What are the top regrets adults over 30 have about their younger years? Did you miss out on opportunities or make decisions you wish you could change? Share your experiences and learn from others in the same boat! #regrets #adulting #lifelessons #reflection #wisdom #growth #yolo
Reflecting on the Past
What do you wish you had done differently when you were younger?
– Not pursuing a passion or hobby
– Not traveling or exploring new places
– Not taking care of your health or mental well-being
– Not investing in relationships or friendships
– Not taking risks or stepping out of your comfort zone
Learning from Others
What advice do you have for younger generations?
– Seize opportunities and take risks
– Prioritize self-care and mental health
– Invest in relationships and cherish friendships
– Embrace new experiences and challenges
– Live life with no regrets
Join the conversation and share your own insights to help others navigate through their youth with wisdom and purpose! #lifeadvice #selfgrowth #noregrets #mentorship #perspective
Not taking my education seriously.
Not keeping in touch with old friends. Thought we’d reconnect easily, but everyone drifted apart and got busy with their own lives.
Staying in shape. It is so much harder later in life to keep up. lose weight and all the rest.
I wish I hadn’t treated life like it was a rehearsal. I didn’t do drugs or drink dangerously or do anything exciting enough to be worth the risk, but I lost friends and family by just being selfish. I shouldn’t have been so impulsive or assumed there would always be “second chances”
This is the right question. Your regrets are usually due to not doing something you could’ve controlled. The answer to your question is put yourself out there and go do it, whatever it is.
I regret changing degrees in pursue of my idiotic dreams.
not taking school seriously, not learning to play an instrument, not chosing a sport and sticking to it.
Prioritize making new friends when you graduate from college
I regret doing what my parents expected of me instead of what I wanted to do.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
If you are young and having back issues or any other chronic or not problem you HAVE to take care of this before it spirals out of control. you may think you’re tough and push through it now or that they will go away but these types of problems can slowly get worse and worse and creep up on you.
I am currently living with the consequences of this. I feel like I am 90 and I have at least 4 major health issues at the moment and I don’t even know where to start. if I had tackled my neck issues when I was younger my life would be a lot better right now.
100 sit ups every day
TEETH
Wish I’d Brushed and flossed more regularly, gone to the dentist every six months; etc.
Quitting my career to be a SAHM. It had to happen, it was a necessity and thoroughly talked and agreed upon. It just kills me daily knowing I could have been really great.
Excuse me 30 is still young
But mine would be acting like I’m 30 and not enjoying my teens and twenties like I should.
All the drinking in my late teens into my mid twenties. Who knows where I’d be now if I hadn’t wasted so much time and money getting drunk with a bunch of losers back then.
Getting married so young. I’m getting divorced now, but I wish I had more single time in my twenties.
I’m 35 and started learning guitar last year. I regret not doing it as a kid.
Dealing with my trauma instead of running from it
Start an investment portfolio or like a Roth/IRA
Even if you only dump $10/mo in it.
Even if your job does one. Start building long term wealth for the cost of a burger.
I was able to pay the down payment on my first house by draining my Roth that I started at 18
Not being unapologetically myself
Quit drinking. Alcohol sucks and it’s really bad for you. Wasn’t an alcoholic, just got really bad hangovers and anxiety after drinking. Haven’t had a sip in 51 weeks.
Standing up for myself.
I lived way too long trying to make others happy and letting them manipulate me
My family used this to their fullest advantage
I stopped it now but wish I had the backbone 20 years ago
Education seriously, travelled more, cut off toxic people sooner, invested in my future and didn’t blow money on dumb shit.
Investing
Not realizing how quickly needing to be an adult creeps up on you. I remember being 17 and thinking 30 was so far away. Now I’m closing in on 40 and wishing I had done more to prep for being an adult.
I had as much fun as I could when I was in my teens and twenties.
Do I regret spending money I didn’t have doing things I shouldn’t have because it set me back financially 10 years? no, yes, not really. Would I rather do those things in my 60s-70s when I could afford it? No.
