#RelationshipAdvice #MarriageTips #AttractionInMarriage
Dear men, what does your wife do that you find attractive? 🌟 As a woman who deeply values her marriage and is striving to create a more loving and harmonious relationship, I often find myself wondering what I can do to ensure that my husband sees me as the gem in his life. If you’re a man who wants to appreciate and cherish your wife more, read on for some practical insights that may resonate with you.
## Showing Vulnerability and Emotion
Expressing Emotion
One of the things that truly draws a man towards his wife is when she shows vulnerability and openness. Emotional connection is vital in a relationship, and when a wife allows her husband to see her vulnerabilities, it can deepen the bond between them.
Sharing Feelings
Encourage your wife to share her feelings and concerns openly with you. By creating a safe space for her emotions, you show her that you value her thoughts and feelings, making her feel seen and appreciated.
## Appreciating Efforts and Support
Recognizing Efforts
Take notice of the efforts your wife puts into the relationship and acknowledge them. Whether it’s cooking a delicious meal, keeping the house tidy, or simply being there for you when you need her, showing appreciation for her efforts can go a long way in strengthening your connection.
Providing Support
Offering your wife support, encouragement, and understanding during challenging times can make her feel loved and valued. Be her pillar of strength and show her that you’re there for her, no matter what.
## Acts of Love and Kindness
Small Gestures
Sometimes, it’s the small gestures that mean the most. Surprise your wife with flowers, a heartfelt note, or a random act of kindness to show her that you care. These acts of love not only make her feel cherished but also strengthen the bond between you both.
Quality Time
Spending quality time together without distractions can help you reconnect and deepen your relationship. Plan dates, go for walks, or simply sit and talk to each other to nurture your connection and build intimacy.
Remember, the key to a thriving marriage lies in mutual appreciation, respect, and understanding. By taking the time to understand what makes your wife feel loved and cherished, you can strengthen your bond and create a relationship that’s fulfilling and meaningful for both of you. So, dear men, reflect on what your wife does that you find attractive, and reciprocate those actions with love and care. 💖
So I (35f) am married to my husband (36M). I didnt grew up feeling safe and protected so i had to have a lot of Male Energy.
Now in my marriage i am noticing my husband isnt as protective over me. He acts kind off hard. I want to tap in my feminine energy so i am asking you guys.. what does your wife do that makes you look at her as a gem.. and not as a rock..
Not sure if this is what you are looking for, but I love watching my wife get ready in the morning. Women are so much more attentive to every inch of their skin, applying lotion, shaving or plucking hairs, as she glides her hands up her legs to make sure they are smooth then applies her make up and does her hair….usually she does all of this naked or with just panties on…the smell of her perfume and lotion, watching her focus on her body that I get to enjoy later….just is very feminine to me and very sexy (even though she isn’t necessarily trying to be sexy)
When I get home from work, she still comes out to the car and greets me. We’ve been married 20 years.
1) doing all the great mom stuff with our kids. Band-aids, teaching them, taking to them about their day etc
2) making sure the communication and touch points with extended family are taken care of. Her side of family or my side of family. Shit runs so smooth. I
3) how she handles tutors and teachers and parents of play date with the kids or parents at sports events etc. I barely have enough in the tank to deal with all the dumbassss at work, she somehow masterfully gets stuff done or has difficult conversations with these people without much fanfare or drama. It’s a super power
I don’t even know where to start, just so many things. Been married for 15+ years now, and I still love watching my wife do just about everything. My wife is very feminine, she always looks feminine, dresses feminine. keeps her hair feminine. I swear she makes anything look good. She has mastered the perfect blend of cute and sexy.
She is highly intelligent, well spoken, thoughtful, fair, sweet, kind, smiles a lot, is loving, attentive, and gentle.
I love everything about her so very much.
I find my lady to be funny and witty. She’s never afraid to speak her opinion. Even in public when she’s outnumbered. She’s incredibly smart and thoughtful. She isn’t too proud to admit when she’s wrong when we have little tifs.
I think it’s adorable when her glasses fall down her nose a little and she pushes them back up on her face.
She gets the zoomies when she has candy.
When her upstate New York accent shows through. Ummmm I am genuinely attracted to everything she does.
Everything
I really love my wife
You are only ever one hard to open jar from chivalry.
Farts and burps, not sexually attractive, but attractive in the way that you’re so comfortable with me
She beats me into looking at her the way she wants me to
Makes her art. She’s an actual full time artist
When we sit on a park bench, she snuggles in close to me. Then I put my arm around her. Going on 25+ years of that.
