#LostTrust #BossIssues #WorkplaceDrama
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you felt like your boss lost credibility with you? It can be a disheartening experience, especially when you’ve always trusted and respected your superior. But what do you do when the trust is broken, and you start questioning their decisions and judgment?
As a young professional, I’ve encountered a similar predicament where my boss’s actions made me doubt their credibility and trust. Here’s a glimpse of my story and some practical solutions that might help you navigate through similar situations:
When did the trust begin to fade?
It all started when my boss sided with another department’s complaints about me without giving me the chance to explain or defend myself. Despite having concrete evidence in the form of emails to support my claims, he chose to believe the other party blindly. This lack of trust in my abilities and integrity created a significant rift in our working relationship.
Why does it matter?
Trust is the foundation of any successful professional relationship. When that trust is broken, it can lead to feelings of betrayal, resentment, and doubt. It affects not only your performance at work but also your overall well-being and job satisfaction.
Practical solutions to rebuild trust:
1. Communicate openly and honestly:
– Schedule a one-on-one meeting with your boss to address your concerns and share your perspective.
– Use facts and evidence to support your claims and demonstrate your credibility.
– Express your willingness to work together to rebuild trust and improve communication.
2. Seek feedback and guidance:
– Ask for feedback on your performance and areas for improvement.
– Show initiative by seeking guidance on how you can regain your boss’s trust and confidence.
– Take constructive criticism positively and use it to make positive changes in your work.
3. Focus on your work ethic and professionalism:
– Continue to excel in your job responsibilities and deliver high-quality work.
– Demonstrate your professionalism, reliability, and integrity in all aspects of your work.
– Be proactive in seeking opportunities to showcase your skills and value to the team.
Remember, rebuilding trust takes time and effort from both parties involved. Stay patient, positive, and proactive in finding common ground with your boss. By addressing the issue head-on and working towards a resolution, you can pave the way for a more trusting and harmonious working relationship. 🤝🌟
So, when did your boss lose credibility with you, and why? Share your experiences and insights in the comments below! Let’s support each other in overcoming workplace challenges and fostering a positive work environment. 🌼💼
I’m still relatively young and used to trusting my boss not questioning them. My boss has done a few things in which he was wrong but gave others the benefit of the doubt over me.
We are both less than a year into the company but it is clear he does not trust me even though I have given him zero reasons to.
The yelling at me over another departments complaining about me and lying to him (i have emails to support my points) and him blindly believing them has caused him to lose my trust.
When she lies about stuff which we already know about, excuses for stuff, doesn’t follow up on things she’s supposed to, even though you did all the ground work.
You can only yell once. If your boss is yelling more than that, probably not a good boss. Followed up by, people don’t leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses. Putting this all together, maybe start looking for a better situation.
When he started ranting about my part-time coworker wanting to remain part-time. “If he wants to only work 30 hours a week, he can go be a server somewhere.”
He’s a great coworker. Awful boss.
My line manager likes to talk shit behind people’s backs. I thought he was just venting until one time I connected to a call 1 minute too soon.
Of course, he was talking shit behind my back, too. Lesson learned.
Questions:
Why did you not show the proof to your boss if you have it?
Why did you not copy your boss in those emails to begin with?
Asked why I didn’t do something his preferred way once it’s too late to change when he’s been in EVERY FUCKING MEETING FOR 6 MONTHS.
Long story short: she would give horrible guidance on our operations because she didn’t understand them, then blame me when shit hit the fan (as I projected it would and offered proactive solutions for).
If your boss can’t cover your position in your absence, they should not be your boss. I can’t respect a manager who doesn’t understand my position enough to guide and mentor me
When he started discussing my medical diagnoses with my colleagues.
Caught my Director lying on a conference call in front of 10 other people and another Director pointed it out.
On my first day of work when he told me I wasn’t allowed to use the office restroom because I am a woman. (First woman to work in the office of 3 other men).
When they asked why the company ‘s name, my title & job description was not listed on my personal LinkedIn page😒
my “boss” called me into a 1:1 to let me know that she was speaking ill of me to the client. i’m looking, process is slow. i know better than to trust hr at co. to do anything and i see the end game here.
Don’t trust any boss that much. Nobody deserves blind trust or loyalty. Start keeping records and paper trails since your boss can’t be trusted, and let this be a lesson. Trust is earned, not blindly given. Ive honestly never had a boss I trusted THAT much.
I work in IT. My boss lost all respect from me when I found out he doesn’t know what CMD is, when he doesn’t trust me to work on a server by myself (even though I build my own computers), and that he’d rather yell at me for walking away from an angering problem than have me get angry and go Hulk mode.
Once you lie to me, it’s over.
Nothing too big of a promotion but prior to these events, my boss actually spotted for me to be foreman at my trade.
There were 3 major setback events that made me took off for a few weeks each.
The first was this back pain that came on. Maybe he didn’t believe me or maybe he didn’t care but I couldn’t even stand or walk. Had to go to the doctor and get medication.
