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Hey there! It’s great that you want to help your younger brother out as he navigates the daunting world of finding a job π. It can be tough to know where to begin, especially when you’re fresh out of high school with no further education. But fear not! I’ve got some tips and suggestions to help him take his first steps towards a fulfilling career π.
How to approach the situation:
1. Be empathetic: Before jumping into the conversation, put yourself in your brother’s shoes. It’s important to understand that he may be feeling lost or uncertain about his future.
2. Be supportive: Let your brother know that you’re there to help him and that you want to see him succeed. Approaching the conversation with a positive and encouraging attitude will make him more receptive to your advice.
3. Offer options, not demands: Instead of telling him what to do, present different career paths and job opportunities. This will help him feel like he has a say in his own future.
Career paths for him:
1. Entry-level jobs: Suggest that your brother start with entry-level positions in industries that interest him. Retail, hospitality, and customer service are great places to start gaining work experience.
2. Trade schools: If your brother is more hands-on and enjoys working with tools, he could look into trade schools for careers like electrician, plumber, or HVAC technician.
3. Apprenticeships: Apprenticeships are a fantastic way for young adults to learn a trade while gaining valuable on-the-job experience. Encourage your brother to explore this option.
Getting started:
1. Job search websites: Help your brother create accounts on job search websites like Indeed, Glassdoor, and LinkedIn. These platforms have a wide range of job listings for entry-level positions.
2. Resume building: Guide your brother in creating a strong resume that highlights his skills and any relevant experience. There are plenty of online resources and templates available to help with this.
3. Networking: Encourage your brother to reach out to family, friends, and acquaintances for job opportunities and referrals. Networking can open doors to hidden job prospects.
Remember, the key is to be patient and understanding. Your brother may need time to figure things out, and that’s okay. With your support and guidance, he’ll be on his way to finding a fulfilling career in no time! Good luck! π #HelpingMyBrotherFindAJob #JobSearchSupport #GuidanceForYoungAdults #SiblingSupport
The biggest thing for him is finding what drives him to get him up in the morning and go to work. You could talk about something youβre passionate about and talk about your plans for the future and then segue into what heβs into. Donβt really approach the job thing but more about what he likes to do and what he dreams of doing in the future. Help him just envision what he wants from life.
Just knowβ¦ you may hit a roadblock with him and that is because he likely has his own mental block that he needs to work on individually. Thereβs something that keeps him from wanting to dream or plan. Whether itβs fear or laziness, itβs something that needs to be worked through independently.
Not sure of his situation but he wonβt change unless he needs to change. So, go step by step with himβ¦ see where he is with his future thoughts and if heβs resistant youβll know that thereβs other things he needs to overcome before he will even allow himself to think about what he wants to do with his life.
Honestly, Iβd talk to your parents about charging him rent. I donβt know where youβre located but they should charge him a similar amount to what it would actually cost to rent an apartment. Personally, I floundered a bit my first year out of highschool until moving away and having to pay my own bills. Really put things in perspective and inspired me to do better in school and consider my future. I donβt know what your familyβs situation is like but if your parents are well off they could stop charging him rent once he gets his life on track or even put all of the money he pays into a savings account and return it to him when the time is right. At any rate, sounds like your bro could use a friendly wake up callπ«‘
If he likes Doordashing – do you live in a region where there is either an Amazon Delivery Service Provider (DSP) or Amazon Flex?
Amazon Flex would be similar to DoorDash in that they’d deliver packages using their own vehicle for Amazon.
DSP would be formal employment with a contractor who works to deliver packages. It might be flexible, it might be full or part time, it depends on their needs.
See also, UPS, USPS, FedEx if he likes being quiet and driving. USPS may be a lot of overtime though.
Maybe play the angle where ‘Hey, our parents are concerned that you might need some more money, but I heard you like Doordash. How about these?’
Also also…look at the phenomenon that is multi-apping other delivery services. I made OK money doing both DoorDash and UberEats, but from what I know, DoorDash is really cutting their wages – so it might be important for him to pivot elsewhere soon.
Amazon, UPS, FedEx have access to education benefits, so he could go to school and explore career paths.
Don’t be overbearing, just…bring it up casually, like a sibling might. Obviously if he feels like you’re attacking, he’ll likely shut the conversation down. But I digress, I admit I’m not much of a fan of ‘tough love’, and, considering you don’t live in that household, it might be the parents who have to do that. Cheers.
