Hey everyone! 🌟 I wanted to bring up something that’s been on my mind: why aren’t men more vocal during sex? I’ve noticed in porn that they tend to be pretty quiet, while the women seem to have all the vocal excitement. It’s a little confusing, especially since I find a guy moaning to be a serious turn-on! 😍
In my personal life, my boyfriend is also fairly silent during our intimate moments. He might let out some heavy breaths and a few words here and there, but nothing more. When I asked him about it, he said he’d rather keep his voice in. This made me wonder if it’s just a common thing among men, or if it varies from person to person. 🤔
Here are a few things that could explain this phenomenon:
- Societal Norms: Many men might feel societal pressure to “stay tough” and not express themselves vocally during sex, leaving the vocalizing to women.
- Comfort Levels: Some guys may simply not feel comfortable expressing themselves orally in that kind of intimate setting.
- Focus on Physical Pleasure: Perhaps for some men, the experience is so physical that they focus more on sensations rather than vocalizing how they feel.
It’s totally valid to want a more vocal experience during sex! Here are some potential solutions to explore:
- Open Communication: Talk to your partner about what you enjoy. Let him know that you find it sexy when he’s more expressive.
- Practice Together: Introduce playful scenarios where vocalization is encouraged. This could help him to feel more comfortable expressing himself.
- Use Media as Inspiration: Watch movies or read books together that might encourage him to be more vocal. Sometimes seeing it in action can spark a new dynamic!
I’d love to hear from you all! Is your partner vocal during sex? What do you think contributes to the silence? If you’ve got tips for bringing out more vocal expression in the bedroom, please share! 👇
Also, if you’re looking for more insights, check out this article on communication in the bedroom. It’s packed with useful pointers! 🔗
My porn has no women in it and the guys are plenty vocal. I feel like this is definitely a straight guy thing since not a lot of straight porn isn’t even made for women in mind.
Hell that’s also true for lesbian porn too.
I often yodel
Porn is targeted towards men, where they make women more vocal (fake moaning) to boast mens egos that they are doing well during intercourse. Men don’t want to hear other men moan.
We suffer in silence
1. I don’t want to speak for other men, but for me, the noises I make during sex are involuntary. Forcing myself to make noise would take me out of it and make me feel silly. I’ve only gone out of my way to do it when a partner has expressed they find it hot when I moan
2. Porn isn’t representative of reality. It’s fantasy. And yes, the reason is that the largely straight male audience doesn’t want to hear men groaning. If you watch the odd video where men groan a lot and there’s a comment section, the comment section is all about how the man groans too much
Cultural norms
Masturbating at home through our formative years – a home that was never empty.
There is an excellent evolutionary explanation for [female copulatory vocalizations](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_copulatory_vocalizations). Once you learn about why females making copulatory vocalizations during sex has evolutionary advantages, it makes it easier to understand why males *don’t* typically don’t do it.
When I made noise in the past the women told me to stop
We’re focusing on not to cum in 10 seconds
Currently I howl and yip
We’re concentrating
I don’t think it’s you, OP. Maybe your bf is a bit shy. Maybe u could do a little bit of dirty talk. Maybe coax him out of his shell a little, and see where that goes.
That shits hard work! My fat ass can barely walk and talk at the same time.
My gfs have told me they appreciate me being vocal 🙂↕️
Well, men naturally make less sound/noise for multiple reasons. These are my guesses:
1. They are usually focusing more on “working” or “doing the job”, and not so much on recieving pleasure. This does not mean that it doesn’t feel good, but just that the ability to receive/take the pleasure is not the main focus.
2. Men are less sensitive during the act compared to women, and a woman’s build-up towards orgasm is way longer, which means she feels everything more during the act and will therefor likely be more vocal/expressive, simply because there is more feeling.
3. Some men feel awkward with moaning, and because it’s maybe not something they are used to, it doesn’t come very natural, and if it doesn’t come natural it will be distracting to try to force.
4. Men get a lot of mental pleasure from seeing and hearing the amount of pleasure they are giving their partner, so they would rather listen to them moan than hear themself.
Because we’re trying to concentrate on not turning you into a cream filled donut
Just tell him how hot it makes you when he moans and gasps. He’ll turn into a regular screamer in no time 😉
Srrsly, I needed a girl to ask why I was so quite during sexy time before I opened up a bit.
im incredibly vocal. i yell and whimper and shit. Maybe tell ur man to not jack off or watch porn and he’ll be more into it.
You ask “during sex” and then the whole experience of the problem you talk about is actually porn, which is not how normal people have sex in real life. And yeah, most porn is for straight male audiences who don’t want to hear a gruff burly man moaning. They want to hear the woman.
As for your boyfriend, he probably thinks moaning isn’t manly or something.
Because porn is for men. Men don’t get turned on by men moaning.
I use to stay quiet. But my confidence got higher cause I started wrking out. Now I’m singing opera in ya ear
Can’t………divert…………energy…………trying…….to…….last…………
We’re focusing on remembering the formation of Argentina in 1993 Cops América to last those extra 5 seconds.
You’re welcome, ladies.
I think there’s a misconception that moaning isn’t manly and only grunting or silence is lol. Luckily I learned long ago a subtle moan makes girls go loko 😂
Have you ever tried to move your chair at school on the tile floor? That sound is the sound we make
I’m pretty noisy during regular PIV sex, but when I’m pegging my man I can barely even dirty talk because I’m concentrating too hard on the physical action. I imagine for guys it’s similar?
Penis ain’t a mic.
The average boy discovers a new use for his penis around 12 years old. He will then, approximately twice a day, explore that new use while living under the same room as his family for between 6 and 8 years and trying not to make noise and get caught.