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Hello Everyone.
I apologize if this is not the place to be posting this.
I (21M) am planning to move my currently pregnant girlfriend (19F) out of her parents house very shortly. I’m going to leave out any details, but her family is incredibly abusive. Her parents are both alcoholics and threatened me at gunpoint the first time I met them. They’ve put hands on her multiple times. Nobody knows about the pregnancy or about the plan to move her except us and my parents.
My question is. Would it be advisable to ask for some kind of escort or law enforcement presence, just in case things were to get out of hand and/or violent? Is that even something I could do? I’m extremely concerned that somebody could get hurt, including our baby as these people are belligerent and not above violence.
Any advice would be appreciated. I’m incredibly stressed over the whole thing as is she.
## Importance of Seeking Help ##
Abusive situations are extremely dangerous and can escalate quickly. It’s crucial to prioritize the safety and well-being of yourself, your girlfriend, and your unborn child. Seeking help from law enforcement or other resources can provide a layer of protection and support during this critical time.
## Considerations Before Involving Law Enforcement ##
Before deciding to involve law enforcement, consider the potential risks and benefits. Some things to think about include:
– Will the presence of law enforcement escalate the situation further?
– Are there any legal consequences or implications to consider?
– Are there any alternative options for seeking protection and support?
## Seeking Support from Domestic Violence Organizations ##
Domestic violence organizations are equipped to provide resources and guidance for individuals in abusive situations. Consider reaching out to a local organization for assistance in creating a safety plan and accessing necessary services.
## Collaborating with Legal Professionals ##
Consulting with a legal professional, such as a family law attorney or advocate, can help you understand your rights and options in this situation. They can provide legal advice and support in navigating the complexities of leaving an abusive environment.
## Final Thoughts ##
Ultimately, the safety and well-being of your girlfriend and your unborn child should be the top priority. Seeking support from law enforcement, domestic violence organizations, and legal professionals can help you navigate this challenging situation and take steps towards a safe and secure future. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this difficult time.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Stay safe and take care.
Most law enforcement agencies will provide an officer or two for a few minutes of “civil standby” to keep the peace while a person in a domestic or landlord/tenant dispute collects their personal belongings from their home.
But they aren’t going to be able to give you more than 10-20 minutes. You aren’t going to be able to have them wait for her to pack, or expect them to participate in settling any disputes over the ownership of personal property.
She may wish to get some advice from a DV shelter to help focus her planning, including figuring out how to get critical ID and financial documents, and how to obtain a restraining order in a hurry if one becomes necessary.
It’s great that you are thinking ahead. Having law enforcement’s eyes is one idea. If there is a close family member (adult) to be a calming presence, that would be helpful.
I assume this move has been announced. It’s important that the parents can’t make false claims about this being a kidnapping or abduction.
Have her reach out to your areas domestic violence assistance office. They are all different and offer different services like counseling and advice. They should have a relationship with law enforcement and will know what help is available. They sometimes have advocates that will attend court hearings etc for support like if she needs a restraining order. They can also help with her plan of escape.
Some Sheriffs Departments will do a standby where a deputy stays the whole time. You generally have to schedule this ahead of time and pay a fee. Police will only standby for a few minutes.
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I highly recommend having a police officer present when she moves out. I also suggest you not be present as this might send her parents over the edge. Obviously you could wait nearby in a car but it’s best if her parents don’t see you.
Have her move as much stuff out as possible ahead of time, including the cat. And then, ideally, have her move out when they are at work. If they have a gun in the house and it’s already been pulled on you, then I can’t imagine her parents finding out she’s pregnant and moving in with you is going to go well at all. And I would expect them to show up at your place and/or jobs at some point as well, so take all the precautions you can.
Tell the cops that they have guns and have threatened you with them.
Yes. So her parents don’t accuse you of something crazy. And I wouldn’t involve yourself. Maybe go and be down the block for support but don’t be on the property let the cops stand by.