Hey everyone! 👋 I came across a fascinating topic that I think many of us have different perspectives on—**the appeal for men who enjoy the idea of their partner having sex with other guys.** It’s something that I don’t quite understand, so I’d love to hear your thoughts!
**No judgment here!** We all have our preferences, and what turns one person on might leave another feeling confused. But for those who are into this, it opens up a whole world of emotions and dynamics that I’d like to understand better.
Here are a few thoughts and pain points that might help guide our discussion:
- Jealousy vs. Excitement: Some men might find excitement in the idea of their partner being desired by others. It can create a thrill that challenges the norms of commitment.
- Validation: For some, allowing their partner to explore with others can be a way to gauge their own desirability. It asks the question: “If they could, would they choose me?” 🤔
- Communication & Trust: Open relationships often require a stronger foundation of trust and communication. This could appeal to those who enjoy deeper emotional connections.
**Possible solutions for navigating these feelings might include:**
- **Honest discussions:** Communicate openly with your partner about boundaries and feelings.
- **Exploring fantasies:** It can be fun to talk through fantasies together without pressure. This exploration might bring you closer!
- **Educating yourself:** Learning about non-monogamous dynamics can provide insight and ease any concerns.
So, what do you think? **Is there something freeing about the idea of sharing? Or is it a source of insecurity for many?** I would love to hear your experiences or any tips you’ve found helpful! 🌟
Also, for those who might be curious to know more, here are some resources that dive deeper into this topic: Healthline on open relationships and Polyamory subreddit.
Looking forward to hearing from you all! Let’s keep the conversation respectful and insightful. 💬
Watching too much porn leads to self doubt , when people have sex irl and see that their women is not enjoying as much as the women in porn they think she’s unsatisfied
I enjoy the idea of myself with other people, she should have the same pleasure
Isn’t that a cuckhold
Its just IRL porn but with the person you love as the star. They probably like their partner being desired
They ultimately regret their immoral degeneracy. Always.
– it’s hot to see your partner enjoying herself, uninhibited, and for her to feel like she’s ‘spoiled’ sexually.
– Some men like and find especially attractive highly sexual, slutty/promiscuous women, so for that kind of man it’s a turn-on to see the woman he loves embodying those qualities.
– he might have other kinks or desires that require the involvement of another man to fulfil, like spitroasting her or sloppy seconds.
– Often it can be a way to play into a fetish for humiliation and emotional masochism, of course, or a way to turn feelings of sexual inadequacy into something different/better. But this is only a subset of ‘assymetrical nonmonogamy’ and it would be a mistake to think this is universal for men who like this or even men who like cuckolding specifically.
– It’s pretty taboo, and people tend to find anything taboo combined with sex and sexuality pretty hot and thrilling.
– He may want to see her experience pleasures that he’s not able to give her. Obviously the classic/stereotype for this is a big dick, but that’s far from the only example. There are certain kinds of more harsh/degrading dominance, for example, that it’s very hard for a typical loving husband to give ‘convincingly’. And even for slightly softer kinds, some men just can’t get into embodying that role or feel too ‘nice’ for their wife/girlfriend to really believe or get into it.
– Some MDom/FSub couples enjoy the idea that who the sub has sex with is not entirely up to her, and that she can be ‘shared’ with his friends as he sees fit.
This is just an opinion without any experience in this field, so take it with a grain of salt.
I think it might be one of two things. Take Serenity Cox (you can find her on pornhub) – her husband is filming her and at the end of each video he cums in under 30 seconds. So I believe he’s either very generous and wants her to experience longer than 30sec fucking. Or he has some mental issues about his performance which lead to this kink. Or both.
On the other hand, it might be someone, who has married a very attractive woman and likes the attention. It’s like the joke: Imagine you’re shipwrecked with 10 supermodels on an deserted island. The help is coming and will be here in a month. Would you rather fuck all 10 supermodels, but you could not tell anyone. Or fuck neither of them, but the whole world would think you did?
I believe this might be an ego thing. “Look at me, look how hot and desirable my wife is. Look at the woman I was able to get!”. After some time, just showing her at the beach and in the club might not be enough and it might evolve in some kind of kink. Especially when combined with years and years of watching porn.
