#RejectedProposal #PostProposalLife #WhatHappensAfterRejection
Hey there! 😊 If you’ve ever been in a situation where you popped the question and got a disappointing answer, you’re not alone. It can be a tough pill to swallow, but remember, life doesn’t end after a rejection. Many men have navigated similar situations and come out stronger on the other side. Let’s delve into what typically happens after a proposal rejection and how you can move forward positively.
Initial Reactions and Emotions
– Shock and disbelief
– Sadness and disappointment
– Anger and frustration
Post-Rejection Actions
– **Reflect and process**: Take time to understand your emotions and thoughts.
– **Communicate**: Talk to your partner about their reasons for saying no.
– **Seek support**: Lean on friends and family for comfort.
– **Seek professional help**: Consider therapy to work through your feelings.
Possible Outcomes
– **Reconciliation**: Some couples work through the rejection and come out stronger.
– **Moving on**: In some cases, the relationship may not survive the rejection, leading to a breakup.
– **Personal growth**: Many individuals find strength and learn valuable lessons from the experience.
Real-Life Examples
– Tom proposed to his girlfriend, who turned him down. They decided to take a break and eventually got back together stronger than ever.
– Alex proposed to his partner, who said no. They amicably parted ways and remained friends, both finding happiness in new relationships.
Remember, a rejected proposal is not the end of the world. It’s an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and potentially a chance for a better future. Stay strong, stay positive, and remember that everything happens for a reason. 💪 #StayStrongAfterRejection
I didn’t ask her again. We split up no that long afterwards actually.
Not sure how someone gets their proposal rejected? Why would you propose if you don’t even know she’s ready. You can easily ask her if she’d marry you early in the relationship
Should never happen to anyone. You should have the marriage convo long before actually asking. Also a proposal should only end in one of two ways; engagement or breakup.
I had a friend who’s proposal should had been denied. He asked her when they were on vacation. He really wanted to be married and I think this girl was just the most recent. That and before the proposal it was pretty noticeable that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. She slept with one our mutual friends the next day. She didn’t have it in her to day no but she could cheat on a guy so he’d dump her. Frankly both of them were messed up and I was glad it was over.
i’m assuming you’re asking guys because they’re usually the ones who propose, but i’m a chick and this happened to me, so i hope i’m welcome to post here?
it happened just about a month ago, lol. he and i already talked about getting marriage, but my timing was really shitty. we both had a lot of financial and personal shit going on. when i proposed, he just reacted really sad, like when you have to tell a kid that his dad who left for cigarettes isn’t coming back, lmao. he gently explained to me that now’s not a good time to think about marriage and some other time would be better, and he gave me a lot of care and cuddles afterwards. pretty much the next day things were back to normal between us, but i still felt hella embarrassed and stupid that i did that.
thankfully, things are always super casual between us and i didn’t even buy a ring (just grabbed his hand and got down on a knee), so no money wasted at least, aha!
Moved on..
I asked someone else two years later and we’re getting married in November.
Broke up that day and after some heart aches rebounded with a shitty woman who burned through husbands like a 3 pack a day smoker. After she ran off with my replacement on a 3 month overseas “business trip” I met my now wife and 15 years later that denied proposal is just a thread in the tapestry of my life.
(Not my story – my brothers)
He proposed to his (now wife) at home while they were alone in a more intimate*setting. She said no and that she wanted her mom present for one of the most important days of her life. He said cool, flew her mom and my parents out and popped the question a few months later and it was a yes.
She recently lost her dad to suicide and was extremely close to her mom, plus she’s from a culture that is more family oriented than ours. My brother misunderstood when they had talked originally about eloping – he thought she just meant she wanted her mom to be there for that portion, not the whole thing.
It depends on their reasoning behind the why.
*removed extra word
I’m a woman but I turned my SO down due to a previous hell scape divorce. I just couldn’t. We reached a compromise. Had a wedding, I wear a ring, never filed the “ paper”.
I consider him my husband. I just couldn’t deal with court if anything went south and I didn’t expect my ex to abuse me. Because I didn’t see it coming I have trust issues. He was great about it. I adore him and his acceptance of my “ scars”.
My first boyfriend’s brother asked his high school sweetheart to marry him just months before I met them, she said no, they broke up but remained friends. She dated someone else and then he started to date one of my friends, the moment he started dating someone else she made him get back together with her. He asked again 5-6 years later and she said yes, and now they have a daughter together and have been married about 10 years.
My friend I introduced him to refuses to talk to me though, we were 18 and all of these people were between 7-10 years older than us.
My aunt refused a proposal because he didn’t want to have kids. She worked in a maternity dept of a local hospital and was present for the birth of all 4 of his children. She never married.