Not a man so feel free to delete. I say this as someone who grew up with 3 brothers and no sisters. You have to be very direct a lot of the time. If you communicate to your husband “I realize I can come across like I’m strong and have it all together – when I do that, it would mean a lot to me if you could help remind me I don’t have to be and check in on me, etc.”. Literally tell him exactly what you’re wanting/needing. He may be so used to you being this way, he just needs the green light to tap into this and help his brain reconfigure its blueprint a bit for your relationship. I read somewhere men get vasopressin by doing things for you or holding true on their promises/commitment to you. No idea if it’s true or not, but presenting this directly to him and then giving him opportunities will help. Do not be surprised or upset if you have to remind him a few times, the main goal is to get you guys where you’re wanting and that will take practice. Lots of praise obviously when he follows through. Best of luck OP.
Dude… everything.
Last night we were pouring some new dirt in a garden box we built together. She’s been wanting to try a small home garden to experiment, and I like to support her interests, so we built one. Pouring dirt in it last night, she’s struggling to pick up this like 50lb. bag of gardening soil with compost etc. Her hair’s all messy and falling in her face, her glasses are about to fall off, she has soil and fertilizer smeared on her sweat pants; the very picture definition of frumpy.
… but *damn* that woman looked **fine**. Sure, she’s 5 foot nothin and tiny. Yeah, that bag’s heavy. Yup, it’s dark, and we’re covered in the bitey bugs that come out whenever they sense someone is attempting to do something that makes them happy in our back yard.
Didn’t matter. She was gonna get it done.
I just had to stop and admire her for a second. Her tenacity, her perseverance, even over something most people would call small, was *such a turn-on*. Doesn’t matter that the bag is as big as she is, by God, she’s gonna set that damn garden up if it takes her all night.
She pursues our relationship with the same determination, and damn it, that’s *hot*. Doesn’t hurt that she almost got kicked out of a theme park we went to recently too; sign says no smoking, but she’s *always smokin*, ya feel me?
Anyway, she’s determined. She’ll fight through anxiety, depression, doubt, failure… think she’d fight God himself for us, and… well, she *might win*. That, to me, is incredibly attractive.
Love me.
Something that really gets to me, is when we’re getting into bed at night she pulls the covers all the way down, and gets on her knees and gets herself situated. So she’s on her knees but otherwise standing straight if you understand. She just looks so damn good when she does this and then she lays down and I sit up and I pull the blankets over her to tuck her in.
She acts girly and that makes me want to act manly. When we go walking she will sometimes hold onto my arm. When we sit on the sofa she leans back into me. When she can’t open or lift something she asks me to do it. When she paints her nails she comments on how they look all girly – for me. I told her long ago that I like longer hair, not like waist length but longer. I know she’d rather have it short as she has said so on multiple occasions but she keeps it long because she knows I think it looks more feminine. She doesn’t like wearing dresses or skirts so she does buys tops that look especially feminine. She also tends to let me take the lead in things in general.
Don’t take that as a weakness. She is incredibly strong willed which is one of the reasons I married her. She has a home office and is a project manager and she takes charge in calls in a big way. In the same way there have been times when we have disagreed when she can be extremely forthright.
Being feminine doesn’t translate to being weak and being submissive to your partner in some ways doesn’t mean being submissive in others. There are times when I let her take the lead for sure.
We’re ranchers. I love working with my wife. She has an unparalleled love of animals and boy can she use a chainsaw. A most beautiful person and looks good on her horse too !
Vibing at concerts. She looks so damn hot
Easy….be his peace. What does that mean? Well, when he comes home, a kiss and a hug goes a long way. Also don’t start off with a “you know what I think you should do” or a “can you…”. Give him 20 min to just let him unpack the bs of his day. He will be more happier to help around the house and parent then just getting into it right away. A random hug and a thanks for all ya do or something to that effect (not daily either) goes a million miles. Idk what your sex life is like. But I swear if we did it twice a week I’d be happy AF. Give it to him. Let him have the best 5 min of his life (x2) And maybe once a week you initiate it. It’s fucking cool to be desired. It beats the alternative of coming to you and hoping we don’t get turned down. It’s defeating. It’s literally a couple mins a day of being nice and thoughtful and that’s what it takes.
Greats me at the door when I get home.
Spoils our dogs.
Wears tank tops to bed.
Sings obnoxiously when shes taking a bath.
Scratches my head after a hard day.
Needlessly worries about the little things to make me happy.
Grabs my Hank Hill butt while Im working or cooking.
