#UnderstandingMen #RelationshipInsights #MalePerspective #MenRevealed
## One Thing Women Should Know About Men
Hey there! 🌟 It’s time to lift the veil and uncover what many women often overlook when it comes to understanding men better. The male mind can be an intricate puzzle at times, but fear not! With a few insights, you can decode their behavior and emotions more effectively. Ready to dive into the male psyche? Let’s go! 💬
### Communication Is Key
1. Listening vs. Problem-Solving
Men often lean towards solving problems when they share their thoughts, while women may look for empathy and understanding. Recognizing this difference can help bridge the communication gap.
2. Directness over Hinting
Men tend to communicate directly and appreciate clear, concise messages. Dropping hints might go unnoticed, so being upfront can lead to better understanding.
### Emotional Expression
1. Vulnerability Matters
Contrary to popular belief, men have emotions too! Expressing vulnerability doesn’t make them weak; it showcases their depth and strengthens connections.
2. Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Some men may struggle with verbalizing their feelings, but they often show their affection through gestures and actions. Recognizing these subtle cues can deepen emotional bonds.
### Independence and Support
1. Space is Healthy
Men value their independence and personal time. Giving them space doesn’t mean they care any less; it allows them to recharge and maintain a healthy balance.
2. Supportive Relationships
Men appreciate having a supportive partner who stands by them through thick and thin. Showing understanding and encouragement can create a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
### Conclusion
So, what’s the key takeaway here? Understanding men goes beyond stereotypes and assumptions. By acknowledging their communication styles, emotional expression, independence, and support needs, women can foster deeper connections with the men in their lives. Remember, every individual is unique, but these insights can serve as a compass to navigate the intricate world of male emotions and behaviors. 🚀 Embrace the differences, celebrate the similarities, and watch your relationships flourish! 💖 #RelationshipGoals #EmpathyWins
that we’re not gonna assault, stalk or offend you
stop! sucking! my goddamn ears!
That we don’t think you’re special just because you exist. You have to demonstrate WHY you’re special and exactly what you bring to the table besides your looks, if even that.
That men actually love more deeply than women. Precisely because it’s not so easy for us just to jump ship into another person’s arms. That we bond through physical touch/sex and it’s not all about getting off. A man can hardly mention sex without getting pigeon holed as only caring about one thing.
That the most common advice that women give to men only make their interactions with creeps more likely. Those who are predisposed to value your boundaries are going to listen to your words. When you say “don’t approach me in public” they listen. Those who don’t are the ones you meet. And so the world of crossed boundaries leading to the generalization that all men are assholes is a self selection pressure stemming from trying to control who approaches you rather than asking “how can I recognize when someone approaches with bad intentions?” Which you’d find through asserting any boundary and watching someone immediately cross it.
Bad messaging leads to unintended consequences.
Just because the bias is “all men” doesn’t mean it is all men.
The effort we put into a relationship and just living. It feels like most of it dismissed because “that’s just what men do”. Sometimes i feel like a man first and a human second, if at all.
That things cost money and we’re telling you to turn the lights off when you leave a room because you’re wasting money and electricity.
I wish they would understand that I actually want to be loved and cared for and cherished and appreciated.
How the majority of men seem completely invisible to them, making them hold sexist stereotypes about us.
That even though I work with heavy equipment for a logging company and I look gruff, am 6’2” and 200lbs, I smoke and drink and have a lot of scars and tats. I work long hours and talk like a sailor. Sometimes…. Just sometimes… I want to be the little spoon.
That we are collectively going through a difficult transition period where a lot of older men think that the role of a man is providership above all else and the basic reality that nowadays it… doesn’t really have to be.
Most women have their own thing going career wise and don’t need you for that.
So the biggest advice that younger men should be getting but aren’t is basically just “Work hard *and* do so for something you actually enjoy doing.” (Or at least something you don’t *hate*.)
You don’t have to settle for a job that kills you or that you dread anymore. You can do things that you enjoy and find actual interest in now.
You can also put your usefulness eggs in more usefulness baskets – household chores, career, hobbies, parenting, caregiving, education, family, etc.
But you’re still going to be looked at sideways by a lot of bitter and jealous older dudes if you do follow your passion instead of a paycheck.
The guys who have the “confidence” to approach a lot of women without any invitation (so hot, right?) are the same guys who will cheat, or play video games while you’re doing all the housework, etc.
If he felt entitled to your time in the first place, that’s not going to change when you promise your life to him.
I love my fiancé to death, but I wish she would understand that sometimes I keep my battles in life inside a lot not because I don’t want to tell her, but because I rather be a strong and help her with her problems rather than her have to deal with mine.
When dating we are more or less just like women. We are shy, don’t know what to say. We fantasise and we stalk your social media😂
We don’t open up about the things that bother us because we know we’ll be ostracized and no longer treated as men.
We don’t have the same emotional support women have, so that’s why we bottle things up.
Direct communication goes much much farther with us than the hint game.