Find him a therapist or life coach that can help him set life goals and take steps to get there. They can also help identify underlying issues. Sometimes a 3rd party works better then family.
My brother was in the same situation. He is 29 now and finally at his first ever job for a year now. Like you said, the situation is probably a lot more complex.
For my brother, my parents did everything they could to get him up and running β bringing him into volunteer work, organizing with their friends to network for him, etc. The only thing that ended up getting him going and putting in work at these opportunities was starting therapy.
Brothers sometimes donβt like to tell us whatβs bothering them. He might be just as disappointed in himself as everyone else is. Be kind to him. When I attempted to do what your parents want you to do, my brother blew up on me, and I realized how deeply unwell he had been feeling.
I hope he is able to see how much you all want to help him and he is able to pull himself up. I donβt have much words of wisdom except I can lend some sympathy as have been in your place as the sibling. Listen, be a rock, love on him. It wonβt be forever. Good luck!
Frankly the motivation from my POV is money. He can βliveβ off his current very part-time DoorDash because your parents are subsidizing his life. He needs to realize that wonβt always be the case. He will need to make more money than he makes now. If for no other reason than he may want a new (or new to him) car someday.
Maybe start with finding out what he wants? I mean unless all he wants is to play video games in your parents basement and ear the food they provide, in which case your parents may need to execute on some tough love.
Best of luck to you, and more importantly, your brother!
It’s also okay to be entrepreneurial. Can he tutor? Rent some powerwasher equipment and go to door? Lawn care? Hell, lawn care people make a killing these days. If your family has the money to support it, if he gets off his but and can get some clients maybe you can help him get started
I lounged around home for 3 days after graduation, on the 4th day my dad got home from work and asked me what my plan was. βAre you going to go back to school or are you going to get a job? If you dont find a job youll come with me to do roofingβ i roofed for a while but that got me up and made me seek other job oportunities, i got into fire protection, it was all on the job training and some dedication to learn a trade, making a decent living now 3yrs in. It was rough start but i got going once i knew roofing was going to break me down, some people have to be given an ultimatum. I had an 18yo helper that would come in and didnβt care about progressing to make more money (which wasnβt hard) he quit and i asked him if he had another job lined up he said no i checked in on him last week and said he is still hanging out at home, some people just donβt care either i guess.
I’d start by just figuring out what his deal is. Talk to him about your life in college and his life at home, about whether he’s ever considered going back to school or getting a full time job. If you have any insecurities about what you’re doing, your career path or your major, I would personally share them, make it a two-way street. That’s just me and my brother though, I know he’d tune out the second I seemed to be condescending to him.
If he doesn’t have the motivation, try to show him what he’s missing. I’d talk up not having quiet hours in my apartment and getting to do whatever I want and bringing girls+friends home, but you should probably do whatever you like about college.
If he doesn’t know where to start, I’d walk away and come back later with a laptop. Just pull up an application for something you think he might be interested in and help him make a resume for it. Even if he doesn’t want that job, he can just not call them back after the interview.
I’d figure out if he has any unexpected skills; he must be doing something with all that free time… Right? If he’s into gaming, he probably types fast and is good with computers. You might have stenography courses in your area, and learning excel is always marketable.
If he’s genuinely doing nothing for 148 hours a week, then it might be a matter of having no marketable skills. In that case, looking for a job with a low barrier for entry that also doesn’t require dealing with a lot of people might be good (night janitor, warehouse work, post office delivery.) Like the other comments say, though, finding another driving/delivery job would probably be the best option.
If that doesn’t help, it might be time for your mom and dad to have a frank conversation about what’ll happen after they retire or if they get sick, and can’t support him anymore.
..or walk them through blocking Netflix/Steam on their wifi router.
Iβm 34 and and now worked 2 years consecutively for the first time in my life. I work as a customer service officer at the airport. He is so young and has a lot of time on his side.
A lot of job agencies in my 20s made me feel like I wasnβt capable, put me up for jobs that were awful for me and my mental health. It made me worse off in the long run. He should start slow and apply for jobs he thinks heβd like doing. I always wanted to work at the airport so I kept applying until something sticked.
