#RelationshipAdvice #Cheating #Infidelity #Forgiveness #MarriageStruggles
Are you feeling lost and conflicted after discovering that your partner cheated on you with your ex best friend? It’s a heartbreaking situation that can leave you feeling devastated and unsure of what to do next. In this article, we’ll delve into the complexities of this dilemma and provide some insights to help you navigate this challenging time.
## Discovering the Betrayal
It’s never easy to uncover infidelity in a relationship, especially when it involves someone close to you. The feelings of betrayal, hurt, and anger can be overwhelming, making it difficult to see a clear path forward. When you found out about the affair between your partner (WS) and your ex best friend (AP), your world was shattered. The shock and disbelief may have left you reeling, questioning everything you thought you knew about your relationship.
## Processing the Pain
Dealing with the aftermath of infidelity is a long and arduous process. It’s natural to feel a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to confusion and despair. The sense of loss and betrayal can be paralyzing, making it hard to make decisions about the future of your relationship. In this challenging time, it’s important to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being. Seek support from loved ones, consider therapy or counseling to help you navigate your feelings, and give yourself time to heal.
## The Road to Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a difficult but essential part of moving forward from infidelity. It’s a process that requires patience, empathy, and self-reflection. While it’s understandable to feel resentment towards both WS and AP for their actions, holding onto anger and grudges will only prolong your pain. Finding it in your heart to forgive doesn’t mean condoning their behavior or forgetting the hurt they caused, but rather freeing yourself from the burden of carrying around negativity.
## The Dilemma of Obligation
In your situation, you’re torn between a sense of obligation towards WS and the memories of your ex best friend. The guilt and conflicting emotions can be overwhelming, clouding your judgment and making it challenging to make decisions. Remember, it’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. While it’s commendable that you want to support WS during her struggles, it’s equally important to consider what’s best for you in the long run.
## Finding Guidance in Challenging Times
When faced with difficult decisions and conflicting emotions, seeking guidance from wisdom texts like the Bhagavad Gita can offer valuable insights. Reflect on the teachings of detachment, forgiveness, and selflessness to navigate the complexities of your situation. Embrace the concept of dharma, or duty, as you weigh your obligations and desires. Ultimately, finding a balance between honoring your commitments and prioritizing your own happiness is key to finding peace and clarity.
In conclusion, navigating the aftermath of infidelity and betrayal is a challenging journey that requires strength, resilience, and self-reflection. As you grapple with your emotions and conflicting obligations, remember to prioritize your own well-being and seek guidance from trusted sources. By embracing forgiveness, detaching from resentments, and finding a path towards healing, you can navigate this challenging chapter in your life with grace and resilience. Stay strong, prioritize self-care, and trust in your inner wisdom to guide you towards a brighter tomorrow.
“the regret that my ex best friend would still be alive if I had dealt with their affair differently.”
He would be alive, if he didn’t pushed his dick into every body opening of your gf, while she moans and shakes to his dick-hits. Don’t forget what happened and stop watering reality. She fucked him. He fucked her. They both properly enjoyed it and (at least she) wasn’t giving a dime about you, your wishes and moral dilemma.
Both got the consequences from their actions. You are the only one who got fucked without lube. Fuck her, Fuck him and his legacy of betrayal.
IMO – scorched earth it is.
I really don’t think taking her back is your best option. She’s manipulating you by threatening to harm herself. That’s not love, she’s afraid to be alone because he’s gone too.
You need to let her go and rebuild your life.
Think of yourself first and foremost. That kind of behavior is likely to be repeated in the future, and her suicidal tendencies indicate she’s not in an any position to maintain a mature relationship. For the sake of what she’s done for you in the past you can seriously consider keeping a friendly and respectful relationship for the purpose of helping her mature past her current difficulties. If she remains adamant about R and moving back with you, set some clear, measurable expectations that she must achieve, such as regular counseling, cessation of suicidal threats, and whatever else might be important to you and your health. But I’m being realistic that R probably should not and will not happen if you’re being true and honest with yourself.
Moron
What the fuck is R?
You where betrayed by two people that were very important to you. They had no remorse or shame when they jumped in bed together, only when they were exposed.
It’s a shame that your friend died as a consquence of his aweful reaction, but that still does not make him a good guy or victim of this.
You act like you owe it to him that you take your wife back. He was the person who worked on taking her away in the first place. In reality you don’t owe him shit.
The only reason your wife wants you back is because she has to face the consequences and her AP is gone. You are her consolation prize and she hopes that reconciliation will give her absolution from the betrayal, free her of the consequences and supply her with emotional support.
She has still no remorse and is even using extreme emotional manipulation to force your hand.
She is not a partner to you, she is emotional poison right now.
Right now you need to do what is best for yourself and for you to heal. Do not listen to what someone else needs or want or expects. Do not let your wayward make this about her. She is not the victim she is the perpetrator.
All these acronyms make me feel like I’ve had a stroke and am waking up in Intensive Care. It also makes it seems like today’s author is a little bit too wrapped up in the world of online infidelity stories whilst spinning their little yarn.
Suggest you G back to the DB and come up with S a bit more B to satisfy your kinks.
Nope you are not obligated, they brought this on themselves, divorce and move on
ffs if people threaten you with suicide just leave. they have mental health problems and it’s not your responsibility to stay with someone to stop them from killing themselves.
Fuck your ex best friend and fuck your should be ex wife. You should feel no guilt and if their guilt eats them alive, that’s their problem. Your ex best friend made his own choices and fucked them all up.
That’s a tough situation, personally I’d heal better from a distance from this mess none of it being your fault.
