#marriageissues #familyconflict #communicationchallenges
Are you facing a dilemma when it comes to balancing your relationships with your spouse and family members? π Do you struggle to bridge the gap between different cultures and expectations within your marriage? π It’s a common challenge that many individuals face, but there are practical solutions to help navigate through these complex situations.
## Understanding Cultural Differences and Expectations
Cultural Backgrounds and Family Dynamics
When two individuals from different cultural backgrounds come together in marriage, there can be a clash of expectations and communication styles. It’s essential to acknowledge and understand the influence of cultural practices on family dynamics.
## Navigating Conflicts and Resentments
Dealing with Disapproval and Family Tensions
If your family members disapprove of your spouse, it can create tension and resentment within your marriage. Addressing these conflicts openly and honestly is crucial to finding a resolution and moving forward.
Communication and Compromise
Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts and fostering understanding between you, your spouse, and your family members. Listen to each other’s perspectives, communicate your needs and boundaries clearly, and be open to compromise.
## Handling Difficult Situations and Decision-Making
Making Tough Choices for Your Relationship
When faced with challenging situations, such as the incident with your husband being too drunk to board a flight, it’s important to prioritize the well-being of both parties. Assess the situation calmly, consider the practical implications, and make a decision that aligns with your values and priorities.
Supporting Each Other Through Ups and Downs
In marriage, it’s essential to be there for each other during difficult times, but it’s also important to recognize when tough decisions need to be made for the greater good. Reflect on your actions, communicate openly with your spouse, and work together to find a resolution moving forward.
#marriageadvice #culturaldifferences #familyharmony
Remember, every marriage faces challenges, but with empathy, communication, and understanding, you can navigate through cultural differences and family conflicts with grace and resilience. Stay true to your values, prioritize your relationship, and seek support when needed. ππ
Adam is a grown adult, who made a poor decision. Adam has to deal with the consequences, and if that means leaving him behind, so be it. Maybe next time when you and Adam plan a flight together, he will show up sober and you can enjoy your trip together. NTA
NTA. Why should you suffer for his actions
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Drunk people shouldn’t expect their SO to follow them down their road of drunk ah.
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Dude made a conscious decision to get drunk. I’m sure if he were to suddenly become so ill that he couldn’t fly you would have stayed with him. But this isn’t something that just happened to him or something you did to him. He made a decision to do this to himself and had no one else to blame.
Enjoy your visit with your dad!
NTA. He can always catch a flight after heβs sobered up.
NTA. Adam is an adult and should, at this point in his life, know how much alcohol he can drink to get tipsy but not totally smashed. He’s old enough to know how you should act on a plane. If this were a small trip that wasn’t at a great cost, time suck, and required to take time off of work, I’d say sure it’d be good to stay with him. But in this situation? Hello, no. He knew there was a long flight ahead, that tickets had been expensive, and that the plan was to visit your family. “Sorry, Dad, I couldn’t make the flight because my husband, who you already don’t really like, got SO drunk they wouldn’t allow him on the plane.” No.
nta. if heβs accidentally getting too drunk before a plane ride at 30, he has a problem. if he did it on purpose, he is a problem. either way letting him disrupt your life so you can coddle his drunk ass solves nothing.Β
NTA. This man deliberately tried to ruin your time with your father because your father doesnβt think highly of him. Let me guess, your father picked up on Adam being immature, spiteful, selfish, and poor mannered.
You need to ask yourself what someone who would do this to spite you brings to the table and why you stay with him.
Actions, neet consequences. NTA. You wouldn’t have been drunk because you respect his family.
NTA: you didn’t leave him alone in a ditch. You left him where people were coming for him and watching out for him.
He played a stupid game and won a stupid prize.
NTA Is he always this manipulative? He *planned* to get drunk and probably knew they wouldnβt let him on the flight for that reason. He weasled his way out of the trip then gaslighted you and said you were at fault. Heβs a grown man, doesnβt he know when heβs getting drunk? Of course he does. You didnβt leave him totally alone, as you called for your BIL. A drunk man alone is different and imo less vulnerable than a drunk woman alone, anyway. Good luck with this marriage.
He is 30 years old…he did this on porpose. Good for you to stick with your plan. NTA….but your husband is
How drunk was this man?? Planes are not a DUI checkpoint, they will let *very* tipsy people onto them.