One thing I am struggling with is not wanting to work because all I see is everyone exhausted and underappreciated with little pay for major amounts of work. I’m expected to do this for the next 60-80 years until I just fucking die, not having lived my own life. Generating profit for somebody else.
Maybe he needs some ideas/time/inspiration to focus on what he wants to do and a goal in mind.
Ik food service is shitty but if he needs expirence it’s really easy to start there. A job at a big box store like Best Buy/Target/Walmart is good. Lots of positions for all ranges of people.
Army or navy. He will learn alot of skills will have steady income and will be forced to get off his butt. There are a huge amount of benefits
Sounds like he needs to start where every uneducated adult male does. At the bottom. Fast food, janitor, service industry, or the military.
Get into film. Practically every job is available in film. He’ll find something.
Start by telling your parents to do their own parenting and cut him off and kick him out if need be. No need to soil your relationship with him because they can’t do what needs being done.
For a second I though you were my little sister writing this. but then I remember that they hate me and I do indeed have a job lol.
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working at night. Vampire gangs
Volunteering with your local rotary club ir any kind of free internshio
Your parents are enabling him from moving forward. Why should he get a job when living at home is free. Heβs 22, not 12. My mother always said, βIf youβre too scared to work, you canβt be scared to be hungry either.β Your parents, not you, need to talk to him. They need to stop enabling him and start giving him ultimatums.
Heres a kind of easier way. If he has a drivers license. And also in America
Call C.R. England Truck Driving School. They have several schools across America. Its almost guaranteed they will accept him. Google it for more info. Its where I got my CDL (commercial drivers license) years ago.
If he takes and passes the written tests at the DMV first, the school can be just 2 weeks. If he takes the written tests through CR england, the class is at least 3 weeks.
They will send him a bus ticket to the nearest school. They will put him in a motel, or the dorms if its in the Utah school, while he’s there. They pay for that. He will have to provide his own food.
After he passes his driving test, like almost immediately after, they bring you in and hand you a contract that says if you work for them for a year, then the school is free, if not its like 10k.
A day or 2 later, your trainer comes and picks you up, and takes you across America for a week or 2 showing you the ropes. You make whatever your states minimum wage is during that time.
After that you’re on your own. Its likes 5 weeks of time. Some of it you get paid for. The absolute minimum you need to provide is food, and like 200 dollars for tests. Life is changed for the good.
I would advise a job at a grocery store. It gets you around the public, you get a decent discount, and itβs physical.
Your parents can give him an ultimatum
Either start a career by getting certificates/degree or start paying $1,000 in rent a month.
That should motivate him to look into certificates or a degree or start a career path
He should investigate career paths he is interested in for their income ceiling and what he would have to do to make it to the salary cap
If he likes driving maybe look into getting him a cdl.
He may be depressed. My suggestion would be either a warehouse type job or manufacturing.
Iβll tell you what – I know a family of two kids both are full adults and because both are allowed to stay at home mostly free by their stupid parents, both have little drive and growth over the years. One of them is over 30+. Never move out. Boss around the house like heβs done shit because he goes to gym every day.
The easiest way to wake them up is simply – kick them out of the house and force them to live for themselves. At the beginning, parents can cover most of the cost but he will have to contribute to the cost. Like 80% cost cover and he need to find ways to cover the other 20%. Then see what job he has and such, just over time lower the contribution until he pays everything for himself 100%. Itβs the most realest way to teach some young adult that they need a reality check and work for themselves if they are fucking lazy. And poor parenting enables them.
The best thing you can do is to stay the FUCK OUT THIS MESS. You did not create it, you can not solve it. Get involved and you WILL lose.
Your parents helped to create this mess, and they need to “parent up” and solve it.
I have tried to change people close to me and it has never worked.
You can offer to help and explain why they should do something, but if your parents really want him to be independent they need to give him an ultimatum and force him to move out if he doesnβt come up with a plan and execute it in a specified timeline.
Some people donβt have whatever nature/nuture combination needed to have the fire in them to get moving.
Well, I never had a really stable job until I was 22β¦ I did mushrooms a lot, and it got my head on straight.. of course, it could also make him go crazy.. I might have gone crazyβ¦ maybe I am π
I recommend the non-profit Per Scholas. They provide free tech training and walk people through it and help them learn job skills and get job placement. Pays a livable wage and school doesnβt take forever. They also loan a laptop
Might need a psychologist.