#Relationships #DatingWomen #WhatDoYouGet
Hey guys, I’ve been doing some deep thinking lately and I’ve come to a realization – I no longer feel that strong biological urge to be around women. It’s got me wondering, what exactly do you get out of dating women?
I mean, sure, I get the whole love, companionship, and all that jazz. But other than that, what else is there? Recently, the idea of being single forever doesn’t sound too bad to me.
So, I’m throwing the question out there – what do you get out of relationships? Is it the excitement of getting to know someone new, the comfort of having a partner to lean on, or maybe just the adventure of it all?
Let’s dive deep into this together and share our thoughts. Leave your comments below and let’s start a conversation. Who knows, maybe we’ll all learn a thing or two! 😉👀 #LetsTalkRelationships #ShareYourThoughts #SingleLifeVsRelationships
I need feminine energy to soften my rough edges. I am the adrenaline junkie and take everything way to far. A woman keeps my schedule regular and my activities sensible.
The only reason I date is because hiring professional women is illegal. If it was not for base biological needs, I would never date. It is really not worth it, I lost 7 figures, my faith, my trusting nature, and belief that women are sugar and spice: in my divorce after catching her cheating after 24 years. Oh, and I lost any idea that men got equal treatment under the law.
When I’m older, I want to belong to a family that I help create with someone. Having people that know you intimately and love you for you. It’s a good purpose to have in this life.
Mostly problems.
Not a lot unless I find the right one
Companionship and sex, to be frank. I like my partner being my best friend and I get sexual satisfaction from having an emotional connection and desire with someone – hookups have just never been sexually or spiritually fulfilling.
Oh also, go try ask this on “askwomen” and see how many banned responses there are. That will tell you a lot.
its fun
To love and be loved, I guess.
Well women (some of them) are beautiful and mostly fun to be around.
You get to share experiences together and get your dick wet at the end (or start) of the day.
So mostly companionship and sex really.
Well, my girlfriend now wife has enriched every part of my life and made me feel the sort of security that only comes from knowing that you have someone you can trust to watch your back against the world. Even the smallest conversation with her reminds me how better my life is now that she’s in it. So… plenty?
Plus the sex. The sex is nice.
Theres nothing wrong with being single and enjoying it. Dating usually is done with the intent to eventually marry, but being longtime partners I think is fine too. For most people a relationship is a more intimate friendship, where you can confide in each other and be there for each other in ways friends cant. Other people are in it for physical reassurance and less for an emotional connection. Its important to communicate with your prospective partner so that everyone knows what the other is in the relationship for.
Intellectual intimacy is everything to me. I am single and my friends help (all of whom are women) but the search for it gives my life purpose and direction.
Intimacy.
I’m in the exact same mind set my bro. Saving money and no stress. Can’t really beat it 😎
Also have so much free time. I’m in the best shape of my life because I have time for the gym💪
You sound like me. I am single, I have had long time relations in my life, and now I come to the conclusion that the best happiness is to be alone. The overwhelming percentage of situations with a woman in a couple would make me unhappy for nothing. The only thing I miss is sex, I’ll find it by other ways. Emotionally, I’m very ok, the only people in my life I care for are my daughters (almost adult, will leave the nest soon and will ever be the best of myself), I don’t want other living being under the same roof. I am not a hater neither a mysogynist, I have lots of dear friends, most of them women. I just don’t want one close to me. Loneliness is to me almost an orgasmic hapiness.
I get along with my dates more than I do most guys and girl friends. Just seem to have found a lot of people that want to go drinking here or there, or partying. Going on dates, I find women are up for more interesting things. Escape rooms, picking fruit and baking with it, going to museums and galleries, endless amounts of interesting shit. Maybe some of it isn’t stuff you do with friends but a lot of it could be. I just find I enjoy doing it with dates more.
Plus, I’m amazing and I like people who notice that, and I like appreciating what’s amazing in other people.
