#FirstDateRules #DatingAdvice #DatingTips #RelationshipAdvice
First dates can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. Whether you met through a dating app, a mutual friend, or a chance encounter, there are some unsaid first date rules that everyone should know. These unspoken guidelines can help set the tone for a successful and enjoyable first date. In this article, we’ll explore some of the most important first date rules and provide practical tips for navigating the complexities of a first date.
## 1. Be punctual ⏰
Arriving on time shows respect for your date and sets a positive tone for the evening. If unforeseen circumstances arise, communicate with your date and let them know that you’ll be running late.
## 2. Dress appropriately 👗👔
While it’s important to be yourself, it’s also essential to make a good impression. Dress in a way that reflects your personal style while considering the venue and the nature of the date.
## 3. Put your phone away 📵
Give your date your full attention by keeping your phone on silent and away from the table. Engaging in meaningful conversation is key to getting to know each other.
## 4. Be yourself 🌟
Authenticity is attractive. Be genuine and honest in your interactions, and let your true personality shine through.
## 5. Listen actively 👂
Conversations should be a two-way street. Show interest in your date’s experiences, opinions, and stories, and actively listen to what they have to say.
## 6. Keep the conversation light and positive 😊
Steer clear of controversial or heavy topics, such as politics and ex-relationships, and focus on positive and lighthearted subjects to create a comfortable and enjoyable atmosphere.
## 7. Mind your manners 🍴
Good etiquette goes a long way. Be polite to the waitstaff, hold the door open, and express gratitude throughout the date.
## 8. Offer to split the bill 💵
While traditional gender norms may dictate that the person who initiated the date pays, offering to split the bill shows consideration and respect.
## 9. Show gratitude and follow up 💌
Thank your date for their time and express appreciation for the evening. If you’re interested in seeing them again, follow up with a text or call to express your desire for a second date.
## 10. Trust your instincts 🤔
Above all, trust your instincts. If something feels off or uncomfortable, it’s okay to politely end the date and prioritize your own well-being.
In conclusion, first dates can be both thrilling and challenging. By adhering to these unsaid first date rules, you can create a positive and memorable experience for both you and your date. Remember to be punctual, dress appropriately, put your phone away, be yourself, listen actively, keep the conversation light and positive, mind your manners, offer to split the bill, show gratitude and follow up, and trust your instincts. Following these guidelines can help pave the way for a successful and enjoyable first date. Good luck!
Don’t eat before your date arrives to the restaurant
Just talk. First dates are for getting to know people.
Don’t go in assuming the other person will pay for you, don’t only talk about yourself (ask them questions too), and try to keep the conversation light. You can get into deeper convos if things go well and you have more dates.
Talk about only yourself and the person in front of you
Let them order their own drink after they get there.
Wear deodorant, please refrain from farting at the dinner table, stop talking about how great your ex was (or wasn’t), and most importantly, stop looking at the Waitresses ass everytime she sashays past your table, you might think it goes unnoticed but Women see everything.
I carry a floss stick in my pocket so I can excuse myself at some point after eating to go to the bathroom and double check for anything and take care of it.
Hope for the best, plan for the worst.
Make sure you have an ‘out’ if they turn out to be psycho (assuming you don’t know them from before as a friend)
Don’t talk about your ex.
Make plans after talking about a place you both may like. So learn a bit about them first. This also helps have conversations ready in case an uncomfortable silence. Be on time, stay off your phone, smile and relax. Have good manners but still be yourself. Thank them for a nice evening.
If she recoils when you try to kiss her and says “it was great meeting you!” it’s over.
Don’t put your phone on the table, not even on the table face down. It must remain in your pocket.
Smell nice.
Chew with your mouth shut
If u r a guy, rub one out right before heading there. Postnut clarity is a real thing and you’ll spot red flags or if it turned out well, both will feel a more sincere connection.
Whenever I’m about to do something on a first date, I think, “Would an idiot do that?” And if they would, I do not do that thing.
Shower and put on clean clothes atleast that morning.
Don’t arrive early and eat an entire meal before your date arrives.
Shower.
(This extends beyond the first date though. Definitely not a one time thing.)
Don’t talk about yourself in the third person. Lol
Don’t suggest meeting at your house. And don’t agree to go to their house.
It’s just a date right now y’all aren’t anything more than friends don’t go in for the kiss unless both of you are ok with it just try to have fun and stop thinking about what could happen and focus on what is happening also don’t talk about yourself the whole time
Only smile at her face.
Shower. Show up on time. Put your phone down. Don’t talk about your ex. Don’t treat the waitstaff like shit.
Don’t be afraid of awkward silences. And don’t overthink
Ask open ended questions and follow up questions. Have some thought out responses for the basic questions that are more in depth than the one/two word answers. My rule was keep her talking 2/3 to 3/5 of the time. I want to know as much about her as she is willing to share and most women love talking about themselves if you show some interest and follow up.
Eat at home, so when your date arrive late, you’re not hungry.
Always have your own money and always have an exit strategy. We all hope for the best but you need to be prepared in case the date is awful.
bring up your ex to let her know what she’s competing with. forget your wallet. arrive 30mins late so she knows you’re a busy person. don’t shower, so she offers a shower together at her place
Have fun and get to know one another. Leave your preconceived notions at the door. It’s absolutely baffling how many people take their problems and check lists and make it everyone else’s problem.
Drive yourself so if they turn out to be psycho you can easily leave.
Men – dont be a creep
Women – love at first sight isn’t real
Both – give people a fair chance. Listen as much as you talk. Pick a casual spot, a cafe is always good, as if it goes well, you can general go from a drink to food easily without changing places. If you are the one who planned the date, have an idea of what you can do to extend the date if it goes well. If you asked the person out, assume you’re paying, not that the other person is, or that they’re happy to split. Pay attention to body language. Pay attention to your own personal hygiene.
Don’t tell the date you could see yourself marrying them. Happened to me and two other friends. So creepy
* Text soon afterward if you like the person.
* Don’t treat it as an aggressive interview for your big-ticket compatibility items. It’s off-putting. Let that information come out naturally. A first date is a test for whether you enjoy their company.
* Don’t show up with a chip on your shoulder (the attitude of “I know my worth,” “Don’t waste my time,” “I don’t sugarcoat things,” “I weed people out who can’t handle me”).
* If they seem bored, ordering another drink won’t spice things up.
* If the person gives a bad excuse to discontinue the date or to not see you again, accept it with grace and move on.
Do not do a movie date for the first date. You’ll be unable to get to know them and it’s just awkward. No one wants to sit alone in the dark with a stranger for two hours not talking.
“Any amount of cheese, before a date, is too much cheese.”
Men: you go to a first date hoping you like her, and she likes you. You don’t let a friend know where you’re going with who as a safety precaution.
She goes to first date hoping the same, but also hoping she doesnt get raped, killed, or otherwise harmed. She most likely has told a friend where she is and with whom, as a safety precaution.
Remember this profound difference in perspectives…
Almost leave the other person a way out. If the other person wants to leave, let ’em.
Do not show her pictures of animals you have hunted and killed. This includes fish.
Don’t kill your date. They usually don’t like that.
Actually use the word “date” when asking them out.
“Hanging out” and “meeting up ” is for friends.