Sounds like whatever SHE said to him at the hospital is what set him off, no fault of yours. Her being there for you through your mother’s death doesn’t make up for the fact that she aborted your best friend’s baby to hide an affair from you. I would never be able to look at her again let alone forgive. And how could you EVER forget. My God.
what the F is:
– WS
– R
– EA
– PA
– IC
– RC
If you are as nice to your wife as you are to your readers, you deserve everything that happened and then some
The fact that your BF died is very tragic. However, you are NOT at fault.
Your BF committed one of the worst acts a friend can do to another man. No relationship can survive that kind of betrayal.
Your BF is responsible for getting behind the wheel of a car while DWI.
Your BF is responsible for having sex with his friend’s wife.
Think about this:
•Your BF could have called for a ride home, from multiple sources.
•Your BF could have ended the affair on his own out of guilt.
•Your BF chose his own self-interest, in both cases.
Your wife:
•Cheated on you, multiple times, in the home she shares with you.
•Lied to your face.
•Got pregnant, by another man.
•Exposed you to STD’s.
•Treated you like shit during her affair.
You owe it to yourself to have a better partner. One that will love you, respect you and value the relationship. You have none of the above.
Let your wife become a Ex. She can deal with her many character defects on her own.
End your toxic relationship. Work on you.
This is all a shit show but through it all remember one thing. These are fucking adults responsible for their own actions. YOU didn’t cause or ask for any of this. It’s all simply a result of people reaping what they sowed.
You don’t owe her anything. At all. This was betrayal of a different level by the two people you were supposed to trust the most. You will resent her and never trust her again. Imagine what sort of life that is. You will question everything she does, everywhere she goes and everyone she talks to. She has no scruples.
She deserves all the guilt and shame, don’t let her pawn it off on you. She’s manipulative and a liar and a cheater and probably a few other things as well. Don’t be a tool, live your best life while you can. She’s not worth it.
Does anyone else think that this is just overkill? And the idiotic abbreviations too. His dog hasn’t died and nobody stole his truck…..this particular writing assignment doesn’t get higher than a C+ from me.
she sounds manipulative
IF this is real (it isn’t, let’s be honest) you are as dumb as they come.
There is a huge difference between her supporting you during your depression and you supporting her because she cheated. Unless you’re leaving something out. Also your ex friend is responsible for what happened to him.
This movie would piss me off, like she fucking got away with it Scot free and the best friend is the only that died!?? Boooo! 5% Rotten Tomatoes!
You have to WANT to reconcile. It’s hard, hard work. And the most excrutiating aspect is healing alongside the person who betrayed you. The other person has to be mature enough to do their part. It takes a lot more than “I’m so sorry.” Your ex has very little emotional strength, insight, or stability. She doesn’t have what it takes for successful reconciliation and frankly, you seem to be asking for permission to make the final break … so neither do you.
Go. Just Go. End this tragedy. Some things are too smashed to repair.
Good luck
I’m curious as to what you would build your foundation of trust on again?
She was willing to betray you once? I’m willing to understand people can make a mistake in certain circumstances and move passed it, but this ongoing deception of an affair – that’s a bridge too far.
Imagine, a year from now, she wants to go out to a club with work friends? How will you feel? Anxious? Totally chill?
You’ll do better cutting ties now and rebuilding something better yourself.
Updateme!
Don’t be a fool. You are the only victim here.Â
Don’t take that h03 back, let her suffer the consequences of her own actions.
Your mother would be turning in her grave that you took that cheater back. Yes she supported you when your mother died and you had health issues BUT cheating on you is not the same. Have some respect for yourself and get yourself out of this mess.
I think you need and deserve long holiday after all that and then moving on with your life
She wants to reconcile probably because AP died. Don’t let her emotionally manipulate you.
I am sorry for you OP, but from what I read you’ll never be able to forgive her and the fact she blackmailed you by using suicide as her left card is totally infuriating. My ex tried to do the same and damn, I told him to do it, it’s not my problem anymore.
You can’t take the blame for their actions, your friend is dead because he went to the hospital to see the woman, your wife, he betrayed you with. He died because of his reckless behavior. You didn’t do anything wrong. His brother was sad and angry, I am not sure he had the logic to make any difference. It’s done, he killed himself in an accident. The end.
Your wife was surely more affected than him, her behaviour is screaming “Guilt” all over but she wasn’t planning to tell you. She aborted in secret and thought you will not be worried nor suspicious by her comportment. Yet you took her back, the day she cheated you owed her nothing anymore OP. She is in debt to you actually and you took her back out of pity and because you have a heart you are afraid she could commit the worst. But you will surely not be able to forgive her, someone is dead because of this mess. It’s an indelible scar, I don’t know how you look at her without feeling nauseous and disdainful.
The fact is you’re putting yourself at risk now, you might be the one falling in depression because the object of despair is living with you. Will you be able to touch her again ? Love her the same ? Pardon her for real ? Never think about this shit ?
I wouldn’t, I couldn’t.
I wish you luck OP, to be happy again one day and don’t forget emotional blackmail always leads to resentment.
You never take a cheater back.
Dude she does not love you or respect you . Never bring male friends home . They are friends not family . You make friends outside and you keep em outside . Leave her alone, she is responsible for her wellbeing not you . Why should you suffer for her betrayal .
Wow! I think you need at least a year away from your wife. Time away is gonna help you figure out what you want to do, but looking at her every day is only Gonna make you depressed and angry. Move out, go somewhere different, get a dog, hit the gym and live life for one year. If you still want her back after that, then talk to her again.
She manipulated you into taking her back
As you feel you owe her
You don’t owe her anything
Get out and move on
Too long, too many acronyms. Sorry.
What is WS and what is R?