#RelationshipIssues #CoupleDrama #Friendship #AlcoholSituations
### Who is in the wrong here?
Two couples went out for drinks and things took a turn for the worse. Let’s break down the situation and see who is at fault here.
#### The Incident
– Sasha was the designated driver but one of the men, 35M, had too much to drink and delayed leaving.
– He called Sasha a derogatory term and got upset when called out on it.
– He argued that swearing is normal in Australia and felt vilified by the group.
#### Assessing the Situation
– **Alcohol Influence:** It’s clear that 35M’s behavior was influenced by alcohol.
– **Lack of Accountability:** 35M failed to take responsibility for his actions and instead shifted blame onto others.
– **Cultural Differences:** While swearing might be acceptable in some cultures, context is key and it’s important to be respectful of others.
#### Advice on Handling the Situation
– **Communication:** It’s important for all parties involved to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings.
– **Apology:** 35M should apologize for his behavior and take ownership of his actions.
– **Forgiveness:** The group should be open to forgiving and moving past this incident for the sake of their friendship.
#### Bhagavad Gita Wisdom
– In challenging situations, it’s important to maintain a sense of humility and compassion.
– Treat others with respect and kindness, even when faced with conflict.
– Let go of ego and focus on finding resolutions through understanding and forgiveness.
In conclusion, it’s clear that 35M’s behavior was inappropriate and he should take steps to apologize and make amends. By following the principles of open communication, accountability, and forgiveness, the group can move past this incident and strengthen their bond. Remember, true growth comes from facing challenges with grace and understanding.
I would suggest contacting Sasha on her own, letting her know that you’re sorry about how Asshole treated her yesterday, you want her to know that you and your boyfriend care about her, and she can always talk to you if she needs help or just to talk about things.
He’s definitely in the wrong and should be calling you but I mean you could always reach out and bring it up first if you wanted.
That being said, I probably would have just taken an Uber or something if he was avoiding leaving and going to make me late.
The drunk toddler is wrong but are you gonna make Sasha suffer for his stupidity? It sounds like you wouldn’t want things to end badly for her and you care for her so I’d reach out to her and call it a day.
Its between them. But, prior to their next visit, you might make them aware that you will not be going out and drinking with them if Sasha’s BF can’t handle his drinking properly.
Don’t reach out he’s a jerk
Support Sascha. If this is normal behaviour, you calling him out like that might help her in a time she really really needs it. To be able to see that getting treated like that is not ok. Please don’t contact him or try to make up with him, stand your ground like you initially did – good job for that btw.
Sasha’s boyfriend is an asshole. Without more info, he is the only one in the wrong here.
As far as what to do, just keep in contact with her like you normally would.
The drunk dude can go back to Australia as fast as he can.
Call your friend and simply say that you and your BF only want the best for her. Leave it like that. If the friend offers more, good.
Where is olga?
Calling someone a C is never a friendly thing.
I am Aussie and swear like a sailor. He wasn’t doing it as a term of endearment.
He isn’t going to be accountable but I would reach out to his partner to make sure she’s okay
I mean, even if you pretend his argument about Australians swearing was normal [there’s nuance to it, nobody would say his example was appropriate, he even explained why – he wasn’t being friendly] the reality is that he still clearly was upset and petulant at having to leave, showing he was not in control of his liquor. The result is, whether his swearing was ironic or not, he created tension and a scene and that is something he needs to apologise for.
He ought to apologise so reaching out is tricky. Especially if he doubles down while sober. Keep your eye on her, message her directly, I suspect this is a ‘hey, is he like this a lot’ conversation waiting to happen.
Australian here, not all Australians use the c word as a term of endearment, only the really crass and uncouth ones. Regardless, he was not using it in that context and your bf was right to call him out on it.
I mean, they should be reaching out to you guys to apologize, not the other way around.
It doesn’t matter how good of friends you are, she won’t leave him for you. So if you want to keep her around best adjust, he doesn’t follow your moral compass doesn’t make him a bad person.
Tell ‘em they’re both c***s and be done with these jokers
Australian here. It is absolutely NOT the norm!!
To put it in Australian terms, he’s a FUCKING BULLSHIT ARTIST.