The second was about 2 months later I had a gout experience which put me out for over a week. Had to limp and wear flip flops to work as soon as I could stand properly to hold on to some credit.
Third incident, maybe about a month after was the fact that I was being harassed by people out of work. I had evidence and correlations, witnesses of other coworkers. They even hacked our work website, replacing it with a medication I bought. Some random phone called in and basically told me to look at our work website and voila, they switched all our products to the medication I bought the day prior. I took off due to stress reasons.
The loss of that potential position hit me, though it definitely was not the first nor was the last. The first major hit was when I was in my early 20s and went back to school while working and working on my trade. Before I was lazy, then suddenly I utilized myself in trying to get a master’s degree. However, after getting ran and harassed out of college and my then-current job was being attacked, I returned to my trade. I would argue that this was probably the most infuriating/confusing events at the time.
Again, not even a great accomplishment in comparison to others, but to me it was an accomplishment, though ultimately, I got pinballed out of my six-figure job.
Why would I trust a boss??? I have never trusted any of my bosses. Regardless of their character, boss is a boss for a reason. Stop trusting your boss and give zero info about your personal life, any conflict in the workplace or any weakness you have, they will always use it against you even if you are not aware of it.
The day after our big boss left, the two supervisors fake masks came off and their true colors are shining through. Two months later and we are all ready to walk out and who knows when we get our new boss.
When they made jokes about poo. And when they lied. (This was the CEO)
Every time a boss loses credibility is when they get upset with me for not following the process…. The process they never taught me.
I can’t stand that. Teach me and then I’ll know… it’s simple
Any behaviour that on its own lacks credibility should do it:
– Lying
– Talking behind peoples backs
– Taking credit for others work
– Criticising unconstructively
– Passive aggressive behaviour
– Being unclear about instructions or requirements
– Not communicating
– Breaking confidence
– Publicly belittling or criticising someone
– Not trusting their staff
– Not backing their staff
– Throwing their staff under the bus ESPECIALLY when it was them who screwed up
– Not developing their staff
– Micromanaging (which equals lack of trust)
– Probably lots more
Big list? Yep. Achievable? Totally with some effort. If you can find the boss who gets it all right you won the job lottery.
Everyone else has to choose what and how much they put up with and what’s a deal breaker.
At least once in your career you will work for someone who does everything on that list! It will be the worst job you ever have regardless of how good the job actually is.
He scratched his nuts standing three feet from my seated position while requesting additional work from myself and my cube mate. I lost all respect for the owner that day and was gone three months later with a nice severance pkg. (I didn’t even have to bring that up, I just mentioned the titty calendar in the bathroom).
I work in the same ‘field’ as my colleagues and our boss, but we all have different jobs despite working in different areas but sort or out of the same building. I work solo, so if I need a break, then I have to ask one of my colleagues to cover my work space for a few minutes to run to the bathroom, etc. My break times are pretty regular.
One day, my colleagues and boss were sitting around for 3 hours (they shouldn’t have been, but there also wasn’t a lot going on). When they decided to get to work, they each used the bathroom and then left the building without asking me (at my usual break time) if I would also like to use the bathroom.
Our work terminals are connected via our computers, and I asked via company messaging if someone could cover me quickly before starting their duties. Someone did, no issues, but later in the day my boss said it ‘was not cool to throw us under the bus’ and how ‘now the administration knows we were sitting around for 3 hours’ and how ‘we are a team and you let me down.’
Dude. I didn’t tell you to sit around for 3 hours! All I did was ask to go to the bathroom, at the usual time. And if we are such a ‘team’, then maybe my teammates should have offered me a bathroom break after they all took a break!
I totally lost all respect for him then. But not long after, he got suspended. And then due to a bad attitude, demoted. Not because of that one day, but because apparently he was not doing his job and was (I heard) sleeping for hours at a time. He must have sensed he was being monitored, and that’s likely why he tried pinning his and his buddy’s laziness on me.
When we had a fairly large org restructure and he never mentioned it. We found out from a different manager (who was surprised that we hadn’t been told)
The supervisors and managers don’t know how to use their own systems. They don’t know how to do our work at all. No one asks their supervisor for help. They ask other co-workers instead.
I’ve has bosses tell me they’re going to help me get interviews for jobs in other departments just to have it fall through.
My first manager after I got out of RT school told me if I needed more education, I should go get a new job.
The trick is not to bestow any credibility on anyone in the workplace. They’re all just fellow drones working to get through the day.
When they called me to ask if other colleagues were gossiping about them 🙃. They said they asked me specifically because I’m honest. I can be honest but I am not a snitch so there’s that.
Calls out constantly, gossip about other employees in front of my face, very unprofessional, illogical and lacks leadership skills.
For me… it’s when they start worrying about their image in the company.
I don’t have time for that.
My girlfriend had a miscarriage the morning of my shift and when I called my boss about it he said “God works in mysterious ways, but we can’t let this effect the money” I wanted to kick his ass so fucking bad