For me every part of dating and relationships has always been super fun
I love meeting someone new and the rush of having a crush and flirting, and getting to know eachother and going out and hooking up with someone new is always a curious thing, and finding out you have the same sort of ideas and passion towards life and can work together and support eachother and grow together and always have someone you love around your life, just feels amazing to me.
There’s no part of dating or relationships I dislike tbh.
All I’ve been getting is trust issues and emotional neglect lol
Affection, conversation, intimacy
Mostly just a pipe dream to help try to keep me motivated. I know I’ll never end up dating someone who really wants me but the idea that one day someone might keeps me working hard I guess. Like mentally I’ve given up on finding love but my heart keeps dreaming so I keep going.
I’m going to be real, dating. Women? Sucks. Fucking awful. As a bisexual man I can tell you that when you are trying to date men you have the same problem women do which is that people just want to throw cock at you constantly. They want to fuck you every night everyday without even knowing who the fuck you are. But dating women? It’s fucking awful. It’s demoralizing and dehumanizing.
You feel like you are a Seal trying to jump through hoops. Writing Out your fucking Bumble profile like you’re doing Search engine optimization.
But being in a relationship with a woman? Being emotionally supported and having someone who loves me and who is always down to help me? Who validates my feelings and listens to my concerns? And is in my bed and warm when I wake up in the morning?
That is worth all of the horse shit that goes into dating.
I have never gotten into a long-term relationship with a man, I assume it is much the same thing, but I have never been willing to Wade through the parade of dicks on man on mandating apps nor have I been willing to be publicly out for the low quality of companionship or effort I have received from other men.
Love and companionship
I love my male friends, but there is something I can get get from a loving girlfriend than I don’t want nor get from a man, and it’s not just sexual stuff
For example, one thing I LOVE about being with a woman is just snuggling in bed. Not actually sex. I’m just snuggling each other.
Also, I see men in loving relationships with women and have a desire to also be in the same thing.
Guess it’s hard to explain, but being in a romantic, intimate relationship with a woman is very appealing to me.
Not that I don’t love or appreciate all my female friends because I do love them.
I’m not gonna doom and gloom. Sure, there are selfish and abusive women out there and my sympathy goes out to all the men who have been emotionally abused and/or cheated on but I see a lot of decent women getting married and treating their boyfriends/husbands well with love and support. So I’m not throwing in the towel with women.
I generally enjoy dating women.. even if some are a huge hassle.
For me, the essence of dating transcends the mere perks of companionship and the physical. It’s about finding that person who becomes the echo to your thoughts, the mirror to your emotions, and the companion to your silence. It’s about discovering a co-navigator in the journey of life, someone who challenges you to grow and celebrates your victories, big or small. The bond formed through shared dreams and quiet nights, through laughter and sometimes tears, adds layers to the human experience that can’t be replicated in solitude. So while the cool touch of someone’s hand or the warmth of their smile might spark the connection, it’s the profound depth of true understanding and mutual growth that turns the spark into a flame that can weather any storm.
It’s so telling, by some of these responses, how many men just genuinely don’t like spending time with women and it’s so funny how, despite that, so many dudes wonder why it’s so hard for them to find a date.
Women are people just like we are. Some are douchebags. Some are kind, or mean. Some are stupid, or smart. Some are caring, or aloof. I’d never spend time with a *person* who I didn’t actually like. But my fiancé makes my life better in every conceivable way.
Every day together we’re making each other laugh, supporting each other, and planning the future that we want. I never have to be afraid of talking to her about anything, in a way that I’ve never experienced with anyone else I’ve met in my entire life.
Someone to spend time with, talk to and have a physical relationship as well
When I’ve dated or been in relationships with women I find the connection and emotional intimacy to be the best parts. I’m not much of one to just want sex, but being able to cuddle together on the couch and watch movies is something I would never want to give up in life
What? Just, normal social interactions, maybe if you two click you can build a relationship, and sometimes ya might enjoy having sex.
