#FindingYourPath 🛤️ #OvercomingObstacles 🌟
Hey there, I understand that you’re feeling like a failure at the moment and it’s important to acknowledge your emotions. Remember that setbacks and challenges are a normal part of life. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, but let’s focus on how you can turn things around and find your path to success! 🌈
First of all, take a deep breath and give yourself credit for finishing your degree and clearing your backlogs! That’s a big achievement, and it shows that you have the dedication and resilience to overcome obstacles. You should be proud of yourself! 🎉
Finding a job can be tough, especially in a competitive market, but don’t let that discourage you. Keep applying and stay positive. It’s important to remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth. Keep honing your skills, networking, and exploring new opportunities. 🚀
While you’re in the process of job hunting, consider gaining more experience through internships or freelancing. This could help you build your portfolio and expand your professional network. 💼
Moreover, take some time to reflect on your career goals. It’s never too late to explore different paths or consider further education if that aligns with your aspirations. Look into courses or certifications that can enhance your skills and make you stand out in the job market. 🎓
Remember, it’s not just about your career. Focus on other areas of your life that bring you joy and fulfillment. Nurture your hobbies and interests, join clubs or communities that share your passions, and surround yourself with positive and supportive people. 💪
When it comes to relationships, don’t let past experiences hold you back. Finding the right person takes time, and it’s important to work on your own self-confidence and self-love before diving into a new relationship. You are deserving of love and companionship, so don’t give up hope. ❤️
In the meantime, seek support from friends, family, or even a professional counselor. Talking about your feelings can provide you with a different perspective and help alleviate the burden you feel. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. 🙌
Lastly, never underestimate the impact you have on the world. Even if it may not feel like it right now, you have the potential to make a difference and contribute to society in your own unique way. Embrace your strengths, explore your passions, and believe in yourself. You are capable of achieving great things! ✨
Keep moving forward, be kind to yourself, and remember that failure is just a stepping stone towards success. You have the power to turn your life around and create a bright future. Take it one step at a time and never stop believing in yourself. You’ve got this! 🌟
Congrats you feel like everyone else.
I am really sorry you feel that way. But you can look at it this way:
1. You are just 22.
2. You are a topper at default settings.
3. You experience will help you avoid such things in future.
For the time being, you can distance yourself from your other two friends. It will be good for your mental health to cut them off.
And TBH the gym part is pretty unimportant. So you are skinny so what? It Doesn’t matter. You have gotten gains once you will get them again when everything is right.
Give yourself time. Prepare for government exams. By the time you are 25, you will have rishtas coming left and right to you.
Bro life is better than mine and I am 24 smh
You are comparing yourself to others too much. No one else’s path matters but your own.
Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. How did you manage a page with 100k followers. I advise you to look deep and see how you can use this skill set.
Should have put the girlfriend on hold until you have your shit together, dude.
Same goes for women. Put the boyfriends on hold until you have your shit together.
You’re so young don’t give up. Keep going.
Don’t give up. Keep trying. The world needs you. Your breakthrough is coming.
Probably will get downvoted but the air force / navy could be a good option for you.. Recruits with engineering degrees are highly sought after and you could join as an officer with decent pay + no living expenses? Also will almost certainly get those gains youve been after since 80% of your time will be spent exercising in basic training lol
Don’t make a permanent decision based on a temporary situation.
You are still extremely young. Very few people have everything figured out at 22, and most people don’t marry their first girlfriend or boyfriend.
You have a degree, experience dating, experience gaining 100k followers, and experience changing your body. You know all these things are possible. Obviously at least one girl was attracted to you; that will happen again.
Your parents may be supportive or they may be putting too much pressure on you; it’s hard to tell from what you wrote. Either way, their approval will naturally mean less to you as you create your own adult life.
No one is guaranteed a job, even with a degree. You find things that you are good at and exchange your services for money.
Similarly, no one is guaranteed a relationship. You can improve your chances by being kind, honest, taking an interest in others, trying to help people even when it doesn’t benefit you directly, keeping an active mind, learning new things, taking up some hobbies that interest you. Women are drawn to men like that even if they can’t bench press an ox.
“I’m 22 and and feel like a failure.”
“My story started at 18”
I literally don’t even need to read anymore. Your story has only just begun, brother. You’re not even done the first chapter.
