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Is it normal to get fired after the first 4 days? 🤔
Getting fired from a new job is never an easy experience, especially when it happens so suddenly and without a clear explanation. You may be feeling confused, hurt, and unsure of what to do next. But before you start blaming yourself or feeling like a failure, it’s important to understand that getting fired after the first 4 days of a new job is not a common occurrence. However, it does happen, and there could be a variety of reasons behind it. In this article, we’ll explore why you might have been let go and what steps you can take to move forward.
Understanding the Reasons Behind Your Termination
It’s natural to feel shocked and upset after being fired, especially when you feel like you didn’t do anything to warrant such an abrupt end to your employment. While your manager and boss may not have provided a clear explanation for your termination, there are several potential reasons why this may have happened:
1. Poor Cultural Fit: Sometimes, despite your best efforts to get along with your coworkers and managers, you simply may not fit into the company culture. This could be due to differences in work style, communication preferences, or even personal interests.
2. Performance Concerns: It’s possible that your employer had concerns about your performance during the first few days on the job. This could include issues with productivity, quality of work, or adherence to company policies and procedures.
3. Miscommunication: If you have social anxiety and ADHD, as you mentioned, it’s possible that there was a miscommunication or misunderstanding that led to your termination. Your manager and boss may not have fully understood your challenges or how they were affecting your work.
Moving Forward After Being Fired
Regardless of the reason behind your termination, it’s crucial to focus on your next steps and how you can use this experience to grow and move forward in your career.
1. Seek Feedback: While it may be difficult, consider reaching out to your former manager or boss to request feedback on your performance. This can provide valuable insights into what went wrong and how you can improve in the future.
2. Reflect on Your Experience: Take some time to reflect on your brief time at the job and consider if there were any areas where you could have improved. It’s important to be honest with yourself and identify any potential weaknesses or challenges that may have contributed to your termination.
3. Consider Seeking Professional Help: Given your social anxiety and ADHD, it may be beneficial to seek professional support from a therapist or career counselor. They can help you develop strategies for managing your conditions in the workplace and improving your communication and social skills.
4. Start Job Hunting: While being fired can be disheartening, it’s important to remember that it’s not the end of your career. Update your resume, start networking, and begin looking for new job opportunities that align with your skills and interests.
Final Thoughts
Getting fired after the first 4 days of a new job can be a devastating experience, but it’s essential to remember that it doesn’t define your worth or capabilities. Use this setback as an opportunity to learn and grow, and focus on finding a new job where you can thrive. Remember that you are capable and deserving of success, and with the right support and mindset, you can overcome this challenge and build a fulfilling career.
When you fire someone, you want to give them as few details as possible. Anything you say can be used against you.
Not a good fit is a very good baseline reason that is almost impossible to disprove.
Who knows why they didn’t like you, but they obviously had a reason.
Another reason it is common to fire someone in their first 90 days is if you used a recruiter. Many recruiter contracts say they only get paid if the person last X number of days. I have had someone who very clearly lied on their resume that I fired within that timeframe, because we did not want to pay 18% of their yearly salary to a recruiter for a bad fit.
I know this feels bad right now. It could’ve been ANYTHING. Since you’ll truly never know the reason, try not to be so hard on yourself. I’ve been on the recruiting side and I can honestly say it could have been absolutely no reason. You’re better off since they didn’t give you a solid chance to train. Their loss. Good luck in your next role. You’ll be okay.
Yeah, it’s normal.
It could be as simple as someone that works there maybe has a relative to take your spot or an old employee who is skilled wants to come back, or something like that. It could possibly have nothing to do with you and your performance at all.
I’m sorry this happened to you, but don’t beat yourself up.
People are weird. They do stupid stuff and make stupid decisions.
If you have done something really wrong, they would have told you.
Consider it a learning experience and move on.
I fired someone on their 5th day. I am not saying this is your reasoning for it, but I’ll explain why I did it.
During the interview process they seemed more “into” the job and wanted to learn. I started doing training on the product and they were yawning and saying they were bored. I am very passionate in the company and product I was supporting and they had a very uncaring attitude.
I took them out for a fun company lunch to meet the team, and they complained about the food and didn’t speak to any of the team members during lunch. Team members felt uncomfortable.
