#VetBill #OldDog #ExPet #PetOwnership
🐾 Dealing with a situation like this can be incredibly tough and emotional. It’s clear that there are strong feelings for the dog in question, and the responsibility for the vet bill is a difficult issue to navigate. Let’s delve into the different aspects of this situation and consider what the best course of action might be.
Ownership and Responsibility 🐶
1. The issue of ownership can be a tricky one when it comes to pets, especially in the aftermath of a breakup. Understanding who is legally responsible for the dog and its expenses is crucial in this situation.
2. If the ex is the registered owner of the dog and has been the primary caregiver, she may hold the legal responsibility for the vet bill. However, if you can prove that you have been the one primarily responsible for the care and well-being of the dog, this could impact the ownership and financial responsibility.
Consideration for the Dog’s Well-being 🐾
1. Clearly, both parties care deeply for the dog’s well-being, as evidenced by the efforts to ensure the best care for the dog, including seeking veterinary treatment.
2. It’s important to prioritize the dog’s needs above any personal disagreements or disputes. Both sides should carefully consider what is best for the dog’s health and happiness.
Negotiating a Resolution 🤝
1. Communicating openly and honestly with your ex about your desires to take ownership of the dog while also addressing the financial aspect of the vet bill could lead to a mutually beneficial resolution.
2. Compromising and finding a solution that satisfies both parties, as well as prioritizes the dog’s well-being, is essential. This may involve discussing a change in ownership or shared responsibility for the vet bill.
Seeking Legal Advice 📑
1. In cases where ownership and financial responsibility are unclear or disputed, seeking legal advice may be necessary. A legal professional can provide guidance on the best course of action and help navigate the complexities of pet ownership and financial obligations.
Moving Forward with Compassion 🌟
1. Ultimately, showing compassion and understanding towards each other’s feelings and desires regarding the dog is crucial. Emotions can run high in these situations, but approaching the issue with empathy and respect can lead to a more positive outcome for all involved.
2. Remember that the well-being of the dog is paramount, and any decisions made should prioritize his health and happiness above all else.
In conclusion, navigating the situation of refusing to pay for an old dog’s vet bill until ownership is addressed is undoubtedly challenging. By approaching the issue with empathy, open communication, and a focus on the dog’s well-being, it’s possible to find a resolution that benefits everyone involved. Remember, finding common ground and prioritizing the dog’s needs is key in moving forward in a positive and constructive manner.
NTA.
You’ve broken up, so she doesn’t have any right to demand anything from you. She claims it as HER dog and she denied you any rights to it, so she could very well shoulder all of the responsibilities for caring for it – food, shelter, exercise, and medical bills.
If she can’t or doesn’t want to handle those, then she should just consider giving it to someone who is willing or able.
NTA. She wants the love and company of a dog but not the responsibilities that go with it. He should have pet insurance. I agree with your position.
“She says that I’m being a petty asshole.”
This from the person who wouldn’t let her dog stay temporarily with someone who loved and cared for it while she looked for a new place.
NTA
NTA. Not your dog, not your bill.
Even though you want him. He’s not your dog, not your problem. NTA.
NTA. Push for it quickly, you might be able to have Bruno. What a horrible bunch of garbage.
NTA. But you should lean on her until she gives you Bruno. She can’t afford to take care of him. If she has a shred of decency and care for his wellbeing, she’ll give him to you
NTA
‘I’m not being petty, you’re entitled to ask me to pay for the care of a dog, I’m not allowed access to, do I care about the dog yes, but why should I provide assistance for you to keep a dog, you’re don’t seem capable of caring for?’ ‘you were being petty not letting me care for the dog in the first place.’
Reality check, she can either afford the dog or not?
Edited to add. I really want this dog to get the care they need, but I having doubts she is capable of caring for the dog long term. If she handlded none of the maintenance beforehand, I feel like she’ll end up rehoming hkm sooner or later, and is just being spiteful keeping it from op.
NTA #Save Bruno
Report her for cruelty, and claim Bruno when he is rescued.
Depending on your relationship with her parents, have you considered telling them that you want Bruno? I doubt she’s told them. They might put pressure on her.
NTA
I am in the same situation. Then wife wanted a dog, I agreed. Once our son was born, the dog became an afterthought for her so I became the dog’s primary carer at home. Got divorced, ex kept the family dog and refused access to me or even share his care. Reason- to punish/hurt me as the dog is closest to me in the family. She doesn’t care about him much. Can’t do anything legally as the dog is registered in ex’s name at the Vets.
While your stance is justified, it is not clear if your ex is asking for money because she wants you to spend or because she doesn’t have the financial means. If the latter, then you should consider the situation that your dog might suffer without your help. If you do care for your dog, his well being should be your priority. If you do pay, do so directly to the vet so you have documentation which might strengthen your position to claim ownership if your ex gives up on him.
Just my 2 cents.
INFO: What was the outcome? Where is Bruno now? What services needed to be done? A lot of vets these days require payment up front before they will start treatment.
You wrote that she called you “petty”, but not that she didn’t allow you to take him.
NTA. This dog was her responsibility the second she called Bruno hers. Pets come with financial responsibility’s and she is about ready to learn that. I would lean on her hard and see if you can get ownership of Bruno.
NTA she doesn’t care about what’s best for the dog and that makes me so sad.
NTA
Petty is *not* agreeing to OP’s offer.
NTA
Try to find out who the vet is, and get in contact with them. If she can’t pay the bills, she might surrender the dog to them – and they’d prefer to have someone swoop in to rehome (and pay) for the dog, rather than the alternative.
NTA, I hope she gives you Bruno
We don’t talk about Bruno…
NTA
“My Ex left with my best friend. I don’t miss her. I miss him though”
NTA
NTA. You’re no charity.
Get the dog, they can’t take care of it and it loves/knows you.
Dang this is a rough situation, I completely understand the idea to not pay the bill because of the situation but a way to think about it is if you truly love the dog you’ll do anything you can to not let Bruno be in pain anymore and unfortunately you won’t be an asshole but a jackass for doing what they want but at the end of the day Bruno is healthy. This is definitely easier said than done. Good luck man i couldn’t imagine as im extremely close with my dogs that i got/gave in a previous failed relationship.
ESH.
She for not taking care of the dog properly and dumping her at her parents. If she doesn’t really want the dog, she should have given him to you and not take him with her in revenge.
Her parents also suck for not taking care of him. They took him in and with that comes a responsibility. If they didn’t want to care for him, they should have not accepted this responsibility.
Now you might wonder why you also suck OP. Not because of your ultimatum that you get the dog in exchange for paying the medical bill. That is understandable. You suck for another reason. You gifted a dog to someone who didn’t truly want a dog or at least clearly never had the right attitude for caring for one. If you gift an adult an animal, you should be sure that the giftee truly wants the dog with all of its responsibility and is able to fulfill them. That means the less nice parts like going on a walk during horrible weather and paying medical bills, too.