You’re so young!!!!! People’s early 20s can be so hard because you typically don’t make a truck load in entry level positions and you’re trying to forge your own path. It’s absolutely essential to network first and foremost – people want to hire those that come with recommendations. You have so many good times ahead of you. I know that’s hard to see right now it will get better. Part of success is luck and the other part is consistency, whether that means being persistent in your search or directly in how you approach tasks. Keep at it and you will be rewarded.
take your switch to starbucks and ask the first girl you see if she wants to play mario kart.
if its a group of two squeeze your way right inbetween ’em. you just doubled your chances.
for work you can work at petsmart or menards or a factory or a weed dispensary. the most important thing about your 20’s is not to get a dui or herpes
I’m rooting for you man. You’ll get through it, at least you’ve acknowledged you’re having these problems. Once you start working on the issues you’ll succeed. Give it time and hard work. Wishing you the best! 🙏🏽
Life is full of successes and failures. You have your own path and lessons to learn. Take what you have learned and grow from it. Don’t compare yourself to others, they’re not on the same path.
Life doesn’t end in your 20s. Rather, it is time for self-discovery. There will be heartbreak along the way, but keep picking yourself back up and focus on moving forward as well as the positives (no matter how small). There will be a day you’ll look back and appreciate that you did.
You’re not a failure. You’re just focusing on the wrong things.
You need to get over all that and focus. You’re 22, you could waste a decade and still have plenty of time. What you need more than anything is some confidence and self-worth for yourself.
Feeling a failure at the age of 22 is too early n one shouldn’t. From your story, I can say that you are feeling this mainly because of that break up you had with the girl. Don’t trust girls easily,if they see something better, they will go for it. Love is scam, trust me boy. Better you get married in another 2-3 years and focus on your career or get into relationship only after you have better career.
just get a job at the box factory. it could be difficult cuz either u r overqualified or cant explain why u havent done anything since highschool, but maybe you can get to wash dishes somewhere or do charity work and get the chance to get back to a healthy rhythm.
its not gonna solve everything, but if u r a NEET things just gonna get darker if u dont stop being one.
Dude you’re not even 30 yet. Relax. You need to work on your confidence. It comes across in what you write (resumes, emails), phone conversations, face to face interactions, etc. What helped me was doing some theater (I was in college but they have community theater). You can also learn grounding and meditation.
Bro you’re life has just begun. In fact, you’re still golden. I’m 27, married at 24 (lovely wife) but quit my job 3.5 years ago to pursue a career in tech sometimes I get contracts which is good but now it’s been a cycle of hand to mouth which is frustrating. Lost my dear sister just before my wedding now am taking care of my mom and my nephew who I managed to take through high school and now his supposed to be going to college don’t even know where to start cause nothing is working out. Then fast forward 3 months ago lost my mother-in-law and I lost my focus cause God knows I loved that woman as a second mother but hey am a man and I can’t stay down and have a wife to comfort. Currently am neck high in debt cause I’ve been trying things out and also am about to be kicked out of my house cause I have a backlog in rent arrears up to my neck but as I said, am a man and I can’t afford to stay down. I fall down and rise again because am still young and I have God on my side. He’s all I need and He’s the fourth man in the fire. So cheer up bro
It sounds to me like you’re doing great. Covid was just brutal on all of us, so the fact that you finished your degree is a huge, massive win! A lot of people your age are seriously stalled out. And jobs are hard right now – there’s been layoffs in many sectors so it’s hard to find work.
My advice is to keep applying for work. Apply for jobs that aren’t even on your field, but where you can gain some experience, get some savings, and learn something new. It doesn’t matter what – any kind of office or technical work would be fine, but if you can’t get that, take a job in retail or food service.
I agree with the suggestions to build a side hustle. A blog, YouTube channel, or anything where you build a bit of presence and/or build a portfolio and/or make something you’re proud of and/or bring in some cash.
If you’re feeling depressed, please see a doctor as well. A bit of talk therapy and some antidepressants may go a long way for you.
Hang in there. You’re doing great.
I had a very similar story to yours. At 23 I got kicked out of the engineering school at my university after my girlfriend of 4 years had left me during finals. I know you see everyone else and feel like a failure, and saying otherwise won’t alleviate your feelings.
I hope you can see all the accomplishments you’ve had throughout your life.