I don’t helicopter around employees, but they were constantly on YouTube or wasting time versus reading on boarding material all week.
There was a general animosity between them and the other 5 members of my team whom all admittedly got along very well and are a great cultural fit. This new team member was possibly on the spectrum and was something of an oversight from me as they didn’t know how to communicate with people around them.
In 4 days they managed to unintentionally irritate senior leadership and my immediate team because of how socially and culturally incompatible they were. It became a blemish on my leadership and I had made the decision to let them go on the 5th day. As far as reasoning when they asked I just said we had made a poor decision in hiring.
Yeah, normal.
Boss’s perspective: crew lead doesn’t like her. Idrc why. I don’t have another crew that can use her. Sigh. Damn I gotta fire her, worst part of my job.
Most likely crew lead’s perspective, in my experience:
She just .. isn’t… The group isn’t, like, getting things done? Gotta be her.
Real talk:
Crew lead was a kid who doesn’t know how to lead. She wanted stuff from you which we will never know. You didn’t read her mind and did your best. You literally won’t work out.
It’s certainly possible the lead blamed you for something fictitious just to deflect from herself. It’s also possible their next hire will work fine. Super common in construction trades. Someone with minimal leadership skates by for a long time because some people don’t need anything from them.
An experience I had in a construction related field.
Interviewer said they needed a CDL driver just to get equipment to and from job sites, sometimes a few hours at a site, sometimes several weeks at one site so a trip each day. Am I ok figuring out how to be useful? Yeah sure
Figured out the first day, foreman is grumpy, two other guys on the crew are willing to teach me bits of their job but foreman knows most of it. I fall into a pattern of busting my ass for the first 1-3h doing the stuff the other guys hate, mostly lugging eavy supplies and equipment up steep hills. Typically I chill for 10-20m but it’s 100+ degrees so we all do that sometimes. Then the rest of the day I just try to help. These three have a routine and I don’t have skills nor equipment to do much. About half the days, I spend half the day really just chilling. But trying to offer help.
Couple months of this and I get transferred to a new crew. Totally different kind of job. Always stuff to do. New foreman teaching me all kinds of things. It’s challenging mentally and physically but I’m loving it. Two or three weeks go by and new foreman pulls me aside. Why does the first guy hate me? He had told the big boss I’m lazy, big boss was going to fire me. Am I going to keep working like this or just doing it to hold on to the job and going to turn lazy any day now? I explained my side of it – I figured the other two workers said I was good and I was asking to learn. And I had several other jobs lined up anyway, if I wasn’t working out, not a big deal I’d take a long weekend off and not really care, the pace he was seeing was my natural pace.
Worked out with the new foreman for a year, then I had to move more than a thousand miles away.
Point is.
Construction is like that. Some people just don’t work out. If you were trying, then it’s very likely a lack of leadership skills in her part. Because a good leader is going to make their expectations clear.
Honestly there’s only one small possibility I see in OP where it’s your fault. Respectfully and compassionately, it could be your ADHD or whatever. I say this because my wife got on meds and it’s a whole lot easier to work with her. Actually I met her as a coworker (years before we dated, another story) she’s on several mental health meds for multiple diagnoses, definitely pre meds there’s a ton of jobs she just would not work out, and there’s really no other way to explain it, if you don’t know her diagnoses. So if you feel that there’s a possibility medication could improve your focus and efficiency I hope it’s possible to seek that. Also I found out with my wife that women are a lot less likely to get properly diagnosed for ADHD and ADD and optimal treatment early on
Don’t expect honesty from cheap people.
You’ll be just fine.
The more intelligent and empathetic one is, the more you will try to find reasons and excuses for other people’s actions.
Don’t bother.
Did you know that envy can be a trigger for some people. Especially if they feel intimidated in some way by you.
If you go to the forest, you’ll see they chop down the straight trees but leave the crooked ones standing.
Not that you have to answer here, but is it possible that the 19 yr old manager considered you a threat? For example, are you much more attractive than she is?
It’s could be just your lack of experience doing that kind of job. Sometimes employers think they want to hire someone with a clean slate who they can train from the ground up without realizing how much work that can actually be. They can lose patience and be poor trainers themselves. It could be something as petty as not wanting another girl around, especially one a year older. just move on, no big deal.
