#RelationshipAdvice #WomenEmpowerment #SelfWorth #Breakups
Have you ever been in a relationship where your friends and family members told you that you could do much better than your significant other? It’s a common situation that many women find themselves in at some point in their lives. Maybe your partner wasn’t treating you right, or perhaps you just weren’t compatible in the long run. Whatever the case may be, it’s important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you.
So, what happens next after you’ve been told that you could do much better than your current partner? Let’s delve into some possible scenarios and outcomes:
1. **Reflecting on the Relationship**
– Take some time to reflect on your relationship and think about whether you’re truly happy.
– Consider the reasons why your friends and family members think you could do better.
– Evaluate whether your partner is meeting your emotional needs and treating you with respect.
2. **Having a Heart-to-Heart**
– Have an honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns.
– Express what you need in the relationship and see if your partner is willing to make changes.
– Listen to their perspective and see if there’s a way to improve the relationship.
3. **Taking Action**
– If you realize that the relationship is not fulfilling your needs, it may be time to make a difficult decision.
– Break up with your partner if you feel that it’s the best course of action for your emotional well-being.
– Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can help you through the transition.
4. **Moving On**
– Once you’ve ended the relationship, focus on self-care and healing.
– Take time to rediscover yourself and what makes you happy.
– Don’t rush into a new relationship; give yourself time to be single and reflect on what you want in a partner.
5. **Embracing Your Worth**
– Remember that you deserve to be with someone who uplifts and supports you.
– Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve in a relationship.
– Value yourself and your worth, and don’t let anyone else dictate your happiness.
In conclusion, if you’ve been told that you could do much better than your current partner, it’s important to listen to your instincts and evaluate the relationship. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you. Making the decision to end a relationship can be tough, but it’s important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Embrace your worth and know that you have the strength to move on to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship in the future.
I hear that from time to time. Objectively im probably much more attractive than him. But besides that he is hot to me he is also the most genuine, caring, sane, and compatible person to me that I have ever met. plus a lot of other qualities. So usually I just say that “Im the lucky one”. And other times i just smile and dont mind.
Eventually, the guy proved that they were right. I’ve learned that being happy alone is also “doing much better” than being with them.
Worked on my issues and did much better. I have heard this with almost all my boyfriends. Sometimes people see things in ourselves we don’t see, and it’s not just about what we look like. When everybody was actually happy for me with my current bf it meant he was a good one.
I left the fundie church where people were saying that and married my SO. ☺️ zero regrets.
They were judging on the shallowest of standards; pretty much the main things were looks and religion. “You can do better than a [insert religion here.]” When I had my “nice christian boyfriend” I was miserable, his family were bigots, and I had to constantly pretend I didn’t have opinions unless I was ready to be criticized and demeaned by literally entire groups of people in person.
The person who told me that (my best friend of many years) started sleeping with him a month after he ripped my heart out so…..
But doesn’t matter now bc I met the man of my dreams and can’t believe I settled for anything less!
I was dating my ex when he introduced me to his grandma. Right before we were about to leave, she pulls me aside and tells me I can do better than her grandson. I was really surprised she would say such a thing in front of him. We laughed it off in the beginning. But as we approached the 6 month mark, I realized she was right. Not because I think I’m better than anyone, but he was just a loser and she was trying to save my time. But of course I didn’t listen and suffered for 2 years like a dumb dumb
They were right. They were able to see him in a different light than I did. Eventually I myself was able to see it and I left. I beefed up my standards of what I looked for in a man. Then I got told my expectations were way too high and I would be single for ever. Not only did I meet someone who met all my expectations but he surpassed them. I’ve never been happier.
People started telling me this when things were crumbling. He had cheated and it opened the flood gates of people telling me that I could do better, that I deserved better and that apparently they’d thought that for years! And they didn’t even know the half of it.