I was peeing when I first proposed and didn’t have a ring..it’s just that I realized how happy she made me. She turned me down..I asked again with a ring and without pee and she said yes.
Very few relationships survive that. Saying no is a bit of a death sentence.
I proposed, but she didn’t answer right away, the moment deflated very fast, and she finally said no. Two weeks later, I’m looking for a new apartment.
She said, “Maybe.”
Two weeks later she’s fucking my (now former) best friend. They married after he knocked her up and then divorced.
This happened to my aunt and uncle. He proposed, she thought it was too soon so she said no. Took him a couple years before proposing again. They’ve been married almost 50 years now!
Young and dumb, but to my credit we had been dating for about 3 years even though I was only 19.
Always wanted to be a ‘young dad’ and start a family in my early 20s. Set a career path that would allow me to do that, but it would require me to move. I figured that us getting married only made sense considering we had been dating for so long, had talked about having kids, and hey taxes breaks are nice.
When she said no, I was completely shocked. She told me that she wanted us to keep dating, but didn’t want to move with me to my new job. I said “Fair enough, but I want to start a family in 2-3 years so let’s reconsider this later.” I loved her and figured more work just needed to be put in to make her comfortable with the changes that would happen.
We started dating long-distance and things became rocky. She became evasive, even when she visited me, and I knew something was wrong but she always insisted there was nothing the matter. I was focusing on building a career, managing finances, and networking so I probably became a little distant while I was trying to set up a “nest” for my future family.
~Fast forward a year~
She called me on Skype (remember when that was relevant?) and told me that she had gotten pregnant with another man’s baby, he ghosted her when he found out, then she miscarried. BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE.
She started fucking him, again. Got pregnant by him, again. He disappeared, again. Only when she was completely convinced he wasn’t coming back to her, again, did she call me to tell me all of this shit. She asked me to stay with her and take care of the baby with her then said to me “I wish you were the father.” Fuck. That.
This was my first relationship ever, that lasted 4-5 years, and I had devoted my life up to that point to her and our future family. I know I wasn’t the perfect boyfriend, but I tried to be as good as I could be while still setting up an ambitious life to provide for my family. This relationship showed me that no matter how good you are to some people, they just want to use you and take advantage of you as much as possible, before betraying you when it’s convenient.
To say I was disillusioned with romance is an understatement. This scarred my views of romance towards cynicism and I never really recovered. Later relationships that I tried to establish didn’t really help either.
From a woman’s point of view because he’s not able to tell his side.
He was home on leave from the army when he asked. I said yes and was excited. Came home and told my sister and was going to tell my family when he said that I would be going back with him when he left at the end of the week. My sister started bawling.
I was caught off guard by that. I was supposed to leave my home, job, and family in 3 days? Also, before he came home, he told me he was being deployed a month after his leave. So, I was supposed to go back with him and then be left by myself in a city that I didn’t know while also knowing no one there? He was going to be gone for months.
I called him to meet me the day before he left. We sat in his car, and I had to tell him no. It wasn’t a never but a not right now. For me to uproot my life in 3 days and for him to leave a month later was not what I could do at the time. He was devastated but understood. Divorce rates were crazy high in his unit, and I didn’t want to be one of those.
We did break up while he was on deployment for unrelated reasons.
When he left the military, he came to find me. He told me that he was going to fight for me, and my current bf better not slip up. He did. We ended up getting married a few yrs later.
So, it wasn’t a no. Just a not right now.
For context: we talked about marriage quite early and we both decided to have a kid together but only if we are married. This was perfect for us. I often told her about my expectations, like family should be present etc. She always said that’s cool and all, but she would also be happy if I propose casually. At some point, we bought the engagement ring together (she tried on a ring, liked it and said “I’m gonna leave the store now. You do whatever you want to do ;)”). I paid tribute to her dad (1kg of Haribo gummibears, he’s got a sweet tooth) which was important to her. I was fully prepared.
So we went on a city trip and I planned to do it there. There were many opportunities but none of them felt right.
We ended up in a crowded cafe where I finally casually did it. She said “No, that’s not how you wanted to do it.” She basically didn’t take me seriously lol.
Anyway, on our car ride home I told her that I really was serious and she apologized sincerely.
At home, we were having lots of cuddles and I tried my second attempt of the day and succeeded.
We talked about it afterwards and she said she really didn’t want to ruin my expectation of proposing in great fashion. I told her that I took her advice of doing it casually. We told the story to her parents and my mom, laughed about it and got married half a year later.
The key in all of this was communication. We knew that we wanted it. We discussed it when the first attempt failed and understood both our views. Thanks to that, we have a funny story to tell.