My guess is that your social anxiety came off as being rude or somehow off putting to your manager. I try not to generalize, but in my experience some women, especially younger ones, will judge other women pretty harshly on their behavior if it somehow doesn’t measure up to their standards. I wouldn’t take it personal. You probably just weren’t a good fit with your manager. It likely had nothing to do with your ability. After all, 4 days is nowhere near long enough to tell if you would be good or not. You can find a better job. You seem thoughtful and intelligent. Good luck.
Years ago I worked at a really toxic company and part of workplace culture in one department was hiring new low-wage staff to use as a dysfunctional motivational tool for other low-wage staff. Someone new coming in was an unspoken threat that one of the regular staff members was possibly going to get fired, because the size of the staff in that department was fixed and they now had more people than they needed. As soon as the manager felt that they had made their point to the regular staff, they fired the person they just hired that week, usually cruelly and where the rest of the workers would see. I have no idea what might have happened with your employer but, in addition to what everyone else has said, there’s a good chance it had absolutely nothing to do with you and you might have dodged a really horrible workplace. Take some time to take care of yourself and then get back out there! Keep at it and you will find a place you like that values your dedication and hard work! ❤️
How fast were you working? Those types of jobs expect high speed per piece and if you were slow enough they may have just thought you’d never get there to meeting the criteria. Though jobs usually give new people some leeway and training to get there instead of firing on day 4. Or perhaps your manager gave them a negative impression of you for whatever reason……and that reason could be something like you were more attractive than them all the way through you got the job they had recommended a friend so now they are being petty and trying to make it so their friend gets hired on as the next choice, or perhaps management had jobs cancelled or less work than anticipated or in general just cost cutting to get their bonus and unfortunately you were the easy mark. Best to just move on and forget about the place and not beat yourself up over it.
It could be that the manager had a personal issue with you. What sort of personality did your manager have? Nineteen is an age in which people are immature. She likely misread you as a person and acted hastily.
I’m a bit socially awkward. I’m an introvert. People interpret my silence as me being arrogant or ‘holier than thou’. I’m not either one. I’ll bet your manager didn’t take the time to get to know you.
Don’t read too much into your firing. You did right by asking questions and accepting feedback. There are likely dozens of other jobs out there. Keep learning and keep working until you find a job you love.
BTW. I was fired from a call center job after one day because I sucked.
I bet you they wanted to hire a family member or friend so out you go. Dumb things like that happen sometimes. It’s not what you know, but who you know.
Probably as simple as your skill level baseline was just too low and they decided it wasn’t worth it to bring you up to speed. Only thing that makes sense with info you have provided.
Maybe they had a friend or relatives that needed a job and since you were the new person they let you go.
Honestly, you were probably too slow, lacked the “umph”, or weren’t learning the details fast enough. I’ve been in physical jobs that required no thinking but was judged and pulled aside immediately for being too slow. There is a quick reaction if you moved too slow at any point or weren’t getting details right the first time shown.
Once I moved to a mental labor type of job I excelled and all my places of work gave me time to learn but I have never been given time to learn when it came to physical labor jobs.
I got fired once from my very first position with an office. I had my own door! I got really excited about that and dove in headfirst. I was the only guy in the office with 20 or so other women. I was let go within two weeks. In retrospect, I could try to think of reasons why but it’s pretty tough to evaluate someone with less than a month’s notice. I hadn’t even had time to start my job in earnest. I did ask some questions about write offs seeing as it was a non-profit, so I could probably say maybe they didn’t like the questions I was asking, who knows. It doesn’t matter. Move on, people do weird things.
They probably didn’t think you were a good fit. My disability got me fired from a lot of jobs and you need to let them know. I’d frankly sue for letting them fire you for your disability get some compensation.
maybe the girl was jealous of you
Did you keep doing things wrong? Did you feel like you could learn the job or we’re you just not getting the hang of it? That may be why.
Hard to say. It is unusual, but probably best not to dwell too much on it.
The main reason to move on is there is no way to know for sure, and you can spend a lot of energy inventing scenarios or analysing every interaction, and the result will be the same… You still won’t be sure.
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life.”