#DoubleStandard #GenderEquality #SocialNorms
🤔 What’s the worst double standard you ever heard? 🤔
When it comes to double standards, there seems to be no shortage of examples that we encounter in our daily lives. From the workplace to relationships, there are countless instances where different standards are applied to different groups of people. In this article, we’ll dive deep into exploring some of the worst double standards we’ve heard, and how they impact our society.
## Understanding Double Standards
Before we delve into specific examples, it’s important to understand what double standards are and how they manifest in our society. Double standards are unfair and unjust treatment of different individuals or groups of people. These standards are often based on gender, race, age, or other social identifiers.
### Gender Double Standards
One of the most prevalent forms of double standards is related to gender. In many societies, there are different expectations and norms for men and women, leading to unequal treatment in various aspects of life.
#### Example 1: Dress Codes
In many workplaces and social settings, women are often held to stricter dress codes compared to men. While men are allowed to wear casual attire, women are often expected to adhere to more formal and conservative clothing. This discrepancy in dress codes perpetuates the idea that a woman’s appearance is more important than her skills and abilities.
#### Example 2: Parenting Expectations
When it comes to parenting, there are often different expectations set for men and women. Women are expected to be primary caregivers and are often criticized for prioritizing their careers over their children. On the other hand, men are praised for being involved in their children’s lives, despite doing the same amount of caregiving as women.
### Racial Double Standards
Racial double standards are another prevalent issue in society, where individuals are treated differently based on their race or ethnicity.
#### Example 1: Criminal Justice System
Studies have shown that people of color are disproportionately targeted and treated unfairly within the criminal justice system. Minorities are more likely to be arrested, convicted, and given harsher sentences compared to their white counterparts for the same offenses.
#### Example 2: Professional Opportunities
Despite advancements in diversity and inclusion efforts, people of color still face significant barriers in accessing the same professional opportunities as their white counterparts. They are often overlooked for promotions and leadership positions, despite having the qualifications and experience.
### Age Double Standards
Age double standards refer to the different expectations and treatment of individuals based on their age.
#### Example 1: Career Advancement
Older employees often face age discrimination in the workplace, where they are passed over for promotions and job opportunities in favor of younger, less experienced candidates. This perpetuates the idea that older individuals are less capable and adaptable in their careers.
#### Example 2: Relationship Norms
In society, there is often judgment and stigma attached to relationships with significant age gaps. Older men dating younger women are often celebrated, while older women dating younger men are met with criticism and scrutiny.
## Impacts of Double Standards
The prevalence of double standards in our society has far-reaching impacts on individuals and communities, perpetuating inequality and discrimination.
### Psychological Effects
Double standards can have detrimental effects on an individual’s self-esteem and mental well-being. Constantly being held to different standards can lead to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness.
### Social Inequality
Double standards contribute to the perpetuation of social inequality by reinforcing stereotypes and limiting opportunities for marginalized groups.
### Hindered Progress
Overall, double standards hinder societal progress by preventing individuals from being judged based on their merits and abilities, rather than societal expectations and norms.
## Overcoming Double Standards
While double standards may seem entrenched in our society, there are steps that can be taken to overcome them and create a more equitable world for everyone.
### Education and Awareness
By raising awareness and educating people about the existence and impacts of double standards, we can work towards challenging and dismantling these unfair norms.
### Advocacy and Activism
Supporting advocacy efforts and actively speaking out against double standards is crucial in pushing for societal and systemic change.
### Policy and Legislation
Enacting and enforcing policies and legislation that address and eliminate discrimination based on gender, race, and age is essential in creating a more equitable society.
In conclusion, the prevalence of double standards in our society has profound impacts on individuals and communities, perpetuating inequality and discrimination. By understanding, addressing, and actively working to overcome these double standards, we can create a more inclusive and equitable world for all. It’s time to challenge and dismantle these unfair norms, and strive towards a society where everyone is judged based on their merits and abilities, rather than societal expectations and norms.
People citing the Bible from the Old Testament when trying to justify their hatred towards gay people.
The same people if u tell them something from the Old Testament ; we dont use it anymore, God’s will is in the New Testament.
All religions preach love and tolerance, but only if you believe what they do. Fuckheads.
Adult women preying on underage boys is literally joked about meanwhile adult men who prey on underage girls is the worst of the worst those two can NOT be any further apart. BOTH ARE PREDATORS
Men being raped laughed upon. Whilst women being raped is, a serious crime in the eyes of the society. Same goes with domestic violence.
Double standards are the worst, amirite? Like when my boss can come in late but I get yelled at for being two minutes late. Pfft.
Only White people can be racist. (And in fact are born that way)
My mother all my life favored her ‘first born son’ just because of that luck, nothing else. He is spoiled, lazy, has no direction or ambition in life because why would he, everything is catered to him and given .
