#DatingAfter30 #RelationshipGoals
Hey there! 👋 Have you ever wondered what traits men are looking for in women when it comes to serious relationships after hitting the big 3-0? Well, I sure have! As I navigate the wild world of dating in my thirties, I can’t help but wonder what really catches a man’s eye when it comes to settling down.
Are men in their thirties still searching for that perfect combination of intelligence, humor, and kindness in a partner? Or are they more focused on finding someone who shares their career goals, values, and future aspirations? 🤔
I’m curious to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic! Have you noticed any specific traits that seem to stand out to men who are looking for a serious relationship later in life? Maybe you’ve been surprised by what some guys prioritize beyond the superficial aspects of attraction.
Let’s dive into this together and uncover what really matters when it comes to finding love after 30. Share your thoughts in the comments below and let’s start a conversation! 💬 #LetTheConversationBegin
What do you think are the most important traits men look for in women for serious relationships after 30? Don’t be shy, share your insights and let’s crack the code together! 💖 #LoveAfter30
I feel like I’ve dwelled a lot on intimacy as I’ve gotten into my thirties. That word seems to have become synonymous with sex, but that’s not really what I mean when I say it. My last relationships both ended up highly impersonal – the common ‘we were roommates, not partners.’ I’m not ex-blaming – I had plenty to do with it – but in my next partner I’d love to find someone who just genuinely enjoys my company and the intimacy that comes with that – fond, physical gestures like playing with hair and cuddling that have felt very absent in my LTRs.
I have found that like… particular hobbies or passions don’t matter as much to me as they used to. I like people and like learning about their interests, especially if they aren’t my own. I’m just looking for someone who would feel the same learning about mine.
I know this isn’t a list of traits or anything so maybe not that helpful, but it felt good to write it out so now you all get to see it.
Honestly, if I was single I would look for someone who likes nerd shit, and is grounded a bit on expenses. I wouldn’t let her pay on the first date, but I would expect her to understand that I can’t always give her what she wants via high price and if she has a problem with me and coupons lol
First, don’t be crazy or some kind of insta influencer wannabe. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Second, be an adult. Have your shit together and be competent. Nobody’s looking to take on a charity case you have to completely support at this age. No.
Is she interested
I’m kinda over wasting my time and money and energy
Good communicators, understood and respected boundaries, interested in intimacy and sex, a sense of humor, maturity. I’m in my 30s and absolutely not interested in women in their 20s.
Experience in blanket fort construction.
Supports themselves with a career
•Common interests
•Confidence
•Good communication skills/Ability to discuss without being angry/argumentative
•Stability
•Goal oriented
•Looks good in a sun dress
•Attractive
There’s not a one size fits all answer for this.
Work on and do more of the things that matter to you (could be anything, fitness, career, education, diet, hobbies, socialising, buisiness, making money, etc)
Put yourself out there and eventually you’ll find someone with similar values that compliment your qualities.
I was single over 30 & worked on improving my life whilst going on many, many dates before I met my now amazing wife. She’s supportive, intelligent, altruistic, has a great career, makes me laugh & many other qualities.
It took a few years to find her but now life is fantastic.
No bullshit and no drama.
Being caring and thoughtful
Someone who adds more peace than chaos to their lives.Â
Healthy emotional reactions, a caring attitude and the idea of “I want you, I don’t need you.” A woman whom is truly a partner in the relationship, not one leading the other but making decisions together.
Somebody who is, at their core, kind
Someone who doesn’t increase the amount of stress in my life – but reduces it.
Treats me respectfully and affectionately. Shares at least some interests with me that we can pursue together but is also capable of some degree of independence with her own passions and pursuits outside of *us*. Is past the “eternal party” stage of her life but still willing and able to cut loose, have fun, and maybe even be a little bit irresponsible because our 30s (and middle age beyond) isn’t some arbitrary finish line for fun.
Having your life together.
Not in a perfect, you own a house, good career, zero debt sorta way.
More like, you have issues like anybody else has but your working to improve upon them.
You will be amazed how many people become jaded and such in their ways at only 30. Drug habits? Nah all me. Smoking? Eh my dad lives tell 70
Came here to see if I’ll stay single forever. I will.
Similar sexual appetite, if one person wants daily sex while the other prefers monthly sex it will be a point of tension.
Similar intelligence, as well as religious and ethical values. No one wants to feel stupid or that their values are scoffed at, especially in their personal relationships.
Someone that can acknowledge they are not perfect and is willing to grown and heal together.
Warmth.
Kind, to others and not just yourself. Loving and enjoys us both doing small things like gifts e.g flowers. Someone to snuggle up with under a blanket on the sofa and watch a bad film.
Ambitions, no kids, similar interests
I used to think a suitable partner had to have the same interests and same tastes in music, art, film etc. After several terrible relationship with girls who liked the same bands as I did I abandoned that way of thinking and instead looked for kindness. I met my wife and immediately was taken aback by how sweet she was. She didn’t like the same bands as me. She hadn’t seen my favorite movie but that was ok.
What I came to realize was that the single most important thing (to me of course) is a willingness to show interest. My wife lets me tell her about all my hobbies and passions and she really listens and asks questions and I return the same interest to her and her interests.
Now we have both expanded each others horizons and my life is richer for it. So – to sum up my opinion on what you should look for in a serious relationship I believe it to be kindness and a willingness to learn new things.
Maturity and stability. When I was 22, if I ran into an attractive woman who talks shit about all her exes and has crazy drama going on constantly, I’d ignore it because I’d figure she’s just going through something
Now if I meet a woman my age who has drama going on in her friend group all the time and all of her exes are supposedly pieces of shit, I take it for the red flag it is.
31M. Bay Area. I briefly got back into the dating scene post breakup and then just stepped right back out.
Fuck ton of narcissistic-like profiles that post their wants like a job description. I’m not applying for a job checking off qualifications, I want a companion to enjoy life with. And for some reason a lot of women think it’s funny and clever to say mean and sassy shit on their profile.
There’s a few good ones out there but you’re just one guy in a sea of countless more attractive guys.
It’s better to not bother looking and just focus on improving your fitness and career and just meet someone in person.
I’ve learned that to look for a woman with good impulse control. If they can’t control their impulses it leads to a heap of problematic issues like cheating, picking fights, getting overly angry, not eating healthy, etc etc. The same goes for dudes but since the question is directed at men looking for women in serious relationships that’s my answer.
And yes kindness is as important but everyone else answered that so…