#Decisions #LifeChoices #OnTheFence
Hey there! 😊 I’ve been thinking about something lately, and I’d love to chat about it. What’s currently making you feel undecided or torn? You know, those moments when you’re just not sure which way to go?
This state of being “on the fence” can be really challenging and it’s totally normal. Here are a few reasons why we find ourselves stuck in that spot:
- Overwhelming Choices: Sometimes the sheer number of options can paralyze us. 🌊
- Fear of Regret: What if we make the wrong choice? That fear can lead to constant second-guessing. 🙈
- Pressure from Others: Friends, family, or even societal expectations can add to our confusion. Who do you listen to? 🔄
- Lack of Information: If we don’t have all the information we need, it’s tough to commit to a decision. 📚
So, how does this indecision affect us? It can lead to stress, anxiety, and a feeling of stagnation. It keeps us from moving forward in life and reaching our goals.
But what can we do to tackle this? Here are some strategies that might help:
- Break it Down: Try to list out the pros and cons of each option. This can clarify your thoughts. ✍️
- Seek Advice: Sometimes, talking it over with someone can help you see things from a different perspective! 🗣️
- Set a Deadline: Giving yourself a timeframe to make a decision can reduce pressure and help you commit. ⏳
- Trust Yourself: Remember, no decision is set in stone. You can always adjust if needed! 🌈
Now, I want to hear from you! What’s a recent decision you’ve been grappling with? How did you navigate it? Maybe you have some tips to share that worked for you? Let’s open up this conversation and support each other! 💬✨
Whether to drop out of grad school, if I should have my doctor write me off sick for a few weeks so I can have a break and where I want to go on vacation in October.
Whether to keep putting my feelings into this guy whom I have no idea if he likes me or just sex. (“Ask him” I know but nah, honestly, I’m not about that. I wish he would just tell me, cause if he isn’t in any hurry to tell me, doesn’t that mean he doesn’t feel it?)
Staying with my job or not. I’ve been applying for stuff, but feel like an imposter in every interview. But I need a change.
I signed up for more schooling on a whim last night, but should I go through with it? Will it make me feel more employable and confident?
Having another edible and watching Seinfeld or making a peppermint tea and kindle-ing
Dating. I’ve been in my ~working on myself~ era since my breakup back in December and still don’t have any motivation to date beyond societal pressure. Sometimes it feels like there is something wrong with me. I want a partner and family eventually but every time I try to get involved with someone now, I quickly lose interest and feel selfish as I’m really just focused on my own goals.
Where to have poke bowls this weekend. My older kid is moving to college this week and my partner is traveling out of state with his brother for the weekend. So my 14 year old was like “Hell yes, mother. Now we can go out for poke bowls!” So do we go to an old favorite that’s hella busy, try a new-to-us place? Try someplace out of town?
Whether to stay at my current job or transfer to a different department. It will be two years later this year at my current job… and I don’t see it going in the direction I was promised.
where I want to get married!
Going to grad school, how to balance grad school and a full time job, how long I’ll have to stay at this job with great benefits but a toxic environment to make everything work
Whether to order dinner or make dinner. On the one hand, ordering out is $$. But on the other, I’ve got hella meetings this afternoon lasting into the evening, and I kinda want to throw money at the problem and just have food delivered.
Should I watch yet another episode of Xavier: Renegade Angel or should I do something a normal adult person would do
Going No Contact with my whole family after i move out. I just am so done with the drama. But if i do that i separate my daughter from her family. IDK
I’m 36w pregnant and my toddler is napping. Do I keep cleaning and make his lunch now so that it’s ready when he gets up, or sit down and enjoy my show and a snack in peace
Having children – too many of us on this poor struggling planet
I want a new perfume, and I don’t know which one to buy it…
Kids and marriage
Having my IUD taken out.
Pursuing additional certifications like an MBA or a PMP.
Incurring additional debt/costs and trying to balance it with a full time job has me waffling.
Rejoining the gym
I have an event later that I *should* go to but I’m not required to. It’s a good opportunity to network and get my foot in the door. But I’m very burned out mentally right now and I’m afraid if I don’t go I’ll regret it.
Making kombucha. I like it and I don’t like how expensive it is. But I also don’t like flies in my apartment and someone told me that’ll probably happen.
Whether or not I’ll ever afford to be comfortably alive
If I like my roommate and want more with him or I just feel this way because he’s talking to his ex and I’m scared to lose him.
I’d really like to figure this out before he starts actually dating because I 100% don’t want to be “that girl” but I also don’t want to say I want more and potentially ruin the friendship unless I am super sure
if i should quit my current job and start a new one for less money or just tough it out for a while
Whether I should put some distance or cut off communication between me and a close friend that I have strong romantic feelings for. I know I love them, but I do not think they can love me back the way I need it. On the one hand, I cannot imagine my life without them in it. On the other hand, I think staying ONLY friends with them might put me in a constant state of depression because I always picture us as being something more and it never turns out the way I hope.
Dating my bestfriend of ten years . Both fresh out of relationships