For him to be so drunk that he wasn’t allowed to board? That must have been a *project*. How long were y’all apart? Was he just hammering shots?
I think that this is either an alcohol problem you didn’t know about, an intentional ploy to ruin or get out of the trip, or both.
NTA at ALL
I get nervous flying and part of my pre-flying routine is having a beer to relax and forget weβre in a metal tube filled with combustible 30k feet in the air (donβt come at me, this is how I cope). One time it was raining and cloudy and I knew I was in for a rough take off and probably a flight, so I had a little more than my customary beer. I was tipsy, jamming to the music on my headphones and smiling like an idiot to everyone. I had no issues getting into the plane.
Canβt imagine how drunk your husband had to be denied boarding. He probably noticed that he was passing the realm between buzzed, tipsy and drunk and did not stop. Plane tickets are not cheap and the logistics of having to change your trip to accommodate an immature adult is not something you should have to do.
Obviously NTA.
I kind of wonder if it was deliberate. Adam expected OP to be booted off the flight with him and oh noooooo, it is too expensive to visit dad for a few more years.Β Β
Regardless, getting drunk at an airport in your home city is not anymore unsafe than getting drunk at a pub in your home city. OP organised BIL to collect him and had reasonable expectation of of him being safe under the supervision of the flight attendant until BIL arrived. The husband ought to be apologising profusely to OP and deeply embarrassed. I would feel terrible and mortified if my drunken behaviour nearly put a stop to a much anticipated, expensive trip for my husband. Instead he is doubling down which makes me cynical about his motives for getting drunk. NTA.
As an alcoholic, he would have had to have been absolutely blitzed to not be allowed on the plane. Iβve been able to get on planes with absolutely no memory of doing so.
How embarrassing. He might have been playing it up to try and get you to stay as well.
NTA
NTA. You did the right thing.
NTA Tell Adam he wouldn’t have to leave alone when drunk before seeing his parents because you’re not insecure enough to have to get drunk before talking to his parents. You need couples therapy to find out why he can’t see your family unless drunk.
Adam did not have any intention of going and wanted to sabotage you seeing your family π Maybe you need to rethink Adam. Adam saying if the roles were reversed he would have stayed with you?? BULL SH*T! You would have never put yourself in a position to be to drunk to fly. My friends and I are drinkersβ¦. I canβt imagine how loaded he was to be denied on a flight. We have never had a problem. This doesnβt seem like a good partner. Have fun with your family and keep him time out so he can think about things. As for youβ¦ think about what you want your life to look like.
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This sounds like it was intentional to try and keep you from going because he doesnβt like your father.
Iβm curious, does he try to limit your interactions with the rest of your family or friends?
Seems like Adam is trying to keep you away from your family. Huge red flag.
You make an effort for his family, and he won’t do the same. Hell, I bet it is expected for you to get along with his family, but he doesn’t set those expectations for himself with your family.
He knew how important it was for you to see your dad, and yet he still got drunk.
He told you he would get drunk before going to meet your dad. He purposely got drunk as a ploy for you both not to go visit your father. I bet he never imagined you would go without him. He could have caught another flight after sobering up. he may have had to pay a bit more, though.
Now, he is trying to play victim, saying if roles were reversed. But the roles would never be like that as you would never do that to him.
I would rethink this whole relationship and see a marriage councellor.
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You both made choices as adults. Adam chose to drink to excess and get drunk; you chose to board the plane and continue the pre planned trip. Only one person made a bad decision and it wasn’t you. Adam is a grown ass adult who should know how to make better decisions. I’m sorry you had to deal with his immaturity. Hope you show him this thread so he gets how unacceptable his behavior was. Seems like he was purposely trying to sabotage your trip and you need to decide if you want to continue in a relationship with this child of a man. NTA – but your husband is.
NTA. Time to reconsider why you married this man.
NTA. Adam is mad because his planned sabotage didnβt work and now he looks like an even bigger idiot in your dadβs eyes.
NTA. He got himself into that situation, he can get himself out of it. You were nice enough to arrange for BIL to come get him. Absolutely NO WAY should you have canceled a flight, international no less, because your husband made the immature decision to get too drunk to fly.
Go see your dad, enjoy your visit, and start considering maybe your dad’s reservations about Adam are legit…..
Why are you wasting your life with this guy? NTAΒ