Title: The Impact of Threesomes on Relationships: Personal Experiences and Lessons Learned
Introduction:
Threesomes, once a topic relegated to the realm of fantasy and taboo, are becoming more openly discussed and explored within committed relationships. Stepping into uncharted territories, couples who embark on these ventures must consider the potential consequences on their emotional well-being and the overall dynamic of their relationship. In this extensive analysis, we delve into the experiences and outcomes shared by Redditors who have had threesomes with their significant others, providing valuable insights into how their relationships fared after the sexual encounter.
1. Communication and Setting Boundaries:
One of the recurring themes witnessed among those who reported positive experiences was effective communication and the establishment of clear boundaries. Prior to engaging in a threesome, couples emphasized the importance of open and honest discussions concerning their desires, expectations, and fears. Communication allowed for well-defined boundaries, ensuring a safe and consensual exploration of their fantasies. The ability to voice concerns and establish limits was a vital aspect in maintaining trust and minimizing adverse outcomes.
2. Preserving Emotional Connection:
Maintaining an emotional connection throughout the threesome experience emerged as a critical factor in determining the post-sex relationship dynamics. Redditors highlighted the significance of reassuring one another of their commitment and love, both verbally and through physical affection. By consistently acknowledging the emotional bond shared within their relationship, couples felt reinforced and secure in their connection, minimizing the chances of jealousy or insecurity arising.
3. Emotional Challenges and Jealousy:
While some individuals reported having positive experiences, others encountered emotional challenges, particularly after the threesome. Jealousy emerged as a prevalent concern, often triggered by witnessing their partner’s interactions with the third person. The emotional toll brought forth by jealousy varied among couples, influencing the subsequent trajectory of their relationships. Many resolved these feelings through open communication, reaffirming their love and addressing underlying insecurities.
4. Personal Growth and Enhanced Intimacy:
Surprisingly, numerous Redditors shared that their relationships benefited from the threesome experience. They described how the heightened level of communication, trust-building, and exploration of individual desires fostered personal growth. Additionally, some individuals appreciated the increased intimacy with their partners, noting that witnessing their loved ones in a desirable light stimulated stronger emotional connections.
5. Reflection and Reinvention:
For many couples, the threesome served as a catalyst for self-reflection and the reinvention of their sexual and emotional connection. Engaging in such an unconventional experience often facilitated a deeper understanding of one another’s needs and desires, leading to an enhanced sexual satisfaction in the future. The open-mindedness and willingness to explore new boundaries granted couples the opportunity to expand their sexual repertoire and evolve together in their relationship.
Conclusion:
Exploring threesomes within a committed relationship remains a controversial topic, with varying outcomes impacting each couple differently. The personal experiences shared by Redditors highlighted several crucial aspects that influenced the aftermath of the threesome. Effective communication, the preservation of emotional connection, handling of jealousy, personal growth, and creating space for self-reflection emerged as significant factors that either strengthened or tested the bond between partners.
While threesomes hold the potential to disrupt relationships, couples who approach these situations with open communication, respect, and an emphasis on emotional connection are more likely to navigate the post-experience period successfully. The exploration of boundaries and desires, when grounded in trust, can lead to personal growth, enhanced intimacy, and an opportunity for couples to reinvent and strengthen their relationship in unexpected ways.
relationship with who, your SO or the third person involved?
my SO brought her very close female friend for a threesome as a christmas present to me one year. i was really nervous but they made me feel super comfortable and able to just enjoy the experience. I’m still with my SO and the friend is still is a friend, we don’t see her very much as she lives in a diff country but its in no way awkward.
I had a threesome with one of my close friends and her boyfriend of like 5 years (at the time). She wanted to surprise him and boy did it work. It was fun! We ended up doing it a few more times. They’re still together and doing well and my friendship with them has never changed. Only difference is now we have inside jokes and references together!
I don’t know if this is what you’re going for, but…my SO and I have had a few sexual encounters that have involved other people (daisy chain, foursome with another couple, masturbating/sex in front of a crowd, etc) and we’re both super into it. We had very open communication before and after and next to no jealously. We really enjoy it and it’s brought us closer.
Absolutely fine. We’ve had MFM and FMF threesomes. But we talked about it beforehand, set out boundaries, and shared our feelings post. It’s definitely not for everyone and I would never recommend it to anyone who has the slightest doubts.