I am 6’ 3” built like a box car not heavy just muscled but working type not gym rat but I drive over the road tractor and it would be nice to hear a soft voice in these lonely times .
So many things. Your experiences as a woman concerning dating are wildly different in every way. The power is so far skewed for whatever reason (this needs to be rectified by any means necessary because it’s leading to an irredeemably negative outcome; just wait and see. It’s already happening before our very eyes). You’ll never know what it’s like to be truly ignored. Not sad because that one guy that every girl thinks is hot won’t talk to you, but seriously ignored. Like you don’t exist. That feeling of complete failure because no one, NO ONE, wants you. It’s not you don’t like the girls that like you. It’s that there are no girls. None. You are less than worthless to them because you aren’t exceptional so you don’t exist. The completely helpless feeling of not wanting to be alone but having a less than zero chance of ever changing that because at the end of the day, you’re at the mercy of another person actually liking you.
Eventually, eating a shotgun shell looks better and better.
Women definitely don’t understand that men have feelings too.
Women are all big on expressing their emotions, but they sneer at and mock men for “not being tough enough” if men choose to do the same.
Based on the number of questions I have seen on this sub about men’s preferences for physical appearance, I think women feel that men are a lot more critical of physical appearances than we are. Generally, when guys talk about their preferences, those are fantasies, not actual dating expectations.
The fact that this question is asked multiple times daily and they still don’t listen or understand the answers
That we genuinely don’t know what made them upset n thus we ask what went wrong , had we known it in the first place we wouldn’t do that in sane mind n further somehow maybe it’s difficult for women to show understand this for somehow they are built different n they seem to understand things without us telling , so. All I say is don’t get mad at us for not figuring out what went wrong when u don’t let us know.
Your ideal point of getting mad should we when u inform us the problem n made us understand it n yet when we repeat it with audacity
We are not a monolith. Each is a man in his own right.
That we are not going to be all over you 💯 of the time unless we get alone time.
That just because we experience emotions differently doesn’t mean that we’re void of them or don’t feel things deeply outside of anger
We just don’t want to exhausting talk about everything. Identify problem, identify solution, put plan to correct problem in place… correct problem. Stop spinning about everything.
Buy us flowers!
You know how it goes “woman are people too approach them like you would anybody else” yeah wellllllllll men are people too. Like society forgets it often. That’s why I like the head nods for us guys. It’s like I see you man. All genders and races acknowledge.
We are people too
That many men are suffering and need support/healing.
One thing I’ve learned to do is ask a single question when the wife is complaining:
Are you looking for a solution, or do you simply need to vent?
One major difference that I’ve come to realize is that men, myself included, are very solutions oriented. You have a problem? I will do all I can to fix it. But there are times she doesn’t want a solution and only wants to complain or vent or whatever. But this is something I need to know beforehand to structure my responses correctly. Sometimes she just wants me to say “Damn <<insert name>> was such a cunt. Why would <<he/she/they>> do that? That bitch!”
So ladies, don’t get offended if your man starts giving you advice on something you know how to handle. It’s not mansplaining, it’s us solutioning for a problem we don’t know is already handled.
Additionally, this is why therapy is less effective for men. We need actionable direction, not emotional expression. We, typically, like goals and especially achieving those goals with tangible results (which is also why we get frustrated at work when we do exceptionally well and no raise/bonus/acknowledgement the following <<insert timeframe>>).
We need affirmation too
We aren’t ATMs.
We have feelings and we don’t just want to be your provider. Playing hard to get and comparing us or yourself to exes sucks ass. Personally, I don’t care about your past if it’s not affecting you today when in Love, that includes body count. I just want some cuddles.
That no two men’s needs/wants/desires are going to be the same. We are all individuals and vestly different, just like women.
Most of us aren’t dangerous
The I’m not your therapist if you need to talk or help about something but they’re the first to trauma dump and expect you to handle all your shit and theirs while ignoring yours
I also have emotions, time and preferences.
We’re oblivious to flirting.
When we’re silent it doesn’t mean were mad at you
I think the term emotional intelligence gets thrown around by women as some kind of medal they think sets them above men.
It’s used wrongly by them imo.
Types of intelligence are a spectrum of physical, mental, psychological and emotional in broad terms.
A physically intelligent person will have good body control, spatial awareness and knowledge of their literal strengths and weakness. Mental would be problem solving and analysis of stuff (not people). Psychological and emotional would be the social and interpersonal human interactions awareness and application.
I see women as far more emotionally EXPRESSIVE and they can be so overbearing and intense about things It’s almost like they’re at the edge of a meltdown. Men tend to be more thoughtful, reserved and perhaps analytical (mentally appraising) their emotions internally rather than externally as women do.
It’s not more intelligent to vomit your whole experience out into the world while at the same time It’s not that healthy to remain constipated with pent up emotions that may end up as a pressure cooker with no vent causing mental illness or apparent remote/cold behaviour.
just tell me what you want
ffs