So no, I don’t regret it. Do the things if you can while you can because tomorrow may not come for you. That’s doesn’t mean break the law. It means if you want to take a trip to see what the hell ever, just do. Because once you start adulting you may have the money to do but you sure as shit won’t have the time.
Do I regret breaking my body playing sports and other activities that I am now sufferings through because I pushed my body to an extreme level?
When I am hurting a lot? yeah.
When I am reminiscing about it? No. It was fun as hell.
So while you are young, you do you. Go have fun. As long as the only person you are hurting is you.
Now when you get older and look back and think. “maybe I shouldn’t have done that or said that” All that means you are growing as a person. I hope you have those moments before you are 30 but it’s never to late to stop being a dick.
I regret not blocking toxic family members from my life.
Studying abroad. I’m 34, recently divorced, and thinking about finally doing it next year. But I can’t help but to feel I should stay where I am and focus on finding a new partner.
I regret thinking that nice things were not for people like me. The number of experiences, travel, career opportunities I turned down is crazy. All because I didn’t think I was good enough to deserve them.
Worked an awful, dead end job for way too long.
Regret spending my twenties playing video games. I did go to uni and got a degree as well, but there’s so much I never experienced because I just sat in my room on my computer all the time.
Fucking around more. Following rules too much made for a boring childhood.
Wish I hadn’t worried so much about not being in a relationship.
I wish I’d slept around a little more before getting married and having kids.
I regret not doing work on my mental health sooner.
My friends and I talked about doing a 2-3 week Europe trip back in our 20s. “Oh maybe next year”. Eventually jobs, bills and families put all that to rest.
This is a little complicated, but I wish I had been able to come to terms with not caring what people think of me when I was younger. It did wonders for my confidence.
Psychedelics, regret not doing.
Seeking ADHD treatment.
I’ve lost wait as ibate out of boredom and as a way to cope with it essentially. I struggled through all levels of school because of it. I never found a career I was passionate about due to it.
Pursuing my own interests rather than my parents approval
When I was 30 I was married. We were in the process of moving. The wife had gone on ahead and I would be following in a month after finishing up my job.
Everything was packed up and sent ahead. I was sleeping on an air mattress and had a lawn chair in the living room. No TV. no computer. My only entertainment was library books.
So a few days before I was scheduled to leave I just got so bored of reading library books that I decided to go out. I hit up a local bar, had a good time.
I’d been talking to a couple of college girls and one thing lead to another and they invited me back to their place for a threesome.
And I thought to myself, there’s no way the wife could ever find out. I’ll be gone in 2 day so there’s no way that these girls would ever be able to track me down again. It’s perfect.
And then I turned them down, because I’m married and that means something to me. My marriage was worth more than a one time fling.
Anyway, long story short, 3 years later I was divorced after finding out that my wife slept with 5 other men. I kind of regret my choice now.
I regret not pursuing my Masters degree. I graduated in 2009, which was considered the worst year to graduate, and it was near impossible to get a job. My friends that earned their Masters and graduated in 2011 are much better off. They got jobs right away in our field. I didn’t start working in a somewhat related field until 2015.
Travel. One you have a family, career, mortgage payments, etc, the time, resources and energy for travel just seemed to disappear.
I wish I had treated myself with respect, and taken my mental health seriously. I’m doing that now and it’s making a big difference.
Regret not doing: take education more seriously. Not neccesarily school, but just having ANY interest in something would’ve been nice. I landed on my feet quite well, but I wish I was more into craftsmanship sooner for instance.
Started smoking cigarettes. Did it for about 30 years although I’ve quit now. Don’t do it kids !
I did my thesis on regret as a function of age (using a survey with 1400 participants). The overwhelming finding was that regret for things that you fail to do (omission regrets) stick with you much more than regrets for things you did (commission regrets). Furthermore, when we are young, omission regrets are less salient and meaningful. As we age, regret for things we fail to do bother us more while we tend to get over our commission regrets. This is not surprising.
What was surprising was that people with a sense of spirituality find that having regret (regardless of the type) is a useful experience, and they benefit from revisiting or thinking about these things in several domains: making sense of life, fostering social connections, and guiding future decisions.