The Incident
– **Refusal to Lend Car**: Saying no to requests, facing punishment
– **Unauthorized Use**: Sister taking car to the hospital without permission
– **Reporting as Stolen**: Threatening to call the police, eventually doing so
– **Outcome**: Car found, no damage, deep cleaning required
– **Potential Consequences**: Dropping charges, possible police prosecution, CPS involvement
## Reflecting on the Decision
– **Guilt and Regret**: Second-guessing actions, impact on family
– **Legal and Social Implications**: Balancing consequences, personal boundaries
– **Seeking Validation**: Asking for feedback on the situation
Considering the circumstances, was it the right call to report the car stolen and involve the police? #familyconflict #ethicaldilemma #keepingboundaries“
NTA
F* around and find out. These people sound like trash. Get out ASAP.
NTA, not by a long shot.
By smoking I assume weed, not cigarettes.
Who drove? Paige without a license?!
Driving while intoxicated and without a license puts the baby in danger. As a parent, I would be absolutely livid if my child’s other parent put them in danger like that. Luke’s father had every right to know.
The stealing just adds to the already stinky shit cake.
Your mom should have come to you and asked…and promised to make them respect your rules and HER drive. If it was truly an emergency, why were they smoking? And why are you punished for saying no to YOUR property? How much do THEY pay rent? NTA as long as if you had been told and it was a real emergency, you would have worked with them to get your nephew to urgent care.
Your mom should have come to you and asked…and promised to make them respect your rules and HER drive. If it was truly an emergency, why were they smoking? And why are you punished for saying no to YOUR property? How much do THEY pay rent? NTA as long as if you had been told and it was a real emergency, you would have worked with them to get your nephew to urgent care.
Standing up for yourself and your vehicle is definitely the right thing to do given BF history with cars and the smoking your vehicle disrespects you at every turn. The fact that they will get in trouble with the law more than likely, and sister would lose her child are the results of their actions and their actions alone.
NTA
NTA, not even close. Paige effed around and is now finding out. And Mom did you no favors by supporting her.
I suspect that CPS got involved due to the police investigation, and the smoking of weed is not helping Paige’s case to keep Luke. I know you feel bad, OP, but don’t get yourself down. Just stick to your plan and get out with your car and other stuff. I also recommend safeguarding your important papers just in case Paige, Mom, and Rory try to get back at you.
Your vehicle was taken without your consent. You reported it. The police didn’t tell you off for wasting police time, they went out and picked them up.
All they had to do to not get into trouble was to not steal your car that you had repeatedly and explicitly told them they were not getting to borrow.
NTA.
NTA because of how extreme the situation is. They are very likely to crash your car eventually will drive up your insurance for life. It also seems like you would have driven them to the hospital if asked. They also smoked in your car somehow which is disrespectful beyond the “emergency” You also gave them a chance to bring the car back, and you’ve asked to not press charges. So because of all those mitigating factors on you, NTA.
Your mom is TA, the sister is TA and her boyfriend is TA. Where is your sister who got kicked out for having a lock box, sounds like she is NTA. The baby is not the asshole. Sounds like your sister is in a tough situation but she’s not dealing well with it. Making money and getting out of this situation means having a car and protecting your car from people who will wreck it is important. You know this situation is a bomb waiting to explode tho- another reason you need a car. At least these aseholes know you won’t hesitate to report it as stolen.
NTA. You’ve been clear about your boundaries and expectations, and it’s not their property. Good luck, OP.
NTA. They fucked around and found out and if they are smoking around the child then perhaps it is for the best that Paige loses custody anyway.
NTA OP! Cigarette smoke is toxic and she should not be doing that around a child, let alone a sick one that needed medical attention. It doesn’t ever come out of a car, house, or clothing. I don’t care what a smoker thinks. It permeates everything.
Nta, but also, maybe it’s time to move out? Everyone living in that house sounds like they are the worst, especially your mom.
NTA. I would personally keep the charges pressed. Someone that irresponsible and selfish has no business being a parent of any kind. Honestly, the only even remotely responsible thing was bringing him to the ER for the reaction-sometimes, it can be more serious than it looks. But that does not outweigh everything else.
NTA – Next time it might have been worse. Good to set an example and mark your real boundaries.
NTA. You can’t hold yourself responsible for a stream of continuous bad decisions made by others. I have people like this in my family. They always blame anybody but themselves. They can’t afford to keep a car on the road, but somehow they manage to afford beer, multiple packs of cigarettes a day, and illegally purchased weed.
In your case, they ignored the advice of the doctor and went to the ER. Who is paying for that? They could have gone to urgent care instead. They took a vehicle they were specifically forbidden to take. And they ignored the warning to get it back immediately. Personally, I would NOT drop the charges. This is most likely just one more event in a long series.
I’m sorry, but your family is just trash.
NTA. This is the definition of fucked around and found out.
If Paige had crashed the car, YOUR insurance would have been at YOUR door demanding answers. Reporting it stolen is the bare minimum to protect yourself from liability.
NTA- they were smoking around a child they were taking to the emergency room.
Wait, you pay rent AND get punished? WTF?
CPS needs to get involved. If they are smoking with a young child in the car, the young child is also smoking. You need to safeguard that key more carefully and I think you did the right thing calling the police as it sends a message to these folks that you will not put up with their irresponsible BS. As for your Mom, she needs to kick these freeloading losers out of the house. Does she let them smoke around Luke?
If you don’t let your sister, with no license, drive your car, you obviously don’t have a car seat for her kid. That alone should get her a huge fine. Your whole family sound entitled and irresponsibleÂ
Page took the car. Page took the car and got high. Page took the car, got high and drove without a license. Page took the car, got high, drove without a license and had a baby inside..Page is irresponsible with a baby. She put the baby in danger. ..see how you have nothing to do with thisÂ
NTA. GTA, DUI, child endangerment… I mean, I suppose there has to be a line somewhere.
You reported it stolen because *it was stolen*.
NTA
NTA. They did steal your car & apparently smoked weed with an infant present -DUI, child endangerment, and the driver had no license.