* Getting accepted into engineering school
* You were able to secure a (what seems like) a very large scholarship
* You were able to attract someone like your ex
* Successfully built a social following
* Got an internship
* Graduated with your degree (Based on the timing you provided, on schedule!)
I hope you see all the success you have attained all on your own. I know it hurts to lose the things that make you seem complete, however, you are the person who determines your happiness. Not some job, not some degree, not some girl, but you.
Please if you are feeling suicidal again, reach out to someone for help. It is easier said than done. I wish you the best, and if you need to vent, feel free to DM me.
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How does some with an engineering degree not get a job. Thats fucked.
You’ve spread yourself a bit thin trying to learn engineering, develop romantic relations and improve your physique all at the same time. You need to take things one by one.
1. Deal with your career and when that is well established.
2. Fill in your physique to gain self-confidence and make use of your free time.
3. Go for relationships.
You are actually in a good position. You have a roof over your head and you have a degree in engineering. You just lack some experience that you can pop into your CV and no one, I promise you this, no one will give a shit about your grades, it’s the degree that matters. The only problem you have now is that the grades is all you have.
So, get some experience, either as an intern or volunteering for some nonprofit or doing some certification. You do not say what branch of engineering, so I cannot be more specific. Go and learn how to apply AI in your field and write articles about it … use your imagination.
Stop this self-pity business and get to work. You can do it, just don’t get distracted again. Focus.
There is no way to be a failure at 22. It’s impossible.
You should continue feeling like a failure until you’re not, you loser. Get a job. Anyway, I hope this vent helped you at least a bit. I don’t mean to be rude, but 99% of the entire worlds population goes trough feelings like this. Keep your head up and walk through the shit. We all did that in the past, doing now or will be doing in the future.
Your CV is bad if you’ve applied for 300+ jobs with only 2 interviews, have you done any form of CV review with someone from your school or one of your old friends? Just so you know, even without a job with an engineering degree you’re already ahead of 98% of people your age, and you really should stop comparing yourself to other people all the time.
From what you wrote here, we can assume you’re very neurotic, but you really just need to just find a job and finding a purpose in life. I guess your goal for the last 5 years has been to get that degree and life would just solve itself after that, but that not really how life works.
Can you talk to your parents?
Look man, you are trying through going back to school and are applying for hundreds of jobs. Many working do either.
Perhaps if you open up to your parents while you are living there, they can offer extra perspective.
I also suggest reading the book “Late Bloomers” by Rich Karlgaard. It goes over his own life story as a failed student / entrepreneur etc., and how he turned his life around. He also gives a bunch of examples of successful people who were complete failures for a large portion of their younger lives.
Don’t beat yourself up man! Be proud of at least trying 🙂
Stop complaining and BE the sh*t instead of talking about wanting to be the sh*t
You know what to do. Do it
Focus & Sruggle..
To stop feeling as a failure you need to stop thinking about the past.
If it already happened can it be changed?
If the answer is no, why do you keep investing time into that?
.if you were a day trader you know that time is more important than money.
So now…
You are selling you time for free for something happened before and it’s never coming back again.
If you want to get into your feet again I would recommend:
Read The traveller’s gift and do the workbook.
Do the evaluation called Working Genius.
Send me if you can the results so I can show you how to work with them
I have a friend who couldn’t find any work for a full year after college, then did Americorps for 2 years which led to finally getting their first full-time job at 25 making like $30k. By 30 they had a good job as a project manager and owned a home in a major metro area. They’ll crack $100k base pay before 35. And that’s with an English degree.
It might be rough for a bit, but you’re smart and dedicated enough to have done all the things you list that you’re proud of! Eventually you’ll get more opportunities and do something with them!
Listen man, some day, 30 years from now, you’ll have a home, a lovely wife, beautiful kids and other trivial things like the big house and money. 52 year old you will be happy that he didn’t give up 20 years ago… I know, not exactly the image you would have thought of, but that time is coming. We are not going to be young forever.
I’m 21, and at times I feel the way you do too. I blame this age we are living in. Everything is so just so damn fast. The ideal meaning of success has been made to be having everything figured out at a young age. It doesn’t have to be like this man.
You need to shift your mind from the a place of “Im behind” to a place where you get to slow down, breathe, rest and pause. Move at your pace. Don’t be a slave to what you wish should have been. Get up, look to where you have to go and move. Don’t sprint there, walk. The best decisions and moves you’ll make will be from a calm, clear, healthy mind taking it easy.