I did leave him. And I’m with someone that is better in every aspect! I also don’t have to hide things he says or does to me to make him look good. If anything it’s hard not to brag about him
I argued and disagreed with them at first, but eventually my ex proved them all right lol.
My ex himself told me, i deserve someone better. I thought I loved him so much, gave time and space and was very patient waiting for him to be committed as much as I was. One day he ended it giving various reasons and the last message of his was you deserve better, I was furious at the time and thought I would never date anyone again. But after a few months I met my now boyfriend, I didn’t even give much attention at the beginning. But it didn’t take very long to understand I met someone I actually deserved. I met my dream man. I have never had this beautiful relationship with anyone. We reciprocate the same energy. I am so grateful that my ex left, I will always be thankful.
We are getting married. When I introduced him to a close friend 5 years ago, she said he “didn’t have the same zest for life” that I did and that I was wasting my time. For context, I connect easily with people and I have been told I bring good energy into a room. My partner is way more laid back and quiet and my friend thought he did not match my energy. Anyways, I did not believe what she said and kept following my heart and here we are. He is the yin to my yang and I am grateful he is nothing like me. He makes me a better person and he reminds me when its time to go home. As for the friend, she was in a horrible relationship at the time so I think she loved my misery I experienced when I was dating absolute losers. She is happily engaged now and equally as happy for my own upcoming nuptials.
People told me I could do better with my ex so I asked myself if I felt the same way. I did. So I broke up and found someone who treated me better. Never looked back and very happy now.
They were right. He became abusive (or rather, he felt safe to let his abusive nature out more), and I ended up breaking up with him
I hear it a lot, because I am physically much more attractive than my SO. But at the end of the day, who cares. I’m happy I’m not lonely and am with a real man who cares about me and kisses the ground I walk on. That in itself, keeps me content and happy.
They were right, but we were married. I wasted the prime of my life because I took my vows seriously. Tried to make it work and be the best wife I could.
He was obese (not a problem on its own) and became morbidly so. And abusive- emotionally and sexually- he lied, spent money secretly, used sex workers, coerced sex, and he sexually assaulted me.
I wish I’d believed in my own worth as a teen. Now, decades later, I’m all used up and ruined.
All the ‘much better’ talk honestly just fueled me into staying longer than I should have. But honestly what separated us wasn’t the love he excelled in that it was life.. financials and such , the struggling. eventually I realized that life would be easier without him, was a hard decision but 7 months later I still feel it was the right decision.
I did. His cousins told me I deserved better, so I divorced him, and found better.
That guy only got worse over time and eventually the relationship crashed and burned. I know have a partner that’s much better, and understand what everyone was talking about.
Married him and have had 17.5 happy years and two daughters. I’m significantly more attractive than him but it has never bothered me. It confuses everyone we meet.
I eventually realized it myself and I’ve broken up with every one of them. I’m not great at picking men 😭😅
I married him and we’re happy together:) I was told I’m prettier than him but he’s so hot to my eye and why would I care what someone else thinks how he looks? I’m the one married to him.
This used to make me cringe so hard when I was younger. Literally every time it came from a woman who was with a really ugly unattractive guy. The judgment from them was hysterical and uncalled for.
Well, people used to tell me that with my ex. They were right. It took me some time to really believe them because I was kind of embarrassed that I was dating this loser. I was trying to get him to be… “better.” The potential, you know? Ugh. BUT – the bright side, I met my husband because of him, so it was not wasted time.
Ive remained single for 10 years and counting.
He cheated on me and treated me like crap. I did indeed do much better next time around.
Each guy was an improvement, but I always ended up with the partner I was ready for at the time.
I was single for a LOT of my life, and when I finally ended up at a point where I really loved myself and loved being alone, I met the guy who is now my husband.
Ten years later, we’re really good together. Open communication, touching base with each other, growing together, all the good things.
The other thing is that we both know that relationships are hard work and that we will (and have!) gone through difficult times, but that we choose to love each other and we choose to be better for the other person.