#Relationships #CoupleGoals #Love #Breakups #RedFlags
Signs a couple won’t last long:
Lack of Communication 🗣️
✨ Communication is key in any relationship. If a couple struggles to have open and honest conversations, it may be a red flag that they won’t last long. Without effective communication, misunderstandings can easily arise and lead to issues that may become too difficult to overcome.
Constant Fighting 💔
✨ It’s normal for couples to have disagreements, but if arguments escalate into constant fighting and negativity, it can indicate underlying issues that may threaten the longevity of the relationship.
Different Values and Goals 🌟
✨ When a couple has fundamentally different values, beliefs, or goals, it can create significant challenges in maintaining a lasting relationship. Compatibility in these areas is crucial for long-term success.
Trust Issues 🤝
✨ Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If a couple struggles with trust issues or experiences betrayal, it can be difficult to repair the damage and rebuild the trust necessary for a lasting bond.
Lack of Emotional Connection ❤️
✨ Emotional intimacy is essential in maintaining a strong and lasting relationship. If a couple lacks emotional connection and support for each other, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Final Thoughts:
✨ While these signs don’t always mean a couple is doomed to fail, they can serve as important indicators of potential challenges. Addressing these issues early on and seeking professional help if needed can help couples navigate difficulties and work towards building a stronger, more lasting relationship. Remember, every relationship is unique, and communication, trust, and mutual respect are key ingredients to lasting love. 💖
intense love-bombing the first 1-2 weeks
When one smashes cake in the other’s face at their wedding
They don’t publicly compliment each other when together, or worse yet disparage each other publicly or to their friends
Posting to social media about each other constantly. It doesn’t always mean they won’t last, but I’ve noticed that a lot of couples who do this have short lived relationships.
One is constantly annoyed by the other one
They lack a friendship AND a sexual attraction. Both are very important!!❤️
Early resentment/passive aggression even if disguised as ‘jokes’
Things move too fast, love-bombing, and if they isolate themselves from any other social relationships (like friends and family)
When there is no respect
They don’t speak the same language.
Happened to an ex and I. I speak English, she only speaks Spanish. The sex was amazing. But phone calls were impossible.
My 2 cousins decided to marry 2 brothers in a joint ceremony. Older couple were beaming. The younger brother looked like he didn’t want to be there. My younger cousin was shaking and crying, not tears of joy.
That marriage didn’t make it past the one week honeymoon. Maybe the younger couple were virgins. The older couple definitely weren’t.
They’re defined as an on/off couple.
Avoiding conflict and disagreements like the plague. Conflict is a part of a relationship and it’s something that needs to happen. One or both parties constantly people pleasing the other and not having their needs being met is a recipe for an explosive breakup, because all that is just being bottled up.
In a new couple: when they’re already pointing out a partners’ negative traits.
I remember hanging with a friend’s girlfriend once and she said, “he’s just so… Weird and socially awkward.” I knew then. They hadn’t even been together 2 months. It limped along another month or so before she broke up with him.
They clearly do not have shared values or goals.
They bicker in front of others – friends, family, strangers – they dont care. They can’t just be quiet and talk about it later.
Other than exchanges of sweet nothings during the honey moon phase, they don’t really have anything in common.
Source: me and my many failed relationships.
When they have those little passive agressive fights in front of you or the awkward little jabs at each other 😬
Lack of respect towards one another. A couple can survive disagreements, but if they lose respect for one another then the relationship is over
Talking shit about each other in public, sometimes even with the other person there! It absolutely baffles me when I see that happening.
They belittle you in front of others.
I see a lot of couples where they behave as though they only tolerate one another. I always think “ah, you don’t love them, you just hate being alone. Fair, but good luck.”
Joint Facebook accounts. Every time I see one, I’m like, “oh- one of you can’t be trusted.”
A few times in my life I have had female friends who cancel plans last minute with lame excuses. It always turns out to be either their husband alcoholism or physical abuse. No exceptions
Finances….When one or both are bad with money
Lack of respect for each other. If you respect one another, you won’t talk bad about each other and you won’t let yourselves go for long periods without communication.
lack of communication, just talking solve so many problems
Multiple posts on social media abt how incredibly happy they are
Those who constantly make overly mushy appreciation posts about their partner all over social media.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind the occasional mushy and sweet post about someone’s significant other. However, when someone constantly posts about their partner all over social media for everyone to see, for one it gets old real fast and two it usually means they are overcompensating for some relationship issues.
There isn’t one because people will stay in shitty relationships for a long time.
As a wedding photographer i can see right away if a couple will last. I can see the connection or lack there of just in body language during the wedding.
Okay
Wedding photographer here 🙋
I can always tell whether or not a couple will last based on how they interact with each other, and I can attest that it is indeed the “small things”
Do they listen when the other talks?
Do they pause to consider the other’s feelings?
Are they putting weight on each other’s words and respecting one another?
And you know what, as cliche as it is, sometimes it really is all in a look
Is there love in their eyes?
If not it’s a divorce waiting to happen.
When one person works and carries all the weight of the household and the other person does fuck all every day.