, let’s delve into this issue of celebrity crushes within a relationship and explore various perspectives.
Firstly, it is important to understand that we all have different views and opinions on what is deemed acceptable or tolerable within a relationship. Some couples may find a certain level of discussion or admiration of celebrity crushes harmless, while others may consider it disrespectful or threatening to the relationship. It is crucial to establish open and honest communication with your partner to better understand each other’s boundaries and expectations regarding celebrity crushes.
One might argue that having a celebrity crush is a normal and natural phenomenon. Celebrities often possess physical attractiveness, talent, and charisma, which can easily captivate our attention and imagination. It is not uncommon for individuals to develop harmless infatuations or fantasies about these public figures. However, the important aspect to consider is how these crushes are handled within the context of a committed relationship.
In the scenario described, the wife has expressed her desire to have a celebrity crush while forbidding her husband from having one. This imbalance raises a valid concern about fairness and equality within the relationship. Both partners should be afforded the same allowances and understanding. It is crucial for couples to establish mutual respect and avoid imposing double standards, as it can lead to resentment and feelings of inequality.
Understanding the wife’s reasoning behind her stance is also important. She might argue that the husband potentially meeting his crush in person and the subsequent temptations that could arise makes it different for him. However, it is essential to remember that celebrity crushes are often based on unrealistic fantasies and the likelihood of meeting and entering into a romantic relationship with said celebrity is astronomically low. It is unlikely that a celebrity crush would pose a genuine threat to the stability of a committed relationship.
Conversely, the wife insists that she will not be tempted by her celebrity crush. This assertion may stem from her own confidence in the relationship and her ability to differentiate between fantasy and reality. However, it is essential for both partners to trust and have faith in each other’s loyalty and commitment, regardless of the presence of a celebrity crush.
A possible solution to this disparity in treatment could be open and honest communication between the couple. It is important for the husband to express his feelings of inequality and address concerns regarding the double standard. The wife, on the other hand, should be receptive to these concerns and be willing to reassess her stance. Finding a compromise that both partners are comfortable with is key to fostering a healthy and balanced relationship.
In conclusion, the issue of celebrity crushes within a relationship can vary from couple to couple. It is vital to establish clear communication and understanding regarding boundaries and expectations. While it is not uncommon for individuals to develop celebrity crushes, it is important to treat each other’s feelings and concerns with respect and equality. Finding a compromise that both partners are comfortable with is essential for maintaining a healthy and harmonious relationship.
Yes, yes it is a crazy double standard. In itself, this may be harmless, but it signals how she thinks about you and your relationship together. You shouldn’t ignore this.
This reminds me of that time my wife asked me which of her friends I’d want to have a threesum with. I didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to name two of them
I mean she is stating outright she doesn’t trust you. It isn’t even that crushes are irresistible as she claims she could resist hers, it is that you as a partner are too weak to even entertain a crush.
Heck, I think even if you had answered the contrived way, said ‘I don’t have any’ she’d have called bullshit and gotten upset at you.
Feels a lot like a double bind, an excuse to get upset because she was feeling insecure or perhaps just felt like making you feel bad. Deeply unfair and honestly that she can’t seem to acknowledge the irrational absurdity of what she is saying is a worry.
Charlize Theron is my partners celebrity crush, mine is Henry Cavill… we both joke around when eachothers crush is on screen
Your wife has a nasty double standard, she is clearly also quite insecure since she thinks you can so easily be taken away and apparently trust issues since you would just allow yourself to be taken away
This is more then just a double standard
Tell her that her radio presenter is YOUR celebrity crush now, too.
Yes this is a dumb double standard. Also how could she police this anyway? If you have a crush you have a crush, she can’t stop you.
Yes, this is clearly an unfair double standard. It’s also ridiculous to think people aren’t attracted to other people magically once they find a SO.
I wish you the best of luck navigating this one mate.
It is a double standard.
Also, the whole topic is crazy.
Isn’t there other shit more important?
Of course its a double standard, but more importantly asking questions out of the blue intentionally to lead to disagreements is not part of a mature, respectful relationship.
Whenever my partner asks me this I panic because I know I’m in danger lol, good thing I can’t remember many on the spot
One of the first fun-conversations we had when we decided to go exclusive was about our celebrity crushes. We also affirmed that we’re humans with eyes; it’s ok to look, but we need to be honest and also true with our hearts.