I had some fun, and they are still together. I think I’m happier alone tbh.
I had a threesome with one of my friends and her then fiancé. They ended up splitting up for unrelated reasons. He tried to hook up with me afterwards and she invited me for a threesome with her current bf. Lol
Edit to add: the unrelated reason is that he got drunk, did coke, and hit her. She didn’t even know he did coke. Pretty sure it had nothing to do with the threesomes.
My girlfriend asked me who I would like a threesome with. Then she got angry. Apparently, I was supposed to name only one person.
Just fine… But don’t play with others if your relationship isn’t on solid footing and your communication isn’t up to par
It was already horrible, that’s why I didn’t mind trying it. It didn’t get any better, but it was a lot of fun.
Absolutely fine. We had several threesomes, one of them even turned into a proper girlfriend for a time.
In fact, I’ve had two SOs who have been into it.
One 25 years ago and one for the last 2 years.
Split up with both of them for completely unrelated issues. (One had to move for a job, the other decided she wanted kids.)
She dumped me for the other guy 😂
Transformed from a significant other to just an other.
I was with another couple I’m friends with somewhat recently. A little bit of “can’t believe we did that” talk but it hasn’t gotten awkward or anything like that
It destroyed our marriage… well the fact that the chick he brought it he was fucking behind my back was what did it truly
The sex was fine, we invited a third for a fun night at a hotel with a jacuzzi and drinks. But then the third person didn’t leave, nor did they leave in the morning after breakfast, and the next night after dinner we literally had to ask him to leave so we could continue our vacation as a couple in privacy. It gave us a funny story to joke about for years and didn’t affect our relationship
I have had MFM threesomes and MFMF foursomes with my partner with the first being with my friends which we did with them a few times. We are still friends with them now, and it’s not awkward. We have also used a dating app called Feeld which has mostly worked as it can be hit or miss but overall it has been fun.
Back in my dating years: was with my girlfriend at the time (who incidentally was a self-proclaimed nymphomaniac) at a party; she introduced me to a (girl)friend of hers and, after a while and when the party got a bit rowdy and we were all tipsy, the two of them started making out (I was watching them thinking something like “uhmmm, nice”). My girlfriend came to me and told me that if I’d like to, her friend can “accompany us home”. I felt pressured or unready or too much on the spot, and mumbled something along the lines of “I gotta wake up early tomorrow” and left the party (by myself) after a short while. She broke up with me after a few days saying I’m not as spontaneous as she would like her partner to be. Guess she was right because I don’t regret not engaging with the situation.
Not me, friend of mine. She realized after a few times that in fact she preferred women (now divorced)
Haven’t been in a threesome, but my gf had two on the same day with her previous partner, which is when she realized she was actually into girls more.
So in a way, I can thank those threesomes for my relationship. She doesn’t like it when I bring this up lol.
Destroyed a close friends’ 21 yr marriage. There was no going back to before it happened and that was that
Had a threesome in a sex club with people watching, I was hurt by something she did (and I didnt have the courage to speak up) and I felt really bad the next morning. Something about our dynamic changed that day, she kinda lost the independent, i do whatever i want to do attitude that I think was very healthy and which I really loved about her. It might also be that I unconciously have tried to get back at her by insisting too much on my own desires after this incident and not compromising enough anymore… Anyways, the relationship ended half a year later because of unrelated reasons but it feels to me that this night was when it all started.
Tldr the other guy helped her make connections to sleep with as many guys as she wanted behind my back
I’ve been a participant in 2 guys 1 girl as well as 2 girls 1 guy (me). Both versions were a 1 time deal. After the 2 guy 1 girl (my ex wife) she decided that since I was talked into doing that, then she had free reign to go out and sleep with any guy she wants without telling me. Hell one time she didn’t come home for about 3 days cause she went home with a trucker who lived 3 hours away, which I found out over 24 hours after she had left.
It did eventually begin deteriorating our relationship. While I was busy attending college and working after class, she was off sleeping with every guy she saw while the house got worse and worse. I’d come home and have to clean a house too on top of everything else. One time, I even came home earlier than usual to find some random guy sitting on my couch with her saying “uhhh youre home early.” Yeah? Apparently. I could even see into the bedroom a properly made up bed., Something she would only do after sex.
