#Relationships #RedFlags #DatingAdvice
Hey everyone! 💬 Let’s talk about something super important: instant red flags in any relationship. 🚩 It’s often said that first impressions matter, and the same goes for the early signs in a relationship. So, what should you be on the lookout for? Here are some quick pointers:
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Lack of Communication 📞: If your partner avoids talking about feelings or important issues, that’s a major red flag! Healthy communication is key to any relationship.
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Controlling Behavior 🛑: If they start dictating who you can see or what you can do, run. No one should control your life!
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Inconsistency ⚡: Are they hot one minute and cold the next? Mixed signals can lead to confusion and distrust.
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Disrespect 🙅♀️: If they talk down to you or make you feel less than, that’s a huge warning sign! You deserve respect in any relationship.
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Excessive Jealousy 😒: A little jealousy can be normal, but if it’s excessive, it can lead to toxic behavior.
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No Accountability 🚫: If they always blame others and never take responsibility for their actions, it’s a clear red flag.
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Fast-Paced Relationship ⏩: If the relationship is moving too quickly, like talking about forever on the first date, it could be a sign of future issues.
- Past Relationships 🔄: If they constantly bring up exes or have unresolved issues from past relationships, it’s worth considering.
What are your thoughts? Have you ever experienced any instant red flags in any relationship? 🤔 I’d love to hear your stories or any tips you might have for spotting these signs early on! Share in the comments below! 💡
For me it’s ignoring boundaries, downplaying your feelings, and constant criticism, but I’d like to see other’s thoughts on this topic.
Anger issues directed towards others
If they are controlling
some instant red flags in a relationship include:
1. **Lack of communication**: If one partner avoids discussing feelings or issues.
2. **Controlling behavior**: Wanting to dictate what you do, who you see, or how you spend your time.
3. **Disrespect**: Any form of belittling, mocking, or dismissive behavior.
4. **Jealousy**: Excessive jealousy can indicate insecurity and possessiveness.
5. **Inconsistency**: Frequent changes in behavior or mood that leave you feeling confused.
6. **Isolation**: Trying to distance you from friends and family.
7. **Dishonesty**: Lying about small things can lead to bigger trust issues.
trust your instincts—if something feels off, it’s worth paying attention to!
Using ultimatums as a means to get their way instead of compromising.
not respecting boundaries and not doing compromise
While having a shit they leave the bathroom door wide open.
Nobody wants to see or smell that so close the door and spray some air freshener.
Comparing you to their exes, being controlling in any form, having an issue with my couple male friends, speaking about anyone else in a sexual way
When you ask them ‘what do you wanna do/eat tonight?’ and they respond with ‘you pick’ and then continue to turn down every idea you come up with. Idk why but that just screams crazy and annoying to me.
Constantly bringing up their ex or comparing you to them is a red flag for me. If they’re stuck in the past, it’s a sign they’re not ready to move forward.
Being secretive about who texts or calls them.
Trying to isolate you from family and friends. Talking badly about them, saying they don’t want to hang out with them, saying they want you to stay home together instead of going to see the family/friends for a particular social event, etc.
Mentioning their exes often… good or bad exes that isn’t a positive thing
Lack of time and efforts
Angry when drunk…..as when your drunk that’s the real person that’s lurking inside
If they wear a top hat, a cape, have a curly mustache and go “nyeh nyeh nyeh” when they laugh, also if their hobby is hanging out by train tracks
Staying best friends with their ex, and still baby talking with them, taking them to meals with their parents instead of you, hiding how often they see them from you…
What the hell are you for if they still have that person?
Dishonesty and poor communication
When he keeps saying lies and you already know the answers
Actions don’t match words. I wasted eight years on that shit, it’s not worth it.
When “I’m sorry” comes with a “but” attached, it’s like waving a red flag in HD—means they’re more interested in defending their actions than actually making things right
Giving up on each other and running away
Not being able to communicate well to the point you can’t reciprocate, you can’t advise, you can’t soothe, apologize, grow, guide, express, and say what’s on your mind. To be firm and admit your point. Have an open mind and patience and forgiveness. Are all the things you should have and not have.
A white windowless cargo van that they don’t need for work.
People pleasing. If your partner agrees with every single opinion you have its not a good sign. It’s natural to disagree on things, and if they’re not disagreeing with you on ANYTHING then it means they’re just telling you what you want to hear, not what they actually think/believe.
If they treat animals poorly
If they aren’t happy for you when something good happens and laugh at you if something bad happens
If they don’t like you to celebrate your birthday
smoking 24/7 365
Someone who immediately assumes the worst of you without trying to hear you out. Or constantly picking a fight over petty shit.
Getting taken advantage of, threats including verbal, physical
All her previous boyfriends were cra cra and she’s a victim from them! Run away from that!
Ok so i got one, its a story from my actual dating life…
met a girl through a friend, sort of a friend of a friend kind of deal, so they set me up and i drive over to her place to pick her up for a date at an ok priced restaurant ( i dont know her to well and i dont want to “brake the bank” on what could be a bust of a date)….
well i open the car door for her, she smiles and gets in, i walk around my car and sit down and im hit by a smell of cigarette smoke, i dont smoke… i have never smoked, i look over and she is smoking, i ask her to put it out and she looks at me with a shocked expression, like i said “can i kick your dog!” i open the ash tray and she continues to smoke… i tell her “this isn’t going to work” open the car door and get her out of my car… i used a ton of Febreze when i got home but it still stank.
TL:DR if someone treats your property like that and doesn’t care enough to respect your wishes… how are they gonna treat you ?
Telling you a few dates in that you are special, soulmates (and all that floof).
Classic lovebombing.
CONSTANT criticism.
I’m not saying teasing, or saying when your partner did something wrong, but with my first boyfriend; EVERYTHING I told him, he criticized.
My birthplace? My insecurities? My talents? My hobbies? My looks? He all made fun of. First day.
A yellow flag early into dating for me is if someone mirrors you and doesn’t actually talk a lot about their own interests, hobbies, or work.
When you feel more alone with them than without them.
If they’re rude to people in the service industry
After 6 months, none of his/her friends knows you
Silent treatment
Withholding affection
Physical abuse
Inconsistent communication
Lying
Cheating (physical or emotional)
Ussally when a girlfriend gets home late but they do not work late
If she makes ultimatums, I can’t deal with her.
If total strangers are showing up at your job to tell you that this person you are seeing is Very Bad News, they’re right.
Didn’t happen to me, but it did happen to a male friend of mine. Did he poke the cray-cray? Yeah, that was the idea, and he did regret it.
Their friends cheat.