#MarriageSecrets: Okay, here’s a juicy one for you guys! 🕵️♀️ What sneaky secrets did your wife/husband keep hidden until after you said “I do”? Did they pull a fast one on you like my husband did when he revealed his secret karaoke obsession? 🎤😂 Share your stories below and let’s bond over the things we uncover about our partners after the wedding bells have rung! 💍 #SpillTheBeans #TrueConfessions 💬🔍
I had an experience with a friend, we grew up together in the hood. At his wedding he told this story about how we grew up wealthy and travel the world with his parents while growing up and University educated. In reality he’s from the projects and lived buttpoor and never finish University. I had to sit there and listen to him tell the story at his wedding. I still hang with him and his wife. He keeps telling this lie and it makes me crazy.
She told me she could drive stick. We got married and every car I owned was stick except 2500 pickup. it became a huge problem when she had to go somewhere that would be challenging to drive large truck to
his porn addiction
A child
He was in a relationship when we met
Her Scottish dad. The dad I know is her stepdad. Never knew. He’s super Glaswegian. And a complete knob.
Never got married (thank god) but my ex hid that he nearly killed his previous ex and her little sister in a car accident where he was totally at fault. I believe his ex was in a medically induced coma for a few days. He broke up with her as soon as she was awake. Why? Because she had a brain injury and those are always a little tricky to predict on how much someone will recover from. Didn’t find this out until I was practically moved in with him and while organizing my things with his, found his box of court documents pertaining to the crash.
Found out that another ex of his committed suicide. That I found out from an ex friend of his after I had broken up. Ex friend fully believes he pushed his ex to do it. And considering the state of my mental health when we had broken up, I believe it. He was really good at breaking people down in such sneaky ways. Was never blatantly verbally abusive. It was always offhand comments or passive aggressive remarks.
$250,000 in unpaid taxes
Not quite on topic but my wife was a therapist. I found out after she passed that she was basically free therapy for my college room mate, his sons, and some of my relatives.
A couple of them asked if I wanted to know what they talked about, and I told them, “If she wanted me to know, she would have told me.”
That he was gay.
That he was unemployed and in the middle of a bankruptcy case, and he also lost his house to foreclosure. The worst part is that I never found out about any of this until years later when we were getting divorced. He hid so much from, and I still have no clue how.
Why are all the comments so depressing?
I hid the fact that I really like Enya from my husband. He now has to put up with me listening to her whenever I paint 😆
Night terrors. Had her first one a couple months into the marriage. She went right back to sleep. I of course was prepared for battle. The next morning when I asked her if she wanted to talk about it, she said “talk about what?”. I said, “uhhh you screaming like you are being killed in the middle of the night.” Her reply was, “oh yeah, I do that sometimes. 😑
My now ex husband threatened to kill his sister with a gun holding it to her head.
She totally hid how very good she’d look at 40.
Took like 20 years to find that one out.
Schizophrenia
I hid that I was a male cheerleader in hs from my wife for more than 15 years
Their social media consumption addiction. They literally followed 300+ egirls, cosplayer girls, youtubers girls, ig models, influencers and they would spend almost their whole day just scrolling and looking at these things
Her father was a proud Neo Nazi…(I’m black)
That he was in the military. I had recently enlisted in the army when I met him out one night. He told me he was a marine veteran and that’s how we started talking. He told me stories about his time overseas and how he still keeps in touch with his military buddies. We eventually get married 2 years later and when I applied for a VA loan under his name I got a letter from DOD that they had no record of him ever being in the military. He fabricated the whole thing. He would ask for military discounts constantly and would tell these elaborate war stories to people all while wearing old military clothes. When I confronted him about all the lies he started yelling at me. We are now divorced.
She snores
Found he was doing crack. He’d been in rehab for many years before I knew him. He was supposedly sober. Then a bit after we got married I found a stash of crack in his tool belt. He tried to play it off as “I keep it as a reminder that I’m strong enough to say no” and I believed him (I didn’t truly but I wanted to so I pretended). Til I caught him buying it, started finding crack pipes.
I didn’t really sneeze as loud as I wanted to when we were dating. Once were hitched I unleashed the full blown dad sneeze.
This is so mild compared to some of the other comments but my husband hid the true breadth of his nerdom.
He moved in the day we got married, and came clean about how many evenings he spent gaming. I knew he had a room full of D&D and other table games but I didn’t know he has far more than that. And he has a massive war history collection.
His stuff has taken over most of a 1,400 square foot basement.
When I first married my wife I thought she was taking the “pill”. ( She was taking it before we got married btw) During our first 4 months together I realized she was an alcoholic. ( While dating I thought she couldn’t hold her alcohol on weekends). Six months into our marriage she became pregnant and I asked her how that could be since she was on the pill. She nonchalantly said that she didn’t think it was important to tell me because she thought it would take longer for her to get pregnant; meanwhile I am worried about her excessive drinking every night ( I only drank on weekends when we were with friends socially). Fortunately it was a normal pregnancy but after that she had two miscarriages which I felt had to do with her alcoholism. After four rehabs and me divorcing her after 19 years of marriage, she finally hit her “bottom” and stopped. It was a tough 19 years. I am happy to say she has been sober the past 10 years.
That I got her pregnant 8 years earlier, and she NEVER told me. She had an abortion, and was mad at me for 8 years- because ‘I wasn’t there for her’.
Again, she NEVER TOLD ME she was pregnant, then ghosted me for 7 years.
And somehow, she made it my fault.
Marriage lasted 1.5 years- because “Marriage was too hard for her”.
That he had cheated on me with (at least) six women over the course of our then five year relationship, prior to our engagement and marriage.
My husband didn’t hide much of anything from me, but I hid just how bad of a childhood I had. Well, not so much “hid” but I did make it seem better than it was. When my husband met my family, he disliked the majority of them because of how they treated me growing up.
He had taken breakdancing lessons as a kid.
He won’t show me.
Not quite marriage but I wasn’t 100% honest about how well I handle spices until we moved in together. Husband is a massive lover of spicy food and when we were dating i kinda faked that I could keep up but when we moved in together and were eating most of our meals together I had to come clean that I’m more of a herbs than spices girl
My ex told me about how her ex husband had threatened her a knife and chased her around the house. After she attacked me, I tracked him down, and it was HER that did the knifing, not him.
Farts that clear the room..Was like she held them all in until after the vows.
I knew he had a DUI, I didn’t know it was five, triggering felony DUI and he couldn’t have a license for 10 years.