#DatingAdvice #RelationshipTips #NotInterested
Hey everyone! So, I was thinking about how tricky it can be to read between the lines when it comes to dating. Sometimes, women won’t outright say they’re not interested, right? But there are definitely some cues we can pick up on.
I’d love to hear from the guys here: What are some phrases or actions you’ve noticed that signal a woman is really saying “I’m not interested in you”? 🤔
Here are a few things I’ve gathered based on what I’ve seen and heard:
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"I’m too busy right now." 🏃♀️
- This one’s a classic! If she frequently claims she’s busy and never seems to have time for you, it could be her way of subtly letting you know she’s not invested.
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"Let’s just be friends." 🤝
- Ouch! This is usually code for “I don’t see you that way.” It can feel like a punch to the gut when you’re hoping for something more.
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Lack of engagement in conversation. 🗣️
- If she seems distracted or doesn’t ask you questions about yourself, it might mean she’s just not that into you.
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Bringing up other guys. 👥
- If she’s always mentioning other guys she’s dating or interested in, it’s a pretty strong sign that she sees you more as a buddy.
- Limited contact or response time. ⌛
- You know the drill—if her replies are short, late, or she flakes on plans without rescheduling, it might be time to take a hint.
Of course, these aren’t set in stone, and every situation is different. But they sure are helpful when we’re trying to decipher the signals!
Let’s get this conversation going! What are some things you’ve experienced or heard that hinted at a lack of interest? Any tips for recognizing the signs? Share your thoughts and let’s help each other out! 🌟
If they are looking at their phone screen while you are talking to them.
If she is wishy washy with setting a time and place to go on a date
I have a boyfriend
Looks away, lost for words/ hesitant, looks at phone… , refuses to get in the van, refuses to put the lotion on its skin…
If you try to make plans with her and she won’t specifically tell you when she’s free.
“I might be around this weekend.” = Nope
“How about Saturday night?” = Yup
“Its just bad timing for me”
“I like you but I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship”
Anything other than “Fuck yes”.
It’s more about what they don’t say. If they don’t talk to you much without being prompted, they’re not interested.
“We’ll see” – you will never see
“I’ll let you know” – you will never know
“Let me check my schedule” – there’s one and you’ll never be on it
“Maybe” – if you were the last guy on earth and even then, it’d be a hard sell
“Sorry, my hamster is getting an appendectomy” – at this point have some self-respect
I personally adhere to the Michael B. Jordan rule. What I mean by that is, asking myself would she be this lackadaisical and wishy-washy to some super hot rich successful dude? Then she doesn’t get to be that to me.
You can’t negotiate desire, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.
When she demands to know how you found her address.
“UGH, Men suck” or something across those lines
They’re entitled to their opinion. Just like I’m entitled to mine
They don’t want me or other men around them… cool. I don’t want to be around these types either. It works itself out.
Normally met with looking at me and then saying “NoT YoU ThOuGh. Ur OnE oF da GwAd OnEz”
If she doesn’t make time and/or show enthusiasm
The one that I need to acknowledge myself is this person will talk to me non stop for a month or two and then just ghost me. I’m just someone who she goes to for attention when she needs it, not someone she is actually interested in.
Pretty much everything. My last one taught me everything she says and does, is because she’s too nice. She will go out of her way to not hurt me directly, but indirectly, so everything to my face is just a lie
In my experience, anything that isn’t an unqualified yes is probably a no. And even if it’s a tentative yes, I’d really rather date someone that actually wants to go out with me.
1) Constantly rescheduling dates – She doesn’t like or have any intention of going out with you. She just loves the attention.
2) “Sorry I’m in a rush to go” but is walking as slow as a snail.
3) “I’m not interested in dating right now” – It’s bullshit, she’s interested just not in you.
4) Responding to texts after a day and with 1 liners.
I could go on, but you get the pointz
“You’re sweet”
If you’re always the one to text first
If she doesn’t approach me or tell me through clear direct words to approach her, that’s a sign she’s not interested in me, and I’m going to respect her enough not to force her into a potentially uncomfortable situation by approaching unwanted.
Well, that’s simple. See that enthusiasm and effort you’re making? If it isn’t returned, they aren’t interested.
In my experience it is when the say “I do” at the wedding after that no interest
Signs she’s not interested might include short, unengaged responses, avoiding one-on-one time, or frequently mentioning other guys. If she doesn’t make an effort to reach out or shows closed-off body language, she might not be interested
At the gym a woman asked me how to do a certain exercise and I gladly showed her. She made it a point to say, “oh ya my bf likes doing these”. Like ok I don’t care lol. Then she stated acting weird so I just walked off. Def wasn’t hitting on her as she may have been used to.
Anything less than explicit interest is a no.
When I was dating, at the end of the night I would walk the girl to her house door. If a girl turned towards you, she usually wanted a kiss. If she kept her hand on the doorknob, no kiss.
If she’s giving short replies, never initiating plans, always “busy,” or using friend-zone language like “you’re such a good friend,” those are usually signs she’s not interested. It’s best to take the hint and move on.
Basically the screen you need to use is her level of enthusiasm. If it’s anything other than yes, or an offer to reschedule it’s a no.
“Sorry, I’m washing my hair that night” – Not interested.
“I can’t make that night. Can we reschedule?”- Not interested (Give her a chance to reschedule, but don’t expect her to.)
“Maybe let me look at my schedule and back to you.” Not interested
“I’d like to but…” – Not interested.
“I can’t make it that night, are you free Saturday?” – Might be interested. You’ll have to go and see if she shows up.
If it’s not a hell yeah it’s virtually always a no.
When she is not really showing interest in what you are talking about and not really getting the conversation going.
a side-hug. they have less than zero interest in you and actively want a buffer.
If she takes more than 24 hours to respond to a message (I’d even go so far as to say more than 8-12 depending on time of day), that’s pretty much a guarantee she’s not interested
“I’ll let you know when I’m free” never hear back again and I don’t even bother contacting them first.
As the saying goes if she really wanted to she would
One time a woman asked me, with a little huff in her voice, and the question tailed off without a raise in tone like a normal question would…”ok, so what are you looking for out of this”
Oof. Got it. It was pretty clear. Lol
“I don’t want a boyfriend right now” always means they really want a boyfriend , just not you.
“I see”
Went on a Hinge date and every time she spoke she responded with that
After the coffee I didn’t even bother trying to order any food, just got the bill and went out separate ways.
Anything but a yes is a no.
It’s all in the excuses game. If she’s got more excuses than a high schooler who forgot homework, then it’s clear as day – she’s not into you.
“Next time for sure” – spoiler, there won’t be a next time.
“We should hang out sometime” – Sometime in the undefined future that’ll never come.
“It’s just a really busy month for me” – Guess who’s not easing up her calendar?
If she’s into you, she’ll find a way. If not, she’ll find an excuse. And when someone is full of excuses, it’s a polite cue to make a swift exit stage left. Remember, when it’s right, you won’t be left guessing.
If she makes it hard to spend time with her, she’s not interested. If she’s interested (and mature) she’ll make an effort to spend time together. If she doesn’t commit to a plan or she flakes or she always has an excuse, move on.