“What steps should I take if my ex won’t leave the house I own despite giving 28 days notice? No lease agreement, volatile behavior – legal advice needed. How can I regain peace in my own home? #ExRefusingToLeave #NoLeaseAgreement #LegalAdvice #HomeOwnership”
Current Situation:
– Ex refusing to leave despite 28-day notice
– No lease agreement in place
– House is owned by you
– Ex’s volatile behavior
Seeking Advice:
– Legal steps to take next
– Ensuring safety and peace in your home
– Ways to peacefully resolve the situation
Conclusion:
– Reiterating the need for advice and guidance
– Expressing fear and desire for resolution
– Urgency to regain control of your home and your life
Ex-boyfriend or ex-husband? What state do you live in?
Look up and follow the eviction laws for your state to the letter. All notifications need to be done exactly as spelled out. Even though there is no lease, he still needs to be evicted. You might want to store anything precious to you off site during this time.
Another solution is cash for keys. Don’t pay until he is completely out and change the locks immediately. Google cash for keys to get more details.
Get proof of bim being threatening and get a restraining order. The sherif will immediately remove him from the property.
I would have the eviction process done by an attorney so that you are sure everything is correct and enforceable.
Put up cameras in the common rooms, and give access to the footage to a trusted family member or friend so that the footage can be accessed in the event you are incapacitated.
Consider living elsewhere for the last month of his tenancy. If you do that, take video of everything before you leave and remove anything sentimental; if he destroys your property, you can sue him for damages, but no “things” are worth your life.
Cancel any extras you are paying for his benefit (credit cards, etc.). You can’t turn off the gas/power while he is still there but you can turn off extras like cable and internet.
Change the passwords for anything he has access to.
Once he is gone, keep the cameras and change your locks.
Lastly, consult with an attorney to determine if you already have enough to get a restraining order now. If so, that may change the eviction process requirements in your favor.
Please, call your local Someplace Safe, I believe the setup in WI is similar to here in MN. They can provide resources: if you qualify for an Order for Protection, they’re often a liaison with the court to get it filed and will support you. Also, they can share housing or shelter options and some financial support should you decide you need to live elsewhere this month for your safety. But if this feels too extreme, they can help you work through the experience as advocates and help you find your voice in all of this. I was led to a Protection Order and he was immediately removed from the property and has to stay 300 ft/a city block from me for 2 years. Officers stood by each time he removed his things. This period of time when leaving a destructive manipulator is the most dangerous as things can escalate beyond what even you think he might do. You must be exhausted. And another 28 days of hyper vigilance is overwhelming. Don’t let him trap you further by not knowing your options and make an educated decision with the resources available to you. I wish you well.
I’m not a lawyer but going through something similar. I would advise you to seek counsel to ensure you follow the proper path. I filed for an eviction, but when it reached the judge I found out I should have filed for an ejectment. Wasted 2 months.
Regarding the living arrangement, you have to go through the eviction process. If he’s abusive or destroys things you may be able to speed that along.
I’ve been through this before.
Restraining order and have him arrested. No lease you own house your relationship ended
Please contact your local domestic violence organization for advice & help to get rid of that abusive man.
1. It is likely you will have to go to court and file an eviction.
2. While there you may wish to file a restraining order.
Beyond that unfortunately there really isn’t much else you can do.
Have you given an eviction notice? I’m not sure which state you’re in but I think the law usually states that they have 30 days to leave the premises AFTER receiving an eviction notice. Though I’m not a lawyer so I would double check that. In the meantime if he causes trouble don’t hesitate to call the police. Keep all texts and records of your interactions as they will help your case if he wants to go kicking and screaming.
Continue following laws for eviction but if he’s violent or breaks things call the police. If he’s actually charged with anything get a restraining order.
If money isn’t an issue you could get a lawyer and have them draft a “cash for keys” agreement where you basically pay your ex to fuck off and make this all go quicker for you. This is a tactic used to deal with squatters typically.
Do everything that is legally required to evict him, get an attorney involved.
Then, research local biker gangs that work with domestic abuse victims. Contact them and tell them you have an abusive ex that won’t leave after the legal eviction is complete. Chances are one will volunteer to move in and be your roommate until your ex leaves. Or come around and tell him it’s time to move on. Just having their presence there can do a lot without any violence.
I’m not making this up, I have seen this happen multiple times as I have relatives in these bike gangs. They don’t mess around, and most of them are so intimidating men like your ex run at first sight.
This is completely legal, most people have roommates lined for as soon as the prior roommate is gone.