Makes me a meal. It could literally just be a glass of water, but when she does it, its just that much better.
When we used to game on PC, she would main Pyro while I mained heavy. She’d just run around me in circles taunting other players.
Invades my personal space (Im not a touchy feely kind of person) by sitting on my lap and just forcing me to cuddle.
She is wonderful.
Doing things typically women don’t do like hey lets watch the game together or lets play call of duty together or initiate sex in a very assertive way do things you know he would like and wouldn’t expect from a woman.
put her dirty dishes in the dishwasher properly. gets me going every time.
Almost everything. Everything except making a mess in the kitchen (I do almost all the cooking and cleaning for kitchen so it’s my OCD happy place).
Other than that my wife just existing makes me attracted to her. She get annoyed by it.
my lady is sweet, smart, funny, attentive and lovely. and she is a great cook. whats not to love.
When I wake up to her and she’s sleeping naked. I could watch her for forever, and I wish I could. Just to enjoy the aesthetic beauty of her body. Time could freeze over for all eternity and I’d be happy with view.
When my wife is dancing and singing in the kitchen I have one of those how the hell did I get so lucky moments.
She calls me “bug.” It’s short for “cuddle bug.” When I get home she says “hi bug!” And kisses me.
My wife and I are in our thirties, also.
We have mental/emotional check-ins every so often where we talk about our goals, what is stressful, and see if we are in need of improving our communication or show love/appreciation in our love languages.
We like to find a show or movie to watch together, quality time and physical touch for us. It also helps with communication, as we love exchanging our ideas and viewpoints during breaks or between episodes. With this said, we also give each other space to enjoy time and activities solo, which gets a tad challenging with kids.
Little kisses and touches while passing. Playful teasing and flirting.
Over time, we have tried to use most of the 5 love languages in some capacity, even the ones that aren’t high on either of our preferred languages, until it became natural.
You don’t want to force it. Just find little ways to say, ‘I am thinking of you’ every once in a while. It means so much to us, and I hope it helps.
For me, it’s little things she does: random kisses, bringing me a coffee if she didn’t see me grab a cup before work, thanking me for doing specific things, especially if I seem tired or it took a while to finish, or perfume or getting dressed up to catch my eye.
TL;DR: just saying or doing little things that say, “I see you; I appreciate you; Thank you; I am thankful for you”
She exists.
That woman is literally perfect to me, and I can’t wait to spend eternity with her
I appreciate my wife’s range. There’s a time and a place for everything. When we go to dinner, she knows how to do it up with the heels and the lace and the red lipstick. When we roll out of bed and go to brunch, she’s out the door in 8 minutes, clean faced, a natural brunette beauty with nothing but chapstick on. She’ll let me flex for her when theres a snake in the yard that needs disappearing or when her yeti lid is on too tight, but she can also throw down in work boots hauling mulch around in the yard. She keeps the mystery alive, playing hard to get just enough to keep me fawning over her, but she’s fiercely loyal and capable in a crisis, better than any wingman I could hope for. She rocks trainers and hoodies as well as she rocks her La Perla and red bottoms.
Basically I’m saying it’s about range. Nobody wants a one-dimensional babe. One trick ponies get old. A partner who is diverse and can show up in any situation as herself and make it work is a treasure.
When she walks by and just runs her hand across my shoulder or chest and smiles, then goes about her business.
It’s a small gesture but it makes me feel like someone cares about me while at the same time “telling me” that “I’m ok, it’s ok”.
Makes my heart melt.
She’s a great mother and emotionally intelligent. Also, 100% loyal and has no interest in anything that compromises the wellbeing of our family/relationship. My wife is feminine and petite. I’m 6’ 235 pounds. There’s no questioning our roles in regard to who the protector is.
I didn’t take the time to read all the off-mark comments, but GURLLL I’m sure you’re beautiful as you are. The kind of energy you talk about is strength and grace. You are a powerful enthralling woman, and don’t ever forget. You didn’t need to do all these “feminine” things in the comments. You wanna be captured by consumerism and buy all the lotions and things society tells you need to buy, to be a “real woman”? F that. I love the strength you exude, and don’t feel like you need to be anyone else. I used to think this, I thought I had to do better make up, get my nails and hair done, wear perfume, etc. to be attractive to my partner. If you wanna do that for yourself, you do you. But don’t do it for him. You are enough.
Regarding your relationship, that’s a separate conversation you need to have with him. Tell him what you need. How you want to be treated. Also ask him how he’s doing. What he’s going through internally. He married you for a reason! He loves you.
The comments here are so wholesome ❤️🫶