It’s okay bro
Realize that you’re 22 and try stuff lol. I’m getting tired of these questions from people sub 25 man.
Hey kid report back in 20 years on how you’re doing before calling yourself a failure. In all likelihood you’ll be fine. By the way being young, skinny and unemployed is a lot better than being old, fat and unemployed. Don’t worry so much about how you look like. Focus on feeling better and don’t tie your well-being to things you don’t have and don’t have control over.
You’re 22 and you feel like a failure? That’s like someone starting a mile long race on a track and stopping at the first turn and giving up.
If you’re going to give up that easy no advice is going to help you.
“When you are lost, the only way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service to others.” -the ghandi quote led me to a hospital when I was in a similar position; listless, exhausted, up to my eyeballs in applications.
You will figure it out, but the answer usually is NOT your best guess. Follow “green lights” in your life. Are there other industries that you have connections in… just so you can get started? Is there something that you’re just interested in that you could try until a “real job” comes along?
I played music live and bartended before I started at a hospital. I also have a great degree from a top 10 uni and felt like I was wasting my talents or time. You’re not. You’re searching and learning something about the real world- REAL WORLD KNOWLEDGE. Just give yourself a break and listen to Vienna by Billy Joel.
“Slow down, you’re doing fine. You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.”
Firstly, you would benefit from a therapist or even talking to your primary gp that you may have depression (even if you don’t have a disorder) to help you work though this time in your life. Hatred turned inward is often depression, saying antidepressants saved my life is an understatement as I was in a similar position when I was your agw.
Secondly think hard about what type of engineering work you want to do, consider going down the software development route (there is a lot of learning you can do on your own to develop skills)
Stop day trading. You will almost never beat firms unless you work for a finance company (something you should consider working for)
simple answer is don’t.
I failed college at 24, moved back home, healed my self, started college again, graduated at 28, got a job, fixed my life.
22 is very young. start now and fix whatever issue you have plenty of time.
allow yourself to heal first.
Wait till you’re 34. I’m not a failure but boy do I feel like it some times for no goddamn good reason
First — Seek help. You need to start seeing a therapist immediately. If you have suicidal thoughts again, call a suicide crisis line immediately.
You are 22 years old. Nothing you have done or not done has determined your future yet. You can do anything.
Secondly, stop comparing yourself to others. You are not in a race with anyone. There will always be people ahead of you and there will always be people behind you. Don’t worry about the Jones. You be you.
I was once in your shoes. Out of college with no prospects. All I could get is a shit job as a janitor. Girlfriend of my dreams ghosts me. Turns out she had started cheating on me. Physical condition — nothing to brag about.
Fast forward to the future, married, great family, and job that I love. I will be honest, I didn’t come into my own until my mid-30s. I spent 15 years building a career, going through a few failed relationships, and trying to spend quality time with family and friends. Putting in the time and effort paid off for me. It seems to work for others also. The key is, try to have fun while you’re building a life. When you come into your own, you’ll look back fondly even on the tough years. You’ll appreciate that it was your struggles that made you who you are.
Take everyday as it comes, and try to make the most of your time. Volunteer, join fun clubs and activities to meet more people. Hell, even start going to church or whatever (you can meet some quality people there also).
Trust me — In the end, it works out. Takes some time, patience, and faith. Enjoy your youth while you have it…you’ll be glad you did.
Stop smoking weed.
Study for the GRE and start applying to jobs
Jesus dude, I was making a few cents above minimum wage when I was your age and living on my own barely scraping by. You’re going to be fine.
For a 22 year old you have done an insane amount. I can’t think of many other 22-year olds with a degree in engineering, a major online following and on top of that having time to hit the gym. If anything, you’re on a roll and fast tracking your life. I’m also 22 and haven’t even gone to college, so I’ve been stuck with low end jobs. I moved out for a few years and rented with friends but moved back in when rent became too expensive.
But alas, you’re comparing yourself way too hard. The job market sucks for everyone, even if you’ve got a master’s degree and 10+ years under your belt. I’m hoping to be at your position when I’m 30 lol
Homie. Get a therapist. Your career will follow. Take care of yourself. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend or a sick parent. The rest will fall into place. ❤️