I’m so attracted to my wife I don’t really enjoy porn unless I’m imagining it’s her, or it is her, even if I’m not the guy. And I say this as basically a former porn addict (spent a lot of time in the Middle East). So it’s like watching porn starring the woman I love, and seeing her in different ways. I’ve fucked her every which way and have views of all that, it’s hot to see it from different view points, be right in her face when she’s getting railed out, see her different reactions and different levels of sluttyness with different guys, etc. it’s experiencing my wife in new ways all the time, and it’s hot seeing her act different with all of them.
There’s also the aspect of her being desired. Every guy wants a partner who is desirable (for the most part). It’s hot knowing how much other guys desire her (literally making them cum), seeing her different sexual sides come out, all the while knowing she is still my partner at the end of the day and I’m the one that gets to have her, even if the other guys got to try her out for a little bit.
Cuckolding is a type of emotional masochism, so a part of it is BDSM.
It’s Amazing to see your girlfriend being a total slut and getting off doing it right in front of you. You don’t want anyone to know shes fucking another guy, but the guy knows what her pussy feels like. Its knowing your girl is a slut, another guy knowing your girl is slut, your girl knowing you like to watch other guys fuck her. The secret is just so hot. You’re not supposed be doing this… but you are. What if people find out. What will they think? Thats hot too!
I’m voyeur and it would make me so happy watch my partner fucking someone else while I watch and touch myself
I’m not a cuck, so I’m just sharing my thought process as to why someone MAY like it, not a fact, but.
I knew one guy who was like this, and prior to being this way he got cheated on in almost every relationship and he told me that he got so used to being cheated on and left for dead so he decided he wanted to give his girl freedom to do as she pleases so that he may not be betrayed behind his back and left.
It didn’t last tho, i’m pretty sure the very first time he watched his new girl have sex with another guy.. she left him for that guy not even a week later.
I like making my wife get off. If it involves something I cannot give her then it’s another opportunity to help her get off in a different way. For example a mfm cannot be done by 2 people (sure it can be fantasised and experimented) bit if it helps fulfil a fantasy that gets her off it could be a wonderful experience.
It can be a turn on if you’re not jealous. Seeing how your baby is fckd, maybe Kiss a little or something else. It might be cool
Well, you asked…
Like some others said, a lot of guys watch so much porn to get off, but end up replacing the woman in the video with their wife in their minds.
It usually happens because they are very HL and their wives aren’t. The husband wants to see his wife *really* enjoy sex with him like he sees in porn, but because she doesn’t, somewhere in his mind he thinks if she’s with someone else, maybe he will finally see her be this sexual being he desires for her to be.
– A LOT of these guys have been cheated on and it hurt so badly that he decided he will never let himself be cheated on again. It’s a kink created as a coping mechanism. A lot of them also say the reason they were cheated on is because they “weren’t big enough” and didn’t satisfy her the way other man have. It becomes a form of acceptance.
-Also, a man doesn’t even have to be cheated on, but have such a debilitating fear of it happening that this kink is formed to cope with it.
-Many just want to see their woman be a slut. Their personal ✨️porn star✨️ bc he is so addicted to porn.
-“I want to see my wife be satisfied” usually comes from guys who can’t last long enough to please their wife, or their size and lack of performance makes it very difficult for the couple to fully enjoy sex.
-Some guys think their wife is so hot, and he likes to show her off. It’s some sort of self-centered, prideful mindset.
It makes them feel good about themselves to see other people check her out (or THINK others are).
Yes, a husband should think his wife is the most beautiful woman in the world to him, but somewhere in that brain of his, he thinks other men think that too. It’s like this very unhealthy need for extreme validation. I’m not exactly sure where all of that stems from.
‐ Many are secretly bi, so they use their wife as some placeholder to live vicariously through in her experience with another man.
-Others actually want to be the ones having sex with others, so they encourage their wives to do the same.
Mental illness
For some people maybe the taboo aspect of it is hot for some reason. I wouldn’t actually want it to happen at all, but the idea does turn me on. More so just her being seen naked.. at a nude beach, as a nude drawing model, even getting an exam from a male doctor.. idk, it’s weird that I don’t like the idea of it happening, but it turns me on, what’s wrong with me lol