Worst comes to worst the date doesn’t work out and both of you move on.
> Recently I hit a point of contentment. I noticed I no longer have that biological urge to be around women and it made me realize that other than that innate desire, I can’t think of any other reason I’d want to be in a relationship. At the moment, the thought of being single indefinitely doesn’t sound bad. If I met the right person, sure, but otherwise I’m good. So I’m curious what do you all get out of a relationships?
Can’t speak to relationships, but I find that my friendships with women have been really fulfulling. They provide the majority of what you’d get in a relationship without the drawbacks, and if you have friends with benefits that can be a real bonus.
Congratulations on being content being single! It’s a strong position to be in.
Share my life with someone. Have kids. Always have someone to talk with about your problems and tell your achievements, and theirs also. Sex is good, but that can be acquired elsewhere, and even that will fade with time.
Well I’m married now but emotional support and balance. As a man we are taught to be tough and strong, never letting our guard down. It’s nice being with a woman who makes you feel safe to let all that go. Women have a gentleness and love that can only be found in intimacy. Unless your gay your not gonna find it in men. Sexual intimacy can be so crazy sometimes I feel weak and vulnerable. Even after 14 years my wife can make me feel this way
I’m just not the type that wants to live and die alone in a hobbit hole void of all human contact.
My wife is pretty cool.
I definitely agree that being single is so much better than being with the wrong person. I think being single is also freeing, in that life is simpler when there’s nobody else to worry about. I’ve found that to be very comfortable.
I like to date shorter term to learn more about myself these days. Not in pursuit of sex but for meaningful connection. Some guys think it’s a competition, but imo they’re all losing. Finding yourself is the key to finding the right person, even if you’re like OP and discover that person is looking back in the mirror.
So, that’s a good question, For myself (26m)
First of all, I always hated putting labels onto relationships. People see me as heterosexual, but because I’ve always been attracted to women. However, I’ll never put myself as “heterosexual” because, in the future, if I’m attracted to a male, or non-binary, or idk whatever involves a non-child human being, then Im open to live it, whitout labels or opinions. But, as for now, I’m only attracted to women.
Secondly, I live in a problematic country for man, specially because of how machist we are teached to be. I’ve never been like this and, for that reason, my friend Groups are female-centered, as we usually have the same opinions and goals. I like being around women, so I’m more comfortable being with them.
For last, I like the women body. Not in a “I want to be her”, but “I want to worship YOUR body”. I like the looks, I like the smell, I like the taste, the imperfections and differences. I like pussy the same way I like the hair; I like boobs the same way I like the hair. I like the smell of when my partner leaves the shower, or after a long day. The smell of pussy, the taste of the mouth, the could touch or the soft skin… Yeah, I like women.
For what do I get out of dating women: in all of my relationships, I was with someone I was attracted to (it includes sex, looks, smell, etc.), that shared interests and hobbies (so we do things together that we like to), had the same/close to the same goals (someone that I can plan my future, close-future or far-future), had close to the same chemistry (I’m an introvert and have a 8/10 sex drive, and they were close to those too), and that I can trust and be trusted (so, trust).
But, tbh, if you changed the gender, nothing would change. Homosexual, bisexual, etc. people feel the same! And you can make your question and have the same answers! What do homosexuals get of being with a man? The same as a hetero being with a women – a partner, a connection of body and soul/chemistry, someone to enjoy the body and the mind, someone to look at in the morning and say “Hey sweety… Let’s brush our teeths, then kiss, ok?”. Someone you can be vulnerable!
Well, I see that way.
Dating sucks. Having a good wife is awesome. You have to date a lot to find the right one though but it’s worth it when you find her. I didn’t find my wife till I was 33 though. You get dual incomes, help around the house, and a partner for everything. So I guess dating is the work you out into finding a life partner