Nothing he does has any bad consequences , always gets the praise, she laughs at his every ‘joke’ including the ones which he ridicules and disrespects her in front of everyone . She uses ‘us (she and my brother) vs ‘you (the rest of her kids)’ language when speaking about her own family.. He doesn’t give a f* about her, why would he when she behaves like a mad worshipper?
Steals from other kids, gives it to her ‘first born SUN’, keeps his lock of hair as a childhood memento, keeps badmouthing her other kids so ‘the one’ gets all the love from strangers, they hang out all the time, business, holiday etc. Other kids are only there to serve them, if not they are hated.
I can go on and on.
It’s wild , I really want to pick her brains and study her psychologically.
Probably the whole if a man is promiscuous he’s a stud, player, the man, etc. but if a woman is promiscuous then she’s a slut, whore, etc.
When Supreme Court Judge Scalia died 8 months before an election it was too close to the election to pick a judge
However when Ruth Beater Ginsberg died 6 weeks before an election it’s time to pick a judge
Guys that want to hook up with girls but look down on the girls that want to hook up with them for having a history of hooking up with guys. Make it make sense. Not the worst double standard that I might have ever heard but definitely the worst one that I experienced myself
People like my Grandmar. When I got pregnant with each of my 3 kids cried and moaned that I shouldn’t be doing it, but when I said I wanted a hysterectomy because there is a very good chance a 4th pregnancy will not end well and the fact I don’t want any more, she again cried because I might divorce my husband and find another man who wants kids. Well I neither want to divorce my husband or die/suffer a miscarriage/ or be in a position where I can’t care for my 3 young living children because of something I can prevent. You can’t moan about people having kids and moan about people preventing themselves from having more/any kids because the consequences could be fatal.
>”Obviously if you’re watching a scene with a woman tied to a bed while a man forces sex on her, the final act of that movie will involve said man getting shot in the face by Bruce Willis. If, on the other hand, it’s a man being tied down and forced into sex by a pretty lady, well, you’re watching a wacky romantic comedy.”
I have a relative who will spread rumors bout you and make up the worst lie they can. But God forbid you tell anyone what they do and they come crying like you just shot their newborn.
They also dislike people who own debts and don’t pay what they owe, he owes everyone money and refuses to oy them back.
That women can’t commit assault or domestic violence because they are smaller and men can defend themselves, ergo it isn’t assault/DV.
Jack Nicholson beat a lady blind and hardly anyone talks about it at all, but one mention of Chris Brown there’s a line up of people waiting to tell you what he did.
I got into a huge fight with my ex-roommates girlfriend. There were a lot of layers to what was going on. One main thing was me telling her the reason I didn’t want to hang out with her was because she was homophobic (she had previously said it should be illegal for gay people to have kids and that she does not believe any woman is a lesbian because they use vibrators so they must like men).
She responded to this by telling me “I have a gay friend, I’m not homophobic” to which I responded “that’s like saying I’m not racist, I have a black friend” in those words exactly.
Her response? “That’s the most racist thing I ever heard!!!”
I was flabbergasted.
Men who stand up and take control are assertive, women who do the same are pushy, bitchy, know it all. The tears my daughter has cried in frustration is heartbreaking. I keep telling her to keep being pushy and assertive and they can all fuck off if rhwy don’t like it.
Homophobic politicians being caught doing gay orgies
“I want a stay-at-home wife that will cook and clean but I don’t want her to live off my money because that makes her a gold digger”
That Mao and Stalin aren’t considered as evil as Hitler even though they caused the deaths of more people.
I dont think this is the worst double standart but certainly a very frequent one.
People who drink alcohol regularly looking down at others and seeing them as a junkie for doing other substances occasionally which in many cases are safer than alcohol at all aspects – long term toxicity, OD potential, addictivity, risky behaviour. Mostly psychedelics.
Fan girls being mocked and called childish or stupid for liking an artist, but guys going to football games in the colours of the team they like and getting physically upset when their team loses, etc and that being okay.
People telling their daughters not to wear shorts around male family, but then also making jokes about their toddlers like “who’s your boyfriend”.
Get.
Fucked.
My ex seemed pro choice having 8 abortions in his life. But the moment I weighed a hypothetical for me, he suddenly started acting like a baby was precious and to not perform that. Only for his convenience right?
It’s okay if I get insulted and belittled, but standing up for myself is “overreacting”. It’s frustrating.
My Roomate before his Gf made him cut me off lol…
For months I watched this man cook dinner, clean after, clean the living room, dining room, kitchen, all the laundry, and all the driving for his partner every single day.
On trips he carries the luggage. Pumps the gas. Grabs all the supplies when shopping. Draws the bath water for her. Buys whatever she wants.
To be honest, I wasn’t gonna mention it at all but dude started looking gaunt. Made a comment about how he wished she’d get her car fixed.