But yeah, to answer your question, it led to her cheating, and eventually, we broke it off. Unfortunately, the split didn’t happen until after the kid was born. Yes, the kid is mine. I did a DNA test first thing. She ran off with a guy she met online, and I became a single father. She didn’t even bother showing up to court, so the kid is 100% mine.
Found out years later, she slept with nearly every guy in our apartment complex. On top of that, the guy who was the 2nd in the 3some was the one who helped her make the connections.
She even had the gall to say “leaving you was the biggest mistake of my life. We should get back together” ha no. Just. No. Side note, she has not seen or spoken with her kid in all these years (17) not once. She was no mother, she was an egg donor at best.
The last time I spoke with her, which was many years ago, she was bitching about being hungry. I was feeling generous so I offered to order a pizza for her. She gets all excited then suddenly switches it to wanting the money put into her phone so she can buy some games instead. I just disconnected the call and haven’t spoken to her since.
She went on and cheated multiple times blaming me.
I was in an open relationship with a dude (who was bi), we had a few MMF threesomes. With an acquaintance (quite fun), and with an old friend of mine (very fun), and with another acquaintance, which was so much fun that we decided to all three date. That lasted for about 3 years. We eventually broke up because of money stress more than anything to do with our sex life.
We all went out to eat breakfast the next day and it was just such a funny experience. We laughed and talked about how crazy it was. Afterwards my gf was embarrassed and said she didn’t want anything like that ever again. Then it happened again (at her own insistence, with the same girl). Then again. After the 3rd time I was pretty blown away that this would be a regular thing. After a while things stopped and my gf went back to being super embarrassed about it and liked to pretend it never happened.
Divorce should be finalized next month!
I (m) hooked up with a friend and his wife a few times. He originally proposed it as something she would enjoy, with both of us focusing our attention on her. She reluctantly went along with it, but quickly got way too into it for his comfort. He got jealous of all the attention she was getting despite that being the point of the threesomes in the first place.
Long story short, after many long fruitless discussions and a few arguments we finally got him to admit that he was in love with me, he wanted the threesome so that we (he and I) could have sex (despite us having had many conversations in the past about how I’m not that into men and he’s definitely not my type) without cheating or him getting a divorce.
Longer story even shorter, we’re no longer friends, they’re divorced, wife and I became really close friends for a few years.
Went on a vacation with my ex and her best friend from out of state. It was heavily alluded to that we were going to give a threesome a go. We all arrive at the hotel, and her friend turns on the tv while we unpack. It was by chance an episode of Jerry Springer (or some equivalent type of show). The subject was “Our threesome ruined my life.”
Obviously it didn’t happen.
When I was younger, I dated a woman that set me up with her roommate after we didn’t work out. Every so often she would barge into the room while we were having sex (usually in the morning with coffee for us).
After the first few times I just charged it to their closeness and kept going. That eventually led to her joining us, and eventually it just became commonplace.
We eventually broke it off, but they would hit me up once a year or so until one of them got engaged. No damage to the relationship when we were together, and no animosity when we went out separate ways.
They were cool.
During university I met a girl who was a bit wild. She invited me to a threesome with her friend in her dorm. It was really hot and we did it again some weeks later.
After some time, wild girl and I got more serious and became exclusive. She still enjoyed hooking me up with some random girls a few times for threesomes. Ngl, it was kinda amazing to have two beautiful girls all to myself.
I’ve now been married 10 years to wild girl 🙂
(FFM) Turned out fine, it was an experience but the “fantasy” is better than the reality. We both had fun, but also both agreed it’s better 1-on-1. I like giving someone my whole undivided attention, and found with another person I was too much “in my own head” trying to split my attention between the two. She said she found it overstimulating with too much going on and would rather have more intimacy.
For those thinking about it, the key is just open communication. Set boundaries and expectations, have a “safe word” to put a stop to it if it becomes too uncomfortable. And talk about it after. Really the key to a good relationship, both physical and emotional, is open and honest communication.
Not me, but one of my friends…dude had a gf of like 2-3 yrs, decided to spice it up and bring in one of her friends….they do the dirty, and the friend gets pregnant…not the gf.
Basically, gf tried to keep them together because the threesome was her idea, but obviously was upset with how things went down…they eventually ended things, and my friend has a 7 yr old child that he co parents with the mom.
Nuts