I don’t think your partner understands that you, like her, are human.
Yes. Your wife is being ridiculous. Although this whole conversation is pretty silly.
Is your wife 15 years old? Wtf kind of level of immaturity is that? A celebrity crush is DIFFERENT from a hall pass. There’s nothing wrong with having a celebrity crush as long as it stays that, a “crush”. Your wife sounds super insecure.
Are you both married or in kindergarten . Stop with this stupid crap and join the real world
Double standard is a red flag. Fuck that “rules for thee but not for me” bs.
“Your hypocrisy is showing, wife.”
Should have turned the tables on her, “Is there a reason you don’t seem to trust me? How come you’re able to have a crush and I can’t, hypocrisy isn’t attractive to me….”
In my experience, people like her that give “love tests” make very poor partners. Her double standard is also problematic. You are not wrong at all, but she sounds insecure.
I’d say you get a lot more actual personality, and therfore, intimacy, from a radio presenter than from an actor as anytime you’re likely seeing them, that’s not their real personality, even in interviews.
It’s a damned crush not an override function. If Ana threw herself at you tomorrow, you would still say no, you’re married.
Yes, this is a double standard.
I also think this is a sign of something else going on in your relationship. Pay attention. Your wife might have some other issues and insecurities at play here.
This kind of pointless relationship drama is just too much to me.
I would not entertain it at all because I do not want to be in a position of wondering what the next ridiculous thing will be
tell her to not ask questions she doesn’t want to hear the answer to!
I don’t know why you even answered it because it’s a trap question. My first wife was great for these questions that seem innocent enough but have only one answer and you better get it right.
Yes, the only “correct” answer is you don’t have any celebrity crushes and are only interested in her. I despise head games like this.
Your wife is childish. Doesn’t matter about anything else, really. She’s a big baby and playing these screwy little games with her is stupid
Not just a double standard, this is the kind of dumb argument 14 year olds have.
You both need to grow up.
People who take life this seriously over a theoretical are beyond insufferable
“I demand a divorce. There, you can go for your celebrity crush now.”
Yep it’s a double standard. I saw your comment about the oral sex standard as well. She sucks.
Well ok she *doesn’t* suck, which is why she sucks.
Try this.
_Truth be told, I was dating Ana De Armas when we met. I left her for you. I chose you.
Now she’s just my crazy ex_
It’s a fucking dafty double standard. She needs to grow the EFF up.
See if your 29yo wife is actually two 14 yo teens in a trenchcoat. That’s the only acceptable explanation.
My wife and I both have hall passes if we ever have the chance to be with someone famous.
I think it’s deeper. She clearly has insecurities. She needs to work on those, preferably with therapy. You need to show her how much she matters. Good luck.
That is the dumbest fucking thing I’ve heard today.
“how immature are both of you?” “Yes”
So she wouldn’t be tempted by a crush but in her world you would be? That’s how she sees you. It could come from how you have acted or something you said in the past (we don’t know you) or she thinks so negatively of herself and has a total lack of self confidence that even a celebrity crush is a perceived threat.
Tremendous double standard, but at least your wife believes you have the capacity to date a celebrity, it’s a sexist kind of glowing endorsement.
I don’t get why people use the whole “it’s not like I’m ever going to meet my crush” excuse. What that says to me is, “I’m never going to have a chance with them, but if I DID, I’d leave you.”
Kiiiiinda seems like a red flag.
Man this post made me say “what” so many times I almost summed DMX! Total double standard. Your wife is being ridiculous.
I’m amazed that not only you needed to ask the internet for its take on this – but that this is a genuine conversation you’re having and feeling a way about. You both are far too immature to be in a serious relationship, let alone be married. Good luck.
The double standard is crazy
This double standard. Better have an eye on her, her definitions and boundaries may differ or change to accommodate herself
Y’all 29? Grow up, these are high school discussions
ik its a bad double standard n she probably shouldnt be like that but man..id be mad af too in secret if my bf admitted his celeb crush was ana de armas like id literally cry in the shower LMAO she really is beautiful
Anna De Armas here. DM me for feet pics.
I’m sorry, but she sounds like a terrible person. I hope I am wrong though.
You guys are waaaay too old for this shit.