When I asked him if he needed a day off would she be willing to cover any of that for them?
He scoffed at me like I was crazy for even suggesting it.
In return he gets…… a gf?
Guys who won’t wash their ass complaining about girls smell.
Neighbour #1 moans about next doors (Neighbour #2) dog barking tells her to use an electric dog collar to shut it up (which she does) …. then that same Neighbour #1 complains about her own dogs barking at my cat, I buy her some dog collars and give them to her to use on her own dogs, suddenly dog collars are cruel and she will never use them on her own dogs 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
I once seen a girl on a dating app whose bio read only
“Not interested in anyone who takes mirror selfies”.
All of her pictures were mirror selfies.
In my town, a politician was assaulted and the perpetrator was immediately arrested and charged. The same politician also turns a blind eye to crime and violence in our town. People get assaulted daily but charges and jail time are next to none.
I’ve experienced this. My sister slapped me, so I slapped her. Then I had to stay home while her and the rest of the family went to pizza arcade. 🙁
Single mothers need to get out and work as many hours as they can while ‘someone’ takes care of the kids and not be a burden to society. Married women who get out and work as many hours as they can while ‘someone’ takes care of the kids are neglecting their families/career bitches/taking jobs away from men.
One of the girls in my larger friend group is getting an RO against an ex, so when our group was hanging out the topic of abusive relationships came up, and I talked about being SA’d by my ex girlfriend. She was an adult, I was a kid, she drugged me. A guy who had just joined the group (who I was flirting with until this moment) told me that it didn’t really count because I’m a girl and she’s a girl so “how violent could it really be” and then proceeded to make cracks like “you know, like *real* victims” until my friends kicked him out.
My dad told me that I couldn’t have a boy in my room unless the door was wide open.
But my brother is allowed to lock his door when his girlfriend was in his room. He’s younger than me.
It’s not fair.
Bribery is illegal, but lobbying is fine.
TW: SU*CIDE ATTEMPT
I was in a psychiatric ward at a hospital for a su*cide attempt. My friend’s mom, who I’m living with, let’s call her T, looks high and low for what hospital I’m in. She was calling, driving to ERs, the works. She tried to visit me once she found me, which I declined.
Seems like she really cares about me, huh?
Well, T was the reason I was in there. She drove me to wanting to take myself out.
I get home after a long week or two. I leave T a note, at the suggestion of the psych ward staff. The note basically said I was in here because of something you did. Can you not be an asshole (paraphrasing, I didn’t swear in the note).
She gets Very Offended at this, and decides to slam my door down (literally. The door almost broke off of its hinges) and start screaming at me. Some of the highlights include: “you’re not the only one here with a mental illness” and “you’re a princess who needs to get off of her high horse” that last one was because I said hey, I want to be treated like I’m part of the family (long, complicated story, but they decided they wanted to “adopt” me out of an abusive situation, but never treated me as equal to the family)
So anyways. Her. That.
A girl at work violated personal boundaries with coworkers & customers (all men) and gave the excuse “I was drunk, what else were you expecting” to HR and her leaders. She only got fired after the 5th time repeating this behaviour.
I received a 5 year sentence for an ounce of cannabis. The lady tried right before me received a one year suspended sentence for killing a single father of 3 and one of his kids while she was driving drunk. It was her 5th dui, and her license was already permanently revoked.
Stealing billions gets you a fine but stealing 1000 gets you jail time.
A woman “slept her way to the top”.
It never seems to get phrased as “a man traded/coreced sex for promotion”.
It’s okay for men to have lots of sex, but not for women. Men get praised, women get called horrible names (or worse).
Flying in a private jet to an environmental conference.
Jesus is too liberal for Christians.
[“Where did you get those liberal talking points?”](https://newrepublic.com/post/174950/christianity-today-editor-evangelicals-call-jesus-liberal-weak)
“What was alarming to me is that in most of these scenarios, when the pastor would say, ‘I’m literally quoting Jesus Christ,’ the response would not be, ‘I apologize.’ The response would be, ‘Yes, but that doesn’t work anymore. That’s weak,’” Moore said.
Poor or minority kid caught taking drugs? They’re a hopeless product of poor upbringing and need to be locked away for the rest of their lives before they ruin any other lives.
Rich kid caught taking drugs? Everyone does dumb things at that age, we can’t let one bad decision ruin such a bright future.
Women are emotional. Men are not, even when display anger and can be angry people in general because for some reason, anger isn’t an emotion.
Minors under 18 in coordination with their parents and medical providers can’t make the decision to transition.
But
5 states have no lower limit on child marriages to adults.
2 states have a minimum age of 15
23 states have a minimum of 16
In most of these states minors do not have the right to file for divorce.
Also
Republicans are pushing to lower child labor laws so minors as young as 13 can be permitted to work in hazardous conditions