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Hey everyone! 👋 So I just turned 24 today and I’m ready to dip my toes into the world of dating for the first time, but I’m feeling a bit lost. Here’s a bit about my situation:
– I’ve never had my first kiss
– I don’t drink or party
– I’ve never used social media
– I work as a background dancer in Toronto
I really want to meet new people and maybe find someone special, but I have no idea where to start. Any suggestions on how to navigate the dating scene without social media or the club scene? Have you been in a similar situation or have any advice to share?
As for a possible solution, here are a few ideas I’ve been considering:
– Join a hobby or interest-based group in Toronto to meet like-minded individuals
– Try out dating apps that cater to non-drinkers or people with similar lifestyles
– Consider expanding your social circle by attending events or classes related to your interests
I’m open to any advice or suggestions you may have! Thanks in advance for your help. 🌟
I preface this by acknowledging that dating in this day and age has become quite difficult.
At your age, you’re at the peak of your physical attractiveness to men (if men are what your are going after). Don’t waste this time, because your selection as you get older (this is true for both men and women) will only ever shrink from here. The moment you dip your toe in the proverbial water, you’ll likely get a very decent amount of interest. Choose wisely, and think in terms of long term relationships. Think character and values, not riches or resources.
You should understand that you exist in a world where ~60% of single heterosexual men are no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with women. There are lots of reasons for that, all of which are due to the vast societal shift that has occurred over the past 40 years (and especially after COVID). You may find yourself in a situation where you have to do the approaching. That was unheard of in my era, but dynamics have now shifted and it’s clear that many young men don’t think the difficulties are worth it.
That being said, there are still plenty of young men your age looking for relationships. The best advice I can give is something that applies both to men and women: beauty comes from within, not from external looks or from money or resources or power. A person’s character and the way that person lives his or her life — that is the true value of that person. Don’t make the mistake that so many have made; don’t be tempted by the things that do not, at the end of the day, matter one bit.
All the best to you. I hope that this marks a new and joyous chapter of your life.
Damn where can I find a girl like you
Don’t rush and force things to happen. Let things unfold slowly. Be patient. Take your time. Clubbing doesn’t sound like a good way to meet people for relationships. Clubbing is mainly a place for people to drink do drugs and have flings. Better to avoid that stuff.
Also be careful when dating as a woman. Never meet in private, alone, in dark alleys, etc. always go with your gut instinct and don’t put yourself in situations you can’t get yourself out of.
As far as where to meet people just do things you enjoy and let things unfold naturally. The right people will meet you eventually.
First off, I wanna say you are still very very young. You’re really never too old to start dating, especially this day and age where it’s easier than ever for older folk to connect with one another. But you don’t have to worry about that yet.
To get to the core of my advice though, I’ve been in 3 relationships, two of them with women and currently with a man. All of my relationships sprang about from us growing closer after meeting due to our shared interests, all of them were artists and with all three I met them while taking part in a sort of art group/community.
Now, people are different but for me, sharing interests is kind of a necessity. I don’t have to share each and every thing, but starting with common ground goes a long way in having something you both share and can bond over.
My suggestion is this, consider a hobby you have, it doesn’t have to be like your main thing but just think of something you like doing. For example maybe you like a particular genre of literature. You can scour for clubs on books or film etc relevant to that genre and attend, meet people, even make some new friends all while getting to enjoy something you like. Scout around while there, don’t treat it as a dating service but keep your eye on whose available. Plus, you really get to know people in special interest clubs like this.
It definitely requires a lot more patience and much more of a “go with the flow” sort of mindset to relationship searching but in my experience it’s given me very meaningful relationships. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 7-8 years now. You’re also not constantly facing rejection or rejecting others which can become very emotionally taxxing.
25m, just like you. I dont know where to go to meet people, and dating apps are lame. Reading other responses for ideas.
Maybe try joining local dance groups or a class for any other hobbies you might have like hiking or yoga. I feel like you’re more likely to meet people in general that you can connect with and then get introduced to some of their friends. No need to rush it, just look to making friends and meeting people and you’ll eventually meet someone
There is no rush. Try different avenues. Try the dating apps, which can be awful but can work. Don’t get to invested or addicted, set a time to login each day and only spend x amount of time on it.
Don’t pay full price either. If you wait long enough Tinder and Hinge will offer you a discount. I think I had more luck on hinge. Maybe pay for a month on Hinge to test it out. If you match with someone, always set up a date as quickly as you can if you like that person. I used to stick with a within 2 week rule.
Meetup is good to find lots of different activities and maybe groups of people your age. Even if you meet older people, they might have a son they might want to set you up. A friend of mine met someone through her landlady.
No harm in clubbing now and again if you can stand it. 35 years ago I loved it, now I’d rather take a day trip to hell.
Don’t worry that you’ve not dated or kissed someone. It’ll happen, no rush at all. Nothing to be ashamed of.
All the best.
Im that guy you are looking for, dm me 🥺
I like breeze. It’s wayyy less toxic because you get to know eachother in real life. Take things slow and get to know somebodies character before being intimate or investing a lot of energy and hopes in somebody.
Apparently running clubs have become more popular recently and many people are using them to try and find a partner lol so maybe you can try that.
As for apps, def not tinder, I’d stick to bumble and hinge, just keep in mind that you will get A LOT of attention, but not a lot of quality attention lol. It’s ok to be picky, but also be open minded, and ofc the obvious such as meet in a public setting, get to know them a bit first, confirm their identity etc
Happy Birthday!!!
Do not go to the club with them! You are very rare and sought after. They will tell you to get with anyone and eventually turn you into a hoe just like them. Just live your life and eventually you’ll meet someone but don’t get tricked by anyone